Tired of Attracting Abusive Men? 3 Tips to Unlock The Subconscious Related- Chains


Are you sick and tired of attracting abusive men?

You might have daddy issues. Read on!!

It is not only biologically vital but also spiritually imperative to grow up with our parents, mom and dad, or the equivalent, for us to develop and sustain positive-infused mindsets. Although overlooked, without both your parents in the picture as a child, you are bound to search for whoever was missing in the people you meet in your adult life. And that can be very frustrating.

Note that one is also impliedly psychologically and emotionally abused if their father or father figure was always absent in their younger days.

In this article, you will identify one of the problems created by not having a father figure or having an abusive one, and learn three simple techniques that will liberate you from this problem in order to develop healthier relationships with the men in your life.

The Problem:

Without a father figure in your life, you miss out on the security and comfort that a father figure provides (especially one with a healthy mind). A father is literally the first adult male you are introduced to, or is supposed to be introduced to when you are born. As such, he represents men in general and especially how men relate or should relate to women. Your father introduces you to the first standards that you believe every man should possess. If you saw your father treating your mom with respect, you tend to attract or choose men who understand how to treat a woman with respect.

If especially you witnessed your father abusing you or any other members of your family and never stopped abusing them, and/or never apologized, chances are that you have subconscious anger that’s not only directed towards your father, but all men.  The consequences are that you will continue unconsciously seeking out men with behaviors similar to your dad with hope that they might abuse you and then apologize to make up for what your father didn’t do. However, even if you attract men who are apologetic for abusing you, they will not compensate for your father’s abuse. Therefore, you will continue seeking for abusive men, over and over again until you deal with your early father-figure programming.

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The Solution:

Note that the tips I share below are not exhaustive of all the techniques and tools that you can employ to heal your early negative father-programming.


Take time and write all your early father negative experiences, or no-father negative experiences. Be as detailed as possible. To guide you, you can answer the following questions:

  1. What exactly happened?
  2. Who was there?
  3. What did your father do, didn’t do, or should have done?
  4. In case you didn’t have a father figure as a child, how did this make you feel?
  5. How did those experiences make you feel about your father and men in general?
  6. How did these experiences make you feel about yourself?

Re-examine all the related feelings about yourself that were developed because of your earlier father/no father negative programming

Go through this simple EFT and Ho’oponopono to stop attracting abusive relationships session 

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Or buy my book (Love, Men and Money: How to Attract and Retain them) with detailed EFT and counseling scripts at www.tapthegood.com/books/ or from Amazon at https://www.amazon.com/Love-Men-Money-Attract-Retain/dp/1480094897/


Or sign up for my complimentary 30 minutes consultation session to set up counseling sessions that are guaranteed to help you take your power back from the negative past in order to live life on your terms.

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The Source of Inventions: An excerpt from the Book: Do Not Force It, Tap The Good


Inventions are available to each of us if we open up our minds to them. It is both simple and exciting. If you want to come up with a new idea or service, begin focusing entirely on everything you do. As you go about your day, if you feel uncomfortable about anything you are doing, stop. Begin thinking about ways, means, or products that would have made your activity more comfortable or enjoyable to do.


An invention is the gap between the uncomfortable and comfortable levels. That is how cell phones were made, to bridge the gap between the discomfort of having to look for someone all over the place, and the comfort of just picking up the phone and reaching them wherever they are.


The next thing to do is search the Internet for any similar products or services that you think can bridge the identified gap. If there are none, then you have an invention. That idea right there is what you can turn into a mega product or service. The only work for you to do is to develop the confidence in the idea and pursue it limitlessly without letting anyone or anything discourage you. Remember, if you want it bad enough, you will get it.


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Love and Light

It’s Okay to Feel Good: An Inspirational Spoken Word

Do you feel sad?


Do you need an IV of inspiration today?


You are at the right place, at the right time, with the right intention. 


After listening to this inspirational spoken word that I compiled after a recent near-death experience, you will feel a firm sense of well-being. Please listen everyday for continued inspiration. 

Share with those who might need some inspiration today.

Link to video – https://youtu.be/gAk2h4Gfh1Y

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ARE YOU READY to Attract True Love? EFT and Counseling Session to Attract Love

Love, Men and Money

  • Are you sick and tired of attracting wrong partners?


  • Are you stuck in an abusive relationship and don’t know how to opt out?


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    In this VIDEO SESSION, I take you through a self-analysis process and EFT tapping to help you attract true love.                                            LINK TO VIDEO –    https://youtu.be/NJq1odu_7zY

    Remember to take time on the self-analysis questions below, and be detailed and honest with yourself. 

  1. On a scale of 1 to 10, 10 being the best, and 1, the worst, how much do you love yourself?

  2. On a scale of 1 to 10, where are you in regards to believing in yourself? Do you believe you are worthy? What are the reasons for your answers?

  3. What do you want in a…

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Daily Power Affirmations For Your Emotional IV of Inspiration.


These feel-good daily power affirmations will reward you with an emotional IV of inspiration to start your day, or sleep in peace.

Listen with enthusiasm, feelings, and repetitively. Remember that affirmations only work when we attach positive emotions. Have fun and feel good.

Link to affirmations video – https://youtu.be/Dm_L9lJbGTI

Remember, March 1st, is Global Worry-free day.

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The Only Competition there is, is with YOU!

Beloved soul,

Know that you are enough, and can never compete with anyone. You are unique, and there’s only one you with your blue print. So, focus on making yourself the best you. Don’t try to compete with anyone. Compete with yourself. Be better today than you were yesterday. Even when you are in a competitive setting, focus on expressing yourself the best way you can. The rest will work out itself.

In this VIDEO, I share an empowerment message with the preceding content as the theme.

Link to the video – https://youtu.be/Y0Mjku0GUb4

Love and light

Remember, March 1st, is Global Worry-Free Day.

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Deep Breathing Guided Meditation to Release Stress


Feeling stressed out?

Did you know that you can use the power of breath to energize your senses?

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In this deep breathing guided meditation, I take you through a simple breathing exercise intended to help you release stress. 

Link to meditation – https://youtu.be/SXf_l7hpFqw


Remember, March 1st, is  Global Worry Free day.

Love and light.

Jacinta Mpalyenkana, is a spiritual counselor, transformational coach, professional speaker and author. 

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When is the Last Time that You Thanked Your Body?- A morning Gratitude Guided Meditation

How do you start your day?


Do you wake up  cursing your alarm? Or maybe you smile in gratitude for the gift of another day?

When is the last time that you thanked your body?

In this 7 minutes guided  meditation, you will get to focus on your body, acknowledge its functions and be grateful for what the body does for you.

Link to video – https://youtu.be/Yk7JhGZOZvU

Remember, the body is the house of your soul. Be grateful for it.

Love and light


By Jacinta Mpalyenkana, Ph.D., MBA

Author, Spiritual Counselor, Life Coach, Speaker