Tired of Attracting Abusive Men? 3 Tips to Unlock The Subconscious Related- Chains


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Are you sick and tired of attracting abusive men?

You might have daddy issues. Read on!!

It is not only biologically vital but also spiritually imperative to grow up with our parents, mom and dad, or the equivalent, for us to develop and sustain positive-infused mindsets. Although overlooked, without both your parents in the picture as a child, you are bound to search for whoever was missing in the people you meet in your adult life. And that can be very frustrating.

Note that one is also impliedly psychologically and emotionally abused if their father or father figure was always absent in their younger days.

In this article, you will identify one of the problems created by not having a father figure or having an abusive one, and learn three simple techniques that will liberate you from this problem in order to develop healthier relationships with the men in your life.

The Problem:

Without a father figure in your life, you miss out on the security and comfort that a father figure provides (especially one with a healthy mind). A father is literally the first adult male you are introduced to, or is supposed to be introduced to when you are born. As such, he represents men in general and especially how men relate or should relate to women. Your father introduces you to the first standards that you believe every man should possess. If you saw your father treating your mom with respect, you tend to attract or choose men who understand how to treat a woman with respect.

If especially you witnessed your father abusing you or any other members of your family and never stopped abusing them, and/or never apologized, chances are that you have subconscious anger that’s not only directed towards your father, but all men.  The consequences are that you will continue unconsciously seeking out men with behaviors similar to your dad with hope that they might abuse you and then apologize to make up for what your father didn’t do. However, even if you attract men who are apologetic for abusing you, they will not compensate for your father’s abuse. Therefore, you will continue seeking for abusive men, over and over again until you deal with your early father-figure programming.

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The Solution:

Note that the tips I share below are not exhaustive of all the techniques and tools that you can employ to heal your early negative father-programming.

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Take time and write all your early father negative experiences, or no-father negative experiences. Be as detailed as possible. To guide you, you can answer the following questions:

  1. What exactly happened?
  2. Who was there?
  3. What did your father do, didn’t do, or should have done?
  4. In case you didn’t have a father figure as a child, how did this make you feel?
  5. How did those experiences make you feel about your father and men in general?
  6. How did these experiences make you feel about yourself?

Re-examine all the related feelings about yourself that were developed because of your earlier father/no father negative programming

Go through this simple EFT and Ho’oponopono to stop attracting abusive relationships session 

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Or buy my book (Love, Men and Money: How to Attract and Retain them) with detailed EFT and counseling scripts at www.tapthegood.com/books/ or from Amazon at https://www.amazon.com/Love-Men-Money-Attract-Retain/dp/1480094897/

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The Source of Inventions: An excerpt from the Book: Do Not Force It, Tap The Good


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Inventions are available to each of us if we open up our minds to them. It is both simple and exciting. If you want to come up with a new idea or service, begin focusing entirely on everything you do. As you go about your day, if you feel uncomfortable about anything you are doing, stop. Begin thinking about ways, means, or products that would have made your activity more comfortable or enjoyable to do.

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An invention is the gap between the uncomfortable and comfortable levels. That is how cell phones were made, to bridge the gap between the discomfort of having to look for someone all over the place, and the comfort of just picking up the phone and reaching them wherever they are.

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The next thing to do is search the Internet for any similar products or services that you think can bridge the identified gap. If there are none, then you have an invention. That idea right there is what you can turn into a mega product or service. The only work for you to do is to develop the confidence in the idea and pursue it limitlessly without letting anyone or anything discourage you. Remember, if you want it bad enough, you will get it.

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Keep Shinning Regardless – An Inspirational Message


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Have you ever shared your dream with someone only to be discouraged?

Have you ever been so certain about the direction that you want to take only to be told by someone you trust that you are going to fail?

If you answered yes, to any of the above questions then you understand how it feels when someone tries to blow out your light….damn your enthusiasm.

Apparently, it’s human nature for one to damn someone else’s light if theirs isn’t shinning. Remember that misery loves company, and if you are in company with people who have given up on their dreams, don’t expect them to inspire you.

Note that people who feel insecure about their own qualities will attempt to make others feel that way. They will devise mental plots to get you to start doubting yourself.

Furthermore, if one is stuck in a dark place for a while, understand that they have become accustomed to the darkness. They don’t want to experience anything different. Their brains have settled, and it normally takes some mental and emotional work for them to snap out of their illusion and start shinning their own light. Therefore, if you share your dream with someone in that mental state, be sure to receive discouragement.

“If one is stuck in a dark place for a while, understand that they have become accustomed to the darkness”

The next question is, what do you do if someone discourages you?

The answer lies in the very reason why you want to pursue your goal. Your why, should matter more than what anyone else says about you or your goals. Besides, what others think or say about you is their business: that’s their model of the world. Whatever one is projecting in their mind has nothing to do with you. Your business is what’s brewing in your own mind. Therefore, you can’t let naysayers retard your decision to move forward with your dream. Remember, no one but you has the power to put out your light. You are the master of your enthusiasm and your inner thrill, and it’s really up to you to keep shinning no matter what.

“No one but you has the power to put out your light.”

Serena Williams

In this video, I share a few tips that you can use to keep your light shinning. The tips are simple and I’m certain that you already know about them. However, sometimes it helps when we are reminded that the answers and solutions we seek for are always within us.

 

 

 

 

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Check out the inspirational books below that will help you to ignite your passion to live at the utmost potential, which already dwells within you.

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

ARCH-ANGEL RAPHAEL GUIDED MEDITATION TO HEAL PAINFUL EMOTIONS


Are you struggling with releasing and letting go of negative emotions?

At times negative emotions seem so heavy and we let them over-power our will to stay positive-minded.

The good news is that we were gifted the angelic realm that’s infused with many angels who can help us release and let go of those emotions.

In this guided meditation, I invoke Arch-angel Raphael, the angel known for healing, and the Divine Source Light to help release one from all negative emotions from the mind, body and spirit in order to live a more peaceful life.

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Link to meditation – https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=NMb9-Urymqw

Sending you love.

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7 Steps to Un-hack the Brain From Illusion


What would you refer to as an illusion?

In my opinion an illusion is a false impression, a lie, a misinterpretation of something that’s perceived as something else. When I think about my mind and brain, illusions seem to happen more often than not especially when I’m everywhere else but in the present moment. Sometimes I come up with inner-stories to support situations, only to find out later that my thoughts were delusional—lies that only entertained my mind with negativity. With time, this has helped me understand that thoughts can manipulate our brains to develop mental routines that at times do not serve our well-being.

“Thoughts can manipulate our brains to develop mental routines that at times do not serve our well-being.”

The point is, the brain uses about 20% of the body’s total energy—and that’s a lot of energy. For that very reason the brain attempts, if we let it, to keep us protected and safe as it saves its energy. This can also imply that the brain resists change. So, if we get into a routine, the brain holds onto that routine whether it serves us or not. That’s why we resist change. That’s why routine is easier than exploration or adventure, especially if that’s what one has fed their brain with for a while.

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“The good news is that since we are not our brains, we can control, retrain, redirect and refocus it to snap out of the routines that no longer serve us.”

In this article, I share my experience on how the brain gets into a negative inward spiral—the illusion, and then share 7 steps on how we can un-hack the brain from this illusion.

Background:

Let’s imagine that something unfavorable happens in your experience. You start thinking about the event, and then develop feelings about it. Normally these are feeling of anger, disappointment, sadness, rage, bitterness or the like.

As you dwell more on the event, the brain begins taking note of the related frequencies that correspond to your emotions. Then, the brain starts recruiting similar events from your memory or environment. This is when you start thinking about things that went wrong in the past and how horrible they made you feel; plus the possibility of these events re-occurring in the future. Before you know it, the brain starts identifying triggers in your environment. And this is when you embark on noticing people or situations that accumulate negative feelings in you. One thing leads to another, and you find your mind trapped in a negative thinking spiral. If you don’t snap out of it, the brain turns this mental behavior into a routine. Then, you become a prominent negative thinker. What do you do?

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The 7 Steps to Un-hack the Brain From Illusion:

  1. Check in With Your Feelings.

If you feel stressed, bitter or any other negative emotions, know that the brain is up to something negative. Remember, our feelings are the thermometers of our thoughts. If you are experiencing negative emotions chances are that you are thinking about negative situations.

  1. Become a Witness of These Thoughts.

Once you realize that you are going into a negative thinking spiral, use your mind to become a witness of these thoughts. In your mind’s eye watch the thoughts as they come and go. Don’t attach to them.

  1. Tell Your Brain to Stop Focusing on The Negative

Remember that you are more than your brain. You own the brain, it doesn’t own you: so you can command it to do as you please.

  1. Breathe in deeply, as you imagine that your in-breath is bringing in divine light at a 360 degrees angle. Imagine being infused with divine healing light. Let this light penetrate every inch of your being, and then outflow to fill your aura and space where you are seated. Keep breathing deeply for about 10 minutes. This technique will help you get your mind out of the negative spiral.
  2. Block The Trigger Portals.

For instance, if watching negative news on television triggers negative emotions in you, don’t watch television for awhile until you are in control of your emotions. In any case, you shouldn’t be watching negative news. It’s bad for the mind.  🙂

  1. Look at Your “Desire list.”

This is a list you make for everything you want. You keep adding items or experiences that you want or desire as they pop up in your mind. Then start searching for their cost and including it on the list. This will help you get busy dwelling on what you want, whether you have the money or not. If you don’t have a “Desire list” it is time for you to create one.

  1. Stand Under a Shower.

Stand under the shower and let the water run down on you. Stay in the shower for at least 5 minutes as you breathe deeply. Repeat mentally, “Release, release, release” and imagine all the negativity and unwanted energy leaving your body, mind and spirit. Also, imagine that your brain is being washed, cleansed, renewed and purified.

Conclusion:

Remember that we are more than our bodies plus all its organs. We have the power to regulate our minds and brains, and tell them what they should dwell on. We are in control of our emotions. We are divine instructions created in the very image of God—meaning that we can create better experiences for our lives if we choose to.

Check out this meditation to start your day on a positive mood – https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=JWBksZzV9UM

 

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Feeling Stuck? Try The Healing Benefits of a Sweat Lodge


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A sacred tradition of the Native American people, the sweat lodge is a unique healing ritual with deep detoxifying benefits to the body, mind and soul. It is a cultural and spiritual experience that delivers a journey of physical purification and personal initiation for the participants.

In my sweat lodge sessions, since I am an African, I base my practice on both the Native American, and the African traditions that involve prayer, forgiveness, gratitude, and invocations. During the ceremony, we call upon God–the Creator, angels, universal energies, The quantum Soul light, divine beings, the elements and other celestial beings–to mention but a few, to aid us in our intentions.

As a counselor and transformation coach, I have learned that taking care of the mind and body alone isn’t sufficient to promise progress in one’s life. Sometimes, our spirits are entangled in all sorts of codes, contracts and negative lineage-based arrangements, karmic debts, curses, etc, that cannot be resolved by psychology alone. And yes, psychology will empower one’s mind to take charge of their lives, but they have to be open-minded in order to explore what else they can do to achieve emotional, and life-force freedom.

“Taking care of the mind and body alone isn’t sufficient to promise progress in one’s life.”

I’ve met people who have worked to achieve emotional freedom, worked on empowering themselves, use their brains, know what they want, become more organized and focused, but still continue to struggle. The good news is that everything that brings us down is within us, and once we take full responsibility of our well-being, there’s nothing under the sun that we wouldn’t do to achieve freedom.

“Everything that brings us down is within us, and once we take full responsibility of our well-being, there’s nothing under the sun that we wouldn’t do to achieve freedom.”

Unfortunately, a sweat lodge is one of those things that Christians have declared homes of the devil’s work. Yet whoever told them that attaining spiritual healing is a devilish act, is the enemy. They don’t want anyone to access themselves fully for the fear of losing control over them: because when you’ve only accessed a fraction of yourself, anyone else who knows that you are more can manipulate to weaken, and then control you. If you know who you truly are, and what you can do to access the whole of you, no one can deceive you about what is, isn’t right for you.

“If you know who you truly are, and what you can do to access the whole of you, no one can deceive you about what is, isn’t right for you.”

Therefore, a sweat lodge is one of the thousands of spiritual cleansing, and healing tools that will release you from all types of bondage—of-course based on your intentions and how determined you are to follow through and heal your life.

In a nutshell, the benefits of a sweat lodge include, but are not limited to the following:

Physical Detoxification & Healing – the body is provided with antibacterial and wound-healing benefits.

Mental Purification & Healing – the mind is freed of distractions, offering clarity of thought.

Spiritual Healing – it allows for introspection and connection to the earth, to the planet and to the spirit world.

We have sweat lodge ceremonies every Saturday in the Antelope valley area, about an hour’s drive North of Los Angeles. And YOU are welcome to join us at a cost less than the price of  2 meals in a medium class restaurant.

For more details, send me an email at freedanduplifted@gmail.com or tapthegood@gmail.com

In the interim, remain blessed, loved and happy.

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Is Money Scarce? Resolving Negative Associations Related to Money Attraction


Most people believe that money is the source of all evil. However, when you look closely you realize that the lack of money is the devil itself. I have never heard of a millionaire breaking a bank, or someone like Oprah conning someone else for money. Can you imagine finding Bill Gates in jail for snatching someone’s purse because he was starving, or Warren Buffet, crying in court for breaking into someone house? Imagine all you can but I know that you will not experience the preceding in your life time.

The lack of money is what sends many people into hospitals, dealing with all sorts of neurologically engineered illnesses manufactured by worrying about money. I actually once experienced a panic attack because I didn’t know how I was going to pay my bills. It’s the lack of money that suffocates our vision, weakens our enthusiasm and chokes our relationships.

” It’s the lack of money that normally suffocates our vision, weakens our enthusiasm and chokes our relationships.”

With that said, it is apparent that understanding your money psychology is important in helping you to shift from barely surviving to living life on your terms. It is vital to develop and maintain a healthy relationship with money.

In this article, I share 3 mental and emotional associations that hinder us from identifying ways to earn more money. Note that these associations are like bad marriages that can pollute your good intentions of living a wealthier life. I urge you to take time as you analyze these associations and answer the related questions so that you can resolve them and then start developing a healthier relationship with money.  

“Negative associations with money are like bad marriages that can strangle your good intentions of living a wealthier life.”

  1. Beliefs:

(a) What negative beliefs do you have about money? Write them down.

Note that whatever you believe becomes your reality. If you believe that money is the source of all evil, you are impliedly negating money. If you believe that money is a beautiful thing to have you will do whatever it takes to have more of it. Most importantly, your unconscious mind, where the magic brews, will support you into earning more money because you created a positive belief about it.

(b) After writing down all these beliefs, know that they are all lies, illusions that do not exist. They are temporary pretences that your mind holds onto and you can easily let them go. With that in mind, create a new list with the opposite beliefs to the negative ones you have. Read the new list at least 3 times daily to reinforce these new beliefs into your unconscious mind.

“Negative beliefs about money are temporary pretences that your mind holds onto and you can easily let them go.”

  1. Experiences:

What negative experiences have you had that have convinced you that having money is painful? For instance, have you lent someone money and they never paid you back? Have you been backstabbed, disappointed, lied to or wrongfully punished because of money?

(a) Take time to think about all these experiences.

(b) Realize that by thinking about these experiences, you are living in the past. You are not enjoying the magic in the present moment. You are missing out. Note that these experiences are long gone and you can nullify them in your mind. Know that you have the power to speak to your mind and tell it to let go of this poison. Do not underestimate the power you have over your thoughts. Don’t let your thoughts rule you, rule them. Command them to behave themselves. Tell yourself the truth that you are more than these experiences. Remember that all experience is intended to help us learn and grow into more informed beings, and not to hold us back from progressing in life.

“Remember that all experience is intended to help us learn and grow into more informed beings, and not to hold us back from progressing in life.”

  1. Perceptions:

Perceptions are projections of our inner world. Whatever you perceive is a reflection of how you have internally identified with the perceived. If your projections about money are filled with anger, sadness, struggle, scarcity or rage, that’s exactly how you will perceive money.

 (a) Sit in a comfortable position, close your eyes and imagine that money is your partner. How is he/she dressed? What type of conversations do you have? Do you see yourself arguing or laughing? What are you telling this money-image? Is it good or bad? How do you feel about your relationship? Do you feel like you love each other? After you are done, open your eyes and think through your visualized perception of money, plus your relationship with it.

(b) Whatever money-image and relationship that your mind revealed, go through the exercise again but this time creating a more positive image and relationship. Image that money as your partner is well groomed, strong and healthy. Imagine that you are walking down the street holding hands, laughing, and having a good time. Imagine telling each other repeatedly that you love each other very much. Generate the related positive emotions. Go through this exercise every day until you start believing that you and money are good together. Trust your mind to create similar experiences in your reality.

Remember that you are the master of your destiny. It’s up to you to realize that you are more than your experiences; you are more than the negative money associations plus all the other things that weigh you down: and that money is nothing more than the relationship you have with yourself.

 “When all is said and done we realize that all along we had both keys to our life’s prisons and freedom.”

Check out this video to access a few exercises that will help resolve negative associations you may have with money.

Love and light.

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How Doubt Blocks us From Earning More Money


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It’s often said that getting things is easy; but believing that we can get these things is the difficult part. Doubt tends to engulf our minds consistently, which then blocks us from doing all we can to earn more money. This doubt is normally based on dwelling on past unfavorable experiences where we either didn’t earn the money we needed or we lost it.

For instance, let’s imagine that you have been working so hard to earn more money, but for some reason haven’t made it happen. Even if a new opportunity comes along, you may not believe that this opportunity will earn you money because that hasn’t been your experience. However, we also have to remember that dwelling on the past creates a similar future.

Doubt is also accelerated by the fear that our past might repeat itself in the future. In his book, The Magic in Believing, Claude Bristol explains that believing, is the link between what we want and don’t have, and having it. Once you start believing that you can get something your brain will identify ways to make it happen.

Believing creates enthusiasm. Believing fuels our focus, and positive attitude towards what we want. Believing amplifies our confidence.  

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Doubt, on the other hand retards our excitement. Doubt drains our mental and physical energies and hence weakens us.

When it comes to money, doubt is one of the many reasons why we don’t earn more of it. Therefore, if you have a goal to earn more money, firstly be sure to release the doubt that you can’t have that money. If you don’t have faith, pretend you do, and soon or later you will start believing. You can also mentally go back to a time when you didn’t believe that you could realize a goal, but did. This memory will be a kind reminder that you can actually achieve what you want if you put in the work and get your vibration in congruence with your desire.

In this video, I use the magical tools of EFT (Emotional Freedom Technique) to resolve all doubt towards earning more money.

I suggest that you do the exercise every day, for 7 days.

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