Tired of Attracting Abusive Men? 3 Tips to Unlock The Subconscious Related- Chains


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Are you sick and tired of attracting abusive men?

You might have daddy issues. Read on!!

It is not only biologically vital but also spiritually imperative to grow up with our parents, mom and dad, or the equivalent, for us to develop and sustain positive-infused mindsets. Although overlooked, without both your parents in the picture as a child, you are bound to search for whoever was missing in the people you meet in your adult life. And that can be very frustrating.

Note that one is also impliedly psychologically and emotionally abused if their father or father figure was always absent in their younger days.

In this article, you will identify one of the problems created by not having a father figure or having an abusive one, and learn three simple techniques that will liberate you from this problem in order to develop healthier relationships with the men in your life.

The Problem:

Without a father figure in your life, you miss out on the security and comfort that a father figure provides (especially one with a healthy mind). A father is literally the first adult male you are introduced to, or is supposed to be introduced to when you are born. As such, he represents men in general and especially how men relate or should relate to women. Your father introduces you to the first standards that you believe every man should possess. If you saw your father treating your mom with respect, you tend to attract or choose men who understand how to treat a woman with respect.

If especially you witnessed your father abusing you or any other members of your family and never stopped abusing them, and/or never apologized, chances are that you have subconscious anger that’s not only directed towards your father, but all men.  The consequences are that you will continue unconsciously seeking out men with behaviors similar to your dad with hope that they might abuse you and then apologize to make up for what your father didn’t do. However, even if you attract men who are apologetic for abusing you, they will not compensate for your father’s abuse. Therefore, you will continue seeking for abusive men, over and over again until you deal with your early father-figure programming.

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The Solution:

Note that the tips I share below are not exhaustive of all the techniques and tools that you can employ to heal your early negative father-programming.

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Take time and write all your early father negative experiences, or no-father negative experiences. Be as detailed as possible. To guide you, you can answer the following questions:

  1. What exactly happened?
  2. Who was there?
  3. What did your father do, didn’t do, or should have done?
  4. In case you didn’t have a father figure as a child, how did this make you feel?
  5. How did those experiences make you feel about your father and men in general?
  6. How did these experiences make you feel about yourself?

Re-examine all the related feelings about yourself that were developed because of your earlier father/no father negative programming

Go through this simple EFT and Ho’oponopono to stop attracting abusive relationships session 

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If you want more, order the Daddy Issues Meditation CD from http://tapthegood.com/spiritualservices/

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Or buy my book (Love, Men and Money: How to Attract and Retain them) with detailed EFT and counseling scripts at www.tapthegood.com/books/ or from Amazon at https://www.amazon.com/Love-Men-Money-Attract-Retain/dp/1480094897/

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The Source of Inventions: An excerpt from the Book: Do Not Force It, Tap The Good


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Inventions are available to each of us if we open up our minds to them. It is both simple and exciting. If you want to come up with a new idea or service, begin focusing entirely on everything you do. As you go about your day, if you feel uncomfortable about anything you are doing, stop. Begin thinking about ways, means, or products that would have made your activity more comfortable or enjoyable to do.

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An invention is the gap between the uncomfortable and comfortable levels. That is how cell phones were made, to bridge the gap between the discomfort of having to look for someone all over the place, and the comfort of just picking up the phone and reaching them wherever they are.

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The next thing to do is search the Internet for any similar products or services that you think can bridge the identified gap. If there are none, then you have an invention. That idea right there is what you can turn into a mega product or service. The only work for you to do is to develop the confidence in the idea and pursue it limitlessly without letting anyone or anything discourage you. Remember, if you want it bad enough, you will get it.

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Powerful Forgiveness Meditation With Archangel Michael – Guided Meditation


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Archangel Michael is known as the healer and magician. He is also known as the protector, and he is always available to fulfill our needs whenever we call upon him.

In this guided meditation, I take you through a guided meditation to help you with your forgiveness process.

Please share the video with anyone who needs it.

In the meantime, be well.

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How to Become The Truest Fullest Expression of Oneself – Part 1


Who you have conditioned yourself to be is who you present to the world. Who you are is always embraced in what you offer to the world. And what you receive is equivalent to who you are. Remember that you can never get anything less or more, of who you’ve conditioned yourself to be. So, if you don’t like what you are receiving from the world, change who you are and everything else will change. And this begins by seeking the kingdom of God within you, where all the answers of who you truly are, and the purpose of your existence, dwell. And trust me, this has absolutely nothing to do with religion, but with everything to do with the relationship you have with yourself, and with God, the Creator who dwells within you, as YOU.

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In this episode, I share a toll tale to emphasize the point that the only way to be is oneself. Then, I share some personal stories and tips on how to step into the real you by firstly embracing your self-image

10 Questions to Amplify Your Life Purpose


princess dianaWhen I was a kid, I wanted to be like the late Princess Diana. I really admired her. I first learned about her when I saw a picture of her in Cambodia where she was comforting kids who had been hit and crippled by landmines. I admired the fact that she was a princess who wasn’t afraid of serving others or getting her hands dirty. As I matured, I continued researching about her and later learned that she worked with different charities to serve the less advantaged and/or those who were affected by HIV/Aids and consequently, my admiration for her increased. Based on this, I decided that I wanted to work for the United Nations, in a war zone to serve those who were less advantaged. After college, I started searching for ways to join the UN. And in 2000, I finally got my first assignment working with the United Nations Mission in Kosovo.

Why am I telling you this?

The point of the story is that I created this vision in my mind before I could practically experience it in my physical reality. It was like I made a wish which was finally granted. Although it took many years before I realized this dream, the fact is that I dreamed about it first. I knew what I wanted. At one point when I was getting frustrated that I may never realize my dream, my grandmother told me to keep visualizing and to keep the faith that my dream was possible to achieve.

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It is often indicated that, “As within, so without,” meaning that whatever we create in our minds with clarity, firm intention and faith, will be manifested in our physical realities. Note that the only place where everything is possible is in your mind.

Whatever we create in our minds with clarity, firm intention and faith, will be manifested in our physical realities.

The purpose of this questionnaire is to get you to think about what you want, who else you can be, and the abundant possibilities available for you to explore.

Take time to think through these questions and then write down your answers. Feel free to rewrite the answers until you feel comfortable with them. Remember to imagine that there are no limits and that your desires can be realized.

If your dreams make sense to a lot of people, dream bigger until everyone calls you a dreamer.

  1. How much money do you want to possess? (Please indicate any amount of money you want. Do not limit yourself.)
  2. If you were super-wealthy, what would you do on a normal Monday morning?
  3. What is your dream career/job/work?
  4. If your success was granted what product, service or idea would you offer to the world?
  5. If you were to have your own television show what would you talk about and who would be your audience?
  6. Which celebrity or famous person’s career and lifestyle do you admire and why?
  7. If you were offered a new home of your choice, what would it look like? Where would it be located?
  8. If you were to be in perfect health—mind, body and spirit, how would that feel?
  9. If God/Creator or whoever you believe in, were to physically appear in your bedroom on a Sunday morning, what would you ask for?
  10. If you were granted any number of years to be alive, how many years would they be and what would you do with your life?

These questions will get you thinking beyond appearances. If you take time to search for answers that sit well with you, you will discover that you can dream as big as you want with a possibility of realizing these dreams.

Remember, if your dreams make sense to a lot of people, dream bigger until everyone calls you a dreamer.

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“No matter where you’re from, your dreams are valid.”~ Lupita Nyong’o.

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The 7 Hermetic Principles and Power- Affirmations for Self Mastery


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The Hermetic principles are principles for self-mastery originating from Egypt.

Hermetic means “secret,” “esoteric” or “occult.” It refers to knowledge that’s in correspondence with the conduct of the Universe. In an everyday setting these principles can help you come to terms with some of the fundamental aspects of the world and apply that to your life. Listen to these principles everyday for the next 21 days to instill them in your subconscious. These principles are said to appear in one’s life when the time is right and one is ready to receive their teachings. If you want to truly understand the principles and apply them in the present, then you have to listen to them as if they were written in the 21st century – that is, from the perspective of the current day and age. Listen to this video with an open mind.

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Sending you abundant love from my heart to yours.

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Are Your Kids Safe? How to Protect Your Kids from Molestation:


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I managed to slip out of his grip and crawled under the bed. I tightly held onto one of the bed’s pole and sobbed silently. I closed my eyes hoping that since I wasn’t seeing him, he wouldn’t see me.

He was 16 years old, and I was only 8. I was visiting my grandmother, who instructed him to keep an eye on me while she went to the night-market. Apparently, he was my father’s young brother, which makes him my uncle.

Before I slipped out of his grip I was laying in bed trying to sleep when he jumped on me and started pulling off my little dress. I wasn’t sure what he wanted but I knew in my young mind that it wasn’t good.

When I was under the bed he did all he could to pull me out, in vain. Fortunately, my grandmother returned home shortly after. He pretended that everything was okay and lied that I was hiding under the bed because I had had a bad dream. The next evening when I learned that my grandmother was going back to the market, I ran and hid in the bushes until she returned.

When I told her about my uncle’s strange behavior, to my shock she smacked me hard and claimed that I was lying. The next day I was taken back home to my mother, who was told that I had developed a mental problem. I didn’t tell my mother about what had happened for the fear of being smacked again.

Have you, or anyone you know ever been molested in any way? The questions are; how did you feel? Did you tell your parents/caregivers? If you did, how did they deal with it? Did they ever take you for counseling? How do you feel about it now that you are older?

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I don’t know what your story is, but one thing I know is that attempted rape, actual rape or any other kind of molestation, are tormenting. I was convinced that I had done something wrong, which had inspired my uncle to want to rape me. I concluded that there was something wrong with me. I lost trust in all the adults I knew. I felt betrayed and unloved. It took me many years before I forgave him. I also had to forgive myself for thinking that it was my fault that he attempted to rape me.

How do You Protect Your Kids from Molestation?

Firstly, it is important to know that molesters can be other kids, relatives, friends and even caregivers. Furthermore, know that molestation can be done to either girl or boy kids. With that in mind, you can’t rule anyone out. And I’m not suggesting that you became paranoid about everyone you leave your kids with. The idea is to protect your kid(s) in a calculated way.

Here are a few pointers.

  1. Build trust with your kids in such a way that they feel free to tell you anything however uncomfortable it may be. You can build trust by encouraging them to tell you about their day. Spend at least 30 minutes with them, daily. Ask them about their day; what they liked and what could have been better. Listen without interruption until they are done. Ask questions to inspire them to tell you more. If you are so busy to create time, tough luck. Remember that these are your kids and if you are so busy to spend time with them it is time to re-evaluate your priorities.
  2. Don’t bring other kids or relatives whose behavior you are unfamiliar with around your kids. If you do in-case of emergencies, make sure that there’s an adult to watch over them.
  3. Administer thorough background checks for the nanny you want to hire. Don’t let appearances deceive you. Furthermore, be certain that anymore who is to take care of your kids is emotionally stable. Avoid recruiting nannies with intense negative past experiences unless of course they went for therapy. And I’m not saying that it’s right to deny someone a job just because they have a negative past. Certainly, everyone deserves a second chance. The point is, make sure that they are no longer traumatized by their experiences. Note that it might be hard to know if someone is still emotionally suffering but if you pay close attention to their behavior you will be able to establish if they are traumatized or not by the way they communicate, respond, dress and/or generally carry themselves.
  4. If you are hiring a nanny to take care of your kids, ask for referrals and be sure to call and speak to each one of them. Ask questions about the nanny’s past and work ethic. Make sure that the details on their resumes match what the referrals say.
  5. Watch your kids for non-usual behavior and talk to them about it.
  6. Buy secret cameras if you can, and install them in different places in your house. Make sure that you watch the recordings for each day that you leave your kid(s) alone with the nanny.

These are a few tips that will protect your kids from being molested, or at the very least alert you of any strange behavior. However, it is also important to know that a molester might be so good at hiding their behavior and regardless of how protective and organized you are, they will still abuse your kids. The idea is to stay present and connected to your kids. Pay attention to any abnormal behavior that your kids express.

Most importantly, surround yourself with positive-minded people whose behavior is consistently positive—at least for the most part. If anything feels strange with your nanny or other people you leave your kids with, respect your feelings and investigate. Also, take care of your own thoughts. Imagine that your kids are always safe regardless of the strategies that you are instilling, and the best will most probably happen. Remember the important, yet often ignored small detail…we experience what we think about all the time.

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Sending you much love and divine anointing.

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6 Steps to Manifest Your Desires – Law of Attraction Simplified.


ManifestationA few years ago, I was extremely thrilled when I learned about the law of attraction. I asked myself, “Is it this simple to attract what I want?” I had just watched a movie called “The Secret” and I couldn’t wait to take every action as it was presented such that I could manifest all that I ever wanted. Boy was I wrong!! My life experiences have revealed to me that by just thinking about what you want and/or visualizing it alone won’t bring it knocking at your door. I have learned over the years that there is more to manifestation than what is preached.

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Apparently, many personal development experts and performance coaches insist that hard work and dedication are all it takes to manifest what you want. However, I attest that one needs more than just working hard. Considering that we are not human beings having a spiritual experience we are spiritual beings having a human experience, we have to connect to who we truly are and from that point, become one with what we want from within before we can manifest and experience our desires in our physical reality.

In this video, I share 6 steps of how to do just that.

Please share your views, go through the process and let me know how it went.

Sending you Infinite Love and divine anointing.   

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