Out of frustration and lack of answers, we all at times turn to the people, organizations and/or things around us, to blame. These are times when we can’t mentally digest or comprehend a situation that we might be faced with. It could also be discouraging when you look around you occasionally and discover that you are the only one struggling while others are excelling at whatever they are doing.
In the past, short of answers, I rang my mother and harassed her for hours about a challenge that I was facing; one that she had absolutely nothing to do with. I always expected her to have the answers. I will rephrase that; I actually had this profound conviction that she owed me answers, and explanations, and that she knew it all. When I was younger, she attempted to come up with answers that made me feel better; whether they were viable or not, I was happy. However as I got older, she slowly started leading me into coming up with my own answers and/or solutions. “Give it a week; think about it; the answer is within you,” were some of her suggestions. In the beginning I got angry and concluded that she was probably just finding a way to avoid me. However I later appreciated the fact that she was not only trying to empower me, but also teach me that I had the power to make my own decisions, and also find my own answers.
On a more generalized level, many sit back and wait for their families to take care of them; governments to carter for their needs; employers to give them jobs. However when things do not turn out the way they want, they blame everyone else but themselves. They blame their families, the government, employers, name it, they blame it. It gets to a point when their failures, challenges and/or unhappiness are everyone’s fault.
Please be reminded that no one owes you anything. No one owes you a job, housing, love, prosperity, peace and/or happiness. You owe yourself everything you need to survive and be happy. You owe yourself the mental, emotional and spiritual attitudes required to get your hearts’ desires.
Therefore, what have you done for yourself lately to stretch and improve your situation, or empower and/or develop yourself further? What are your limiting blocks? What are your excuses?
Tapthegood 
Repeat with me: “I don’t have a duty to care for old parents.”
Ahh, I feel better already. Or do I?
Tasty, everyone owes themeselves the attitude to give, love and receive unconditionally. The unconditionality is what I am emphasizing. If we take care of our old parents, it is because we love them; and whether they return their love or not, it is okay because our love for them is unconditional. No one owes you anything. You owe yourself the attitude, mentality and perception to sail through life smoothly.
Thanks for your comment and have a blessed week.