Gossip:  An Excerpt from the self-help book- Do Not Force It, Tap The Good.


        “In a 2008 movie titled “Doubt,” Philip Seymour Hoffman, cast as Father Brendan Flynn, gave what I consider a perfect sermon about gossip, in one of the scenes.  He told his congregation a story about a woman who went for repentance to her local priest.  The sin she was confessing was gossip.  The priest advised her to say a couple of prayers and suggested that she tears and opens one of her pillows and dispose the feathers from her bedroom window, which was located in a flat on the tenth floor of a big apartment building.  When she followed-up with the priest the next day, he asked her what had happened when she tore up the pillow.  She explained that the wind had blown away all the feathers in different directions. She then asked the priest if her sin had been forgiven. “Go and collect all the feathers and pack them back into your pillow case,” responded the priest.  ”But father,” she cried, “they were blown-off to different directions and I cannot find them all.”  The priest replied, “That my friend, is gossip.” 

       This story explains the nature and effects of gossip.  It goes far off to places where the original gossiper does not have access to.  If one analyzes the feather concept, he/she will concur with me that the original color, weight, and shape of the feather is 99% altered after being blown away by the wind from one place to another.  Gossip is similar.  Once news leaves its original source, by the time it gets to the 10th person, the content and hence predetermined objective of the message is altered.   Considering the fact that each one of us is unique, understands, and interprets information differently, one can never be certain about the honesty in a message unless of course it is being received directly from its original source. 

      Therefore, what makes us so convinced that the gossip we receive is based on facts? In most cases, when we receive the gossip we get so overwhelmed with the content and often forget to inquire about the information path.  How many people have been involved in the information process from its original source to the point of your involvement?  Is the source of the gossip reliable, or is it someone else’s truth, based on personal perceptions, experiences, mindset, and/or subconscious programming?  Categorically, there are so many obstacles that come up between the encoding and decoding process of every information transference process.  The list of obstacles is inexhaustible. Why then react impulsively to information, especially if the instant decoding presents negative concepts?  Certainly, there can be positive aspects of gossiping; however, just by the mere fact that it is gossip implies that it is either premature information still in the processing or it wasn’t meant for everyone to know. 

      What’s more, gossip has been known to be the cause of the downfall of many kingdoms, friendships, families, and companies.  Moreover, it has a great impact on influencing perceptions and hence the decision-making process.”

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Dr. Jacinta Mpalyenkana

Counselor/ Success Coach and Professional Speaker

Author of:

1. Love, Men and Money: How to Attract and Retain them

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2. Becoming a SEX CEO on a Spiritual Level

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3. Do Not Force it, Tap The Good. 

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What does your Psychological Intelligence have to do with your Business?


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Three Steps to Ignite Your Inner Drive:


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Often, we are faced with the challenge of tapping into our inner drive to take action. These are times when we feel like working on our goals is wastage of time especially when the results we’ve anticipated for our projects are not yet in sight. However, take note that inner drive is not contingent on our external circumstances. It’s our negative thought associations that corrupt our decision making inner portals.

When I recently researched on what successful people do to ignite their inner drives, the following three steps stood out for me.

1. CLARITY

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When we are clear about what we want, and have the desire to embark on achieving our desires, we automatically tap into our inner drives: because then, nothing presents reasons strong enough to distract our determined minds. The idea is to get very clear about what you want to achieve; the emotional benefits; the people you need to help you, or work with to achieve your goals, and the positive changes that your achievement will introduce to your life.

 2. OPPORTUNITY COST.

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Opportunity cost is the loss of the potential gain from other alternatives when one alternative is chosen. In regards to inner drive, this simply means that when we realize that not taking action costs more than the contrary, we tap into our inner drive to move things. In any case, before we take any action, we have to evaluate if taking action will add value to our businesses and/or life.

3. ORGANIZATION

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Being organized simplifies our action-taking process. When we un-clutter our lives, offices and minds in general, and develop simple but organized systems to support our projects, taking action becomes easy. Organization can be as simple as developing daily plans; to-do lists, getting focused, and developing a positive attitude.

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Three Steps to High Productivity on Lousy Days:


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If you are a business owner just as I am, you’ve experienced days when you feel like the night was so short. Yet, the guilt to pull those bed-covers closer bombards you like a cold blanket over your head. What do you do?

Below are the steps I take to help me get going on especially lousy days.

1. I breathe deeply before I leave my bed: kind of a meditation. I believe in strength, drive and enthusiasm, and breathe out lousiness and procrastination. I go through this exercise for about 10 minutes.
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2. I jump out of bed; do a 10 minutes yoga session – still breathing deeply. I also lift 5 pound weights for another 5 minutes. I take a lurk-warm water shower, (lurk-warm or cold water wakes up the body) drink a big glass of water, take a good protein breakfast and proceed to my home office.
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3. I make a to-do list for the day, putting the difficult takes first, and then get started.
In a nut-shell; the steps are: 1. Deep breathing. 2. Exercising, stretching and a protein powered breakfast.
3. Making a to-do list and getting started without getting distracted. Please note that I didn’t include face-booking or emailing. Those are things I do later in the day after decreasing the tasks on my to-do list.
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