There are times when we all feel so overwhelmed about life–when everything we do does not yield the results that we desire. During such times, we may feel as though the devil itself has binoculars on our lives.
I have experienced periods in my life when I felt as though I was moving against the wind. Everything seemed to break down. There was conflict surrounding me. Every action took me face to face with failure. I felt as though I was locked up behind a thick high wall with nowhere to go. I felt as if I was literally running around in circles–like a dog chasing its own tail. No amount of positive thinking made things better. Regardless of how hard and deeply I thought, no new information or ideas popped up in my mind as solutions. Even when I meditated and prayed for hours, I still felt a deep sense of emptiness and sadness.
Below are some of the steps that I have taken—things that have helped me get a new grip of my life.
1. Write down your goals.
2. Perform a situation analysis of your life; the steps you’ve been taking towards achieving your goals, the skills you have employed, plans, strategies, weaknesses, strengths, opportunities and threats.
2. Evaluate your successes and failures for the last 60 days.
3. STOP. Stop and relax. Stop making any major plans, taking any major actions or even expecting anything—good or bad to happen. Become a witness of your life. Observe. I know this might sound so hard to do, but if you have been taking a lot of action and seeing no results, then there is something missing. During such times, it also implies that we are not listening to our inner voice for direction or alerts.
4. Spend some time with yourself–at least 3 hours a day especially if you work for yourself. If you are employed and have to appear at a job every day, you can still become a witness of your own life by excluding judgement of others and the entire job situation. This might also mean that you don’t talk about your concerns with anyone. You are present at the job and doing what you have to do, but mindfully absent. I hope you understand what I mean. It’s about becoming laid back for a set period of time.
I hope this helps.
Love and light.
Dr Jacinta Mpalyenkana, Ph.D., MBA
Author, Speaker / Counselor / Coach / Mentor