“Why do I keep attracting douche-bags?” I asked my grandmother. Apparently, I had been in many failing relationships, attracting the same man in different bodies.
For many years, every man I attracted had some, if not all the following characteristics: Addictions of some sort, laziness, abusive, a cheater, low self-esteem, never available, acute behavioral disorders—to mention but a few. I was in awe of how I ended up with men who were the opposite of what I wanted to attract. At one point, my grandmother told me that everything I saw in these men reflected on my inner conditioning. “You identify each other because you feed on each other’s energetic blue print,” she said. Then I thought she was tripping. I didn’t have an addictive personality. I was very hardworking and as far as I knew, I was sane. So, what did I have in common with these men? It took years before I could appreciate the truth in my grandmother’s wisdom. Now as a counselor, I know that we attract who are.
“You identify each other because you feed on each other’s energetic blue print.”
How Can You Attract True Unconditional Love?
Whether you are already in a relationship or searching for one, the status of your relationship reflects on who you are at some level. If your partner disrupts your peace and/or happiness, note that you are responsible for all your negative emotions. You are responsible for all your experiences. Nothing keeps you in an unhappy relationship except your own insecurities and conditioning. All the reasons you have for remaining in a bad relationship are just escapes from the core truth: the truth that you believe you don’t deserve better.
If you are single and can’t attract love, it is all you in your energetic, spiritual, emotional or mental conditioning. Note that at the core, we are energy. Our energy blue prints impact our experiences. We metaphysically overflow from within to the external world. Our outer world perfectly mirrors our inner worlds. Whatever, and how we perceive and/or experience things is a reflection of our conditioning plus the stories, associations, relationships and definitions dwelling in our inner worlds. The question then is, how do we resolve this conditioning to attract true love? Below are 3 tips to get you started.
- Take full responsibility of your situation. Know that your situation is your own creation. Know that you can never get what you want you only get who you are. So, take it upon yourself to invest in identifying the conditioning within you that retracts true love from your experience.
- Love yourself unconditionally. This means that you take time to nourish your mind, body and spirit. Put yourself first and the world will put you first. Love yourself unconditionally and you will attract the same. This will take forgiving yourself, accepting who you are… in all ways; cleaning your environment. (Donating or throwing away old stuff you haven’t used in the last 6 months; letting go of relationships that hold you back or those that do not support your well being; clearing your living and working space of all clutter.)
- Go within, connect to your Higher-self and ask for guidance of how you can let go of the negative conditioning that prevents you from attracting true love. Note that you need discipline in order to connect to your Higher-self. This takes meditation on a daily basis.
If you need help, send me an email at email@example.com. In the meantime, listen to this meditation, recorded to help you release the negative conditioning that could be preventing you from attracting true unconditional love.
Link to Meditation – https://youtu.be/OZmJQ9LQBk8