“Suffering is an inner game we create by our power of choice.” Dr. Jacent M Mpalyenkana, PhD, MBA.
Yes, yes, I know. It doesn’t sound fair, does it? I understand because I have gone through it all. And occasionally I choose to suffer. Because I believe the lie that suffering as an emotion is stronger than me. But then I remember what one of my many mentors told me: “Emotions are not facts.” They are psychological energetic manifestations that we create for different reasons.
The point is, we mistake hurt for suffering. You could be physically, mentally, or emotionally hurt. But suffering is an extension of the hurt in whichever ways the later manifests. Suffering is also perception. You conceive a situation, define it and then perceive it according to your programming. This also implies that you use your power of choice to choose how to perceive the situation. And you can perceive the same situation differently if you re-choose.
I have been in relationships with people who were very abusive: mentally, racially, emotionally and even physically. The more I related with these people, the more I got hurt. And the more I got hurt, the more I concluded that I was suffering. No one said that when you get hurt, you also must suffer. It was my personal inner game. I choose to expand on the hurt and define it as suffering.
I also know people who are addicted to suffering. They position themselves in situations that promote immerse emotional pain, which the egoistical mind uses to convince them that they are indeed suffering. These people seem to enjoy complaining about what is wrong more than taking the required actions to change their situations.
To be fair, let’s consider people who might experience unfavorable conditions, such as diseases that render them bedridden, those in prison, death of the loved ones, etc. Even then, the human soul has what it takes to isolate itself from the egoistical mind’s cruel manifestations, and focus on the positive. We see this at work in people such as Nelson Mandela, who was imprisoned for 27 years but forgave his oppressors and chose peace over righteousness, or Steve Wander, who didn’t let his blindness shadow his musical gifts. The list is endless. These people have the same blood as we do. They breathe the same oxygen as we do, and live on the same planet as we do. The only difference between us and them is how they use their power of choice.
It doesn’t matter what you are experiencing today, know that there is a part of you that is unchangeable and uncorruptible by anything in your external and inner worlds. Regardless of how emotionally or physically painful your situation might be, you can choose not to suffer. You can be still and know that everything changes except the invisible part of you that dwells in your body: the very spirit of God, which is the only presence and everlasting truth..which is also the real you. This calls for us to discover who we truly are. Because when we know that we are not our bodies or identities, then we stop believing the constraining suggestions of the egoistical mind.
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