I am Quitting my Job: Weekly iV of Inspiration


It is time to quit

Why would I quit my job? You might wonder. Now, the job I am quitting immediately is judging people. It has cost me so much more than what I have put in. And I am sure you can relate. 

Let me explain

Judging, begins by observing the subject, relating to it by drawing information from your subconscious mind that recognizes the subject. Next, you have to perceive, define and then conclude on the subject. And the conclusion is what we normally refer to as judging.

What a waste of mental and emotional resources to come up with a judgement about someone! Although the process is normally done in a matter of seconds or minutes, it is still a hell of a long process. And most importantly, you can never be certain about the content of a book by just looking at its cover.

When we judge other people or make conclusions about their behavior, we consider the behavior as the only subject to perceive. However, behavior is a projection of a lot more complex information in the person than the behavior itself, Behavior is just an output. There is more to it, than it is. There is more to the person than their behavior. And there is more about that person than who they think they are. That is why I have come to a conclusion that judging others is delusional especially because you are making conclusions based on very limited information about the subject.

So, what is the option to judging? 

Well, people will reveal what is inside their minds through their behavior. However, let’s consider a few other details before we accept this suggestion as the truth.

Now, let’s imagine you go to the market to buy bananas. You will only buy the bananas that you like, right? You won’t go around the banana stall judging each of the banana batches. You might look around, pick up a few batches until you find the one you like. But your evaluations will not stick in your mind. You won’t drive home thinking about how horrible the other banana batches were. For the most part, you won’t even think about the bananas you bought. Likewise, you can relate to someone, and if their behavior triggers a negative emotion, memory or feeling within you, observe how you got to that mental/emotional state. Is this person’s behavior repetitive? Are you just having a bad day and this person just happened to be in your presence at the wrong time? As a side note, remember when someone insults you, it is just a projection of their misery. And if you get insulted, it is a projection of your insecurities.

When someone insults you, it is just a projection of their misery. And if you get insulted, it is a projection of your insecurities.” ~ Dr Jacinta Mpalyenkana-Murray

Whatever your reasons are, avoid jumping to conclusions about the person. Perceive and conclude on the behavior, and then act accordingly, but not on the person. Trust me, that will save you a lot of emotional turmoil. Remember it is easier to deal with actions than with people. If you just judge their behavior as action, all you have to do is examine how it made you feel, release the feelings and let it remain in the past where it belongs. Move on.

That’s the job I am quitting. I am done working as a self-employed, underpaid and quack judge, lol. I am not good at it. It is so tiring to judge people based on their behavior. People are more than their behavior. People are always changing. My judgements are neither the entire truth, nor current. Besides, it is just too much emotional work. I have decided to focus on my business, which is me, how I feel and my mindset. 

What about you? Please share your thoughts.

Love and light

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You Don’t Need Anyone’s Permission to Own Your Crown.


I have been following the Miss Universe, 2021 contest. And I saw many beautiful girls, whose beauty numbed my perception. These ladies are gorgeous, but above all, they projected gracefulness, confidence and inner strength. Watching them took me back to many years ago, when I competed for the Miss Uganda crown. And you guessed right, I didn’t win. But that experience equipped me with personal lessons than no other experience has awarded me. I learned that you don’t really compete with the other ladies in the contest, you compete with your inner demons, such as fear and self-doubt. Once you transcend these, there is nothing you can not do to identify what you need to change or upgrade about your identity, mind, body and soul, and then express yourself the best way you can.

As I watched the Miss Universe, 2021, contest, I thought, “What if we lived as if we were competing in a Miss Universe contest.?” How would we behave? What mindsets would we strive to have? How would we speak to ourselves?

I am sure we would exercise daily, stretch or do yoga regularly, eat healthy nutritious foods, take care of our skins, and hair. Dress to impress ourselves, imagine the best for ourselves, religiously strive at letting go of our inner demons, learn to love ourselves unconditionally, research on important global problems and think about solutions, think about how to give back to our communities, and plan on how we would make a difference in the world. I would also throw in daily meditation, to calm our minds and tap into our infinite selves.

The point is, we don’t have to wait to compete in a Miss Universe contest. We can begin today, this very moment and take care of our bodies, minds and souls. We can let go of our inner demons, right now. We can start loving ourselves unconditionally, right now. We can be confident of ourselves right now, by letting go of negative memories and beliefs. We can embark on a life long journey of feeling and looking good, thinking about what is good, being grateful for what we have, and visualizing the best for our lives. And although we might be busy with work or family, we can start considering ourselves as the most important assets in our lives. We can take time to focus on ourselves. Then, we can put ourselves first, so that we can be the best for everything and everyone else.

And guess what? There is nothing we are waiting for. We can own our crowns today!

Please share your thoughts on the new actions you are taking or plan to take, to be your own Miss Universe. Please join me in owning our own crowns.

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6 Ways to Deal With Mental Health Stigma


Don’t waste your time focusing on people who underestimate you. Focus on how you can up-estimate yourself.” ~ Dr. Jacent M M-Murray

Have you ever experienced some kind of emotional trauma or stress that manifested into a physical misalignment? Let us imagine you had brain surgery which damaged your sight or hearing functions. Or you lost a loved one, which traumatized you.

Could it be that you went through a divorce or a childhood experience that left you feeling completely disoriented and/or dissatisfied with life. Imagine people close to you or those you meet, implicate you as mentally retarded because of your emotional disabilities. This is an example of mental health stigma. Mental health stigma happens when someone discriminates, or treats you in a condensing manner just because you are either stressed, going through some hardcore challenges or is traumatized in some way.

How do you deal with them? How do you move forward without letting their actions affect you?

Here are a few suggestions that will help.

  1. Do not react to people’s negative comments about your weaknesses especially if they are derogative. Observe and ignore. Don’t even respond to their bull shit. Remember that you are in charge of your inner world. You are in charge of how you feel. Do not give them your power of influence–meaning that be the only one who determines what influences you.
  2. Don’t try to understand why someone treated you poorly. You can never understand why mean people do what they do. It is actually better if you don’t question because you might end up thinking like them. For this particular reason, the less you know about the root causes of people’s negative behavior, the better.
  3. Immediately walk away from people who treat you in condensing ways. If you can alert the authorities about their discriminative behavior, do. If not, end the relationship immediately and go about your business. Protect your sanity.
  4. Focus on your healing journey and mental health. Don’t allow outside negativity to influence you. Block it off by religiously focusing on how you want to feel.
  5. Tame your attention. Watch how you distribute your attention. Don’t let the mind sway you into negative thinking. Bring your attention back to your awesome self. Dwell on what you have. Be grateful for your life, your heart beat. Know that with life, change is prominent. Everything changes, and this too will come to an end.
  6. Remember who you truly are. Know that you are not your body, identity, history or experiences. Know that you are a child of God. Know that since God is infinite, you are not excluded from his presence. He is in you, and you are in him. There is no separation. Dwell on this truth with all your heart. And let the love of God heal and protect you.

I hope this helps. I know this is what I do daily to keep doing what I do.

I’m sending you abundant love from my heart to yours.

Love and light

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Written by Dr. Jacent Mpalyenkana-Murray, PhD, MBA

Reverend, Spiritual Counselor, Transformational Coach and Author, Speaker

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