It is time to quit
Why would I quit my job? You might wonder. Now, the job I am quitting immediately is judging people. It has cost me so much more than what I have put in. And I am sure you can relate.
Let me explain
Judging, begins by observing the subject, relating to it by drawing information from your subconscious mind that recognizes the subject. Next, you have to perceive, define and then conclude on the subject. And the conclusion is what we normally refer to as judging.
What a waste of mental and emotional resources to come up with a judgement about someone! Although the process is normally done in a matter of seconds or minutes, it is still a hell of a long process. And most importantly, you can never be certain about the content of a book by just looking at its cover.
When we judge other people or make conclusions about their behavior, we consider the behavior as the only subject to perceive. However, behavior is a projection of a lot more complex information in the person than the behavior itself, Behavior is just an output. There is more to it, than it is. There is more to the person than their behavior. And there is more about that person than who they think they are. That is why I have come to a conclusion that judging others is delusional especially because you are making conclusions based on very limited information about the subject.
So, what is the option to judging?
Well, people will reveal what is inside their minds through their behavior. However, let’s consider a few other details before we accept this suggestion as the truth.
Now, let’s imagine you go to the market to buy bananas. You will only buy the bananas that you like, right? You won’t go around the banana stall judging each of the banana batches. You might look around, pick up a few batches until you find the one you like. But your evaluations will not stick in your mind. You won’t drive home thinking about how horrible the other banana batches were. For the most part, you won’t even think about the bananas you bought. Likewise, you can relate to someone, and if their behavior triggers a negative emotion, memory or feeling within you, observe how you got to that mental/emotional state. Is this person’s behavior repetitive? Are you just having a bad day and this person just happened to be in your presence at the wrong time? As a side note, remember when someone insults you, it is just a projection of their misery. And if you get insulted, it is a projection of your insecurities.
“When someone insults you, it is just a projection of their misery. And if you get insulted, it is a projection of your insecurities.” ~ Dr Jacinta Mpalyenkana-Murray
Whatever your reasons are, avoid jumping to conclusions about the person. Perceive and conclude on the behavior, and then act accordingly, but not on the person. Trust me, that will save you a lot of emotional turmoil. Remember it is easier to deal with actions than with people. If you just judge their behavior as action, all you have to do is examine how it made you feel, release the feelings and let it remain in the past where it belongs. Move on.
That’s the job I am quitting. I am done working as a self-employed, underpaid and quack judge, lol. I am not good at it. It is so tiring to judge people based on their behavior. People are more than their behavior. People are always changing. My judgements are neither the entire truth, nor current. Besides, it is just too much emotional work. I have decided to focus on my business, which is me, how I feel and my mindset.
What about you? Please share your thoughts.
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