The “I am Not That” Self-healing Method


Unconditional self-love is a stress-reliever.” Dr. Jacinta Mpalyenkana-Murray, PhD, MBA

Who would consider the idea that loving yourself unconditionally can relieve your stress? 

When you ponder this idea, you realize that loving yourself unconditionally is powerful medicine to the body and soul.

But how do you love yourself unconditionally?

How do you stay in love with yourself when your conditions appear life threatening? How can you be in love when you have concluded that you are overweight, or not good enough?

How would you look at yourself in the mirror when you have zero balance in your bank account, and genuinely tell yourself how much you love you? 

How do you overlook your unpleasant conditions and stay in love with yourself unconditionally?

Here are a few pointers that helped me achieve that personal goal.

  1. Know who you are. 
  2. The only way to know who you are, is to know what or who you are not. Note that who you are can not be defined. You are not a thing.

Once you start identifying and detaching from what/who you are not, who you truly are will be looking back at you through your own eyes. 

Let me explain:

Let’s imagine your conditions are not pleasant. The egoistical mind automatically steps into your thoughts and presents ideas that seem so appealing to consider. Once you consider these ideas, you are hocked to the ego’s drama. Your mind is captured into the delusional web. Stress. anxiety, self-doubt, self-hatred, and all other negative emotions, ideas and even memories show up in your mind to convince you that it is over for you because the unpleasant conditions are here to finish you. Self-love, becomes the last idea on your mind. 

So, how do you use the “I am not that” Method to relieve stress and overcome these unpleasant conditions?

Well, share your views and I will continue this article with my own views of this method in the next post. 

Love and light

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