Death, at least for the most part is not the most desirable event. However, in my humble opinion it is a powerful wake up call to remind us that we are here for a season and a reason. The season is unknown; and the most important reason is to awaken to ourselves…to know who we truly are…and to be that.
Easy as it sounds, awakening to oneself is one of the most difficult job I have pursued. And this is because it is not something that anyone can pursue. It is not a destination, a thing, a place or state. It just is. You just are. But let me get back to my subject of interest today; the beauty in death.
Death teaches us that we have no business holding onto our past and whatever doesn’t serve us. It reveals something else that we are all subjected to regardless of our statuses. No one is excluded from it. It is normal to all of us. Therefore, it makes sense to forgive ourselves, forgive each other, and let go of the painful past. It makes sense to treat every breathing moment, and every heartbeat as precious, sweet gifts. Death reminds us that this sweet gift, life, is not forever, and we shouldn’t take it for granted. We should celebrate life and use every moment to awaken to our infinite, timeless selves.
Regardless of whatever you are experiencing today, know that you still have a sweet gift…life. Embrace it and be grateful for it. Become a sanity warrior, a state that will help you transcend the egoistical mind and its ever changing illusions.
How can you possible earn something that you already have?
It is without reasonable and unreasonable doubt that all the emotions we need or generate are already within us. So, how and why should happiness be earned? Besides, happiness is related to happening. It is indicative that for happiness to manifest, something must first happen. But is that the truth? Aren’t there people who are happy regardless of what is, or is not happening? How then do we earn happiness?
“In that wonderful moving picture, “The Thief of Bagdad,” we were told in letters of light that happiness must be earned.
It is earned through perfect control of the emotional nature. There can be no happiness where there is fear, apprehension or dread. With perfect faith in God comes a feeling of security and happiness. When man know that there is an invincible power that protects him and al that he loves, and brings to him every righteous desire of the heart, he relaxes all nervous tension and is happy and satisfied. He is undisturbed by adverse appearances, knowing that Infinite Intelligence is protecting his interests and utilizing every situation tp bring his good to pass. “
Uneasy lies the head that wears a frown.”……
That being said, it also worth considering the idea that sadness is also earned. When we forget who we truly are in our true nature, that loss of memory earns us not just sadness, but also all the madness you can imagine in the world.
In my book, Command: 21 Days of Affirmative Prayer and Counseling, you will not only release all self-inflicted emotional, mental and soul-based pain, you will also re-learn who you are in God, and who God is in you. And this is life changing information that will earn you all the happiness you only dream about; especially if you do the work suggested in the book.
“We live in an infinite universe that provides infinite resources we can never exhaust in a single lifetime.” ~ Dr. Jacent Mpalyenkana
The world has somehow convinced us, or rather, we have believed the lie that we don’t have enough. And that we have to struggle, work super hard, kill each other, betray and backstab each other, because if we don’t, we won’t have enough to survive. But oh, what a costly lie!
Before I was forced into taking on this spiritual path, for many years, I thought I was separate from the divine plan of God. I worried everyday about how I was going to make it in life. I studied hard, worked hard at the different jobs I was employed at, and almost killed myself trying to become super-wealthy and super-fast. But I was saved by the constant and consistent failure, itself. I hit rock bottom. Because I came to realize that I really do not have control. I am being done. I am part of a divine plan that provides everything, and it provides everything for everyone on this planet. Everything we need, is here. God is not a fool to create, and leave us suffering and living scarcity-infused lives. It struck me that God, the supreme being is abundant, beyond infinite. “He” created this world with everything we need to live abundant, happy lives. We dwell in the midst of prosperity, wealth, and opportunities that we can never exhaust. What separates us from this goodness is our limited self-belief. We believe to be our identities and just our bodies, We don’t know who we are. We think we are separate from everything. We think we are on our own. But we forget that there is not a we, without God, the supreme. We ignore the fact that our very heartbeats are provided by God. We are, because God is. And when we remember and believe this with our hearts, the shadows of fear, doubt and separation dissolve.
Believe this and be free. Trust that there is more than enough for you to enjoy, because of your very nature.
And remember, because of our free will, the universe, God, is to us, what we are to Him. When we open our hearts entirely to this magic, we refer to as God, life becomes fulfilled.
What a waste of mental and emotional resources to come up with a judgement about someone! Although the process is normally done in a matter of seconds or minutes, it is still a hell of a long process. And most importantly, you can never be certain about the content of a book by just looking at its cover.
When we judge other people or make conclusions about their behavior, we consider the behavior as the only subject to perceive. However, behavior is a projection of a lot more complex information in the person than the behavior itself, Behavior is just an output. There is more to it, than it is. There is more to the person than their behavior. And there is more about that person than who they think they are. That is why I have come to a conclusion that judging others is delusional especially because you are making conclusions based on very limited information about the subject.
So, what is the option to judging?
Well, people will reveal what is inside their minds through their behavior. However, let’s consider a few other details before we accept this suggestion as the truth.
Now, let’s imagine you go to the market to buy bananas. You will only buy the bananas that you like, right? You won’t go around the banana stall judging each of the banana batches. You might look around, pick up a few batches until you find the one you like. But your evaluations will not stick in your mind. You won’t drive home thinking about how horrible the other banana batches were. For the most part, you won’t even think about the bananas you bought. Likewise, you can relate to someone, and if their behavior triggers a negative emotion, memory or feeling within you, observe how you got to that mental/emotional state. Is this person’s behavior repetitive? Are you just having a bad day and this person just happened to be in your presence at the wrong time? As a side note, remember when someone insults you, it is just a projection of their misery. And if you get insulted, it is a projection of your insecurities.
“When someone insults you, it is just a projection of their misery. And if you get insulted, it is a projection of your insecurities.” ~ Dr Jacinta Mpalyenkana-Murray
Whatever your reasons are, avoid jumping to conclusions about the person. Perceive and conclude on the behavior, and then act accordingly, but not on the person. Trust me, that will save you a lot of emotional turmoil. Remember it is easier to deal with actions than with people. If you just judge their behavior as action, all you have to do is examine how it made you feel, release the feelings and let it remain in the past where it belongs. Move on.
That’s the job I am quitting. I am done working as a self-employed, underpaid and quack judge, lol. I am not good at it. It is so tiring to judge people based on their behavior. People are more than their behavior. People are always changing. My judgements are neither the entire truth, nor current. Besides, it is just too much emotional work. I have decided to focus on my business, which is me, how I feel and my mindset.
You don’t need to answer that question, it is just my way of soliciting your attention.
Now that I have your attention, I just wanna share something about me. Tomorrow is my birthday. And I won’t share my age because I wanna save you from information about stuff that won’t benefit you in any way. Also, I have managed to convince myself that age is just a number. And although this doesn’t stop the changes in my body from happening, over the years, I have learned that how I feel is my choice.
What is Time?
Well, most believe time is the measure of the earth’s distance and space around the sun. And others are convinced that time is a man made illusion. I won’t take sides because I am not an expert in time, but I will concur with the precept that man might have invented time. Right now in Los Angeles, California, it is about 4.04p.m as I write this article. In New York, the time is 3 hours ahead. Somewhere in the world, it is 12 hours earlier or later than 4.04p.m. If man isn’t responsible for creating these differences in time, then who is?
Therefore, I have concluded that all time really is, is change. Time represents the constant change in the universe and everything in it. And since everything is always changing, then change is the only norm. Therefore, the first lesson that time teaches us is that it is the only norm.
Time is a projection of change. ~ Dr. Jacinta Mpalyenkana-Murray
Although intangible, time consumes everything, or rather, everything is consumed in it. Time leaves no stone unturned. Time teaches us not to take things for granted. Time consoles us by reminding us that nothing lasts for ever; and that everything that comes must go. In, and with time, there are opportunities to plan, execute set goals, look back to re-evaluate, hope for better experiences, and heal old wounds…physically and emotionally. Time reveals secrets.
Time is a grand revealer. ~ Dr. Jacinta Mpalyenkana
Time also shows us that when we waste our attention by focusing on our negative past experiences, the flow of life, won’t stop to wait for us. If we spend our time indulging in negative encounters, or relating with people who trigger feelings of hatred or sadness in us, time won’t rewind itself back to an earlier slot, in order to gain us more of itself so that we can use it wisely. Time waits for no one. And the truth about time is that you can waste it. Rather you waste your attention on things that don’t progress you. Time can’t be wasted because it is not a thing.
Time propels us to keep moving forward, and progressing. Time is the best revenge, because situations and people change in, and because of it. If there were no time, there would be no change, Everything would be static and dormant. Therefore, I have concluded that time is a tool that supports our expressions in life. Time is an intelligent teacher, who especially shows us that we are supreme to it. We can not be consumed by it. We are in charge. And we can use it as we please. Yes, our bodies can be consumed by time, but we are the never changing reality that observes it. And when we get still and let time and everything moving in it play without our engagement, God is revealed.
What has time revealed to you? How do you use your time?
Over the years, there are a few people who have me hurt me beyond words. And I’m sure you can relate.
My stepmother did something to me that negatively impacted my life in ways I can’t even explain. For years, I cried day and night wondering why she could hurt someone’s child to that extent, moreover she has her own kids. I tried so hard to understand why God was so silent while I pleaded with Him to rescue me from the pain and negative consequences that her actions had created in my life, in vain.
Something else I held onto for years was the racism I experienced at a workplace, and from people I met in different organizations. Misfortune seemed to follow me around. Then, the discriminative tendencies from my in-laws, who treated me like I was less of a human being because I am black, almost rendered me insane. These things hurt me so much that I moved around with a heavy heart, sad, disoriented, and discouraged about life.
Some friends I had inspired so much when they were down and people I had supported when no one was there for them decided that betrayal was my best reward. And I am sure you can relate.
I was so determined to heal my life because it hurt. One day, I met my spiritual teacher, who literally rescued me from the brewing pain that I was actively fertilizing in my heart. Without even knowing what I was going through, he told me something that snapped me out of the self-inflicted pain.
“Jacinta, there is no God in the sky coming to rescue you. God is in you. God is your life. God is your heartbeat, God is your breath. So do yourself a favor and release everything in your heart so that you can feel God.”
Despite having a doctorate in counseling, it hadn’t occurred to me that I was the one responsible for the pain I felt. All the people I had perceived as “hurters” were doing themselves. It was their business. They were expressing themselves. That is the programming they had. It had nothing to do with me. My business was to keep my heart clear from all perceptions and judgements about people and experiences. And that I have the power to live life on my terms. “Release your heart to God….to the universe, because “He” is the real deal and the only deal.” My teacher explained.
Are you hurting because someone acted in ways that hurt you? Release the pain and give your heart to whom it belongs to…God. Say, “Dear God, help me forgive myself, and everyone whom I have perceived as a hurter. Help me release my heart wholeheartedly to you.” Say this prayer repeatedly and watch how the universe works. When you stand down, the universe, God, reveals fully as your supreme support, not that “It” wasn’t your support before you recognized this truth. Because God is your support, with or without your recognition. But when you consciously acknowledge that God is all there is, peace becomes your perfume.
I am sharing this personal story, hoping it can inspire someone out there.
“It will never be okay; because it always is as soon as you perceive it that way.” ~ Dr. Jacent Mpalyenkana-Murray
When we go through experiences we perceive as challenges, we always hope that they turn out to be okay, sooner than later. However, because perception is projection, we perceive things as we are and not as they are. This brought me to the conclusion that everything is always okay when we perceive it as okay. However, how do we project situations as okay when we are projecting from an inner world filled with negativity?
Let me use the scenario of an image in a mirror. If you want the image in the mirror to change, you don’t break the mirror: you change the image. Equally, if you want your experiences to change, cleanse your subconscious mind, which is the storage of your projections, and then instill new positive prompters or programs based upon which you will perceive the world.
Well, I have a power-filled resource for you. In my newest book, Command: 21 Days of Counseling and Affirmative Prayers to Cleanse Your Subconscious Mind and Command Your Life back to Divine Order, you will get to do a thorough cleanse of your subconscious mind and then instill new positive and powerful prompters upon which the projections of your experiences will be based.
Remember, change is movement; change is action. If you want anything to change, move…. act.
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“The conversations you have with yourself should be rich and positive enough to transcend and dispel the ever brewing negativity in your external world” ~ Dr. Jacent Mpalyenkana-Murray, PhD. MBA.
Conversations are either silent or spoken out loud, but regardless of their nature they manifest their like.
What conversations do you have with yourself about you, other people, life and the world in general? Do you pay attention to what is going on in your mind? How are these conversations created?
“As within so without”
I have had to hear this quote thousands of times before I could take it on as true. I used to look at the outer world for answers. At one time, I blamed everyone and everything for my negative experiences, and left myself out as a cause to my suffering.
Consequently, I never took responsibility for my experiences. I literally surrendered my power to blame. The more I blamed, the more I blamed. And nothing good came out of blaming other people or things. I had to stop and examine how I could snap myself out of that insanity. And I discovered that the conversations we have with ourselves determine how we feel. The more positively we speak to ourselves, the better we feel. When we fill our inner conversations with a wealth of good and rich information, we are able to transcend and dispel external negatives. But how do we get to that point? How do we shift from self-destructive behavior to more blissful experiences?
We begin by cleansing the negativity in our subconscious minds and instilling new positive prompters upon which we relate, think, act, behave and experience a more blissful life.
“Don’t wait for others to see your value. See it yourself.” Says my later maternal grandmother.
Life has taught me that we shouldn’t wait for others to appreciate us for who we are or what we do for them. We should appreciate ourselves. We should take time to be grateful for what we’ve done for ourselves and others. By doing this, we are also being grateful for what God does within us, and through us. The consequences are that we start attracting more experiences to be grateful for.
This session will help you shift your awareness to whatever good you’ve done for yourself and others.