Tired of Attracting Abusive Men? 3 Tips to Unlock The Subconscious Related- Chains


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Are you sick and tired of attracting abusive men?

You might have daddy issues. Read on!!

It is not only biologically vital but also spiritually imperative to grow up with our parents, mom and dad, or the equivalent, for us to develop and sustain positive-infused mindsets. Although overlooked, without both your parents in the picture as a child, you are bound to search for whoever was missing in the people you meet in your adult life. And that can be very frustrating.

Note that one is also impliedly psychologically and emotionally abused if their father or father figure was always absent in their younger days.

In this article, you will identify one of the problems created by not having a father figure or having an abusive one, and learn three simple techniques that will liberate you from this problem in order to develop healthier relationships with the men in your life.

The Problem:

Without a father figure in your life, you miss out on the security and comfort that a father figure provides (especially one with a healthy mind). A father is literally the first adult male you are introduced to, or is supposed to be introduced to when you are born. As such, he represents men in general and especially how men relate or should relate to women. Your father introduces you to the first standards that you believe every man should possess. If you saw your father treating your mom with respect, you tend to attract or choose men who understand how to treat a woman with respect.

If especially you witnessed your father abusing you or any other members of your family and never stopped abusing them, and/or never apologized, chances are that you have subconscious anger that’s not only directed towards your father, but all men.  The consequences are that you will continue unconsciously seeking out men with behaviors similar to your dad with hope that they might abuse you and then apologize to make up for what your father didn’t do. However, even if you attract men who are apologetic for abusing you, they will not compensate for your father’s abuse. Therefore, you will continue seeking for abusive men, over and over again until you deal with your early father-figure programming.

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The Solution:

Note that the tips I share below are not exhaustive of all the techniques and tools that you can employ to heal your early negative father-programming.

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Take time and write all your early father negative experiences, or no-father negative experiences. Be as detailed as possible. To guide you, you can answer the following questions:

  1. What exactly happened?
  2. Who was there?
  3. What did your father do, didn’t do, or should have done?
  4. In case you didn’t have a father figure as a child, how did this make you feel?
  5. How did those experiences make you feel about your father and men in general?
  6. How did these experiences make you feel about yourself?

Re-examine all the related feelings about yourself that were developed because of your earlier father/no father negative programming

Go through this simple EFT and Ho’oponopono to stop attracting abusive relationships session 

Click HERE to access the video recording.

If you want more, order the Daddy Issues Meditation CD from http://tapthegood.com/spiritualservices/

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Or buy my book (Love, Men and Money: How to Attract and Retain them) with detailed EFT and counseling scripts at www.tapthegood.com/books/ or from Amazon at https://www.amazon.com/Love-Men-Money-Attract-Retain/dp/1480094897/

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Or sign up for my complimentary 30 minutes consultation session to set up counseling sessions that are guaranteed to help you take your power back from the negative past in order to live life on your terms.

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Dr. Jacinta Mpa, Ph.D., MBA, is a published author, counselor and transformational coach. For more about her, visit www.tapthegood.com.

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Does What You Want Deserve You?


Often times who crave to get certain things in life. We crave for jobs, relationships, cars, etc, only to get them and start craving for different things. At times when we get what we have been longing for, this is when we realize that it doesn’t resonate with our personal standards.

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As a counselor and coach, I have discovered that people long for what they don’t really want. They tend to focus so much on the  wanted “thing” instead of the feelings that the ‘thing” will elicit in them when they get it. For example; a woman craves to attract a man. And when she does, she realizes that she deserves better. This is when she also discovers that she didn’t evaluate what she particularly deserves before she established what she wanted.

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My simple advice is that before you start working towards achieving a set goal, let it be a woman, man, job, promotion, car, etc, ask yourself if this goal reflects on your standards, values, and self esteem. The starting point is to evaluate how you value yourself. What makes you, you? What’s your worth?

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As you ponder on the above, I have a resource for you. My book, Do Not Force It, Tap The Good: How to Tap into one’s Inner Infinite Intelligence, Develop a Profound Positive Mindset, and Live Life on his/her Termswill help you evaluate your personal standards, and then challenge you to upgrade your self-worth. 

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Check out the book on CD, Kindle, Audio and Paper back.

links to the book:

Kindle – https://www.amazon.com/not-Force-TAP-GOOD-Intelligence-ebook/dp/B006JNBGDW

Paper back – http://www.amazon.com/Do-not-Force-TAP-GOOD/dp/1461079098

Audible – http://www.amazon.com/Do-Not-Force-Tap-Good/dp/B008JAEXRE?ie=UTF8&qid=&ref_=tmm_aud_swatch_0&sr=

CD – http://www.amazon.com/Do-Not-Force-Tap-Good/dp/0985379103/ref=tmm_abk_swatch_0?_encoding=UTF8&qid=&sr=

Have a great week ahead.

Love and light

http://www.tapthegood.com

All Things are Possible


Live your life in a sublime spirit of confidence and determination; disregard appearances, conditions. In fact, disregard all evidence of your senses that deny the fulfillment of your desire. Rest in the assumption that you are already what you want to be, for in that determined assumption, you and your Infinite Being are merged in creative unity, and with your Infinite Being, (God) remember that all things are possible. GOD NEVER FAILS. 

The question is; how do you get to that mental, emotional and spiritual place of absolute faith? The proven process of developing unwavering faith in life, yourself and God, is fully explained in my book – Do Not Force it, Tap The GoodHow to Tap into one’s Inner Infinite Intelligence, Develop a Profound Positive Mindset, and Live Life on his/her Terms

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Love and light

Dr. Jacinta Mpalyenkana, Ph.D, MBA

Author, Speaker, Counselor, Success Coach

http://www.tapthegood.com/books/

Book link – http://www.amazon.com/gp/product/B006JNBGDW/ref=dp-kindle-redirect?ie=UTF8&btkr=1

 

Is Your Heart Wounded?


Certain experiences have a way of wounding our hearts. The emotions these experiences leave with us, do get in the way of us getting forward.

If you, or someone you know has been hurt, looking to heal negative emotions, or seeking to attract love, I have a resource for you. Click on the following link for details. https://www.eventbrite.com/e/healing-the-wounded-heart-to-attract-love-2-part-series-tickets-17663509031

Love and Light

Dr. Jacinta Mpalyenkana, Ph.D, MBA

Author, Speaker, Counselor / Success Coach

tapthegood.com