How to Connect to The Right Friends


As a teenager, connecting to the right friends was one of my biggest challenges.

I grew up with my mom in Kampala, the capital city of Uganda, and my mom was very strict about how we chose friends since most of our neighbor’s teenagers had become pregnant, escaped from their homes and/or got involved in other inappropriate activities. I disliked my mom. In my little mind, I thought she was blocking my freedom to have as many friends as I wanted. But as an adult now, I appreciate her a lot. It is because of her strategies to keep us safe from the turbulent environment in which we were in, that I and my siblings were able to complete school without getting into trouble.

By following some of the strategies that I learned from my mom, and some as a transformational coach, I’ve been able to connect to and choose the right friends over the years.

Here are some of the tips that you can use to connect to the right friends.

1. Become your own best friend.
Before you can understand what friendship really means, you have to love and appreciate everything about yourself, including your flaws. You have to be your own best friend. If you don’t like yourself, you will always look for validation from your friends to define who you are. And that will be disappointing because no one has the power to define who you should be, or how you should feel about yourself. It’s up to each one of us to determine who we should be, and how we should feel. Therefore, be your best friend first, such that when you connect to friends, you are not looking for validation. You love yourself as you are.

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2. Define what friendship means to you.
It is extremely important to establish what you want to achieve from whatever you do. It’s about being purposeful. Defining what friendship means to you implies that you establish what you expect from friends; what they should expect from you as a friend, and what you will not tolerate from them. This also means that you have to develop personal values and standards below which you won’t be anyone’s friend. For instance; since you are already your own best friend, you have to know how to be friendly to yourself. This means that you respect your body by eating the right foods; you exercise and do not indulge in anything that would abuse your body—such as drugs and/or immature sex. You keep your word. You communicate clearly about what you want and don’t want, assertively. You respect your parents/elders. You keep your environment clean and safe. In a nutshell, you love yourself. As a result, you seek to connect with friends who also love themselves and most importantly, friends who will not negatively affect your self-love. They respect and appreciate who you are. They don’t try to influence you, except if it is for positive change.

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3. Become friendly.
If you want to connect to friends you have to be friendly. This means that you don’t make judgments about others because of their looks, origin, social group or religion. You communicate to others freely and attentively as you take the time to examine if these people also love themselves. You become present with people—meaning that you listen attentively to everyone you meet before you determine if that person could be a friend.

I believe that if you embrace these tips, or even add other personal tips that you’ve learned, you will be able to connect to good friends.

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Dr. Jacinta Mpalyenkana, PH.D., MBA

Author, Transformational Coach, and Speaker.

3 Common Fatal Mistakes that Kill Businesses


According to a recent study by the American Marketing Association, 3% of any business’s ideal customers is ready to buy. The remaining 97% have other issues that I will explain in my next article. In this article, I will explain the 3 common fatal mistakes that kill businesses.

  1. Based on the proceeding, most businesses strategize and focus all their attention on the 3% of their ideal customers, who are ready to buy. Focusing on this percentage of your ideal customers creates a fatal competitive environment that could cost you time, and especially money. Competing for the 3% is the most common reason for price wars—which consequently creates profit losses.Un healthy competition
  2. The inability to communicate and connect to the ideal customer.

Most business owners have a perfect product, service or idea, but lack the skills to communicate in a way that will captivate their customer’s attention. Communicating in a captivating manner is a skill that requires expertise and focus to master.Poor communication

  1. Procrastination and low inner drive to take action will kill any business.Procrastination

The dilemma is to find the perfect solutions to either avoid, or resolve the above fatal mistakes.

The book – Communicating Your Way to Success: Master the Art of Persuasion, Positively Influence Others, Increase Sales, and Stand Out in the Crowd, goes into depth in explaining practical processes to connect to the ideal customer. Furthermore, the author offers interactive simplified processes of how to identify the ideal customer, and especially how to use mind triggers to communicate and turn more leads into loyal customers.

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Dr. Jacinta Mpalyenkana, Ph.D, MBA

Author, Success Coach, Counselor

http://www.tapthegood.com

 

A Powerful Mind Trigger For Customer Conversion


In this video, I share a powerful mind trigger that has been scientifically proven to influence others to pay attention to one’s offer or presentation.

I encourage you to try the trigger out on a new lead, and I guarantee that you will witness some interesting results. Please share your experiences by posting on this article.

In the interim, check out my newest book – Communicating Your Way to Success: Master the Art of Persuasion, Positively Influence Others, Increase Sales, and Stand Out from the Crowd.

Link to Video – https://youtu.be/560s2phDjZk

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Dr. Jacinta Mpalyenkana

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The Most Important Step for Business Owners in The Process of Becoming Persuasive


In this video, I share the most important step that business owners need to embrace to become more persuasive.

Here’s the link to the video – https://youtu.be/ZCLG4RnpVe4

If this caught your attention, and I believe it did, take advantage and pre-order the book – Communicating Your Way to Success, between now and 9/25.

The kindle pre-order price, is a sweet price of $0.99

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The paperback is $9.75 (half the price) – Link – http://tapthegood.com/books/

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Dr. Jacinta Mpalyenkana, Ph.D. MBA

Author, Speaker, Counselor / Success Coach

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