The “I am Not That” Self-healing Method


Unconditional self-love is a stress-reliever.” Dr. Jacinta Mpalyenkana-Murray, PhD, MBA

Who would consider the idea that loving yourself unconditionally can relieve your stress? 

When you ponder this idea, you realize that loving yourself unconditionally is powerful medicine to the body and soul.

But how do you love yourself unconditionally?

How do you stay in love with yourself when your conditions appear life threatening? How can you be in love when you have concluded that you are overweight, or not good enough?

How would you look at yourself in the mirror when you have zero balance in your bank account, and genuinely tell yourself how much you love you? 

How do you overlook your unpleasant conditions and stay in love with yourself unconditionally?

Here are a few pointers that helped me achieve that personal goal.

  1. Know who you are. 
  2. The only way to know who you are, is to know what or who you are not. Note that who you are can not be defined. You are not a thing.

Once you start identifying and detaching from what/who you are not, who you truly are will be looking back at you through your own eyes. 

Let me explain:

Let’s imagine your conditions are not pleasant. The egoistical mind automatically steps into your thoughts and presents ideas that seem so appealing to consider. Once you consider these ideas, you are hocked to the ego’s drama. Your mind is captured into the delusional web. Stress. anxiety, self-doubt, self-hatred, and all other negative emotions, ideas and even memories show up in your mind to convince you that it is over for you because the unpleasant conditions are here to finish you. Self-love, becomes the last idea on your mind. 

So, how do you use the “I am not that” Method to relieve stress and overcome these unpleasant conditions?

Well, share your views and I will continue this article with my own views of this method in the next post. 

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6 Ways to Deal With Mental Health Stigma


Don’t waste your time focusing on people who underestimate you. Focus on how you can up-estimate yourself.” ~ Dr. Jacent M M-Murray

Have you ever experienced some kind of emotional trauma or stress that manifested into a physical misalignment? Let us imagine you had brain surgery which damaged your sight or hearing functions. Or you lost a loved one, which traumatized you.

Could it be that you went through a divorce or a childhood experience that left you feeling completely disoriented and/or dissatisfied with life. Imagine people close to you or those you meet, implicate you as mentally retarded because of your emotional disabilities. This is an example of mental health stigma. Mental health stigma happens when someone discriminates, or treats you in a condensing manner just because you are either stressed, going through some hardcore challenges or is traumatized in some way.

How do you deal with them? How do you move forward without letting their actions affect you?

Here are a few suggestions that will help.

  1. Do not react to people’s negative comments about your weaknesses especially if they are derogative. Observe and ignore. Don’t even respond to their bull shit. Remember that you are in charge of your inner world. You are in charge of how you feel. Do not give them your power of influence–meaning that be the only one who determines what influences you.
  2. Don’t try to understand why someone treated you poorly. You can never understand why mean people do what they do. It is actually better if you don’t question because you might end up thinking like them. For this particular reason, the less you know about the root causes of people’s negative behavior, the better.
  3. Immediately walk away from people who treat you in condensing ways. If you can alert the authorities about their discriminative behavior, do. If not, end the relationship immediately and go about your business. Protect your sanity.
  4. Focus on your healing journey and mental health. Don’t allow outside negativity to influence you. Block it off by religiously focusing on how you want to feel.
  5. Tame your attention. Watch how you distribute your attention. Don’t let the mind sway you into negative thinking. Bring your attention back to your awesome self. Dwell on what you have. Be grateful for your life, your heart beat. Know that with life, change is prominent. Everything changes, and this too will come to an end.
  6. Remember who you truly are. Know that you are not your body, identity, history or experiences. Know that you are a child of God. Know that since God is infinite, you are not excluded from his presence. He is in you, and you are in him. There is no separation. Dwell on this truth with all your heart. And let the love of God heal and protect you.

I hope this helps. I know this is what I do daily to keep doing what I do.

I’m sending you abundant love from my heart to yours.

Love and light

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Written by Dr. Jacent Mpalyenkana-Murray, PhD, MBA

Reverend, Spiritual Counselor, Transformational Coach and Author, Speaker

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How Are You Projecting Your Inner Struggles?


Have you ever felt so angry that everything and everyone made you angrier?

Would you say that these things or people were responsible for your emotions?

Have you ever met someone so mean, that “they made medicine seem weak?” ~ Mohammad Ali.

Would you really blame yourself for the way they felt?

Well, I have. And that’s before I understood that I am in control of my emotions. And that I was the lord of my inner world. It was up to me to manage my inner world. And every time I forget that I am in charge, I get hurt.

What about you? What is your story?

Well, below are real reviews/complaints from customers received by Thomas Cook Vacations. It might be funny but take time to examine how we let the egoistical mind paint us insane.

1. “They should not allow topless sunbathing on the beach. It was very distracting for my husband who just wanted to relax.”


2. “On my holiday to Goa in India, I was disgusted to find that almost every restaurant served curry. I don’t like spicy food.”

3. “We went on holiday to Spain and had a problem with the taxi drivers as they were all Spanish.”

4. “We booked an excursion to a water park but no-one told us we had to bring our own swimsuits and towels. We assumed it would be included in the price.”

5. “The beach was too sandy. We had to clean everything when we returned to our room.”

6. “We found the sand was not like the sand in the brochure. Your brochure shows the sand as white but it was more yellow.”

7. “It’s lazy of the local shopkeepers in Puerto Vallartato close in the afternoons. I often needed to buy things during ‘siesta’ time — this should be banned.”

8. “No-one told us there would be fish in the water. The children were scared.”

9. “Although the brochure said that there was a fully equipped kitchen, there was no egg-slicer in the drawers.”

10. “I think it should be explained in the brochure that the local convenience store does not sell proper biscuits like custard creams or ginger nuts.”

11. “The roads were uneven and bumpy, so we could not read the local guide book during the bus ride to the resort. Because of this, we were unaware of many things that would have made our holiday more fun.”

12. “It took us nine hours to fly home from Jamaica to England. It took the Americans only three hours to get home. This seems unfair.”

13. “I compared the size of our one-bedroom suite to our friends’ three-bedroom and ours was significantly smaller.”

14. “The brochure stated: ‘No hairdressers at the resort.’ We’re trainee hairdressers and we think they knew and made us wait longer for service.”

15. “When we were in Spain, there were too many Spanish people there. The receptionist spoke Spanish, the food was Spanish. No one told us that there would be so many foreigners.”

16. “We had to line up outside to catch the boat and there was no air-conditioning.”

17. “It is your duty as a tour operator to advise us of noisy or unruly guests before we travel.” 18. “I was bitten by a mosquito. The brochure did not mention mosquitoes.”

19. “My fiancée and I requested twin-beds when we booked, but instead we were placed in a room with a king bed. We now hold you responsible and want to be re-reimbursed for the fact that I became pregnant. This would not have happened if you had put us in the room that we booked.”

Source: Peter Dickinson

How can you become the authority of your experiences? How can you master the inner workings of your inner world?

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Ho’oponopono Questions Answered – Learn What Ho’oponopono Can, and Cannot Do – Tapthegood.com


Whenever I post Ho’oponopono sessions, I get so many questions regarding Ho.oponopono and how it works.

In this session, I have answered the most common questions posed.

The questions are:

1. Is Ho’oponopono magic, voodoo or a quick fix?

2. Why isn’t Ho’oponopono working for me?

3. How long will it take to resolve my issues?

4. Can I deal with more than one issue in a session?

5. What if I feel worse after the session, what do I do?

6. Can I heal other people with Ho’oponopono?

7. If I resolve an issue will it return?

8. Can I heal ancestral and lineage curses, plus witchcraft with Ho’oponopono?

9. Can one session dissolve all my life’s problems?

10. In advanced Ho’oponopono with water, can I change the water after a few days?

11. Can you offer me free sessions?

I hope I have answered all your questions.

In the meantime, I now envision you as engrossed in eternal light and divine love.

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Advanced Ho’oponopono to Dissolve Childhood Trauma |Video 2| Release Subconscious Related Benefits


For the most part, if you’ve held onto memories of childhood trauma, your subconscious mind can create benefits in order to retain these memories. These benefits are created to justify and validate the retention of the traumatic memories.

For instance, let’s imagine that you were sexually abused as a child. As an adult the subconscious mind can create convictions that retaining these memories provides a safety net to protect you from related abuse. So, you hold onto the memories because with them, you feel protected.

For example, every time you come in contact with someone with the likes of your abuser, you immediately put up defense and avoid them with intent to protect yourself from being abused again. Consequently, if you are single, you can stay single for a very long time, or attract partners who abuse you, as a projection of your subconscious memories and beliefs.

However, you also have to remember that you don’t have to hold onto the memories to be protected from future abuse. It’s actually backwards. The more you hold onto these negative memories, the more they project themselves in your experiences. Holding onto these memories manifests into a lot of negative emotions and behavior that overrides the benefits. When you let them go, space is created within you to function from a place of clarity and peace.

With spaciousness, you can create more positive states and intentions that will be projected in your experiences. Note that as within, so with out.

In this session, we shall use advanced Ho’oponopono to get your inner child to release these delusional benefits so that you get started on your deeper healing journey.

Love and light

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Feeling Weighed Down? How to Rise Up:


donkeyEmotions have a way of reminding us that we are all under the same universal influence….the psychological mind. Apparently, whether you own a bank or your money seems to be playing hide and seek in some unknown place, we all do this thing calling thinking. And the thoughts we dwell on determine how we feel. As soon as you believe a thought, it finds its way into your consciousness and anchors itself in. And it will do its work to manifest itself fully if you give it the attention it needs.

Let’s imagine that you are thinking about an unpleasant experience that happened a day before. If you dwell on these thoughts long enough, you will run all the conversations plus all the details of the event in your mind. And sooner than later, you will experience the same emotions you experienced, if not worse. The more you think about what went wrong, the more you feel weighed down. So, you conclude that you are actually weighed down. But are you really weighed down in the actual realm of things? Yes, you might feel heavy or uncomfortable, but let’s examine this conclusion further.

To begin, what does it really mean to be weighed down? It means that you are carrying something heavier than you are. Okay, let’s further examine these negative thoughts that we conclude weigh us down.

Questions: While these thoughts dwell in our minds, do they really have quantitative weight? Can you put them on a scale to determine their weight?

No, you can not. They are just thoughts whose life and then weight are generated from the attention you give them. The more attention you give them, the more life they have. Yet, both your attention and these thoughts are in you. You are neither. You are the observer of them both. So, do you still believe you are really weighed down? What’s really important in your life if it is not feeling okay no matter what is going on in your world?

You wanna know more? In my book, The Sanity Warrior: Becoming the Authority of Your Experiences, you will not only read real life stories that will inspire you to move forward no matter what, but you will also learn proven psychological tools, among others, to transcend negative thinking and negative feeling.

Remember, effortless progress is achieved when we learn how to raise above the ego and its negative manifestations in our lives.

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Winning The Game of Fear: Based on a True Story


getty_sb10064912a-001_98952It was my turn to go. And to go, I mean to walk on the hot, red, shimmering coals spread out in front of me. 

It was the year 2015, and I was at a Tony Robbins’, Unleash The Power Within, 3 Days Intensive seminar. Earlier that day, Tony prepared our minds for over 5 hours and assured us that fear is just a thought. And I believed him. I was pumped up, screaming at the top of my voice with others, and I was extremely excited at the chance of walking on those coals without fear stopping me. I knew that I could do it. I was ready to do it, until….until it was my turn to walk across the coals. 

Suddenly, I felt paralyzed. I felt as if my blood was boiling and about to explode through my skin. I started visualizing my feet freshly burned to the bones. My mind started presenting many horrifying scenarios that could happen if I walked on the coals. Fear overtook me. Without even realizing I started reversing–walking backwards to run for dear life.

Suddenly, an attendant grabbed my hand before I disappeared into the crowd and persuaded me to walk on the coals. “You can do this. Fear is just a thought, and you are way bigger than it.” She said.

“Don’t think” said the attendant. “Do” She screamed in my face. 

downloadAt that point, I stumbled across the hot coals, and at the end of the exercise I felt a sense of thrill, and I was beyond excited. I had done it. I had walked on the hot coals without getting burned. I felt like a hero. So, I lined up and walked on the coals one more time to reinforce my new belief….”I can always win the game of fear if I don’t give it my attention.”

So, if you are afraid to do something that you believe will progress your life, simply deny this fear your attention and move forward. The fear could still prevail in your mind. But don’t let it influence your decisions. Just let it be and turn your attention away from it towards your desired action. 

Globally, we are currently faced with the consequences of the coronavirus. And the ego is at work using different channels amidst us to create more fear. As it seems, the fear of this virus is proving to be more impactful than the virus itself. It is my humble opinion that we shouldn’t let fear manipulate our actions. We can still take preventive action without fear.

Remember, fear shadows clarity, corrupts decision making and cripples positive action. 

Limitless love

Dr. Jacinta Mpalyenkana-Murray, PHD, MBA

Spiritual Counselor, Coach, Author, Speaker

How to Break Bad Habits |Transformational Counseling|Tapthegood.com


unnamedAre ready to let go of a bad habit?

Don’t we all?

To start, we come to conclude that a habit is bad for us because every time we indulge in it we feel a sense of guilt or regret. There is a part of us that knows that we could do better or should be doing something different. However, sometimes it is easier said than done to let go of a bad habit completely.

So, how do you do it?

How do you break the routine and start developing a more positive habit?

How do you stop your mind from persuading you to indulge in the bad habit?

In this video, I share 3 tips designed to help you understand how your mind triggers bad habits and how to stop.

Interested in more deep personalized work?

Please reach out to me at tapthegood@gmail.com

Limitless love

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Day 7- Denouncing all Negative Emotions and Their Triggers |tapthegood.com


Denouncing the existence of all negative emotions using mirror work, will create room for more positive emotions such as love, gratitude and joy to be ignited in your being-ness.

Look out for day 8, where we shall denounce diseases, illnesses and misalignments in our bodies.

Love and light

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5 Psychologically Proven Tools to Emotionally Detach From Envious/ Jealous People


Two-Guys-sword-fightingOne of the major causes of our suffering is other people’s behaviors. Often, other people’s behavior and actions conflict with our individual beliefs, values, attachments or personal standards. And this can trigger feelings of discomfort or resentment towards them. 

Also, some people give in to negativity, and consequently develop jealousy, envy and toxic behavior that could hurt other people who also give in to personalizing the former’s actions. 

Note that jealously and envy are some of the main causes of witchcraft, backstabbing, murder, plus many other types of crime. So, it’s important to learn how to detach from jealous/envious people. 

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Now, let’s imagine that you find out that someone you thought was a friend is envious of you and has been backstabbing you in different ways. What do you do? 

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Below are 5 tips that will help you detach from such jealous/envious people and most importantly, feel at peace with their actions. In this video, I explain the tips. 

  1. Know that it is their “business.”
  2. Know that they are suffering. 
  3. Remember that you have the power and choice to detach from relating with them
  4. Block them
  5. Focus on your “business.” 

Remember to click on this video, to listen to the tips. 

Dr. Jacinta M Murray, is a spiritual counselor and transformational coach. She specializes in helping her clients achieve emotional freedom, release stress, heal from the negative past, resolve and cleanse dark entities, bloodline curses, energetic and spiritual toxins, become more productive, have clarity about their life purpose, and live life on their terms. 

For more about her, please visit, http://www.tapthegood.com

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