5 Psychologically Proven Tools to Emotionally Detach From Envious/ Jealous People


Two-Guys-sword-fightingOne of the major causes of our suffering is other people’s behaviors. Often, other people’s behavior and actions conflict with our individual beliefs, values, attachments or personal standards. And this can trigger feelings of discomfort or resentment towards them. 

Also, some people give in to negativity, and consequently develop jealousy, envy and toxic behavior that could hurt other people who also give in to personalizing the former’s actions. 

Note that jealously and envy are some of the main causes of witchcraft, backstabbing, murder, plus many other types of crime. So, it’s important to learn how to detach from jealous/envious people. 

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Now, let’s imagine that you find out that someone you thought was a friend is envious of you and has been backstabbing you in different ways. What do you do? 

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Below are 5 tips that will help you detach from such jealous/envious people and most importantly, feel at peace with their actions. In this video, I explain the tips. 

  1. Know that it is their “business.”
  2. Know that they are suffering. 
  3. Remember that you have the power and choice to detach from relating with them
  4. Block them
  5. Focus on your “business.” 

Remember to click on this video, to listen to the tips. 

Dr. Jacinta M Murray, is a spiritual counselor and transformational coach. She specializes in helping her clients achieve emotional freedom, release stress, heal from the negative past, resolve and cleanse dark entities, bloodline curses, energetic and spiritual toxins, become more productive, have clarity about their life purpose, and live life on their terms. 

For more about her, please visit, http://www.tapthegood.com

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3 Proven Ways to Overcome Anxiety-related Symptoms.


anxiety-head-1536054411For several months, I went through a hell of a hard time, and although I thought I had managed my emotions, my mind had stored some of these negative feelings. These negative feelings later manifested into hurtful emotions that popped up even when everything in my life seemed okay.

My anxiety began with emotional pain that I couldn’t explain. At different times during the day, I would feel pain, call it hurt, coming from a place within me that I couldn’t identify. The closest I could define the source of this in-explainable pain is in my heart.

The pain/hurt progressed to a point where it brought me to tears and down on my knees. I could feel the pain for about 10 minutes before it subdued, and just as I started to catch my breath, it came right back. This went on for about two weeks before I realized that it was anxiety.

I realized how much anxiety can cripple one’s enthusiasm, happiness, and progress in general.

What is Anxiety?

The American Psychological Association (APA) defines anxiety as “an emotion characterized by feelings of tension, worried thoughts and physical changes like increased blood pressure.”

Knowing the difference between normal feelings of anxiety and an anxiety disorder requiring medical attention can help a person identify and treat the condition.

For this article, I will be focusing on the anxiety characterized by general symptoms such as, unexplained worry, sadness, fear, and hurt/pain.

Below are some of the techniques I used to heal the anxiety.

1. Exercise Regularly:
Exercising regularly has major health benefits, including relieving one from anxiety-related symptoms. Any type of exercise that raises the heart rate is beneficial.

2. Avoid consuming any type of alcohol and drink a lot of water instead.
When we are weakened by hardships, we tend to find ways to escape our pain. Although alcohol might give you a sense of relief, this is so short-lived and presents the possibility of creating a dependency behavior. Once we start depending on alcohol to escape our worries, this can be the beginning of an addictive tendency. Therefore, unless you can resist using alcohol as an escape, avoid consuming it until you feel emotionally stronger. The better alternative is drinking a lot of water–at least 8 glasses a day.

3. Meditate.
Find time to sit and just observe your breath or heartbeat. Breathe deeply and disregard all thoughts, plus any mental activity for the time you are meditating. Meditate for a minimum of 10 minutes to begin, and then progress to an hour–as you get accustomed to the process.

Below are a few links to meditations and mind-healing sessions that will help you.

~ https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=4z-svXIKTJU
~ https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=IR_RoWjZ50I
~ https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=b8-1sxYUAOo
~ https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=4jCNMDdyEoY
~ https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=vDAzPd78mRs

Most importantly, know that like everything else, this too will pass. Do not resist the pain when it comes. Just sit or lay down and observe yourself as you go through the pain. With practice, you will realize that anxiety is a game that the mind uses to weaken our emotional strength. Remember that you are more powerful than anxiety.

Dr. J Murray, is a spiritual counselor, transformational coach, speaker, and a published author. One of her missions is to help her clients achieve emotional freedom from all that could be weighing them down–and then start living life on their terms.
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Email: tapthegood@gmail.com

How to Release Fear Energy with Ho’oponopono


FearMy biggest fear is heights. And this is because of a childhood memory when I was 8 years old and a neighbor’s kid fell to her death from the 5th floor of an apartment building. This memory has never left me. So, activities such as getting on a roller-coaster, Jambo jumping and the like, trigger a lot of fear in me. However, this fear restricts me from experiencing the thrill involved in activities that involve heights.

We all have fears and some of these fears retard our progress. Although certain fear is needed to alert us of any possible dangers, there is fear that is not necessary or productive.

The questions are;

1. What are your fears?
2. How are these fears serving you, if at all?
3. When will you let them go?
4. What would it take to let them go?

Fear release

In this advanced Ho’oponopono session I deal with releasing the energy of fear from one’s system.

All you have to do is listen and let the four magical Ho’oponopono statements being recited dissolve your grip on fear.

Dr. Jacinta Murray is a spiritual counselor and transformational coach who specializes in helping her clients achieve emotional freedom from negative conditioning, hurtful memories, abuse–and the like, plus liberate the spirit from bondage, in order for one to live life on their terms.

For more about her, please visit, http://www.tapthegood.com

How the Psychic Can Use Betrayal to Create Money Troubles (EFT Session Included)


break_freeLife has taught me that matters of money can present conflicting emotions. Having a lot of money is great especially if we have good relationships with it. Contrarily, the lack of money is one of the major causes of stress in our lives. However, it’s important to remember that we create our realities. And although sometimes our realities are so ugly for us to take responsibility, we are still responsible.

For instance, among the many reasons we might develop inner conflicts with generating income or attracting money is if we trusted someone with our money and they swindled it. Consequently, we feel betrayed. If we get betrayed consistently, our psychics can develop a protective mechanism by blocking us from earning more money. So, every time we embark on pursuing money making opportunities our psychics sabotage us as a way of protecting us from the possibility of being betrayed if we earn more money.

moneyIn the EFT (Emotional Freedom Technique) I deal with resolving the inner conflicts between money and betrayal. When these conflicts are resolved, one will get clarity about the opportunities available to attract more money.

If you need more help, email me at tapthegood@gmail.com

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Peace and blessings

 

 

 

There’s no Such Thing as “Failure”


depositphotos_13984100-stock-illustration-cartoon-eager-student“Give an example of a company experiencing financial trouble because of its promotional strategy?” Asked the professor. I gave an example of a company I had worked for in Uganda. “Please do not give ridiculous answers from countries that do not qualify for advanced European MBA programs.” He responded. I knew that I was in trouble because the only business-related work experience I had was in Uganda. 

I was pursuing an MBA from the Greenwich School of Management, a branch of Hull University, Hull, UK. Most of my classmates were from Europe or at the least had experience working for European-based businesses. During the first semester I did poorly in the class assignments and presentations. I hardly made the required points to proceed to the next semester. The professors told me that if I didn’t learn about the European market, I would fail the degree. I had given myself a year to complete the program—acceptable by the college, because I didn’t have the extra money to pay for another year. 

I sought for advice from one of my professors. “I think I’m already a failure.” I said miserably. “You can never fail. You will only fail to know that you didn’t fail. Even when we think we’ve failed, we still acted but just didn’t achieve our goals as anticipated. And that’s not a failure. Failure is an illusion.” He responded. I looked at him almost cross-eyed. I had no clue about what he meant. Desperate, I got a part-time job in a library and buried myself in reading everything I could get my hands on about the European economy. Long story short, I completed the degree in a year, passed with distinction and my thesis, earned me a “student of the year award.”

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Moral of the Story:

I thought I had failed, only to realize that the results of my first semester were propelling me to work harder. And I concur with my professor’s wisdom. We never fail. Failure is just a word we come up with to summarize a process that has nothing to do with the real meaning of the word. The dictionary defines the word failure as a lack of success or non-fulfillment. When you consider what success means you realize that what we consider as failure is far from the truth. Success is being able to move from point A to B, internally or externally. Success can also imply committing to a promise made for oneself or for others. Success can mean progressing or moving through a process even if we don’t get to the end. Therefore, “failure” has no place in defining our actions plus the results. 

It’s vital to understand that words as just that….words. Therefore, we shouldn’t be quick to define our emotions by recruiting words that do not necessarily reflect on our true emotions. Words can be limiting, misleading and/or mis-representative of the truth. Sometimes if not most, we can not define feelings because they are in-definitive in their nature. They have no shape, color, size or density — if we do not create visuals to represent them. So, the words we use to define feelings are just attempts to express ourselves. Just because you feel a certain way for not achieving a particular goal doesn’t mean that you are a failure. A conclusive definition of a feeling as a failure, is just a believed thought and nothing more.

A conclusive definition of a feeling as a failure, is just a believed thought and nothing more.  

Therefore, let’s be slow in defining our experiences or outcomes. Let’s hold back from assigning meanings to our feelings. Let’s become observers of our feelings and see how long they can hold the emotional space in which they dwell. Mostly, let’s remember that we are not our thoughts, feelings or experiences. We are more; we are different; we are undefinable. Moreover, we have an immeasurable power within us, as us, that can help our human conditioning release the delusional tendencies and mental, plus emotional struggles we create: struggles that are lies and not based on truths.

Love and light

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What are Challenges?


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When you are experiencing challenges ask yourself:

  1. Who is the experiencer of these challenges?
  2. Why is this experiencer experiencing these events as challenges?
  3. How did the experiencer come to a conclusion that these events are challenges?
  4. Is this experiencer perceiving these events from a place of fear or faith?
  5. And most importantly, ask, does the experiencer really have to experience these events at all?
  6. What can happen if this experiencer retracts their attention from what they perceive as challenges and instead focus on something more pleasant?

As you dwell on the answers of these questions you start discovering that what you perceive as challenges are simply events that need your attention to resolve or ignore—especially if you can’t do anything about them. From these mental and emotional states, you free yourself from the discomforting consequences of your perception.

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How We Create Insanity: An Excerpt from my upcoming book – “The Sanity Warrior”


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Insanity begins by creating stories that are delusional: delusional in the sense that we normally don’t have practical evidence of our conclusive thoughts. For instance, we predict our future based on what happened in the past, or based on stories of other people. We also base our future predictions on present experiences and conclude with certainty that our lives will manifest the same way they are manifesting now. What’s interesting is that as we engross our minds in these predictions, we develop profound beliefs about our futures, and just like magic, our futures manifest as we predicted. So, we literally create our present and future realities as we continue to emotionally and mentally visualize experiences rooted on false facts. And because we’ve been given the free-will to think and visualize as we please, we’ve also been given the power to create our realities. But we forget or neglect this truth and blame everyone and everything out of ourselves for our experiences. Yet, we create our own suffering: because suffering is a personal inner experience (call it an emotion) that we consciously or unconsciously choose to feel. 

To summarize the preceding precepts, we live insanely because we’ve forgotten who we truly are, and what we are capable of. We forget, or are never convinced that our thoughts are powerful—and that they create. We neglect that no one and nothing has power over our emotions, except our own choices. We forget the basic truth that we cannot control anyone else but ourselves. Moreover, people are always changing their approach towards everything they do. Today someone might be kind and loving, and tomorrow he/she could be rude and/or sad. The more comfortable we get with our environments and the people we deal with, the more we relax our guard and reveal what’s inside of us. What’s inside depends on the number, diversity and intensity of experiences that someone has had all their lives; the related beliefs they’ve developed about their lives, life, and the world in general, plus relationships. What’s inside each one of us is complex. Therefore, regardless of how knowledgeable anyone is in subjects like psychology and/or human behavior, he/she can never be at the same pace with what consistently influences people to perceive and act the way they do.

Unfortunately, we go about life trying to change people; blaming them for being who they are, expecting them to love and accept us for who we are; thinking that we have the power to influence their actions, and that they owe us what we want to experience. When we believe that anyone owes us what we want to experience, then we have literally given them the power to choose our experiences based on what they know. We gain this mentality when we forget or negate that we experience who are. There is nothing without perception; also implying that if you don’t perceive something that “thing” does not exist in your reality. Because perception is a projection, we perceive according to what we have already created in our inner worlds: what we believe, what we consistently think about, and the stories we’ve created.

Therefore, if you don’t perceive it, it doesn’t exist. That’s why sometimes when you are crying over something, other people could celebrate over it. And it’s because we are all different—we have different opinions. Hence, everyone is doing the best they can with the mental, emotional and spiritual resources they’ve created within themselves. This also implies that what people do is their business. It’s their idea of expression and experience. So, it is insane to stress over what people do; considering that we have a choice to perceive things as we want, or decide not to experience what we don’t want. It’s because of this gift of free-will that God awarded us that we have also created a world of sorts. Sorts, in that the experiences we all individually create are so drastically different; some are extremely pleasurable if perceived that way, and others, sorrowful. It takes more than wishful thinking to stay connected to our true nature: a nature that consistently reveals its uniqueness through the selection of our perceptions and hence experiences.

Stay tuned for the book release date….

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