Feeling Weighed Down? How to Rise Up:


donkeyEmotions have a way of reminding us that we are all under the same universal influence….the psychological mind. Apparently, whether you own a bank or your money seems to be playing hide and seek in some unknown place, we all do this thing calling thinking. And the thoughts we dwell on determine how we feel. As soon as you believe a thought, it finds its way into your consciousness and anchors itself in. And it will do its work to manifest itself fully if you give it the attention it needs.

Let’s imagine that you are thinking about an unpleasant experience that happened a day before. If you dwell on these thoughts long enough, you will run all the conversations plus all the details of the event in your mind. And sooner than later, you will experience the same emotions you experienced, if not worse. The more you think about what went wrong, the more you feel weighed down. So, you conclude that you are actually weighed down. But are you really weighed down in the actual realm of things? Yes, you might feel heavy or uncomfortable, but let’s examine this conclusion further.

To begin, what does it really mean to be weighed down? It means that you are carrying something heavier than you are. Okay, let’s further examine these negative thoughts that we conclude weigh us down.

Questions: While these thoughts dwell in our minds, do they really have quantitative weight? Can you put them on a scale to determine their weight?

No, you can not. They are just thoughts whose life and then weight are generated from the attention you give them. The more attention you give them, the more life they have. Yet, both your attention and these thoughts are in you. You are neither. You are the observer of them both. So, do you still believe you are really weighed down? What’s really important in your life if it is not feeling okay no matter what is going on in your world?

You wanna know more? In my book, The Sanity Warrior: Becoming the Authority of Your Experiences, you will not only read real life stories that will inspire you to move forward no matter what, but you will also learn proven psychological tools, among others, to transcend negative thinking and negative feeling.

Remember, effortless progress is achieved when we learn how to raise above the ego and its negative manifestations in our lives.

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Winning The Game of Fear: Based on a True Story


getty_sb10064912a-001_98952It was my turn to go. And to go, I mean to walk on the hot, red, shimmering coals spread out in front of me. 

It was the year 2015, and I was at a Tony Robbins’, Unleash The Power Within, 3 Days Intensive seminar. Earlier that day, Tony prepared our minds for over 5 hours and assured us that fear is just a thought. And I believed him. I was pumped up, screaming at the top of my voice with others, and I was extremely excited at the chance of walking on those coals without fear stopping me. I knew that I could do it. I was ready to do it, until….until it was my turn to walk across the coals. 

Suddenly, I felt paralyzed. I felt as if my blood was boiling and about to explode through my skin. I started visualizing my feet freshly burned to the bones. My mind started presenting many horrifying scenarios that could happen if I walked on the coals. Fear overtook me. Without even realizing I started reversing–walking backwards to run for dear life.

Suddenly, an attendant grabbed my hand before I disappeared into the crowd and persuaded me to walk on the coals. “You can do this. Fear is just a thought, and you are way bigger than it.” She said.

“Don’t think” said the attendant. “Do” She screamed in my face. 

downloadAt that point, I stumbled across the hot coals, and at the end of the exercise I felt a sense of thrill, and I was beyond excited. I had done it. I had walked on the hot coals without getting burned. I felt like a hero. So, I lined up and walked on the coals one more time to reinforce my new belief….”I can always win the game of fear if I don’t give it my attention.”

So, if you are afraid to do something that you believe will progress your life, simply deny this fear your attention and move forward. The fear could still prevail in your mind. But don’t let it influence your decisions. Just let it be and turn your attention away from it towards your desired action. 

Globally, we are currently faced with the consequences of the coronavirus. And the ego is at work using different channels amidst us to create more fear. As it seems, the fear of this virus is proving to be more impactful than the virus itself. It is my humble opinion that we shouldn’t let fear manipulate our actions. We can still take preventive action without fear.

Remember, fear shadows clarity, corrupts decision making and cripples positive action. 

Limitless love

Dr. Jacinta Mpalyenkana-Murray, PHD, MBA

Spiritual Counselor, Coach, Author, Speaker

The Null and Void Method to Resolve Negative Memories


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Mathew 8:22: “Let the dead go bury their dead…”~ Jesus

In relation to emotional intelligence, one of my interpretations of the above verse is that everything that happens in the past including a second ago, is dead…gone. If you dwell on it, you are dwelling on what’s dead.

And whatever you focus on you become. So, by focusing on a negative past you are literally murdering your attention (wasting away /killing your precious attention) that could be invested on more life progressing things.

When we realize this truth, then we can go about our business momentarily without dwelling on the negative and hence, dead past.

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Use this method whenever you find your mind dwelling on the negative past. And you will discover that you are not your emotions; you are not your past. Your memories are just thoughts and/or ideas that when you observe closely within yourself, do not exist. You could create imaginary representations of these memories but in reality, they are just illusions.

With this realization, you will free your mind from the negative memories that way you down.

Sending you much peace and divine love.

http://www.tapthegood.com

Dr. Jacinta Mpalyenkana-Murray, PhD, MBA, is an author, Counselor, Transformational Coach and Speaker. She partners with her clients to help them achieve emotional freedom from the negative past. 

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5 Psychologically Proven Tools to Emotionally Detach From Envious/ Jealous People


Two-Guys-sword-fightingOne of the major causes of our suffering is other people’s behaviors. Often, other people’s behavior and actions conflict with our individual beliefs, values, attachments or personal standards. And this can trigger feelings of discomfort or resentment towards them. 

Also, some people give in to negativity, and consequently develop jealousy, envy and toxic behavior that could hurt other people who also give in to personalizing the former’s actions. 

Note that jealously and envy are some of the main causes of witchcraft, backstabbing, murder, plus many other types of crime. So, it’s important to learn how to detach from jealous/envious people. 

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Now, let’s imagine that you find out that someone you thought was a friend is envious of you and has been backstabbing you in different ways. What do you do? 

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Below are 5 tips that will help you detach from such jealous/envious people and most importantly, feel at peace with their actions. In this video, I explain the tips. 

  1. Know that it is their “business.”
  2. Know that they are suffering. 
  3. Remember that you have the power and choice to detach from relating with them
  4. Block them
  5. Focus on your “business.” 

Remember to click on this video, to listen to the tips. 

Dr. Jacinta M Murray, is a spiritual counselor and transformational coach. She specializes in helping her clients achieve emotional freedom, release stress, heal from the negative past, resolve and cleanse dark entities, bloodline curses, energetic and spiritual toxins, become more productive, have clarity about their life purpose, and live life on their terms. 

For more about her, please visit, http://www.tapthegood.com

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5 Psychologically Proven Tips to Be at Peace When You can’t Change a Situation


Life can be extremely challenging at times. And during these times, it takes more than wishful thinking to stay sane and at peace. There are situations that can literally leave you numb.

What do you do?

In this video, I share 5 psychologically proven tips to help you be at peace when you hit rock bottom.

Remember, everything changes.

Let me know how you feel. Sending you much love and peace

Jacinta

http://www.tapthegood.com

3 Proven Ways to Overcome Anxiety-related Symptoms.


anxiety-head-1536054411For several months, I went through a hell of a hard time, and although I thought I had managed my emotions, my mind had stored some of these negative feelings. These negative feelings later manifested into hurtful emotions that popped up even when everything in my life seemed okay.

My anxiety began with emotional pain that I couldn’t explain. At different times during the day, I would feel pain, call it hurt, coming from a place within me that I couldn’t identify. The closest I could define the source of this in-explainable pain is in my heart.

The pain/hurt progressed to a point where it brought me to tears and down on my knees. I could feel the pain for about 10 minutes before it subdued, and just as I started to catch my breath, it came right back. This went on for about two weeks before I realized that it was anxiety.

I realized how much anxiety can cripple one’s enthusiasm, happiness, and progress in general.

What is Anxiety?

The American Psychological Association (APA) defines anxiety as “an emotion characterized by feelings of tension, worried thoughts and physical changes like increased blood pressure.”

Knowing the difference between normal feelings of anxiety and an anxiety disorder requiring medical attention can help a person identify and treat the condition.

For this article, I will be focusing on the anxiety characterized by general symptoms such as, unexplained worry, sadness, fear, and hurt/pain.

Below are some of the techniques I used to heal the anxiety.

1. Exercise Regularly:
Exercising regularly has major health benefits, including relieving one from anxiety-related symptoms. Any type of exercise that raises the heart rate is beneficial.

2. Avoid consuming any type of alcohol and drink a lot of water instead.
When we are weakened by hardships, we tend to find ways to escape our pain. Although alcohol might give you a sense of relief, this is so short-lived and presents the possibility of creating a dependency behavior. Once we start depending on alcohol to escape our worries, this can be the beginning of an addictive tendency. Therefore, unless you can resist using alcohol as an escape, avoid consuming it until you feel emotionally stronger. The better alternative is drinking a lot of water–at least 8 glasses a day.

3. Meditate.
Find time to sit and just observe your breath or heartbeat. Breathe deeply and disregard all thoughts, plus any mental activity for the time you are meditating. Meditate for a minimum of 10 minutes to begin, and then progress to an hour–as you get accustomed to the process.

Below are a few links to meditations and mind-healing sessions that will help you.

~ https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=4z-svXIKTJU
~ https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=IR_RoWjZ50I
~ https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=b8-1sxYUAOo
~ https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=4jCNMDdyEoY
~ https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=vDAzPd78mRs

Most importantly, know that like everything else, this too will pass. Do not resist the pain when it comes. Just sit or lay down and observe yourself as you go through the pain. With practice, you will realize that anxiety is a game that the mind uses to weaken our emotional strength. Remember that you are more powerful than anxiety.

Dr. J Murray, is a spiritual counselor, transformational coach, speaker, and a published author. One of her missions is to help her clients achieve emotional freedom from all that could be weighing them down–and then start living life on their terms.
For more about her, please visit, http://www.tapthgood.com
Email: tapthegood@gmail.com