6 Ways to Deal With Mental Health Stigma


Don’t waste your time focusing on people who underestimate you. Focus on how you can up-estimate yourself.” ~ Dr. Jacent M M-Murray

Have you ever experienced some kind of emotional trauma or stress that manifested into a physical misalignment? Let us imagine you had brain surgery which damaged your sight or hearing functions. Or you lost a loved one, which traumatized you.

Could it be that you went through a divorce or a childhood experience that left you feeling completely disoriented and/or dissatisfied with life. Imagine people close to you or those you meet, implicate you as mentally retarded because of your emotional disabilities. This is an example of mental health stigma. Mental health stigma happens when someone discriminates, or treats you in a condensing manner just because you are either stressed, going through some hardcore challenges or is traumatized in some way.

How do you deal with them? How do you move forward without letting their actions affect you?

Here are a few suggestions that will help.

  1. Do not react to people’s negative comments about your weaknesses especially if they are derogative. Observe and ignore. Don’t even respond to their bull shit. Remember that you are in charge of your inner world. You are in charge of how you feel. Do not give them your power of influence–meaning that be the only one who determines what influences you.
  2. Don’t try to understand why someone treated you poorly. You can never understand why mean people do what they do. It is actually better if you don’t question because you might end up thinking like them. For this particular reason, the less you know about the root causes of people’s negative behavior, the better.
  3. Immediately walk away from people who treat you in condensing ways. If you can alert the authorities about their discriminative behavior, do. If not, end the relationship immediately and go about your business. Protect your sanity.
  4. Focus on your healing journey and mental health. Don’t allow outside negativity to influence you. Block it off by religiously focusing on how you want to feel.
  5. Tame your attention. Watch how you distribute your attention. Don’t let the mind sway you into negative thinking. Bring your attention back to your awesome self. Dwell on what you have. Be grateful for your life, your heart beat. Know that with life, change is prominent. Everything changes, and this too will come to an end.
  6. Remember who you truly are. Know that you are not your body, identity, history or experiences. Know that you are a child of God. Know that since God is infinite, you are not excluded from his presence. He is in you, and you are in him. There is no separation. Dwell on this truth with all your heart. And let the love of God heal and protect you.

I hope this helps. I know this is what I do daily to keep doing what I do.

I’m sending you abundant love from my heart to yours.

Love and light

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Written by Dr. Jacent Mpalyenkana-Murray, PhD, MBA

Reverend, Spiritual Counselor, Transformational Coach and Author, Speaker

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The Teacher Called, Time


What time is it wherever you are?

You don’t need to answer that question, it is just my way of soliciting your attention.

Now that I have your attention, I just wanna share something about me. Tomorrow is my birthday. And I won’t share my age because I wanna save you from information about stuff that won’t benefit you in any way. Also, I have managed to convince myself that age is just a number. And although this doesn’t stop the changes in my body from happening, over the years, I have learned that how I feel is my choice.

What is Time?

Well, most believe time is the measure of the earth’s distance and space around the sun. And others are convinced that time is a man made illusion. I won’t take sides because I am not an expert in time, but I will concur with the precept that man might have invented time. Right now in Los Angeles, California, it is about 4.04p.m as I write this article. In New York, the time is 3 hours ahead. Somewhere in the world, it is 12 hours earlier or later than 4.04p.m. If man isn’t responsible for creating these differences in time, then who is?

Therefore, I have concluded that all time really is, is change. Time represents the constant change in the universe and everything in it. And since everything is always changing, then change is the only norm. Therefore, the first lesson that time teaches us is that it is the only norm.

Time is a projection of change. ~ Dr. Jacinta Mpalyenkana-Murray

Although intangible, time consumes everything, or rather, everything is consumed in it. Time leaves no stone unturned. Time teaches us not to take things for granted. Time consoles us by reminding us that nothing lasts for ever; and that everything that comes must go. In, and with time, there are opportunities to plan, execute set goals, look back to re-evaluate, hope for better experiences, and heal old wounds…physically and emotionally. Time reveals secrets.

Time is a grand revealer. ~ Dr. Jacinta Mpalyenkana

Time also shows us that when we waste our attention by focusing on our negative past experiences, the flow of life, won’t stop to wait for us. If we spend our time indulging in negative encounters, or relating with people who trigger feelings of hatred or sadness in us, time won’t rewind itself back to an earlier slot, in order to gain us more of itself so that we can use it wisely. Time waits for no one. And the truth about time is that you can waste it. Rather you waste your attention on things that don’t progress you. Time can’t be wasted because it is not a thing.

Time propels us to keep moving forward, and progressing. Time is the best revenge, because situations and people change in, and because of it. If there were no time, there would be no change, Everything would be static and dormant. Therefore, I have concluded that time is a tool that supports our expressions in life. Time is an intelligent teacher, who especially shows us that we are supreme to it. We can not be consumed by it. We are in charge. And we can use it as we please. Yes, our bodies can be consumed by time, but we are the never changing reality that observes it. And when we get still and let time and everything moving in it play without our engagement, God is revealed.

What has time revealed to you? How do you use your time?

Love and light

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How Are You Projecting Your Inner Struggles?


Have you ever felt so angry that everything and everyone made you angrier?

Would you say that these things or people were responsible for your emotions?

Have you ever met someone so mean, that “they made medicine seem weak?” ~ Mohammad Ali.

Would you really blame yourself for the way they felt?

Well, I have. And that’s before I understood that I am in control of my emotions. And that I was the lord of my inner world. It was up to me to manage my inner world. And every time I forget that I am in charge, I get hurt.

What about you? What is your story?

Well, below are real reviews/complaints from customers received by Thomas Cook Vacations. It might be funny but take time to examine how we let the egoistical mind paint us insane.

1. “They should not allow topless sunbathing on the beach. It was very distracting for my husband who just wanted to relax.”


2. “On my holiday to Goa in India, I was disgusted to find that almost every restaurant served curry. I don’t like spicy food.”

3. “We went on holiday to Spain and had a problem with the taxi drivers as they were all Spanish.”

4. “We booked an excursion to a water park but no-one told us we had to bring our own swimsuits and towels. We assumed it would be included in the price.”

5. “The beach was too sandy. We had to clean everything when we returned to our room.”

6. “We found the sand was not like the sand in the brochure. Your brochure shows the sand as white but it was more yellow.”

7. “It’s lazy of the local shopkeepers in Puerto Vallartato close in the afternoons. I often needed to buy things during ‘siesta’ time — this should be banned.”

8. “No-one told us there would be fish in the water. The children were scared.”

9. “Although the brochure said that there was a fully equipped kitchen, there was no egg-slicer in the drawers.”

10. “I think it should be explained in the brochure that the local convenience store does not sell proper biscuits like custard creams or ginger nuts.”

11. “The roads were uneven and bumpy, so we could not read the local guide book during the bus ride to the resort. Because of this, we were unaware of many things that would have made our holiday more fun.”

12. “It took us nine hours to fly home from Jamaica to England. It took the Americans only three hours to get home. This seems unfair.”

13. “I compared the size of our one-bedroom suite to our friends’ three-bedroom and ours was significantly smaller.”

14. “The brochure stated: ‘No hairdressers at the resort.’ We’re trainee hairdressers and we think they knew and made us wait longer for service.”

15. “When we were in Spain, there were too many Spanish people there. The receptionist spoke Spanish, the food was Spanish. No one told us that there would be so many foreigners.”

16. “We had to line up outside to catch the boat and there was no air-conditioning.”

17. “It is your duty as a tour operator to advise us of noisy or unruly guests before we travel.” 18. “I was bitten by a mosquito. The brochure did not mention mosquitoes.”

19. “My fiancée and I requested twin-beds when we booked, but instead we were placed in a room with a king bed. We now hold you responsible and want to be re-reimbursed for the fact that I became pregnant. This would not have happened if you had put us in the room that we booked.”

Source: Peter Dickinson

How can you become the authority of your experiences? How can you master the inner workings of your inner world?

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Ho’oponopono Questions Answered – Learn What Ho’oponopono Can, and Cannot Do – Tapthegood.com


Whenever I post Ho’oponopono sessions, I get so many questions regarding Ho.oponopono and how it works.

In this session, I have answered the most common questions posed.

The questions are:

1. Is Ho’oponopono magic, voodoo or a quick fix?

2. Why isn’t Ho’oponopono working for me?

3. How long will it take to resolve my issues?

4. Can I deal with more than one issue in a session?

5. What if I feel worse after the session, what do I do?

6. Can I heal other people with Ho’oponopono?

7. If I resolve an issue will it return?

8. Can I heal ancestral and lineage curses, plus witchcraft with Ho’oponopono?

9. Can one session dissolve all my life’s problems?

10. In advanced Ho’oponopono with water, can I change the water after a few days?

11. Can you offer me free sessions?

I hope I have answered all your questions.

In the meantime, I now envision you as engrossed in eternal light and divine love.

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Feeling Weighed Down? How to Rise Up:


donkeyEmotions have a way of reminding us that we are all under the same universal influence….the psychological mind. Apparently, whether you own a bank or your money seems to be playing hide and seek in some unknown place, we all do this thing calling thinking. And the thoughts we dwell on determine how we feel. As soon as you believe a thought, it finds its way into your consciousness and anchors itself in. And it will do its work to manifest itself fully if you give it the attention it needs.

Let’s imagine that you are thinking about an unpleasant experience that happened a day before. If you dwell on these thoughts long enough, you will run all the conversations plus all the details of the event in your mind. And sooner than later, you will experience the same emotions you experienced, if not worse. The more you think about what went wrong, the more you feel weighed down. So, you conclude that you are actually weighed down. But are you really weighed down in the actual realm of things? Yes, you might feel heavy or uncomfortable, but let’s examine this conclusion further.

To begin, what does it really mean to be weighed down? It means that you are carrying something heavier than you are. Okay, let’s further examine these negative thoughts that we conclude weigh us down.

Questions: While these thoughts dwell in our minds, do they really have quantitative weight? Can you put them on a scale to determine their weight?

No, you can not. They are just thoughts whose life and then weight are generated from the attention you give them. The more attention you give them, the more life they have. Yet, both your attention and these thoughts are in you. You are neither. You are the observer of them both. So, do you still believe you are really weighed down? What’s really important in your life if it is not feeling okay no matter what is going on in your world?

You wanna know more? In my book, The Sanity Warrior: Becoming the Authority of Your Experiences, you will not only read real life stories that will inspire you to move forward no matter what, but you will also learn proven psychological tools, among others, to transcend negative thinking and negative feeling.

Remember, effortless progress is achieved when we learn how to raise above the ego and its negative manifestations in our lives.

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Love and light

Winning The Game of Fear: Based on a True Story


getty_sb10064912a-001_98952It was my turn to go. And to go, I mean to walk on the hot, red, shimmering coals spread out in front of me. 

It was the year 2015, and I was at a Tony Robbins’, Unleash The Power Within, 3 Days Intensive seminar. Earlier that day, Tony prepared our minds for over 5 hours and assured us that fear is just a thought. And I believed him. I was pumped up, screaming at the top of my voice with others, and I was extremely excited at the chance of walking on those coals without fear stopping me. I knew that I could do it. I was ready to do it, until….until it was my turn to walk across the coals. 

Suddenly, I felt paralyzed. I felt as if my blood was boiling and about to explode through my skin. I started visualizing my feet freshly burned to the bones. My mind started presenting many horrifying scenarios that could happen if I walked on the coals. Fear overtook me. Without even realizing I started reversing–walking backwards to run for dear life.

Suddenly, an attendant grabbed my hand before I disappeared into the crowd and persuaded me to walk on the coals. “You can do this. Fear is just a thought, and you are way bigger than it.” She said.

“Don’t think” said the attendant. “Do” She screamed in my face. 

downloadAt that point, I stumbled across the hot coals, and at the end of the exercise I felt a sense of thrill, and I was beyond excited. I had done it. I had walked on the hot coals without getting burned. I felt like a hero. So, I lined up and walked on the coals one more time to reinforce my new belief….”I can always win the game of fear if I don’t give it my attention.”

So, if you are afraid to do something that you believe will progress your life, simply deny this fear your attention and move forward. The fear could still prevail in your mind. But don’t let it influence your decisions. Just let it be and turn your attention away from it towards your desired action. 

Globally, we are currently faced with the consequences of the coronavirus. And the ego is at work using different channels amidst us to create more fear. As it seems, the fear of this virus is proving to be more impactful than the virus itself. It is my humble opinion that we shouldn’t let fear manipulate our actions. We can still take preventive action without fear.

Remember, fear shadows clarity, corrupts decision making and cripples positive action. 

Limitless love

Dr. Jacinta Mpalyenkana-Murray, PHD, MBA

Spiritual Counselor, Coach, Author, Speaker

The Null and Void Method to Resolve Negative Memories


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Mathew 8:22: “Let the dead go bury their dead…”~ Jesus

In relation to emotional intelligence, one of my interpretations of the above verse is that everything that happens in the past including a second ago, is dead…gone. If you dwell on it, you are dwelling on what’s dead.

And whatever you focus on you become. So, by focusing on a negative past you are literally murdering your attention (wasting away /killing your precious attention) that could be invested on more life progressing things.

When we realize this truth, then we can go about our business momentarily without dwelling on the negative and hence, dead past.

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Use this method whenever you find your mind dwelling on the negative past. And you will discover that you are not your emotions; you are not your past. Your memories are just thoughts and/or ideas that when you observe closely within yourself, do not exist. You could create imaginary representations of these memories but in reality, they are just illusions.

With this realization, you will free your mind from the negative memories that way you down.

Sending you much peace and divine love.

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Dr. Jacinta Mpalyenkana-Murray, PhD, MBA, is an author, Counselor, Transformational Coach and Speaker. She partners with her clients to help them achieve emotional freedom from the negative past. 

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5 Psychologically Proven Tools to Emotionally Detach From Envious/ Jealous People


Two-Guys-sword-fightingOne of the major causes of our suffering is other people’s behaviors. Often, other people’s behavior and actions conflict with our individual beliefs, values, attachments or personal standards. And this can trigger feelings of discomfort or resentment towards them. 

Also, some people give in to negativity, and consequently develop jealousy, envy and toxic behavior that could hurt other people who also give in to personalizing the former’s actions. 

Note that jealously and envy are some of the main causes of witchcraft, backstabbing, murder, plus many other types of crime. So, it’s important to learn how to detach from jealous/envious people. 

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Now, let’s imagine that you find out that someone you thought was a friend is envious of you and has been backstabbing you in different ways. What do you do? 

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Below are 5 tips that will help you detach from such jealous/envious people and most importantly, feel at peace with their actions. In this video, I explain the tips. 

  1. Know that it is their “business.”
  2. Know that they are suffering. 
  3. Remember that you have the power and choice to detach from relating with them
  4. Block them
  5. Focus on your “business.” 

Remember to click on this video, to listen to the tips. 

Dr. Jacinta M Murray, is a spiritual counselor and transformational coach. She specializes in helping her clients achieve emotional freedom, release stress, heal from the negative past, resolve and cleanse dark entities, bloodline curses, energetic and spiritual toxins, become more productive, have clarity about their life purpose, and live life on their terms. 

For more about her, please visit, http://www.tapthegood.com

Love and light

5 Psychologically Proven Tips to Be at Peace When You can’t Change a Situation


Life can be extremely challenging at times. And during these times, it takes more than wishful thinking to stay sane and at peace. There are situations that can literally leave you numb.

What do you do?

In this video, I share 5 psychologically proven tips to help you be at peace when you hit rock bottom.

Remember, everything changes.

Let me know how you feel. Sending you much love and peace

Jacinta

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