The “I am Not That” Self-healing Method


Unconditional self-love is a stress-reliever.” Dr. Jacinta Mpalyenkana-Murray, PhD, MBA

Who would consider the idea that loving yourself unconditionally can relieve your stress? 

When you ponder this idea, you realize that loving yourself unconditionally is powerful medicine to the body and soul.

But how do you love yourself unconditionally?

How do you stay in love with yourself when your conditions appear life threatening? How can you be in love when you have concluded that you are overweight, or not good enough?

How would you look at yourself in the mirror when you have zero balance in your bank account, and genuinely tell yourself how much you love you? 

How do you overlook your unpleasant conditions and stay in love with yourself unconditionally?

Here are a few pointers that helped me achieve that personal goal.

  1. Know who you are. 
  2. The only way to know who you are, is to know what or who you are not. Note that who you are can not be defined. You are not a thing.

Once you start identifying and detaching from what/who you are not, who you truly are will be looking back at you through your own eyes. 

Let me explain:

Let’s imagine your conditions are not pleasant. The egoistical mind automatically steps into your thoughts and presents ideas that seem so appealing to consider. Once you consider these ideas, you are hocked to the ego’s drama. Your mind is captured into the delusional web. Stress. anxiety, self-doubt, self-hatred, and all other negative emotions, ideas and even memories show up in your mind to convince you that it is over for you because the unpleasant conditions are here to finish you. Self-love, becomes the last idea on your mind. 

So, how do you use the “I am not that” Method to relieve stress and overcome these unpleasant conditions?

Well, share your views and I will continue this article with my own views of this method in the next post. 

Love and light

6 Ways to Deal With Mental Health Stigma


Don’t waste your time focusing on people who underestimate you. Focus on how you can up-estimate yourself.” ~ Dr. Jacent M M-Murray

Have you ever experienced some kind of emotional trauma or stress that manifested into a physical misalignment? Let us imagine you had brain surgery which damaged your sight or hearing functions. Or you lost a loved one, which traumatized you.

Could it be that you went through a divorce or a childhood experience that left you feeling completely disoriented and/or dissatisfied with life. Imagine people close to you or those you meet, implicate you as mentally retarded because of your emotional disabilities. This is an example of mental health stigma. Mental health stigma happens when someone discriminates, or treats you in a condensing manner just because you are either stressed, going through some hardcore challenges or is traumatized in some way.

How do you deal with them? How do you move forward without letting their actions affect you?

Here are a few suggestions that will help.

  1. Do not react to people’s negative comments about your weaknesses especially if they are derogative. Observe and ignore. Don’t even respond to their bull shit. Remember that you are in charge of your inner world. You are in charge of how you feel. Do not give them your power of influence–meaning that be the only one who determines what influences you.
  2. Don’t try to understand why someone treated you poorly. You can never understand why mean people do what they do. It is actually better if you don’t question because you might end up thinking like them. For this particular reason, the less you know about the root causes of people’s negative behavior, the better.
  3. Immediately walk away from people who treat you in condensing ways. If you can alert the authorities about their discriminative behavior, do. If not, end the relationship immediately and go about your business. Protect your sanity.
  4. Focus on your healing journey and mental health. Don’t allow outside negativity to influence you. Block it off by religiously focusing on how you want to feel.
  5. Tame your attention. Watch how you distribute your attention. Don’t let the mind sway you into negative thinking. Bring your attention back to your awesome self. Dwell on what you have. Be grateful for your life, your heart beat. Know that with life, change is prominent. Everything changes, and this too will come to an end.
  6. Remember who you truly are. Know that you are not your body, identity, history or experiences. Know that you are a child of God. Know that since God is infinite, you are not excluded from his presence. He is in you, and you are in him. There is no separation. Dwell on this truth with all your heart. And let the love of God heal and protect you.

I hope this helps. I know this is what I do daily to keep doing what I do.

I’m sending you abundant love from my heart to yours.

Love and light

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Written by Dr. Jacent Mpalyenkana-Murray, PhD, MBA

Reverend, Spiritual Counselor, Transformational Coach and Author, Speaker

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How Are You Projecting Your Inner Struggles?


Have you ever felt so angry that everything and everyone made you angrier?

Would you say that these things or people were responsible for your emotions?

Have you ever met someone so mean, that “they made medicine seem weak?” ~ Mohammad Ali.

Would you really blame yourself for the way they felt?

Well, I have. And that’s before I understood that I am in control of my emotions. And that I was the lord of my inner world. It was up to me to manage my inner world. And every time I forget that I am in charge, I get hurt.

What about you? What is your story?

Well, below are real reviews/complaints from customers received by Thomas Cook Vacations. It might be funny but take time to examine how we let the egoistical mind paint us insane.

1. “They should not allow topless sunbathing on the beach. It was very distracting for my husband who just wanted to relax.”


2. “On my holiday to Goa in India, I was disgusted to find that almost every restaurant served curry. I don’t like spicy food.”

3. “We went on holiday to Spain and had a problem with the taxi drivers as they were all Spanish.”

4. “We booked an excursion to a water park but no-one told us we had to bring our own swimsuits and towels. We assumed it would be included in the price.”

5. “The beach was too sandy. We had to clean everything when we returned to our room.”

6. “We found the sand was not like the sand in the brochure. Your brochure shows the sand as white but it was more yellow.”

7. “It’s lazy of the local shopkeepers in Puerto Vallartato close in the afternoons. I often needed to buy things during ‘siesta’ time — this should be banned.”

8. “No-one told us there would be fish in the water. The children were scared.”

9. “Although the brochure said that there was a fully equipped kitchen, there was no egg-slicer in the drawers.”

10. “I think it should be explained in the brochure that the local convenience store does not sell proper biscuits like custard creams or ginger nuts.”

11. “The roads were uneven and bumpy, so we could not read the local guide book during the bus ride to the resort. Because of this, we were unaware of many things that would have made our holiday more fun.”

12. “It took us nine hours to fly home from Jamaica to England. It took the Americans only three hours to get home. This seems unfair.”

13. “I compared the size of our one-bedroom suite to our friends’ three-bedroom and ours was significantly smaller.”

14. “The brochure stated: ‘No hairdressers at the resort.’ We’re trainee hairdressers and we think they knew and made us wait longer for service.”

15. “When we were in Spain, there were too many Spanish people there. The receptionist spoke Spanish, the food was Spanish. No one told us that there would be so many foreigners.”

16. “We had to line up outside to catch the boat and there was no air-conditioning.”

17. “It is your duty as a tour operator to advise us of noisy or unruly guests before we travel.” 18. “I was bitten by a mosquito. The brochure did not mention mosquitoes.”

19. “My fiancée and I requested twin-beds when we booked, but instead we were placed in a room with a king bed. We now hold you responsible and want to be re-reimbursed for the fact that I became pregnant. This would not have happened if you had put us in the room that we booked.”

Source: Peter Dickinson

How can you become the authority of your experiences? How can you master the inner workings of your inner world?

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Ho’oponopono Questions Answered – Learn What Ho’oponopono Can, and Cannot Do – Tapthegood.com


Whenever I post Ho’oponopono sessions, I get so many questions regarding Ho.oponopono and how it works.

In this session, I have answered the most common questions posed.

The questions are:

1. Is Ho’oponopono magic, voodoo or a quick fix?

2. Why isn’t Ho’oponopono working for me?

3. How long will it take to resolve my issues?

4. Can I deal with more than one issue in a session?

5. What if I feel worse after the session, what do I do?

6. Can I heal other people with Ho’oponopono?

7. If I resolve an issue will it return?

8. Can I heal ancestral and lineage curses, plus witchcraft with Ho’oponopono?

9. Can one session dissolve all my life’s problems?

10. In advanced Ho’oponopono with water, can I change the water after a few days?

11. Can you offer me free sessions?

I hope I have answered all your questions.

In the meantime, I now envision you as engrossed in eternal light and divine love.

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The Null and Void Method to Resolve Negative Memories


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Mathew 8:22: “Let the dead go bury their dead…”~ Jesus

In relation to emotional intelligence, one of my interpretations of the above verse is that everything that happens in the past including a second ago, is dead…gone. If you dwell on it, you are dwelling on what’s dead.

And whatever you focus on you become. So, by focusing on a negative past you are literally murdering your attention (wasting away /killing your precious attention) that could be invested on more life progressing things.

When we realize this truth, then we can go about our business momentarily without dwelling on the negative and hence, dead past.

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Use this method whenever you find your mind dwelling on the negative past. And you will discover that you are not your emotions; you are not your past. Your memories are just thoughts and/or ideas that when you observe closely within yourself, do not exist. You could create imaginary representations of these memories but in reality, they are just illusions.

With this realization, you will free your mind from the negative memories that way you down.

Sending you much peace and divine love.

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Dr. Jacinta Mpalyenkana-Murray, PhD, MBA, is an author, Counselor, Transformational Coach and Speaker. She partners with her clients to help them achieve emotional freedom from the negative past. 

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What to do When You are Feeling “Off:”


nikola-tesla-39712Often times we find ourselves feeling “offish”–a feeling, rather hard to explain. These are times when we’ve probably been taking all the action requited; when we’ve been eating right and sleeping enough etc, yet still feel “off.”

There are many reasons why we often feel this way—one of them being a disruption in our energy signature.

In simple terms, one’s energy signature is their vibration, how they “feel” or how they are “felt” when they are around other people. It also relates to the vibes or energy that their presence gives off to other people. I guess you’ve met people whose energy suffocates you as soon as you see them even if they haven’t spoken to you.  

We are made up of energy. We also have spinning energy wheels positioned in different places in our body, called chakras. The chakras work with the body’s electric system to regulate the proper functioning of our organs, nervous system—among other functions. The chakras are also directly related to different areas of our lives. And external factors when digested and accepted as truth, can also affect our chakras.

When one of the chakras is not functioning optimally, there is a disruption of energy flow in the entire body’s system. And this can affect our emotions, clarity, physical energy and decision making—among other issues. Therefore, when we feel “off,” chances are that there is a disruption in the body’s energetic system. Therefore, cleansing and re-aligning our chakras is vital for our well-being.  

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How do You Cleanse and Re-align the Chakras?

There are many tools that can be used to cleanse and re-balance the chakras. And one of the magical techniques that can instantly regulate the chakras and rejuvenate one’s well being is EFT (the Emotional Freedom Technique).

In my newest book; Advanced EFT Scripts to Heal and Align The Chakras: Purify, Balance and Elevate Your Chakras and Heal Your Mind, Body and Spirit, I use detailed and simplified scripts designed to tap on each chakra.

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Whether you are a Coach who wants to help your clients regulate and balance their Chakras and hence their lives, or someone who just wants to heal themselves, the scripts in this book are guaranteed to help you achieve your goals.

Get the book today at this link –

https://www.amazon.com/Advanced-Scripts-Heal-Align-Chakras-ebook/dp/B07TNCS8M6/ref=sr_1_fkmr0_1?keywords=Advanced+EFT+to+Cleanse%2C+purify+and+balance+the+chakras&qid=1561663770&s=digital-text&sr=1-1-fkmr0

 

 

About the Author:

Dr. Jacinta M Murray, is a spiritual counselor and transformational coach. As also an Advanced EFT Practitioner, she partners with her clients to help them achieve emotional freedom from negative experiences, stress and trauma, resolve redundant spiritual blockages–so that they can live life on their terms. 

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3 Proven Ways to Overcome Anxiety-related Symptoms.


anxiety-head-1536054411For several months, I went through a hell of a hard time, and although I thought I had managed my emotions, my mind had stored some of these negative feelings. These negative feelings later manifested into hurtful emotions that popped up even when everything in my life seemed okay.

My anxiety began with emotional pain that I couldn’t explain. At different times during the day, I would feel pain, call it hurt, coming from a place within me that I couldn’t identify. The closest I could define the source of this in-explainable pain is in my heart.

The pain/hurt progressed to a point where it brought me to tears and down on my knees. I could feel the pain for about 10 minutes before it subdued, and just as I started to catch my breath, it came right back. This went on for about two weeks before I realized that it was anxiety.

I realized how much anxiety can cripple one’s enthusiasm, happiness, and progress in general.

What is Anxiety?

The American Psychological Association (APA) defines anxiety as “an emotion characterized by feelings of tension, worried thoughts and physical changes like increased blood pressure.”

Knowing the difference between normal feelings of anxiety and an anxiety disorder requiring medical attention can help a person identify and treat the condition.

For this article, I will be focusing on the anxiety characterized by general symptoms such as, unexplained worry, sadness, fear, and hurt/pain.

Below are some of the techniques I used to heal the anxiety.

1. Exercise Regularly:
Exercising regularly has major health benefits, including relieving one from anxiety-related symptoms. Any type of exercise that raises the heart rate is beneficial.

2. Avoid consuming any type of alcohol and drink a lot of water instead.
When we are weakened by hardships, we tend to find ways to escape our pain. Although alcohol might give you a sense of relief, this is so short-lived and presents the possibility of creating a dependency behavior. Once we start depending on alcohol to escape our worries, this can be the beginning of an addictive tendency. Therefore, unless you can resist using alcohol as an escape, avoid consuming it until you feel emotionally stronger. The better alternative is drinking a lot of water–at least 8 glasses a day.

3. Meditate.
Find time to sit and just observe your breath or heartbeat. Breathe deeply and disregard all thoughts, plus any mental activity for the time you are meditating. Meditate for a minimum of 10 minutes to begin, and then progress to an hour–as you get accustomed to the process.

Below are a few links to meditations and mind-healing sessions that will help you.

~ https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=4z-svXIKTJU
~ https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=IR_RoWjZ50I
~ https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=b8-1sxYUAOo
~ https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=4jCNMDdyEoY
~ https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=vDAzPd78mRs

Most importantly, know that like everything else, this too will pass. Do not resist the pain when it comes. Just sit or lay down and observe yourself as you go through the pain. With practice, you will realize that anxiety is a game that the mind uses to weaken our emotional strength. Remember that you are more powerful than anxiety.

Dr. J Murray, is a spiritual counselor, transformational coach, speaker, and a published author. One of her missions is to help her clients achieve emotional freedom from all that could be weighing them down–and then start living life on their terms.
For more about her, please visit, http://www.tapthgood.com
Email: tapthegood@gmail.com

What are Challenges?


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When you are experiencing challenges ask yourself:

  1. Who is the experiencer of these challenges?
  2. Why is this experiencer experiencing these events as challenges?
  3. How did the experiencer come to a conclusion that these events are challenges?
  4. Is this experiencer perceiving these events from a place of fear or faith?
  5. And most importantly, ask, does the experiencer really have to experience these events at all?
  6. What can happen if this experiencer retracts their attention from what they perceive as challenges and instead focus on something more pleasant?

As you dwell on the answers of these questions you start discovering that what you perceive as challenges are simply events that need your attention to resolve or ignore—especially if you can’t do anything about them. From these mental and emotional states, you free yourself from the discomforting consequences of your perception.

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How We Create Insanity: An Excerpt from my upcoming book – “The Sanity Warrior”


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Insanity begins by creating stories that are delusional: delusional in the sense that we normally don’t have practical evidence of our conclusive thoughts. For instance, we predict our future based on what happened in the past, or based on stories of other people. We also base our future predictions on present experiences and conclude with certainty that our lives will manifest the same way they are manifesting now. What’s interesting is that as we engross our minds in these predictions, we develop profound beliefs about our futures, and just like magic, our futures manifest as we predicted. So, we literally create our present and future realities as we continue to emotionally and mentally visualize experiences rooted on false facts. And because we’ve been given the free-will to think and visualize as we please, we’ve also been given the power to create our realities. But we forget or neglect this truth and blame everyone and everything out of ourselves for our experiences. Yet, we create our own suffering: because suffering is a personal inner experience (call it an emotion) that we consciously or unconsciously choose to feel. 

To summarize the preceding precepts, we live insanely because we’ve forgotten who we truly are, and what we are capable of. We forget, or are never convinced that our thoughts are powerful—and that they create. We neglect that no one and nothing has power over our emotions, except our own choices. We forget the basic truth that we cannot control anyone else but ourselves. Moreover, people are always changing their approach towards everything they do. Today someone might be kind and loving, and tomorrow he/she could be rude and/or sad. The more comfortable we get with our environments and the people we deal with, the more we relax our guard and reveal what’s inside of us. What’s inside depends on the number, diversity and intensity of experiences that someone has had all their lives; the related beliefs they’ve developed about their lives, life, and the world in general, plus relationships. What’s inside each one of us is complex. Therefore, regardless of how knowledgeable anyone is in subjects like psychology and/or human behavior, he/she can never be at the same pace with what consistently influences people to perceive and act the way they do.

Unfortunately, we go about life trying to change people; blaming them for being who they are, expecting them to love and accept us for who we are; thinking that we have the power to influence their actions, and that they owe us what we want to experience. When we believe that anyone owes us what we want to experience, then we have literally given them the power to choose our experiences based on what they know. We gain this mentality when we forget or negate that we experience who are. There is nothing without perception; also implying that if you don’t perceive something that “thing” does not exist in your reality. Because perception is a projection, we perceive according to what we have already created in our inner worlds: what we believe, what we consistently think about, and the stories we’ve created.

Therefore, if you don’t perceive it, it doesn’t exist. That’s why sometimes when you are crying over something, other people could celebrate over it. And it’s because we are all different—we have different opinions. Hence, everyone is doing the best they can with the mental, emotional and spiritual resources they’ve created within themselves. This also implies that what people do is their business. It’s their idea of expression and experience. So, it is insane to stress over what people do; considering that we have a choice to perceive things as we want, or decide not to experience what we don’t want. It’s because of this gift of free-will that God awarded us that we have also created a world of sorts. Sorts, in that the experiences we all individually create are so drastically different; some are extremely pleasurable if perceived that way, and others, sorrowful. It takes more than wishful thinking to stay connected to our true nature: a nature that consistently reveals its uniqueness through the selection of our perceptions and hence experiences.

Stay tuned for the book release date….

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