The Magic in Life’s Pains


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“Sometimes whatever you think is killing you might actually be resurrecting you.” ~ Jacinta Murray

I went under the blankets and tried to shake myself to sleep but couldn’t. I coiled up in a ball and held myself for comfort but the hurt in my heart kept oozing through my senses like dogs let out of a restricted area.

It was 10.00 a.m. on a Monday morning, a day and time when I would normally be working or taking care of other business, yet I was in bed–seeking refuge in the bedding. I had hit rock bottom yet once again. Someone very close to me, someone I loved and trusted very much had done something that I had clearly told them not to do. They had betrayed my trust, and this wasn’t the first time. The pain was rooted more on the betrayal and less on the loss. Additionally, a few days earlier, I had received news about my immigration petition. They had sent me a notice with intent to deny: and this was like the 7th time they were denying my appeals. I just didn’t know what to do. I felt as if I had subconsciously made a contract with the devil.

I was in pain…emotional pain that I started feeling physically in areas I didn’t even know could feel pain. But somewhere somehow I knew that although I felt beaten and trashed by life, I had to get my broken-self together and figure out how to move forward. It was up to me.

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When I got up, I prayed for help from God…the Universe. And this quote came in my mind.

“Sometimes whatever you think is killing you might actually be resurrecting you.”

I recited the quote all day because it gave me hope and inspired me to accept what I perceived as horrible for my life, as part of the divine plan, and then move forward with confidence that there was magic in this pain.

It is because of these experiences that my heart opened up a bit more. I learned to be more compassionate to others–especially those who were experiencing similar incidents. I was forced to learn how to forgive from the heart and mind–which is releasing all doubt and the accrued negative emotions from my memory.

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My recent book of quotes, 193 Serenity Quotes: Inspirational, Thought Provoking, Empowering, Heart Warming Quotes designed With Your Happiness, Peace and Hope in Mind, is filled quotes that will inspire you and propel you to think beyond appearances.

And I pray that these quotes trigger your own revelations and solutions to help you find the magic in your life’s struggles.

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The Story of two Roads- A Powerful Inspirational Story


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When faced challenges, remember that challenges are opportunities. Problems and challenges are man’s means to earn a living. Note that all businesses are founded on providing solutions for problems that someone once had.

The more someone designs solutions for problems, the wealthier they become. Therefore, challenges are intended to be turned into opportunities to become more of ourselves by shedding off the layers of fear and other negative conditioning in order to perceive life differently. Whatever challenge you are experiencing today, know that it is not a waste. These challenges are anointing you with the skills to overcome them. And after this storm is over you will not be the same. You will be stronger and wiser—which is something amazing to look forward to. 

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With that said, if you haven’t read, Do Not Force it, Tap the Good, ( Link to the book – https://www.amazon.com/Do-not-Force-T…) it’s time.

Love and light

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Keep Shinning Regardless – An Inspirational Message


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Have you ever shared your dream with someone only to be discouraged?

Have you ever been so certain about the direction that you want to take only to be told by someone you trust that you are going to fail?

If you answered yes, to any of the above questions then you understand how it feels when someone tries to blow out your light….damn your enthusiasm.

Apparently, it’s human nature for one to damn someone else’s light if theirs isn’t shinning. Remember that misery loves company, and if you are in company with people who have given up on their dreams, don’t expect them to inspire you.

Note that people who feel insecure about their own qualities will attempt to make others feel that way. They will devise mental plots to get you to start doubting yourself.

Furthermore, if one is stuck in a dark place for a while, understand that they have become accustomed to the darkness. They don’t want to experience anything different. Their brains have settled, and it normally takes some mental and emotional work for them to snap out of their illusion and start shinning their own light. Therefore, if you share your dream with someone in that mental state, be sure to receive discouragement.

“If one is stuck in a dark place for a while, understand that they have become accustomed to the darkness”

The next question is, what do you do if someone discourages you?

The answer lies in the very reason why you want to pursue your goal. Your why, should matter more than what anyone else says about you or your goals. Besides, what others think or say about you is their business: that’s their model of the world. Whatever one is projecting in their mind has nothing to do with you. Your business is what’s brewing in your own mind. Therefore, you can’t let naysayers retard your decision to move forward with your dream. Remember, no one but you has the power to put out your light. You are the master of your enthusiasm and your inner thrill, and it’s really up to you to keep shinning no matter what.

“No one but you has the power to put out your light.”

Serena Williams

In this video, I share a few tips that you can use to keep your light shinning. The tips are simple and I’m certain that you already know about them. However, sometimes it helps when we are reminded that the answers and solutions we seek for are always within us.

 

 

 

 

Love and light

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It’s Okay to Feel Good: An Inspirational Spoken Word


Do you feel sad?

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Do you need an IV of inspiration today?

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You are at the right place, at the right time, with the right intention. 

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After listening to this inspirational spoken word that I compiled after a recent near-death experience, you will feel a firm sense of well-being. Please listen everyday for continued inspiration. 

Share with those who might need some inspiration today.

Link to video – https://youtu.be/gAk2h4Gfh1Y

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This content was com composed by Dr. Jacinta Mpalyenkana, Ph.D., MBA. Author, Professional speaker, Counselor and Transformational Coach. To reach her, please visit http://www.tapthegood.com/contact/

The Greatest Gift – An Inspirational Message


What are you going through today?

What seems to be taking over your world?

In this VIDEO, I share an inspirational message that will lift you up. 

Link to video – https://youtu.be/KMMrjKNKPTU

Take courage, my friend.

Your mindset, and emotional freedom passionista

Dr. Jacinta Mpalyenkana, Ph.D., MBA

Author, Inspirational Speaker, Transformational Coach

http://www.tapthegood.com

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10 Actions That are Guaranteed to Keep you Broke and a Failure


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I know that most people tend to focus on the actions or behaviors that have been proven to help others achieve success. But it is also important to identify the actions that are known to keep people broke or as failures.

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In this VIDEO, I share 10 actions that are known to keep anyone broke if they are persistent with them. I invite you to identify these actions so that you can avoid them.

Link to Video – https://youtu.be/tcWGgHyI3r0

 

This is article was written by Dr. Jacinta Mpalyenkana, Ph.D., MBA, who is a counselor, Transformational Coach, author, and professional speaker. For more about her, please check out her website at http://www.tapthegood.com.

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Feeling Stressed Out? Three Tips to Inspire You


I recently went through an experience that left me feeling beaten and broken. I felt as if I was behind a curtain. I felt as if my true intentions weren’t understood. I felt betrayed, weak and discouraged. I felt misjudged, isolated and rejected.

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Now, you will agree that such feelings can leave one in a state of emotional warfare. Yet I knew that I had to get up. I knew that I couldn’t control anyone else but myself. I had to take my power back, and determine the way I wanted to feel regardless of what anyone else thought or felt about me. I had to continue following my dreams, and focusing on my goals. I had to feel good again which is the only way that would enable me to wake up and try at this thing called life. I needed inspiration to keep going .

In this video, I share three tips that I employed to feel inspired. I hope they help you feel inspired. Please share the video with anyone you know needs some inspiration today.

Link to video – https://youtu.be/c1PxuWSjDpg

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Have a good week.

Love and light

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Four Tips to Deal with Rejection: Part 2:


In part 1 of this article, “How to Deal with Rejection – based on a personal story”, I shared a personal story about one of my childhood experiences of rejection. I’m certain that you or someone you know has gone through similar or maybe even worse experiences.

In this article, I share 4 tips that helped me deal with rejection and build a healthier self-esteem. And although I appreciate the fact that your experiences or those of your loved ones might be different, I’m also certain that anyone will be able to customize these tips and make them their own in order to resolve any rejection related emotional issues that they might be experiencing.

Tip 1: Know That no one can Reject You.

As weird as it might sound, believe me when I say that no one can actually reject you. One of the meanings of rejection is to be eliminated. And in my opinion, no one can eliminate you per-say. One might eliminate your presence from a scene, or disregard what you say, but he/she can never eliminate your existence. Chances are that what you perceive as rejection is an incident where someone probably did not resonate with, understand, or agree with whatever you were presenting or offering. However, with all due respect, this doesn’t mean that the entire awesome you was discarded.

Therefore, the first tip you can employ to deal with rejection-related emotions is to change your perception of the word, rejection and how it applies to you as an individual.

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Tip 2: Know that People’s Actions are Their Business.

As you deal with the rejection-related emotions, understand that perception is projection. Behavior is founded on internal representations: meaning that people behave as they have learned to, based on their beliefs and thought processes, mental, emotional and spiritual states. Everyone is doing the best they can with the internal resources they have. I’m sure you’ve heard the statement, “squeeze an orange and you get orange juice.” When someone is filled with anger, sadness or whatever other emotions that they might have, that’s exactly what’s going to come out of them as they perceive the world, as well as act. Therefore, if someone rejects something about you, this has nothing to do with you. It is their business. That’s how they know how to operate. Note that at that point in time, your presence or whatever they rejected triggered a decision within them to reject. Consequently, you can’t take things personally. And most importantly, you have to forgive them for their actions because they probably didn’t even realize that there was anything wrong with the way they acted. Just as you can’t expect mango juice to come out of an orange, you can’t expect a person filled with rudeness or anger to treat you with kindness or non-judgment.

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Tip 3: Take 100% Responsibility Of Your Emotions:

When we take full responsibility of our negative emotions, we take our power back from whoever we have blamed for the way we feel. By taking full responsibility for the rejection-related negative emotions, we get to understand that no one has the power to make us feel a certain way; and that we have the power to heal ourselves. This process begins by identifying all those negative emotions that you are feeling. Write them down. Examine each one of them to identify the root causes. Establish if the root causes are really based on truths. For instance, if one of the negative related emotions you are dealing with is sadness, the root cause is what the person said or did, that made you believe that you are a reject. When you examine tip 1, you realize that you are not really a reject. Tip 2, is telling you that whatever the person did is not your business. Consequently, your perceptions are not founded on the truth. You are not a reject. Therefore, you just have to let the sadness go because it is built on lies.

The next step is to forgive yourself for being sad for the wrong reasons. Here’s a link (https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=jGUjtMRS_5k) with a forgiveness process that I recorded a few years ago. To access the link, please copy and paste the link in a new browser, then click “enter.”

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Tip 4: Know That You Can Create a New And Better Story About Your Self-Image

The thoughts and related beliefs about being rejection are founded on a story you created based on an experience that you believed to be the truth. Note that just as you created this story, you also have the power to erase it and then create a new and better story about how you want to feel about yourself. You can do this by thinking about how you want to perceive your self-image. Decide how you want to be perceived. Write these attributes down. Read them to yourself every day until you believe them as the truth. For instance, you can write statements such; I accept and love myself just as I am. I am worthy. I deserve to be treated with respect. I respect myself—you get the idea. The fundamental thing to do is to think and believe these statements as the truth. And by doing this, you will be writing a better story that will improve your perception of yourself.
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Please note that although these tips are simplified, they helped me deal with my rejection-related negative emotions and I believe they can help you or anyone else. The idea is to make the tips your own, do the work on yourself, and remember that persistence and repetition are necessary ingredients required to establish and reinforce desired change.

The author is Jacinta Mpalyenkana, Ph.D., MBA. She’s an author, speaker, counselor and transformational coach. For more about her, please check out her website at www.tapthegood.com

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