5 Psychologically Proven Tips to Be at Peace When You can’t Change a Situation


Life can be extremely challenging at times. And during these times, it takes more than wishful thinking to stay sane and at peace. There are situations that can literally leave you numb.

What do you do?

In this video, I share 5 psychologically proven tips to help you be at peace when you hit rock bottom.

Remember, everything changes.

Let me know how you feel. Sending you much love and peace

Jacinta

http://www.tapthegood.com

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Nothing is Permanent: Be of Good Cheer


OB-ZA278_Fight0_D_20130923205402I recently heard of a man who sued his parents for giving birth to him. He had gone through many challenges that propelled him to question the objective of his birth. In court, he accused his parents of planning to bring him into this world without his consent. Funny, because he wasn’t alive to give his consent to be born. 

Much as this story seems like fiction, I understand his point of view. And I’m certain that if your life has presented avalanches of challenges, obstacles or failures at one point you’ve also wondered why you were born. 

A couple of years ago, there were many months I spent several hours daily seeking answers for the multitude of problems I was experiencing. At times, I felt like breaking down but I remembered what my mother once told me; “Don’t give in and break down because of worldly troubles. You are more than them.” I picked up my broken-self, prayed and meditated for days, forgave (this took me many months) and things started getting better. 

What are you experiencing today?

What is causing you pain?

Trust me when I say that everything changes. Nothing is permanent. Troubles or challenges might seem so big to handle or so powerful to pass away. However, everything that has a beginning has an end. This too will pass. Hang in there and don’t give in. 

Most importantly, you can actively be the witness of all your experiences. Regardless of whatever is going on in your external environment you can internally step back and observe without creating attachments. You can observe without defining or creating relationships with any event. You have what it takes and more to let everything be as it is without categorizing it. You can watch without emotional engagement. If something needs you to take action, you can still act without letting your mind dig out for negative emotions to attach to your actions. 

You can be a witness of all experiences without defining them. With such mindset, everything that happens is neither good or bad. Everything just is. And this notion works magic with experiences we would normally define as bad. Everything then becomes a passing thing. As a result, you are open to everything but attached to nothing. Your emotional thermometer is close to neutral. You are always neutral or at peace with everything. You are in control of your mind: of your emotions. You can choose how to feel without letting the mind manipulate you into generating negative emotions that do absolutely nothing for you. Remember the mind is unemployed without your attention. If the mind starts recruiting thoughts that generate negative emotions in you, move your attention to something else. Note that you are in control of your precious attention. You can choose what to give it to. 

“Become like the sky. Regardless of the number, weight or color of the clouds in its space, the sky remains intact,” said my mentor. 

John 16:33 These things I have spoken unto you, that in me ye might have peace. In the world ye shall have tribulation: but be of good cheer; I have overcome the world.

By “overcoming the world” Jesus meant being a constant witness of the world and its presentations without attaching, defining, relating to or letting his mind manipulate him into generating emotions to attach to these events. 

Remember that a peaceful mind is the heavens playhouse. 

Be of good cheer

Sending you much love and wishing you a gracious Easter

Peace and blessings. 

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The Story of two Roads- A Powerful Inspirational Story


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When faced challenges, remember that challenges are opportunities. Problems and challenges are man’s means to earn a living. Note that all businesses are founded on providing solutions for problems that someone once had.

The more someone designs solutions for problems, the wealthier they become. Therefore, challenges are intended to be turned into opportunities to become more of ourselves by shedding off the layers of fear and other negative conditioning in order to perceive life differently. Whatever challenge you are experiencing today, know that it is not a waste. These challenges are anointing you with the skills to overcome them. And after this storm is over you will not be the same. You will be stronger and wiser—which is something amazing to look forward to. 

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With that said, if you haven’t read, Do Not Force it, Tap the Good, ( Link to the book – https://www.amazon.com/Do-not-Force-T…) it’s time.

Love and light

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Everything Changes: Take Heart (A Spoken Word to Inspire)


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Change is life and life is change. Everything changes because everything seen and felt is temporary. Now becomes later and later becomes history. Today becomes yesterday. Night breaks into day, and a dark night is soon embraced by trillions of stars in the sky. That’s why weather is seasonal, it changes. 

Everything changes

Everything that has a beginning has an end because that’s the law of nature. Nothing lasts forever unless it’s not that thing. There is no problem that doesn’t resolve, and no obstacle that doesn’t end. There’s no conflict can’t be resolved, and no mind that can not change. There’s no heart that can not heal, and no situation stays the same. There’s no experience that’s permanent except those we continue to perceive as so. Every occurrence is subjected to the law of polarity. With every action, there’s an equal and opposite reaction. 

Everything changes

On the other side of prison is freedom. With stuck-ness comes clarity. At the end of all pain is bliss. To know stress, you must know peace. At any given time, there’s always a part of you that’s not experiencing pain or struggle: a part where goodness and bliss externally dwell. There are no emotions that exist without their opposites. The law of polarity is a law of life. So, whatever happens in life has its opposite dwelling at the other end. 

Regardless of any story or reason supporting any condition, change, will soon transform it. With or without our intervention, time takes care of all things. If you are bombarded by struggles, you can’t seem to change, step aside and let them lead their natural course.

Trust what’s permanent about life, about you. Trust that God within you is all that’s permanent and infinite. Know that God is all knowing, all powerful, all wisdom, all kindness and God is all there really is. Be still and connect to that Divine spark within you…God. Let go and let this Divine intelligence also known as God take over. Have faith that change is natural. Change is part of creation. And the Creator “Himself/Herself” dwells within you as you. Repeat again and, again: “Because God dwells within me, I am light. I am love. I am loved. I am led. I am protected. I am supposed to be here. I am taken care of. I am well, all is well. I am.” 

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Keep Shinning Regardless – An Inspirational Message


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Have you ever shared your dream with someone only to be discouraged?

Have you ever been so certain about the direction that you want to take only to be told by someone you trust that you are going to fail?

If you answered yes, to any of the above questions then you understand how it feels when someone tries to blow out your light….damn your enthusiasm.

Apparently, it’s human nature for one to damn someone else’s light if theirs isn’t shinning. Remember that misery loves company, and if you are in company with people who have given up on their dreams, don’t expect them to inspire you.

Note that people who feel insecure about their own qualities will attempt to make others feel that way. They will devise mental plots to get you to start doubting yourself.

Furthermore, if one is stuck in a dark place for a while, understand that they have become accustomed to the darkness. They don’t want to experience anything different. Their brains have settled, and it normally takes some mental and emotional work for them to snap out of their illusion and start shinning their own light. Therefore, if you share your dream with someone in that mental state, be sure to receive discouragement.

“If one is stuck in a dark place for a while, understand that they have become accustomed to the darkness”

The next question is, what do you do if someone discourages you?

The answer lies in the very reason why you want to pursue your goal. Your why, should matter more than what anyone else says about you or your goals. Besides, what others think or say about you is their business: that’s their model of the world. Whatever one is projecting in their mind has nothing to do with you. Your business is what’s brewing in your own mind. Therefore, you can’t let naysayers retard your decision to move forward with your dream. Remember, no one but you has the power to put out your light. You are the master of your enthusiasm and your inner thrill, and it’s really up to you to keep shinning no matter what.

“No one but you has the power to put out your light.”

Serena Williams

In this video, I share a few tips that you can use to keep your light shinning. The tips are simple and I’m certain that you already know about them. However, sometimes it helps when we are reminded that the answers and solutions we seek for are always within us.

 

 

 

 

Love and light

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7 MENTAL TOOLS TO SURVIVE CHALLENGING TIMES


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Of late, turbulent times seem to be more common than peaceful times. The main, yet less obvious reason for experiencing turbulent times is because we’ve let the external world and whatever happens in it to determine the way we feel. The first step then, is to take full responsibility of the way we feel and then tap into our inexhaustible mental resources in order to get a grip of our feelings. Once we are less attached to our experiences or needs/wants, we access our inbuilt God-given clarity and enthusiasm to pursue our goals without the related stress

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In this video, I share 7 mental tools that are guaranteed to help you survive challenging times. Read them, identify those tools that you relate to the most, embrace, then employ them to help you get a grip of your mind, strengthen it, then move past the challenges. 

Link to the video -https://youtu.be/e2qMxnmToSM

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This article was written by Dr. Jacinta Mpalyenkana, Ph.D., MBA. She is a transformational coach, counselor, professional speaker and published author. For more about her, please visit http://www.tapthegood.com