Why Worry when you can’t change “it”? A Powerful Tip to Beat Worry.


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In this short video, I share a common tip to help you deal with worry. I tend to write so much about emotional freedom because in addition to this being my expertise, I appreciate the fact that the world of late is going insane. I mean, look around you. There is so much to worry about if you don’t choose to focus on something else more empowering.

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Also, please remember to save the date: March 1st, 2017, is Global Worry Free Day. This is a day of gratitude and giving back. Please spread the news.

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In the interim, enjoy my short video and the stories within. I’m show it will make you feel better. 🙂

Link to video – https://youtu.be/fNC-5r8z4_8  (Copy link and paste in new browser)

Love and light

Dr. Jacinta Mpalyenkana, Ph.D, MBA

Your Personal Transformational Coach

http://www.tapthegood.com

 

The Most Powerful Self-Improvement Question


As the year ends, other than spending a lot of money on gifts and preparing for the holiday celebrations, we get prompted to think about what we’ve achieved during the year, what we’ve lost, what we want to achieve the following year, what to change about ourselves, how to change, financial goals, relationships goals…the list goes on.

Many, (and I plead guilty for doing this for a number of years,) have long given up on the annual-goal setting exercise because they either never follow-through with their goals, or simply, for some reason, fail to achieve their goals. So, for the fear of failing again, they negate or ignore annual resolutions.

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However, I have discovered that there is a single question that I have asked myself each year, and have also recommended for my clients, that doesn’t only help to re-establish personal worth, but also leads to new insights about self. Also, this question has somehow led me into evaluating my finance, friendship, business and future related goals.

The question is: “What do I deserve?”

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When you take time to contemplate on, and answer this question, I suggest that you consider thinking about what you are tolerating, let it be partnerships, a job (if you are employed), lifestyle, friendships—to mention but a few. After establishing what you might be tolerating, proceed to analyze what you think you deserve and why. Before you are done, you will have your most important new goals ready for your execution.

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If you discover that you are tolerating more than you think, then contact me at www.tapthegood.com/contacts/ for a complimentary personal coaching/counseling session to establish how I can help you take your power back and become the authority of your life.

Looking for a good book to read during the holidays? Check out, Do not Force it, Tap The Good: How to Tap Into One’s Infinite Potential, Develop a Profound Positive Attitude and Live Life on Your Terms.

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Happy holidays

Love and light

Jacinta Mpalyenkana, Ph.D, MBA

Published Author, Counselor, Personal Coach, Professional Speaker

http://www.tapthegood.com

Three Steps to Become Enthusiastically Focused


So, let’s assume that you’ve determined what you want, and why you want it.  You have also established that you have all the practical and mental resources you need to execute the required tasks towards achieving your goal. However for some reason, you can’t focus. You are not inspired to take action. And you keep wondering what could be wrong. In this article I share three tips to help you become enthusiastically focused.

Well, you are not abnormal. For the most part, lack of focus is all based on fear: the fear to fail…the fear of being disappointed especially if you’ve embarked on projects in the past that haven’t succeeded. So what do you do? Here we go!

  1. Go back to the drawing board and establish why you want to achieve that goal. What will you emotionally or financially benefit if you achieved your goal? What will your rewards be? Be as specific as possible. Write it down. Read your reasons, and re-write them if that’s what it will take to be clear. Don’t rush. Take your time.

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2. Establish what you will lose if you don’t take action. Will you lose freedom, friends or status? You know the answers. Write these answers down. The idea is to be honest with yourself.

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3. Determine the first step you will take towards achieving your goal. Make this step simple and easy. The simpler it is, the better it will be for you to embark on it. For instance, if your goal is to write a book, set a goal as simple as writing half a page a day, or writing for 10 minutes. Make the first step fun and easy. Do not overwhelm yourself.

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If you follow the above steps, you will get very clear about why you want to achieve that goal, and then get focused to taking action. If you write everything in a “contemplation note-book” (get one if you don’t already), focus, won’t be a problem. The idea is to remove any stress or fear that you’ve attached to your goal.

Last but not least; I once heard this saying: “God will give you food but he won’t cook it for you.” If you want something, you have to do something about it. You have to focus on it. There are no shortcuts. There is no magic. Nothing happens if nothing moves.

If you need more help with getting clear on your goals, or letting go of negative emotions that no longer serve you, I have a resource for you. Check out www.tapthegood.com/contacts/ fill in your details, and I will schedule you for a complimentary 15 minutes’ counseling and/or success coaching session.

Love and Light

Dr. Jacinta Mpalyenkana, Ph.D, MBA

Author, Counselor, Success Coach, Professional Speaker

http://www.tapthegood.com

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Be Encouraged, Friend – 3 Tips to be Inspired


In this video, I share three tips that will inspire you.

Please share the video with a friend you think might need some inspiration today.

Link to video – https://youtu.be/0reCYoivjh0

If you are looking for some good books to inspire and entertain you, please check out the following:

  • Do Not Force It, Tap The Good: How to Tap Into One’s Infinite Potential, Develop a Profound Positive Mindset, Live Life on His/her Terms.

Amazon  kindle link – http://www.amazon.com/not-Force-TAP-THE-GOOD-ebook/dp/B006JNBGDW. (The book is also available in Audible, CD and Paperback)

  • Love, Men and Money: How to Attract and Retain Them.

Amazon link – http://www.amazon.com/Love-Men-Money-Attract-Retain-ebook/dp/B00C2WUK22/

  • Becoming a Sex CEO on a Spiritual Level: A Contemporary Guide to Establishing, Maximizing, and Maintaining a Blazing Sexual Connection Based on Love.

Amazon Link – http://www.amazon.com/Becoming-Sex-Spiritual-level-Sexual-connection-ebook/dp/B00JFHDEF2/

  • Communicating Your Way to Success: Master the Art of Persuasion, Positively Influence Others, Increase Sales, and Stand Out From the Crowd.

Amazon link – http://www.amazon.com/Communicating-Your-Way-Success-Persuasion/dp/1515179087/

Love and Light

Dr. Jacinta Mpalyenkana, Ph.D, MBA

Author, Counselor, Success Coach

http://www.tapthegood.com

 

 

Being Treated Like You are Not Good Enough?


Do you feel like people treat you less of who you are?

Are you at a job where you don’t feel appreciated?

Are you in a relationship where you are working so hard to be appreciated but still feel demeaned?

Are you in a partnership that makes you feel bad about yourself?

Do you want to live life on your terms?

Watch this video – https://youtu.be/0spM7VXhrB8

Looking for a good book to read this holiday season? A book that will uplift and inspire you?

Get your copy of Do Not Force It, Tap The Good today 

Link to the book in audible, paperback and kindle – http://www.amazon.com/Do-not-Force-TAP-GOOD/dp/1461079098/

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Love and light

http://www.tapthegood.com

 

Do our Lives Need to Be Coached?


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The Dalai Lama once said, “the purpose of our lives is to be happy:” and for me that is the real benefit of coaching. What happiness actually means is unique to each and every one of us and more and more people are turning to a Life Coach to help them discover a great deal more happiness in their life.

The benefits you will gain from coaching include but are not limited to;

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  • Clarity about what you want, why you want it and how you can get it.

  • Bridging the gap between where you are now and where you want to be.

  • Strategies and techniques which facilitate you to reach your goal faster.

  • Overcome obstacles, low confidence and insecurities.

  • Explore and evaluate all possible options available.

  • Dedicated time, support, encouragement and motivation.

Remember, Life Coaching is an investment in yourself and it will benefit your entire life.

What I have done is made it financially affordable for those who want to access the benefits of life/business coaching but can not afford it.

Check out my limited time only offer on Groupon on this link https://www.groupon.com/deals/tap-the-good-counseling-and-success-coaching-services

Remember, nothings happens if nothing moves. You have to MOVE. 🙂

Love and Light

Dr. Jacinta Mpalyenkana, Ph.D., MBA

Author, Speaker, Counselor / Success Coach

http://www.tapthegood.com

Groupon link – https://www.groupon.com/deals/tap-the-good-counseling-and-success-coaching-services

How to Raise your Vibration Above Negativity:


I’m sure that you’ve been hearing it everywhere. Our vibrations, or the pattern of our thoughts, attitudes and actions, are what create our realities. If we want to change what we experience then we need to change our vibrations. There are a million ways to do this but here’s an exercise that that has stood out for me.

  1. Every morning before you get out of bed, lie down straight facing up. Uncross your arms and legs to let the energy flow freely. Place your palms next to your thighs.

  2. Close your eyes and breathe deeply.

  3. As you breathe in, imagine that you are breathing in pure positive energy, and breathing out all the negativity.

  4. Go through the exercise for at least 5 minutes.

  5. At the end of the breathing exercise, imagine a pink light penetrating your body through the top of your head. Imagine the light spreading to every inch of your being—from your brain to your toes. Then, imagine a white light surrounding your body.

  6. Take another deep breath and say this statement. “I seal this process with divine love and wisdom.”

If you do this every day, you will notice positive changes in your experiences.

If you want to learn more about how the invisible world determines our vibrations, and how you can ignite your true-self to live life on your terms, check out the book – Do Not Force It, Tap The Good: How to Tap Into One’s Inner Infinite Intelligence, Develop a Profound Positive Mindset, and Live Life on his/her Terms.

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Love and light

Dr. Jacinta Mpalyenkana, Ph.D., MBA

Author, Professional Speaker, Counselor / Success Coach

Tapthegood.com

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Do you Feel like you are Running Around in Circles?


There are times when we all feel so overwhelmed about life–when everything we do does not yield the results that we desire. During such times, we may feel as though the devil itself has binoculars on our lives.

I have experienced periods in my life when I felt as though I was moving against the wind. Everything seemed to break down. There was conflict surrounding me. Every action took me face to face with failure. I felt as though I was locked up behind a thick high wall with nowhere to go. I felt as if I was literally running around in circles–like a dog chasing its own tail. No amount of positive thinking made things better. Regardless of how hard and deeply I thought, no new information or ideas popped up in my mind as solutions. Even when I meditated and prayed for hours, I still felt a deep sense of emptiness and sadness.

Below are some of the steps that I have taken—things that have helped me get a new grip of my life.

1. Write down your goals.

2. Perform a situation analysis of your life; the steps you’ve been taking towards achieving your goals, the skills you have employed, plans, strategies, weaknesses, strengths, opportunities and threats.

2. Evaluate your successes and failures for the last 60 days.

3. STOP. Stop and relax. Stop making any major plans, taking any major actions or even expecting anything—good or bad to happen. Become a witness of your life. Observe. I know this might sound so hard to do, but if you have been taking a lot of action and seeing no results, then there is something missing. During such times, it also implies that we are not listening to our inner voice for direction or alerts.

4. Spend some time with yourself–at least 3 hours a day especially if you work for yourself. If you are employed and have to appear at a job every day, you can still become a witness of your own life by excluding judgement of others and the entire job situation. This might also mean that you don’t talk about your concerns with anyone. You are present at the job and doing what you have to do, but mindfully absent. I hope you understand what I mean. It’s about becoming laid back for a set period of time.

When we stop and do nothing major, we reduce the noises in our minds. This is when we get to hear the voice of God that is always existent at the back of our minds.

I hope this helps.

Love and light.

Dr Jacinta Mpalyenkana, Ph.D., MBA

Author, Speaker / Counselor / Coach / Mentor

http://www.tapthegood.com

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