10 Actions That are Guaranteed to Keep you Broke and a Failure


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I know that most people tend to focus on the actions or behaviors that have been proven to help others achieve success. But it is also important to identify the actions that are known to keep people broke or as failures.

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In this VIDEO, I share 10 actions that are known to keep anyone broke if they are persistent with them. I invite you to identify these actions so that you can avoid them.

Link to Video – https://youtu.be/tcWGgHyI3r0

 

This is article was written by Dr. Jacinta Mpalyenkana, Ph.D., MBA, who is a counselor, Transformational Coach, author, and professional speaker. For more about her, please check out her website at http://www.tapthegood.com.

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The Most Important Step for Business Owners in The Process of Becoming Persuasive


In this video, I share the most important step that business owners need to embrace to become more persuasive.

Here’s the link to the video – https://youtu.be/ZCLG4RnpVe4

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Love and light

Dr. Jacinta Mpalyenkana, Ph.D. MBA

Author, Speaker, Counselor / Success Coach

http://www.tapthegood.com

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Do you Feel like you are Running Around in Circles?


There are times when we all feel so overwhelmed about life–when everything we do does not yield the results that we desire. During such times, we may feel as though the devil itself has binoculars on our lives.

I have experienced periods in my life when I felt as though I was moving against the wind. Everything seemed to break down. There was conflict surrounding me. Every action took me face to face with failure. I felt as though I was locked up behind a thick high wall with nowhere to go. I felt as if I was literally running around in circles–like a dog chasing its own tail. No amount of positive thinking made things better. Regardless of how hard and deeply I thought, no new information or ideas popped up in my mind as solutions. Even when I meditated and prayed for hours, I still felt a deep sense of emptiness and sadness.

Below are some of the steps that I have taken—things that have helped me get a new grip of my life.

1. Write down your goals.

2. Perform a situation analysis of your life; the steps you’ve been taking towards achieving your goals, the skills you have employed, plans, strategies, weaknesses, strengths, opportunities and threats.

2. Evaluate your successes and failures for the last 60 days.

3. STOP. Stop and relax. Stop making any major plans, taking any major actions or even expecting anything—good or bad to happen. Become a witness of your life. Observe. I know this might sound so hard to do, but if you have been taking a lot of action and seeing no results, then there is something missing. During such times, it also implies that we are not listening to our inner voice for direction or alerts.

4. Spend some time with yourself–at least 3 hours a day especially if you work for yourself. If you are employed and have to appear at a job every day, you can still become a witness of your own life by excluding judgement of others and the entire job situation. This might also mean that you don’t talk about your concerns with anyone. You are present at the job and doing what you have to do, but mindfully absent. I hope you understand what I mean. It’s about becoming laid back for a set period of time.

When we stop and do nothing major, we reduce the noises in our minds. This is when we get to hear the voice of God that is always existent at the back of our minds.

I hope this helps.

Love and light.

Dr Jacinta Mpalyenkana, Ph.D., MBA

Author, Speaker / Counselor / Coach / Mentor

http://www.tapthegood.com

author@tapthegood.com

Gossip:  An Excerpt from the self-help book- Do Not Force It, Tap The Good.


        “In a 2008 movie titled “Doubt,” Philip Seymour Hoffman, cast as Father Brendan Flynn, gave what I consider a perfect sermon about gossip, in one of the scenes.  He told his congregation a story about a woman who went for repentance to her local priest.  The sin she was confessing was gossip.  The priest advised her to say a couple of prayers and suggested that she tears and opens one of her pillows and dispose the feathers from her bedroom window, which was located in a flat on the tenth floor of a big apartment building.  When she followed-up with the priest the next day, he asked her what had happened when she tore up the pillow.  She explained that the wind had blown away all the feathers in different directions. She then asked the priest if her sin had been forgiven. “Go and collect all the feathers and pack them back into your pillow case,” responded the priest.  ”But father,” she cried, “they were blown-off to different directions and I cannot find them all.”  The priest replied, “That my friend, is gossip.” 

       This story explains the nature and effects of gossip.  It goes far off to places where the original gossiper does not have access to.  If one analyzes the feather concept, he/she will concur with me that the original color, weight, and shape of the feather is 99% altered after being blown away by the wind from one place to another.  Gossip is similar.  Once news leaves its original source, by the time it gets to the 10th person, the content and hence predetermined objective of the message is altered.   Considering the fact that each one of us is unique, understands, and interprets information differently, one can never be certain about the honesty in a message unless of course it is being received directly from its original source. 

      Therefore, what makes us so convinced that the gossip we receive is based on facts? In most cases, when we receive the gossip we get so overwhelmed with the content and often forget to inquire about the information path.  How many people have been involved in the information process from its original source to the point of your involvement?  Is the source of the gossip reliable, or is it someone else’s truth, based on personal perceptions, experiences, mindset, and/or subconscious programming?  Categorically, there are so many obstacles that come up between the encoding and decoding process of every information transference process.  The list of obstacles is inexhaustible. Why then react impulsively to information, especially if the instant decoding presents negative concepts?  Certainly, there can be positive aspects of gossiping; however, just by the mere fact that it is gossip implies that it is either premature information still in the processing or it wasn’t meant for everyone to know. 

      What’s more, gossip has been known to be the cause of the downfall of many kingdoms, friendships, families, and companies.  Moreover, it has a great impact on influencing perceptions and hence the decision-making process.”

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Love and light

Dr. Jacinta Mpalyenkana

Counselor/ Success Coach and Professional Speaker

Author of:

1. Love, Men and Money: How to Attract and Retain them

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2. Becoming a SEX CEO on a Spiritual Level

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3. Do Not Force it, Tap The Good. 

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