Day 2- Denouncing The Habit of Attracting What You don’t Want


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Proverbs 16:24 “Kind words are like honey–sweet to the soul and healthy for the body.”

When we speak with faith and kindness to ourselves, we give ourselves much more than just the words. Denouncing something is like cutting off its influence in your life. You are disengaging its manifestations, and disowning it. And with faith, plus the help of the spirit of God within you…the Holy Spirit, and your guardian angels, healing takes place.

In this video, we shall denounce our attachments to the negative memories we hold dear and what these memories have created in our lives. In this process we disengage, disorient and disable the negative manifestations of these memories. As you go through this process, remember to engage your senses. Open your heart and allow the words to re-create a new and better reality for your life. Follow through and do the work every day so that you can witness its power.

If you have questions, please reach out by sending an email to tapthegood@gmail.com.

In the meantime, happy holidays.

Love and light.

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The Art of Perseverance: 6 Tools to Persevere and Keep Moving Forward


Ellen-White-a-model-in-tenacity-and-perseverancePerseverance is a skill that’s vital for success. Without perseverance one is set to give up easily and then move from project to another just because things didn’t work out as they wanted. The most successful people in the world know how it feels to fail repeatedly but keep going no matter what comes their way.

Stories about the Fright brothers, Albert Einstein, Honda, plus many other iconic beings in history, are intended to remind us that perseverance is a necessary skill for success to be attained. Besides, the degree of celebration for any victory generally depends on the energy invested, number of obstacles overcome and the level of perseverance.

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I, like most people have had my share of disappointments in my business and life in general: disappointments that have left me feeling beaten and broken to my very core. But the passion I have to achieve my life purpose has energized me to get up, pick up the broken pieces and move forward.

The questions are;

  1. What does it take to persevere through turbulent times?
  2. What does it take not to give up?
  3. Where do you get the drive to keep moving forward when you’ve been disappointed repeatedly?
  4. How do you persevere when you have failed so many times, and consequently believe that you are a failure and will continue to fail?

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In this video, I share a few personal stories that will inspire you to get up and keep moving forward. I also share 6 tools that will help you do the same.

The tools in summary are:

~ Be clear about what you want to offer and why?

~ Focus on becoming an expert in your field of preference.

  • Use related personal stories to support your credibility
  • Keep researching and learning new information about your field
  • Invest in self-development, coaching and/or counseling.

~ Don’t take things personally. Don’t let other people’s behavior, opinions and perceptions disorient you from pursuing your goals.

~ Focus on what you want religiously

~ Keep taking steps–however small.

~ Don’t give up.

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Dr. Jacinta Murray is an author, speaker, transformational coach and spiritual counselor. She works with over 1000 clients annually, on and offline, to help them achieve emotional freedom from the negative past, heal from trauma, abuse and stress, develop a success-infused mindset, cleanse the unconscious mind from blockages, resolve bloodline and lineage conflicts, and get clear about their life purpose—among other issues.

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5 Psychologically Proven Tips to Be at Peace When You can’t Change a Situation


Life can be extremely challenging at times. And during these times, it takes more than wishful thinking to stay sane and at peace. There are situations that can literally leave you numb.

What do you do?

In this video, I share 5 psychologically proven tips to help you be at peace when you hit rock bottom.

Remember, everything changes.

Let me know how you feel. Sending you much love and peace

Jacinta

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3 Behaviors that Can Lead to Business Failure


graduation-quotes-1In his book, “Taking People With You,” David Novak, CEO of Yum brands states, “To see above and far we need to climb on top of the shoulders of an elephant.” Implying that as business owners we need to examine what the leaders in our industry are doing to excel, borrow those ideas that fit into our business philosophies and then make them our own. Most importantly, we need to acknowledge those from whom we’ve borrowed the ideas. However, my experience has revealed that there are small business owners who do the exact opposite. They identify a business they admire and just keep taking their ideas less of authenticity. I guess that’s their way of surviving. However, it is shortsightedness to think that trying so hard to be like others will help one excel. 

To illustrate this further, below are 3 behaviors that can lead to business failure.

1. Ruthless Imitation of Others

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We are all unique and special with our own skills, experiences, and knowledge intended to help us progress in life and in business. Every experience we go through gives us a wealth of ideas and lessons we can base on to design services and/or products for the world. All prominent problems in one’s life are nuggets of wealth that can be transformed into solutions for others. Imitating others takes away from our authenticity and its positives. 

2. Greed

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“Greed is a bottomless pit which exhausts the person in an endless effort to satisfy the need without ever reaching satisfaction.” ~Eric Fromm

 

Greed is a sign of fear and a scarcity mentality. If one believes in their self-worth, they know that there’s enough to go around for everyone. It is okay to progress to get on top of one’s game, but it is draining to want more every time, without stopping to articulate what has been done, and/or how it can be improved. Furthermore, the only positive greed is for one to be greedy for releasing as much emotional, mental, energetic and spiritual baggage that could hold them back from achieving their goals. 

“As long as there is more greed than compassion, there will always be suffering.” ~ Rusty Eric

3. Impersonation.

These are business owners who lie about their qualifications and/or skills to appear superior. The point is, when a business owner lies about what they do, they have lied more to themselves than to the world. Sooner than later, the world will find out who and what they really are. Also, the important questions are, how can one build character if they are basing it on other people’s characters? How can a mango be a better mango if it is always trying to be an orange?

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When we as business owners are inauthentic, it implies that we do not have self-belief. We have low self-esteem and believe that who we are, our qualifications and skills are not good enough to influence others. However, impersonation takes a lot more energy than authenticity.  

When I first started out as a coach, I attended many seminars and read many books about self-development and life coaching. However, I still felt incompetent to originate my own ideas. So, my mentor got me to attend seminars on self-esteem and confidence. The information I gained from these seminars helped me build more confidence in my authenticity. And although sometimes I hold back from offering a new product or service to my target audience, I have learned that success is taking action despite doubt… despite fear. Therefore, it is vital to remember that running a business takes more than just wanting it. For us to succeed in business we have to be willing to do business with our mindsets consistently. We have to do the inner work in order to believe in who we are and what we have to offer to the world. And although it is okay to benchmark and/or work extremely hard in our businesses, it is more sustainable and healthy when we consider ourselves first: when we deal with our inner fears and especially how we feel about ourselves. Considering that we never offer what we want to the world, at least not consistently: we offer who we are. 

“For us to succeed in business we have to be willing to do business with our mindsets consistently.”

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How We Create Insanity: An Excerpt from my upcoming book – “The Sanity Warrior”


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Insanity begins by creating stories that are delusional: delusional in the sense that we normally don’t have practical evidence of our conclusive thoughts. For instance, we predict our future based on what happened in the past, or based on stories of other people. We also base our future predictions on present experiences and conclude with certainty that our lives will manifest the same way they are manifesting now. What’s interesting is that as we engross our minds in these predictions, we develop profound beliefs about our futures, and just like magic, our futures manifest as we predicted. So, we literally create our present and future realities as we continue to emotionally and mentally visualize experiences rooted on false facts. And because we’ve been given the free-will to think and visualize as we please, we’ve also been given the power to create our realities. But we forget or neglect this truth and blame everyone and everything out of ourselves for our experiences. Yet, we create our own suffering: because suffering is a personal inner experience (call it an emotion) that we consciously or unconsciously choose to feel. 

To summarize the preceding precepts, we live insanely because we’ve forgotten who we truly are, and what we are capable of. We forget, or are never convinced that our thoughts are powerful—and that they create. We neglect that no one and nothing has power over our emotions, except our own choices. We forget the basic truth that we cannot control anyone else but ourselves. Moreover, people are always changing their approach towards everything they do. Today someone might be kind and loving, and tomorrow he/she could be rude and/or sad. The more comfortable we get with our environments and the people we deal with, the more we relax our guard and reveal what’s inside of us. What’s inside depends on the number, diversity and intensity of experiences that someone has had all their lives; the related beliefs they’ve developed about their lives, life, and the world in general, plus relationships. What’s inside each one of us is complex. Therefore, regardless of how knowledgeable anyone is in subjects like psychology and/or human behavior, he/she can never be at the same pace with what consistently influences people to perceive and act the way they do.

Unfortunately, we go about life trying to change people; blaming them for being who they are, expecting them to love and accept us for who we are; thinking that we have the power to influence their actions, and that they owe us what we want to experience. When we believe that anyone owes us what we want to experience, then we have literally given them the power to choose our experiences based on what they know. We gain this mentality when we forget or negate that we experience who are. There is nothing without perception; also implying that if you don’t perceive something that “thing” does not exist in your reality. Because perception is a projection, we perceive according to what we have already created in our inner worlds: what we believe, what we consistently think about, and the stories we’ve created.

Therefore, if you don’t perceive it, it doesn’t exist. That’s why sometimes when you are crying over something, other people could celebrate over it. And it’s because we are all different—we have different opinions. Hence, everyone is doing the best they can with the mental, emotional and spiritual resources they’ve created within themselves. This also implies that what people do is their business. It’s their idea of expression and experience. So, it is insane to stress over what people do; considering that we have a choice to perceive things as we want, or decide not to experience what we don’t want. It’s because of this gift of free-will that God awarded us that we have also created a world of sorts. Sorts, in that the experiences we all individually create are so drastically different; some are extremely pleasurable if perceived that way, and others, sorrowful. It takes more than wishful thinking to stay connected to our true nature: a nature that consistently reveals its uniqueness through the selection of our perceptions and hence experiences.

Stay tuned for the book release date….

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7 Budgeting Mistakes to Avoid


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Budgeting is crucial to efficient and effective financial management. When we don’t budget, we end up either squandering money or missing out on paying for important and/or time sensitive transactions.

Note that the lack of budgeting is the very reason why the poor remain poor–because they don’t take time to think about what they want and research on how much it will cost.

The question is, how will you know what to spend your money on if you don’t budget? Remember that there is more to living than paying bills. Therefore, take control of your finances and establish budgeting as a mandatory act.

Below are 7 budgeting mistakes to avoid.

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Mistake 1:

When you don’t stick to your savings plan, or when you don’t have a savings plan. In order to achieve financial freedom putting away money as savings to either invest or fall back on in hard times, should be part of the game plan. If you don’t budget for your savings, you are basically rendering yourself vulnerable for financial disaster.

Mistake 2:

When you don’t update your budget plan:

It’s important to update your spending plan so that you are aware of what’s going on periodically. Get a note book, or download an app on your phone (www.everyDollar.com is a good one)) and use these tools to periodically update your budget.

Mistake 3:

When you underestimate or overestimate how much you spend: To avoid this mistake evaluate your previous month’s expenses to use as reference for your spending patterns.

Mistake 4:

When you don’t have a budget: When you don’t have a budget how will you know much to save or what to spend on?

Mistake 5:

When you don’t communicate with your spouse or people in your household about your budget standards: This applies if you have a family. You need to let your spouse know about your budgeting plans so that they spend within its limits.

Mistake 6:

When you only budget once in a while: You have to be consistent with your budget plans. It is an ongoing process, and the good news is that it gets easier with time.

Mistake 7:

Lack of budgeting before your payday: Getting money before you create a spending plan can be dangerous.  Note that by the time you create the plan, half the money will be gone on expenses that can not wait for you to decide whether you need a budget or not.

Note that budgeting is a healthy financial habit that you should embrace. Doing it right will make all the difference, and having a success infused mindset is the starting point.

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Looking to get more organized with your life and finances, check out my book, Do Not Force It, Tap The Good

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Dr. Jacinta Mpalyenkana, PHD, MBA is a counselor, transformational coach, corporate trainer, published author and professional speaker. For more about her, please check out http://www.tapthegood.com

Are You Ready to Become a Millionaire??


Have I caught your attention? 🙂 I hope so. One thing I know about the human race, is that we all want more for ourselves. Now, “more” is very different for everyone. Some people want to become millionaires, others, better cars, or upgraded cellphones. The point in emphasis is that if you want to achieve a goal or status higher than where you are right now, you also have to prepare your mind for it.

In this video, I share 4 steps to help one prepare his/her mindset for greater things.

Please share the video with others who might want some motivation today.

Sending you God’s love and light

Dr. Jacinta Mpalyenkana

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