How hard is it for you to focus on what you want?
What does it take?
This short video shares some insights on how to focus on what you want. Reference: Neville Goddard’s book – Interpretation of the Scripture.
Love and light
Emotions have a way of reminding us that we are all under the same universal influence….the psychological mind. Apparently, whether you own a bank or your money seems to be playing hide and seek in some unknown place, we all do this thing calling thinking. And the thoughts we dwell on determine how we feel. As soon as you believe a thought, it finds its way into your consciousness and anchors itself in. And it will do its work to manifest itself fully if you give it the attention it needs.
Let’s imagine that you are thinking about an unpleasant experience that happened a day before. If you dwell on these thoughts long enough, you will run all the conversations plus all the details of the event in your mind. And sooner than later, you will experience the same emotions you experienced, if not worse. The more you think about what went wrong, the more you feel weighed down. So, you conclude that you are actually weighed down. But are you really weighed down in the actual realm of things? Yes, you might feel heavy or uncomfortable, but let’s examine this conclusion further.
To begin, what does it really mean to be weighed down? It means that you are carrying something heavier than you are. Okay, let’s further examine these negative thoughts that we conclude weigh us down.
Questions: While these thoughts dwell in our minds, do they really have quantitative weight? Can you put them on a scale to determine their weight?
No, you can not. They are just thoughts whose life and then weight are generated from the attention you give them. The more attention you give them, the more life they have. Yet, both your attention and these thoughts are in you. You are neither. You are the observer of them both. So, do you still believe you are really weighed down? What’s really important in your life if it is not feeling okay no matter what is going on in your world?
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Love and light
“Pay attention,” said my math teacher–because I was always absentminded. I was 8 years old and math wasn’t my best friend. So in class, I was constantly thinking about chapatti (nan bread). A lady made the most delicious chapattis I have ever eaten. Everyday, she sat outside the school canteen ready to take orders. She made the chapattis in minutes, for each order. Consequently, the chapattis were hot, soft and fluffy. She added ginger, onions, rosemary leaves and other African species only known to her. The chapattis were always salted to perfection. I could never get enough. I still think about them. However, this wasn’t reason enough for me to give my attention to the chapattis instead of the math lessons I had to learn. As a result, I continued to struggle in math. But, I learned how to make good chapattis.
The question is, how do you assign your attention?
I’ve learned that attention is one of our most intimate and powerful mental tools. What we assign it to matters. Moreover, energy flows where the attention is. And this notion also contributes to how we create our realities. We find that what we pay attention to amplifies in our experiences. For instance, if you pay attention to a rude neighbor, a lot is going to manifest. Your mind will generate more negative thoughts about the neighbor and how rude they are. Your emotions will follow suite. You will start developing a disliking for the neighbor: a disliking amplified because you give the issue more of your attention.
The major news publishing companies in the world use this notion to influence our behavior. They broadcast news daily promoting fear, scarcity and danger. When we pay attention to this news we learn how to be afraid without any particular reason. Fear starts inspiring our decision making. We treat each other suspiciously and always look for where the trouble is not. Moreover, when we look for where something is not, we are still giving our attention to what we don’t want. And what we don’t want continues to manifest in our experiences. Bob Rotella, Sports Psychologist says it best in his quote: “Don’t think about how things will go wrong. Think about how they go will right.”
“Don’t think about how things will go wrong. Think about how they will go right.”
What Can We Do?
We have to understand that our inner world projects our outer world. So, the way we use our inner resources determines our experiences. Let’s pay attention to what we give our attention to.
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Mathew 8:22: “Let the dead go bury their dead…”~ Jesus
In relation to emotional intelligence, one of my interpretations of the above verse is that everything that happens in the past including a second ago, is dead…gone. If you dwell on it, you are dwelling on what’s dead.
And whatever you focus on you become. So, by focusing on a negative past you are literally murdering your attention (wasting away /killing your precious attention) that could be invested on more life progressing things.
When we realize this truth, then we can go about our business momentarily without dwelling on the negative and hence, dead past.
Use this method whenever you find your mind dwelling on the negative past. And you will discover that you are not your emotions; you are not your past. Your memories are just thoughts and/or ideas that when you observe closely within yourself, do not exist. You could create imaginary representations of these memories but in reality, they are just illusions.
With this realization, you will free your mind from the negative memories that way you down.
Sending you much peace and divine love.
Dr. Jacinta Mpalyenkana-Murray, PhD, MBA, is an author, Counselor, Transformational Coach and Speaker. She partners with her clients to help them achieve emotional freedom from the negative past.
I recently heard of a man who sued his parents for giving birth to him. He had gone through many challenges that propelled him to question the objective of his birth. In court, he accused his parents of planning to bring him into this world without his consent. Funny, because he wasn’t alive to give his consent to be born.
Much as this story seems like fiction, I understand his point of view. And I’m certain that if your life has presented avalanches of challenges, obstacles or failures at one point you’ve also wondered why you were born.
A couple of years ago, there were many months I spent several hours daily seeking answers for the multitude of problems I was experiencing. At times, I felt like breaking down but I remembered what my mother once told me; “Don’t give in and break down because of worldly troubles. You are more than them.” I picked up my broken-self, prayed and meditated for days, forgave (this took me many months) and things started getting better.
What are you experiencing today?
What is causing you pain?
Trust me when I say that everything changes. Nothing is permanent. Troubles or challenges might seem so big to handle or so powerful to pass away. However, everything that has a beginning has an end. This too will pass. Hang in there and don’t give in.
Most importantly, you can actively be the witness of all your experiences. Regardless of whatever is going on in your external environment you can internally step back and observe without creating attachments. You can observe without defining or creating relationships with any event. You have what it takes and more to let everything be as it is without categorizing it. You can watch without emotional engagement. If something needs you to take action, you can still act without letting your mind dig out for negative emotions to attach to your actions.
You can be a witness of all experiences without defining them. With such mindset, everything that happens is neither good or bad. Everything just is. And this notion works magic with experiences we would normally define as bad. Everything then becomes a passing thing. As a result, you are open to everything but attached to nothing. Your emotional thermometer is close to neutral. You are always neutral or at peace with everything. You are in control of your mind: of your emotions. You can choose how to feel without letting the mind manipulate you into generating negative emotions that do absolutely nothing for you. Remember the mind is unemployed without your attention. If the mind starts recruiting thoughts that generate negative emotions in you, move your attention to something else. Note that you are in control of your precious attention. You can choose what to give it to.
“Become like the sky. Regardless of the number, weight or color of the clouds in its space, the sky remains intact,” said my mentor.
John 16:33 These things I have spoken unto you, that in me ye might have peace. In the world ye shall have tribulation: but be of good cheer; I have overcome the world.
By “overcoming the world” Jesus meant being a constant witness of the world and its presentations without attaching, defining, relating to or letting his mind manipulate him into generating emotions to attach to these events.
Remember that a peaceful mind is the heavens playhouse.
Sending you much love and wishing you a gracious Easter
Peace and blessings.