How to Influence and Captivate an Audience:


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So many people begin with their own agendas as they communicate. Since they normally have something to say or prove, they deliver their messages without considering the person they are communicating with.

More often than not, they simply broadcast their message, as they assume that people will think it is the most important information in the world. On the other hand, good communicators know that people won’t start listening unless they connect intellectually and emotionally. The idea is to know your audience and start by conveying an emotional anecdote that shows your common perspective.

But how do you start?

In this article, I share two tips that will get you started.

  1. Know yourself.

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Dig deep to establish what makes you feel good about yourself, your confidence and self-esteem levels, your core message, and objectives. Remember that if you feel good about yourself, and your message, this will show in the way you deliver the message, and ultimately influence the reactions from your target audience.

  1. Know your audience.

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Before you address your audience, take time to find out the general attributes they share. For instance: if your target audience is a business oriented community, find out whether they are small business owners or employed; if they are just starting out as business owners, or already established; what their major challenges are; the dominant sex in the audience, etc. Although people’s interests and expectations in an audience vary, do the best you can to find out their commonalities and formulate your presentation with that information in mind.

Have I caught your attention?

Stay tuned to learn more about my newest book – Communicating Your Way to Success: Master the Art of Persuasion, Positively Influence Others, Increase Sales, and Stand Out from the Crowd” soon to be published by the end of August 2015.

Love and light

Dr. Jacinta Mpalyenkana, Ph.D., MBA

Author, Speaker, Counselor / Success Coach

www.tapthegood.com

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Rich Thoughts, Poor pessimism


It’s often said that the quality of our thoughts determines the quality of our experiences. Thoughts are the lens through which we see and interpret the world.

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However, thoughts do not create reality per say. Apparently, reality can neither be created nor destroyed. Thoughts are what determine the realities that we experience. If we choose to think rich healthy thoughts, then we achieve two things:

(i) We experience a rich and healthy emotional state.

(ii) We starve the negativity.

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Therefore, considering that energy flows where attention dwells, rich thoughts equate to poor pessimism: “poor” in regards to being denied the focus.

I’m aware that the topic of positive thinking is not new. Millions of visionaries, teachers and self-development personalities have written about, and discussed the power of our thoughts—due to the complexity and depth of our negative programming. We’ve been so immensely programmed to live in illusion: worrying about things that don’t, or no longer exist: depending on other people’s stories or our past experiences to forecast the future: holding onto negative emotions from our past experiences as if they serve us: blocking the flow of life, and the power in the now.

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Whatever situation you are facing today remember that you have the power to choose which thoughts and states to focus on.

One tip is to go back to the positive state or event right before the negative one happened…the one that is currently bombarding your emotions with negativity. Then, focus on the positive state as you tap into the related positive emotions. Dive into this picture, embrace the positive states. Feel the good feelings you felt during that experience. Then anchor in these emotions by placing your tongue to the roof of your mouth. Every time you feel a negative emotion, place your tongue to the roof of your mouth for a few minutes. This should help you get in touch with the positive state that you anchored.

This process will help you remember that you are not your emotions. You are more. You can hence become a witness, which then empowers you to ease the grip that these emotions have on your feelings.

Thirsty for more? Check out my book – Do Not Force It, Tap The Good. This book shares lessons that the world can live by.

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Love and light

Dr. Jacinta Mpalyenkana, PhD, MBA

Author, Speaker, Counselor, Success Coach/Mentor

Tapthegood.com

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Can I charge More?


Many business owners struggle with decisions to increase the prices of their products or services–or even set up prices that reflect on the value that they provide.

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Have you ever doubted or felt uncomfortable about increasing the prices of your products or services? What has this got to do with your self-esteem and confidence?

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In this short video, I give a few good tips that can be helpful.

Link to video – https://youtu.be/MLVln4szh5Q

Questions:

  1. Are you struggling with setting the right price for your products or services?
  2. Do you feel uncomfortable about raising your prices to match the value that your services or products provide?

I have a resource for you. Visit my website at http://www.tapthegood.com, fill in the contact form, and you will be signed up for a 30 minutes COMPLIMENTARY session guaranteed to benefit you and your business.

Remember, nothing happens if nothing moves. It’s up to you to move. 🙂

Love and light.

Dr. Jacinta Mpalyenkana, Ph.D, MBA

Author, Speaker, Success Coach

tapthegood.com

Do our Lives Need to Be Coached?


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The Dalai Lama once said, “the purpose of our lives is to be happy:” and for me that is the real benefit of coaching. What happiness actually means is unique to each and every one of us and more and more people are turning to a Life Coach to help them discover a great deal more happiness in their life.

The benefits you will gain from coaching include but are not limited to;

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  • Clarity about what you want, why you want it and how you can get it.

  • Bridging the gap between where you are now and where you want to be.

  • Strategies and techniques which facilitate you to reach your goal faster.

  • Overcome obstacles, low confidence and insecurities.

  • Explore and evaluate all possible options available.

  • Dedicated time, support, encouragement and motivation.

Remember, Life Coaching is an investment in yourself and it will benefit your entire life.

What I have done is made it financially affordable for those who want to access the benefits of life/business coaching but can not afford it.

Check out my limited time only offer on Groupon on this link https://www.groupon.com/deals/tap-the-good-counseling-and-success-coaching-services

Remember, nothings happens if nothing moves. You have to MOVE. 🙂

Love and Light

Dr. Jacinta Mpalyenkana, Ph.D., MBA

Author, Speaker, Counselor / Success Coach

http://www.tapthegood.com

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Do you Feel like you are Running Around in Circles?


There are times when we all feel so overwhelmed about life–when everything we do does not yield the results that we desire. During such times, we may feel as though the devil itself has binoculars on our lives.

I have experienced periods in my life when I felt as though I was moving against the wind. Everything seemed to break down. There was conflict surrounding me. Every action took me face to face with failure. I felt as though I was locked up behind a thick high wall with nowhere to go. I felt as if I was literally running around in circles–like a dog chasing its own tail. No amount of positive thinking made things better. Regardless of how hard and deeply I thought, no new information or ideas popped up in my mind as solutions. Even when I meditated and prayed for hours, I still felt a deep sense of emptiness and sadness.

Below are some of the steps that I have taken—things that have helped me get a new grip of my life.

1. Write down your goals.

2. Perform a situation analysis of your life; the steps you’ve been taking towards achieving your goals, the skills you have employed, plans, strategies, weaknesses, strengths, opportunities and threats.

2. Evaluate your successes and failures for the last 60 days.

3. STOP. Stop and relax. Stop making any major plans, taking any major actions or even expecting anything—good or bad to happen. Become a witness of your life. Observe. I know this might sound so hard to do, but if you have been taking a lot of action and seeing no results, then there is something missing. During such times, it also implies that we are not listening to our inner voice for direction or alerts.

4. Spend some time with yourself–at least 3 hours a day especially if you work for yourself. If you are employed and have to appear at a job every day, you can still become a witness of your own life by excluding judgement of others and the entire job situation. This might also mean that you don’t talk about your concerns with anyone. You are present at the job and doing what you have to do, but mindfully absent. I hope you understand what I mean. It’s about becoming laid back for a set period of time.

When we stop and do nothing major, we reduce the noises in our minds. This is when we get to hear the voice of God that is always existent at the back of our minds.

I hope this helps.

Love and light.

Dr Jacinta Mpalyenkana, Ph.D., MBA

Author, Speaker / Counselor / Coach / Mentor

http://www.tapthegood.com

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You are not your Emotions: An EFT and Ho’oponopono Complimentary Session


A few weeks ago, I blogged about how we all at times, jail up ourselves and stay in relationships with people who are more than energy vampires.

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In the relationship, you feel so emotionally weak and mentally drained, yet have no courage to walk away. He/she is like your personal blend of an addictive dangerous drug that you need to survive yet slowly but surely destroy yourself in the process. Consciously, you are well-aware that you should run for your life; however, something within you keeps you holding on. You can’t explain it. It hurts, yet emotionally stings even more, whenever you attempt to stay away from him/her.

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Do you feel me??? As also an Advanced Emotional Freedom Technique (EFT) Practitioner, I have included a brief video at the end of this article, with a free EFT session for anyone who feels like they are in a relationship-jail. The session will address general root-causes of any emotions that could be promoting one’s self-jailing attitude.

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EFT is a psychologically-charged technique discovered over five thousand years ago by the Acupuncturists. Just like them, less of needles, EFT works by one tapping on the same meridian points and self-talking, while acknowledging whatever emotions are engrossed in the body’s energetic system; which then magically gets rid of them. EFT has been known to produce instant results regardless of whether one believes in the process or not.

In the attached video, please tap along with me, as you repeat the statements that I say. Try it out with enthusiasm. This may be the ticket to your emotional freedom. Happy tappy. https://youtu.be/Z5F49Gon-aQ

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There is another resource that I recommend. The book – Love, Men and Money: How to Attract and Retain them, contains a lot of healing EFT sessions that will get you started on your emotional freedom journey.

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link to video is https://youtu.be/Z5F49Gon-aQ

Love and light

Dr. Jacinta Mpalyenkana, Ph.D, MBA

Author, Counselor / Success Coach

Tapthegood.com

Are you READY to be Inspired? Check this OUT!!


IJon pic recently had the pleasure of meeting with, and interviewing Jon Pirincci, a comedian, actor, and author of the book “What’s a Little Wind?” As you read the following interview-content, you will discover more about Jon, his work and book. If you are looking for a good inspirational relate-able book, What’s a Little Wind?” is an amazing book to consider.

1. Tell us about yourself and what you do.

I was born in Seattle Washington. When I was five yrs old, my parents moved to Rochester New York. After a few years living in New York, I decided to go to Orlando, Florida, a sunny place, with better weather where I could pursue my comedy and acting career. After living in Florida for 4 yrs, I learned that the television and film industry in Miami was blooming. So I moved to Miami and lived there for six yrs.

In 1998, I moved to Los Angeles to further my career in Acting and Comedy. I have lived in Los Angles for the past 15 yrs.

I am an actor and comedian. I love Stand-up comedy; and have been doing that for over 20 yrs. I also produce webi-sodes and pod-casts.   Additionally, I am an author of a motivational-spiritual book titled–“What’s a Little Wind?”

 2. When did you first realize you wanted to be a writer?

I have always wanted to write. I started by writing Jokes for my comedy routine with impressions, then a sitcom. I then realized that I really wanted to write a book about my life that would also inspire, and empower others. This is when I embarked on writing the book, What’s a Little Wind?” 

3. What do you think is unique about you as an author? What makes you stand out in the crowd of authors?

Having grown up in the 1960s and 70s, I understand the social positive structures and norms that made life fun and refreshing back then. This is some of what I embrace in my writing. I also blend in my humor and old fashioned values that everyone can relate to- especially in this era where technology is taking over humility and personable communication, in a world bombarded with negativity.

4. What inspired you to write this book?

I went to a motivational seminar by Joel Bauer in July 2013 where he indicated that everyone has a book in them. So I thought about it, and a month later I tapped into my creativity and started writing the book. And I have to admit that writing this book has been one of the most inspiring things that I’ve done in my life.

5How long did it take you to write this book?

4 months.

6. When did you publish this book?

 I self-published it in March 2014 through CreateSpace.

7. Who did you write this book for?

I wrote the book for anyone who is looking for empowerment, inspiration, and real-life stories to relate to.  

8Why do you think people should buy this book?

Since the book shares real life experiences of people who have gone through hard times, this book is written to inspire, empower and upgrade people’s lives. The book is very relate-able; which makes it easy for my readers to comprehend the fact that everything is about perception; and happiness is a choice that we can all make.

The book contains over 20 incredible and completely true stories about miracles of faith, angels, kismet, health, patriotism, neighbors, greed and spirits. Readers will also main achieve the following:

  • Gain new insights about this incredible, miraculous world we all live in.
  • Make meaningful and dramatic life changes based on fresh perspective.
  • Allow the wind to guide you into believing yourself and staying positive.
  • See how life opens one door and closes another for a reason that will soon be revealed.
9Please give us 4 benefits that your readers will achieve from this book.
  • They will be able to tap into their abundant happiness-resources.
  • They will understand that everything is about perception.
  • They will comprehend the fact that we all have a choice about what to focus on, and what to ignore.
  • The theme of the book, “What’s a little Wind” has inspired me and my readers to go through the hardest times—considering that stressing over our problems doesn’t make them easier, or chase them away. Becoming witnesses of our problems, and perceiving them as temporary, and with solutions to solve the problems, is what resolves them. 
10. Where can your readers find your books?
  1. whatslittlewind.com
  2. Paperback – http://www.amazon.com/Whats-Little-Wind-Inspirations-Situations-ebook/dp/B00J88BTAU/ref=sr_1_1_twi_2_kin?ie=UTF8&qid=1427726846&sr=8-1&keywords=jon+pirincci
  3. Kindle: http://www.amazon.com/Whats-Little-Wind-Jon-Pirincci/dp/1312577258/ref=tmm_pap_title_0?ie=UTF8&qid=1427726846&sr=8-1

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11. What is the retail price of your book?

   $19.95

12. What was one of the most surprising things you learned in writing your book?

That I can actually write a book; write every day, and be happy about it. It’s something that will stay with me forever– and I will always be proud I did it.

If you want to know more about Jon Pirincci and his book – What’s a Little Wind?” below are his contact details:

whatsalittlewind@gmail.com

Phone: (818) 906-4856

Love and Light.

Dr. Jacinta Mpalyenkana, Ph.D, MBA

Author, Speaker, Counselor / Success Coach

Tapthegood.com

Are you Stressed Out? Think Twice!


Often we all beaker and complain about the things we don’t have. We literally forget how blessed we are until we look around us just to see how good we have it.

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  • Today if you are worried and complaining about how dull or ugly your toilet paint looks, think about those who don’t even have access to toilets.

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  • If you are worried about not having the money to take your clothes to the dry cleaners, think about those who neither have access to, nor can afford to take their clothes to a laundry mart. 

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  • If you are complaining about how hot or cold it is in your house, think about those who live on the street. 

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  • If you are stressed about your job, think about those who have no chance or even mindset to seek for employment or upgrade their lives. 

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Whatever you are worried about today, please think twice–as you also watch this video. 🙂

Remember to be grateful as you count your blessings.:)

Link to the video – https://youtu.be/PEmXZgOeuwE

Love and light

Dr. Jacinta Mpalyenkana, Ph.D, MBA

Author, Speaker, Counselor / Success Coach

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I know What you are Going Through:


6 Steps to Retrieve Sustainable Success:

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It is common that whenever we are experiencing some discomforts in our lives, we state that “we are going” through some stuff. What is so great about the previous statement are the words “going through.” This implies that we are resolving the prevailing issues and moving towards our desired futures. However, it is easier said than done. “Going through” things for some people, might mean “going through a numbing process.” And what I mean by “numbing” is when people are investing in the denial process—where our negative emotions and fears are stored in ignorance of the consequences. What is depressing about this process is that these negative emotions never go away. We have to do the work to dissolve the negative emotions, and/or negative programming before we can be able to install the good inner stuff.

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Below, are six steps that will help you start letting go of the unwanted programming in order to install new positive inner programs that will upgrade your live.

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  1. List three self-limiting beliefs that you have about yourself.

  2. List three self-limiting beliefs that you have about money, success and/or your business?

  3. List three reasons why you think these self-limiting beliefs are serving you.

  4. List five reasons why you should let go of these beliefs.

  5. Explain how you think you will feel when you let go of these beliefs.

  6. Read the answers to question 5 every morning and evening for the next 5 days.

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Remember that the mindsets that land us in the messes we find ourselves into, can never be the mindsets that get us out. We have to let go of who we are for who we want to become. We have to make the changes, or our situations will stay the same. Fortunately, we have the power of choice to tap into in order to either upgrade, or retard our lives.

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I also understand that counseling and success coaching can be expensive: Reason as to why I have put together an online Life Liberation and Success Coaching program, discounted to help as many people as possible; easy to use in the comfort of your home, and most importantly, affordable.

If you are ready to heal your life, THE TIME IS NOW. Click on the button below to access more details about the program. http://tapthegood.com/business-intelligence-mastermind/

Scroll to the end of the middle column on the page, and give yourself the permission to change your life by signing up.

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If you have questions, I am only an email away.

Love and light

Dr. Jacinta Mpalyenkana, Ph.D, MBA

Trainer, S. Counselor / Certified Success Coach

www.tapthegood.com

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