5 Things to Help One Deal with a Chaotic Day


What does a chaotic day look like?

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Let’s imagine that your day seems to be getting worse with every ticking minute. It could be that since you got out of bed, everything seems to be working against you. Maybe the dog is sick, you aren’t feeling well yourself, you’ve called in sick to rest if you are employed, or canceled all your day’s appointments if you are self-employed. Let’s further imagine that all the major appliances in your house stop functioning due to an electric mishap, and you have to deal with your homeowners’ insurance company’s bureaucracy to get things fixed. Let’s also imagine that you had a horrible fight with your partner, your kids are sick, and a creditor made a mistake and double charged your account. Hence, you are short on cash. To make things worse, as you pull it together to go out of the house and solve some of these challenges, you discover that you have a flat tire; and you have absolutely no idea how to change a flat tire.

What do you do??

These are days that test our patience and force us to go within and retrieve our emotional and intellectual weapons. However, the great news is that no matter how bad the day seems, there is a part of you that remains untouched by the situation. That part, my friend, is your mind. You can use your mind to emotionally and mentally rise above any challenges regardless of how bad they seem: and this brings me to the 5 things you can do to deal with a chaotic day.

  1. Slow down.

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This means that take your time as you resolve every issue, one after another without trying to chunk them up. Make a to-do list as things to do begin presenting themselves. Focus on one thing at a time. This will help you stay on top of the issues that are resolved, and the ones that need more time or resources.  A to-do list also has a way of making us feel accomplished as we mark off every task that we finish.

  1. Remember to Breathe.

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By deep breathing you relax, which then gives you the clarity to deal with the issues you have at hand.

  1. Put on soothing music.

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Let soothing or relaxing music play in the background, and your brain will start picking up on the musical notes which will then help you relax.

  1. Drink a lot of water.

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The benefits of drinking water, especially in stressful situations, are obvious. Drinking a lot of water will keep you hydrated, focused and energetic.

  1. Don’t call anyone to tell them what you are going through.

When you call your friends or loved ones and start telling them what you are going through, firstly, you are wasting time. Secondly, they might make things feel worse for you. Therefore, trust yourself and know that you have the mental and emotional resources within you to solve the chaos. The only exception is if you are calling for professional help. As a matter of fact, if you receive a call amidst the chaos, don’t engage them, ask to call them back.

Remember, there is nothing out of yourself that has the power to disorient you. As long as you are still conscious, you can still tap into your internal resources to resolve any challenges. Furthermore, nothing lasts forever. Maintain your calm. Don’t worry. Everything will soon get back to normal. And even if it doesn’t, you have the human spirit that is always unconditionally fired up with the powers of perseverance, patience, and faith.  

“A calm mind brings inner strength and self-confidence; that’s very important for good health.” Dalai Lama

Love and light

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This article was written by Dr. Jacinta Mpalyenkana, Ph.D., MBA, Author, Counselor, Coach, Speaker. For more about her, please visit her website at http://www.tapthegood.com

Rich Thoughts, Poor pessimism


It’s often said that the quality of our thoughts determines the quality of our experiences. Thoughts are the lens through which we see and interpret the world.

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However, thoughts do not create reality per say. Apparently, reality can neither be created nor destroyed. Thoughts are what determine the realities that we experience. If we choose to think rich healthy thoughts, then we achieve two things:

(i) We experience a rich and healthy emotional state.

(ii) We starve the negativity.

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Therefore, considering that energy flows where attention dwells, rich thoughts equate to poor pessimism: “poor” in regards to being denied the focus.

I’m aware that the topic of positive thinking is not new. Millions of visionaries, teachers and self-development personalities have written about, and discussed the power of our thoughts—due to the complexity and depth of our negative programming. We’ve been so immensely programmed to live in illusion: worrying about things that don’t, or no longer exist: depending on other people’s stories or our past experiences to forecast the future: holding onto negative emotions from our past experiences as if they serve us: blocking the flow of life, and the power in the now.

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Whatever situation you are facing today remember that you have the power to choose which thoughts and states to focus on.

One tip is to go back to the positive state or event right before the negative one happened…the one that is currently bombarding your emotions with negativity. Then, focus on the positive state as you tap into the related positive emotions. Dive into this picture, embrace the positive states. Feel the good feelings you felt during that experience. Then anchor in these emotions by placing your tongue to the roof of your mouth. Every time you feel a negative emotion, place your tongue to the roof of your mouth for a few minutes. This should help you get in touch with the positive state that you anchored.

This process will help you remember that you are not your emotions. You are more. You can hence become a witness, which then empowers you to ease the grip that these emotions have on your feelings.

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Love and light

Dr. Jacinta Mpalyenkana, PhD, MBA

Author, Speaker, Counselor, Success Coach/Mentor

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