7 Steps to Un-hack the Brain From Illusion


What would you refer to as an illusion?

In my opinion an illusion is a false impression, a lie, a misinterpretation of something that’s perceived as something else. When I think about my mind and brain, illusions seem to happen more often than not especially when I’m everywhere else but in the present moment. Sometimes I come up with inner-stories to support situations, only to find out later that my thoughts were delusional—lies that only entertained my mind with negativity. With time, this has helped me understand that thoughts can manipulate our brains to develop mental routines that at times do not serve our well-being.

“Thoughts can manipulate our brains to develop mental routines that at times do not serve our well-being.”

The point is, the brain uses about 20% of the body’s total energy—and that’s a lot of energy. For that very reason the brain attempts, if we let it, to keep us protected and safe as it saves its energy. This can also imply that the brain resists change. So, if we get into a routine, the brain holds onto that routine whether it serves us or not. That’s why we resist change. That’s why routine is easier than exploration or adventure, especially if that’s what one has fed their brain with for a while.

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“The good news is that since we are not our brains, we can control, retrain, redirect and refocus it to snap out of the routines that no longer serve us.”

In this article, I share my experience on how the brain gets into a negative inward spiral—the illusion, and then share 7 steps on how we can un-hack the brain from this illusion.

Background:

Let’s imagine that something unfavorable happens in your experience. You start thinking about the event, and then develop feelings about it. Normally these are feeling of anger, disappointment, sadness, rage, bitterness or the like.

As you dwell more on the event, the brain begins taking note of the related frequencies that correspond to your emotions. Then, the brain starts recruiting similar events from your memory or environment. This is when you start thinking about things that went wrong in the past and how horrible they made you feel; plus the possibility of these events re-occurring in the future. Before you know it, the brain starts identifying triggers in your environment. And this is when you embark on noticing people or situations that accumulate negative feelings in you. One thing leads to another, and you find your mind trapped in a negative thinking spiral. If you don’t snap out of it, the brain turns this mental behavior into a routine. Then, you become a prominent negative thinker. What do you do?

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The 7 Steps to Un-hack the Brain From Illusion:

  1. Check in With Your Feelings.

If you feel stressed, bitter or any other negative emotions, know that the brain is up to something negative. Remember, our feelings are the thermometers of our thoughts. If you are experiencing negative emotions chances are that you are thinking about negative situations.

  1. Become a Witness of These Thoughts.

Once you realize that you are going into a negative thinking spiral, use your mind to become a witness of these thoughts. In your mind’s eye watch the thoughts as they come and go. Don’t attach to them.

  1. Tell Your Brain to Stop Focusing on The Negative

Remember that you are more than your brain. You own the brain, it doesn’t own you: so you can command it to do as you please.

  1. Breathe in deeply, as you imagine that your in-breath is bringing in divine light at a 360 degrees angle. Imagine being infused with divine healing light. Let this light penetrate every inch of your being, and then outflow to fill your aura and space where you are seated. Keep breathing deeply for about 10 minutes. This technique will help you get your mind out of the negative spiral.
  2. Block The Trigger Portals.

For instance, if watching negative news on television triggers negative emotions in you, don’t watch television for awhile until you are in control of your emotions. In any case, you shouldn’t be watching negative news. It’s bad for the mind.  🙂

  1. Look at Your “Desire list.”

This is a list you make for everything you want. You keep adding items or experiences that you want or desire as they pop up in your mind. Then start searching for their cost and including it on the list. This will help you get busy dwelling on what you want, whether you have the money or not. If you don’t have a “Desire list” it is time for you to create one.

  1. Stand Under a Shower.

Stand under the shower and let the water run down on you. Stay in the shower for at least 5 minutes as you breathe deeply. Repeat mentally, “Release, release, release” and imagine all the negativity and unwanted energy leaving your body, mind and spirit. Also, imagine that your brain is being washed, cleansed, renewed and purified.

Conclusion:

Remember that we are more than our bodies plus all its organs. We have the power to regulate our minds and brains, and tell them what they should dwell on. We are in control of our emotions. We are divine instructions created in the very image of God—meaning that we can create better experiences for our lives if we choose to.

Check out this meditation to start your day on a positive mood – https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=JWBksZzV9UM

 

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How to Deal with Rejection: My Personal Story – Part 1:


Feelings of rejection are normally reflections of past events or experiences that made and still make us feel left out. We probably tried to reach out to someone and he/she ignored us. There are several reasons why we develop feelings of rejection. And for the most part, these feelings have a way of making us feel insecure. Some people develop introvert personalities to protect themselves from being rejected again. Feelings of rejection can also create frustration, anger, resentment, sadness and ultimately, isolation.

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In this article, I will share a personal experience about rejection, how this experience made me feel, and how a fashion-modeling instructor helped me regain my confidence. In part 2 of this article, I will then share the 4 proven tools that I utilized to liberate myself from feelings of rejection.

My Story

I didn’t grow up with my biological father. There were times when I missed him so much, so I would escape from home and go to his family with intent to bond with them.

When I was 13 years old, I remember escaping from home to go to an auntie’s home (my dad’s sister), who happened to live about 7 miles away. I found my auntie and her kids having lunch. When she saw me, she told me that I should never go back to her home: that I wasn’t needed, and in her opinion, I wasn’t part of her family. She also told me that even if they had extra food to share, she would rather throw it in the trash than give it to me. “I hate you,” she said. I asked her why she hated me, and she told me that she could never allow her kids to associate with someone as needy, ugly and poor as I was. As I walked the seven miles back home, in the scolding heat, hungry and thirsty, I cried hysterically. I felt rejected and sad. And I believe that was the day I developed a mental conclusion that I was a societal reject.

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What this Experience did to me:

For many years I felt that I wasn’t good enough. At the back of my mind, I consistently heard my auntie telling me how needy, ugly and poor I was. Consequently, I lost my confidence. I didn’t feel good about myself. I concluded that no one liked me; and as a result, I isolated myself. I dropped all my friends and took refuge in reading books. And what was strange is that the kids at school and in my neighborhood also started rejecting me. Teachers would pick on me. I initiated conflicts with the few friends who stuck with me because I thought that it would be easier to break up with them sooner than later–since I was convinced that in the end, they would also reject me. I was always sad.

As of today, and after many years of studying human behavior, and psychology, I understand that since I was convinced that I would always be rejected, my brain looked for ways and experiences for me to be rejected–so that I didn’t think that I was crazy. I have also learned that whatever stories we tell ourselves, about who we are, are reflected in our experiences.

How a Fashion-modeling Instructor Helped me.

When I was 20 years old, in college, my friends persuaded me to participate in the Miss Uganda Beauty Contest. By that time, I thought I was over my auntie’s story. But the moment I went through the preliminary screening process, my auntie’s voice started mumbling at the back of my mind consistently; “You can never win; you are seriously ugly; no one will vote for you” the voice went on and on with all kinds of negative messages about what was wrong with me.  Every time we were practicing the catwalk or how to pose for pictures, I would shiver, and at times even cry. At one point I wanted to quit the contest because I was convinced that the judges would reject me at first sight. But my mother kept encouraging me to move forward.

One afternoon as we prepared for the Miss Photogenic portion of the contest, I went to the restroom, sat in one corner and started crying. Soon after, the modeling instructor came to the restroom and saw me weeping. She came and sat next to me.

“Why are you crying?” she said. I didn’t know how to explain how I felt.

“Common, tell me. Maybe I can help you.” She continued.

“I don’t think I’m good enough. I think the judges will reject me.”

“Who told you that?” She questioned.

Amidst tears, I summarized my auntie’s story.

“How long ago did your auntie tell you this nonsense?” She asked.

“About 7 years ago,” I answered.

She then held my hand and said, “Never let anyone’s perception of you determine how you should feel about yourself. You have the power to replace the bad things that people have said to you, with the good things that you want to feel about yourself.” She explained. These statements were like light bulbs in my mind. They helped me realize that in spite of what my auntie had told me, I still had the power to decide how I could feel about myself.

Rescued

The instructor helped me off the floor, quickly re-did my makeup and off to the stage, I went feeling much better about myself. And although I didn’t win the Miss photogenic contest, I felt energetic and hopeful that I would eventually love myself unconditionally. While I knew that this would take time, the instructor’s advice had laid a firm foundation for me to start changing my self-concept.

Over the years, and now as a counselor and transformational coach, I have referred to this story to continue empowering myself and also help my clients deal with rejection-related insecurities. And I always remember what Dr. Wayne Dyer once said; “it is not the snake bite that kills a person; it’s the venom.” This means that it’s not what people say to you that affect you; it’s how you interpret it.

In part 2 of this article, I will share the 4 proven tools that I used to regain my confidence and develop a healthier self-esteem.

Love and light

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How to Escape the Enslavement of your Brain.


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I recently decided to administer an experiment with intent to establish the extent to which my daily habits were cemented in my unconscious.  To support the proceeding, I moved my toothpaste cup to an opposite cupboard. Every morning I unconsciously went to the original place where I always placed the toothpaste cup only to remember that I had moved it to a different place. It took me about two weeks before I could go straight to the new place without checking in the old one. This proved to me that if a habit as simple as the proceeding had taken me that long to change, how long would it take to change other profound thought processes and beliefs that I have established about myself since childhood? This discovery scared the hell out of me. However what soothed my racing mind was the fact that leaving the toothpaste cup in the new place eventually became the new habit.  Soon, I was able to go straight to the new location without much thought.

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How does the above relate to escaping the enslavement of our brains?

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It all comes down to one thing. Everything we do on a daily basis is grabbed by the brain as a sensation and manufactured into a habit. Every habit becomes the blue print of our experiences. Imagine that you’ve been thinking negatively for a long time. The brain will manufacture everything in your world to be in congruence with your most predominate thoughts.

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Start today by changing a simple self-limiting thought about yourself. For instance, if you’ve been telling yourself that you are fat, tell yourself several times that you have the perfect weight.

Begin with simple things, and then build up by changing all those negative thoughts about yourself.

Simplified:

  1. The first step is writing down all the things you think are negative about yourself.
  2. Write down everything that is not working in your life.
  3. Then write down the opposite attributes of the list in step 1, and what you want to happen instead in step 2.
  4. Read your new list in no. 3 — three times a day.

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This will eventually re-wire your brain to navigate for what you want.

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Love and light

Dr. Jacinta Mariah

Master EFT Practitioner, Theta Healer, Reiki Master, Certified Life Coach

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