7 Steps to Un-hack the Brain From Illusion


What would you refer to as an illusion?

In my opinion an illusion is a false impression, a lie, a misinterpretation of something that’s perceived as something else. When I think about my mind and brain, illusions seem to happen more often than not especially when I’m everywhere else but in the present moment. Sometimes I come up with inner-stories to support situations, only to find out later that my thoughts were delusional—lies that only entertained my mind with negativity. With time, this has helped me understand that thoughts can manipulate our brains to develop mental routines that at times do not serve our well-being.

“Thoughts can manipulate our brains to develop mental routines that at times do not serve our well-being.”

The point is, the brain uses about 20% of the body’s total energy—and that’s a lot of energy. For that very reason the brain attempts, if we let it, to keep us protected and safe as it saves its energy. This can also imply that the brain resists change. So, if we get into a routine, the brain holds onto that routine whether it serves us or not. That’s why we resist change. That’s why routine is easier than exploration or adventure, especially if that’s what one has fed their brain with for a while.

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“The good news is that since we are not our brains, we can control, retrain, redirect and refocus it to snap out of the routines that no longer serve us.”

In this article, I share my experience on how the brain gets into a negative inward spiral—the illusion, and then share 7 steps on how we can un-hack the brain from this illusion.

Background:

Let’s imagine that something unfavorable happens in your experience. You start thinking about the event, and then develop feelings about it. Normally these are feeling of anger, disappointment, sadness, rage, bitterness or the like.

As you dwell more on the event, the brain begins taking note of the related frequencies that correspond to your emotions. Then, the brain starts recruiting similar events from your memory or environment. This is when you start thinking about things that went wrong in the past and how horrible they made you feel; plus the possibility of these events re-occurring in the future. Before you know it, the brain starts identifying triggers in your environment. And this is when you embark on noticing people or situations that accumulate negative feelings in you. One thing leads to another, and you find your mind trapped in a negative thinking spiral. If you don’t snap out of it, the brain turns this mental behavior into a routine. Then, you become a prominent negative thinker. What do you do?

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The 7 Steps to Un-hack the Brain From Illusion:

  1. Check in With Your Feelings.

If you feel stressed, bitter or any other negative emotions, know that the brain is up to something negative. Remember, our feelings are the thermometers of our thoughts. If you are experiencing negative emotions chances are that you are thinking about negative situations.

  1. Become a Witness of These Thoughts.

Once you realize that you are going into a negative thinking spiral, use your mind to become a witness of these thoughts. In your mind’s eye watch the thoughts as they come and go. Don’t attach to them.

  1. Tell Your Brain to Stop Focusing on The Negative

Remember that you are more than your brain. You own the brain, it doesn’t own you: so you can command it to do as you please.

  1. Breathe in deeply, as you imagine that your in-breath is bringing in divine light at a 360 degrees angle. Imagine being infused with divine healing light. Let this light penetrate every inch of your being, and then outflow to fill your aura and space where you are seated. Keep breathing deeply for about 10 minutes. This technique will help you get your mind out of the negative spiral.
  2. Block The Trigger Portals.

For instance, if watching negative news on television triggers negative emotions in you, don’t watch television for awhile until you are in control of your emotions. In any case, you shouldn’t be watching negative news. It’s bad for the mind.  🙂

  1. Look at Your “Desire list.”

This is a list you make for everything you want. You keep adding items or experiences that you want or desire as they pop up in your mind. Then start searching for their cost and including it on the list. This will help you get busy dwelling on what you want, whether you have the money or not. If you don’t have a “Desire list” it is time for you to create one.

  1. Stand Under a Shower.

Stand under the shower and let the water run down on you. Stay in the shower for at least 5 minutes as you breathe deeply. Repeat mentally, “Release, release, release” and imagine all the negativity and unwanted energy leaving your body, mind and spirit. Also, imagine that your brain is being washed, cleansed, renewed and purified.

Conclusion:

Remember that we are more than our bodies plus all its organs. We have the power to regulate our minds and brains, and tell them what they should dwell on. We are in control of our emotions. We are divine instructions created in the very image of God—meaning that we can create better experiences for our lives if we choose to.

Check out this meditation to start your day on a positive mood – https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=JWBksZzV9UM

 

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Four Tips to Deal with Rejection: Part 2:


In part 1 of this article, “How to Deal with Rejection – based on a personal story”, I shared a personal story about one of my childhood experiences of rejection. I’m certain that you or someone you know has gone through similar or maybe even worse experiences.

In this article, I share 4 tips that helped me deal with rejection and build a healthier self-esteem. And although I appreciate the fact that your experiences or those of your loved ones might be different, I’m also certain that anyone will be able to customize these tips and make them their own in order to resolve any rejection related emotional issues that they might be experiencing.

Tip 1: Know That no one can Reject You.

As weird as it might sound, believe me when I say that no one can actually reject you. One of the meanings of rejection is to be eliminated. And in my opinion, no one can eliminate you per-say. One might eliminate your presence from a scene, or disregard what you say, but he/she can never eliminate your existence. Chances are that what you perceive as rejection is an incident where someone probably did not resonate with, understand, or agree with whatever you were presenting or offering. However, with all due respect, this doesn’t mean that the entire awesome you was discarded.

Therefore, the first tip you can employ to deal with rejection-related emotions is to change your perception of the word, rejection and how it applies to you as an individual.

No one can reject you

Tip 2: Know that People’s Actions are Their Business.

As you deal with the rejection-related emotions, understand that perception is projection. Behavior is founded on internal representations: meaning that people behave as they have learned to, based on their beliefs and thought processes, mental, emotional and spiritual states. Everyone is doing the best they can with the internal resources they have. I’m sure you’ve heard the statement, “squeeze an orange and you get orange juice.” When someone is filled with anger, sadness or whatever other emotions that they might have, that’s exactly what’s going to come out of them as they perceive the world, as well as act. Therefore, if someone rejects something about you, this has nothing to do with you. It is their business. That’s how they know how to operate. Note that at that point in time, your presence or whatever they rejected triggered a decision within them to reject. Consequently, you can’t take things personally. And most importantly, you have to forgive them for their actions because they probably didn’t even realize that there was anything wrong with the way they acted. Just as you can’t expect mango juice to come out of an orange, you can’t expect a person filled with rudeness or anger to treat you with kindness or non-judgment.

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Tip 3: Take 100% Responsibility Of Your Emotions:

When we take full responsibility of our negative emotions, we take our power back from whoever we have blamed for the way we feel. By taking full responsibility for the rejection-related negative emotions, we get to understand that no one has the power to make us feel a certain way; and that we have the power to heal ourselves. This process begins by identifying all those negative emotions that you are feeling. Write them down. Examine each one of them to identify the root causes. Establish if the root causes are really based on truths. For instance, if one of the negative related emotions you are dealing with is sadness, the root cause is what the person said or did, that made you believe that you are a reject. When you examine tip 1, you realize that you are not really a reject. Tip 2, is telling you that whatever the person did is not your business. Consequently, your perceptions are not founded on the truth. You are not a reject. Therefore, you just have to let the sadness go because it is built on lies.

The next step is to forgive yourself for being sad for the wrong reasons. Here’s a link (https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=jGUjtMRS_5k) with a forgiveness process that I recorded a few years ago. To access the link, please copy and paste the link in a new browser, then click “enter.”

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Tip 4: Know That You Can Create a New And Better Story About Your Self-Image

The thoughts and related beliefs about being rejection are founded on a story you created based on an experience that you believed to be the truth. Note that just as you created this story, you also have the power to erase it and then create a new and better story about how you want to feel about yourself. You can do this by thinking about how you want to perceive your self-image. Decide how you want to be perceived. Write these attributes down. Read them to yourself every day until you believe them as the truth. For instance, you can write statements such; I accept and love myself just as I am. I am worthy. I deserve to be treated with respect. I respect myself—you get the idea. The fundamental thing to do is to think and believe these statements as the truth. And by doing this, you will be writing a better story that will improve your perception of yourself.
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Please note that although these tips are simplified, they helped me deal with my rejection-related negative emotions and I believe they can help you or anyone else. The idea is to make the tips your own, do the work on yourself, and remember that persistence and repetition are necessary ingredients required to establish and reinforce desired change.

The author is Jacinta Mpalyenkana, Ph.D., MBA. She’s an author, speaker, counselor and transformational coach. For more about her, please check out her website at www.tapthegood.com

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10 Tips to Achieve Success -In Celebration of March 1st, (Global Worry-free day)


Today, March 1st is the Global Worry-free day. A day I founded in 2014 as a first step to help myself and others to shift our minds away from worry, and focus on gratitude.

Click on this LINK to listen to the 10 tips to get inspired and achieve success.

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Video link – https://youtu.be/C3kLQIPFuT0

Remember that when we embrace patience, instead of worry, “infinite patience produces infinite results.” Confucious.

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Please spread the word.

Love and light

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Are you PERFECT?


Many, if not all people get offended whenever this question is posed to them.

Perfection of the self has been questioned and ridiculed longer than time. It has been debated century after another in an attempt to discover what it really denotes. 

Firstly, we are all different in so many ways, which also implies that perceptions of what is perfect and what is not drastically vary. One’s sense of perfection may be another’s sense of the absolute opposite.  

Accordingly, whenever this question is posed to anyone, it tends to scream “criticism” or “disapproval” since it is rarely used with honest intent.

My point of view is that we are perfect as long as we stop trying to impress, scorn and/or out-compete others. Furthermore, the self less of fear, resentment, self hatred, self-judgment and punishment,   selfishness, envy and all negative feelings in general, is perfection.

Perfection is more of an inner concept than the physical self which apparently changes with every second we breathe.

Perfection is when one loves him/herself unconditionally to a sweet level of loving others without expecting anything in return. Which also implies that he/she doesn’t take things personally, doesn’t make assumptions, and is impeccable with his/her word. If one is truthful with him/herself, forgives him/herself easily, makes personal decisions without seeking external approval, then that is perfection.

Perfection is being in touch with oneself 24/7, believing in oneself and knowing that he/she is a perfect creation of God.

So, this brings me back to my original question; are you perfect?

Well, am not; but am working on it. 

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