The Only Competition there is, is with YOU!


Beloved soul,

Know that you are enough, and can never compete with anyone. You are unique, and there’s only one you with your blue print. So, focus on making yourself the best you. Don’t try to compete with anyone. Compete with yourself. Be better today than you were yesterday. Even when you are in a competitive setting, focus on expressing yourself the best way you can. The rest will work out itself.

In this VIDEO, I share an empowerment message with the preceding content as the theme.

Link to the video – https://youtu.be/Y0Mjku0GUb4

Love and light

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How to Deal with Rejection: My Personal Story – Part 1:


Feelings of rejection are normally reflections of past events or experiences that made and still make us feel left out. We probably tried to reach out to someone and he/she ignored us. There are several reasons why we develop feelings of rejection. And for the most part, these feelings have a way of making us feel insecure. Some people develop introvert personalities to protect themselves from being rejected again. Feelings of rejection can also create frustration, anger, resentment, sadness and ultimately, isolation.

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In this article, I will share a personal experience about rejection, how this experience made me feel, and how a fashion-modeling instructor helped me regain my confidence. In part 2 of this article, I will then share the 4 proven tools that I utilized to liberate myself from feelings of rejection.

My Story

I didn’t grow up with my biological father. There were times when I missed him so much, so I would escape from home and go to his family with intent to bond with them.

When I was 13 years old, I remember escaping from home to go to an auntie’s home (my dad’s sister), who happened to live about 7 miles away. I found my auntie and her kids having lunch. When she saw me, she told me that I should never go back to her home: that I wasn’t needed, and in her opinion, I wasn’t part of her family. She also told me that even if they had extra food to share, she would rather throw it in the trash than give it to me. “I hate you,” she said. I asked her why she hated me, and she told me that she could never allow her kids to associate with someone as needy, ugly and poor as I was. As I walked the seven miles back home, in the scolding heat, hungry and thirsty, I cried hysterically. I felt rejected and sad. And I believe that was the day I developed a mental conclusion that I was a societal reject.

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What this Experience did to me:

For many years I felt that I wasn’t good enough. At the back of my mind, I consistently heard my auntie telling me how needy, ugly and poor I was. Consequently, I lost my confidence. I didn’t feel good about myself. I concluded that no one liked me; and as a result, I isolated myself. I dropped all my friends and took refuge in reading books. And what was strange is that the kids at school and in my neighborhood also started rejecting me. Teachers would pick on me. I initiated conflicts with the few friends who stuck with me because I thought that it would be easier to break up with them sooner than later–since I was convinced that in the end, they would also reject me. I was always sad.

As of today, and after many years of studying human behavior, and psychology, I understand that since I was convinced that I would always be rejected, my brain looked for ways and experiences for me to be rejected–so that I didn’t think that I was crazy. I have also learned that whatever stories we tell ourselves, about who we are, are reflected in our experiences.

How a Fashion-modeling Instructor Helped me.

When I was 20 years old, in college, my friends persuaded me to participate in the Miss Uganda Beauty Contest. By that time, I thought I was over my auntie’s story. But the moment I went through the preliminary screening process, my auntie’s voice started mumbling at the back of my mind consistently; “You can never win; you are seriously ugly; no one will vote for you” the voice went on and on with all kinds of negative messages about what was wrong with me.  Every time we were practicing the catwalk or how to pose for pictures, I would shiver, and at times even cry. At one point I wanted to quit the contest because I was convinced that the judges would reject me at first sight. But my mother kept encouraging me to move forward.

One afternoon as we prepared for the Miss Photogenic portion of the contest, I went to the restroom, sat in one corner and started crying. Soon after, the modeling instructor came to the restroom and saw me weeping. She came and sat next to me.

“Why are you crying?” she said. I didn’t know how to explain how I felt.

“Common, tell me. Maybe I can help you.” She continued.

“I don’t think I’m good enough. I think the judges will reject me.”

“Who told you that?” She questioned.

Amidst tears, I summarized my auntie’s story.

“How long ago did your auntie tell you this nonsense?” She asked.

“About 7 years ago,” I answered.

She then held my hand and said, “Never let anyone’s perception of you determine how you should feel about yourself. You have the power to replace the bad things that people have said to you, with the good things that you want to feel about yourself.” She explained. These statements were like light bulbs in my mind. They helped me realize that in spite of what my auntie had told me, I still had the power to decide how I could feel about myself.

Rescued

The instructor helped me off the floor, quickly re-did my makeup and off to the stage, I went feeling much better about myself. And although I didn’t win the Miss photogenic contest, I felt energetic and hopeful that I would eventually love myself unconditionally. While I knew that this would take time, the instructor’s advice had laid a firm foundation for me to start changing my self-concept.

Over the years, and now as a counselor and transformational coach, I have referred to this story to continue empowering myself and also help my clients deal with rejection-related insecurities. And I always remember what Dr. Wayne Dyer once said; “it is not the snake bite that kills a person; it’s the venom.” This means that it’s not what people say to you that affect you; it’s how you interpret it.

In part 2 of this article, I will share the 4 proven tools that I used to regain my confidence and develop a healthier self-esteem.

Love and light

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The Most Powerful Tip to Help you Stop Worrying


Worrying is the foundation of stress. Stress is the foundation of disease and other physical complications.

In this VIDEO, I share with you a common but powerful tip to help one stop worrying. If you can practice this technique every time you catch yourself worrying, I guarantee that your mind will soon learn the new way of automatically changing your “State” and then help you to avoid worrying.

Link to video – https://youtu.be/XLNEx7HGIr8

Love and light

Dr. Jacinta Mpalyenkana, Ph.D. MBA

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I need Your Support


Dear friends,

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The book is now available to pre-order on kindle at ONLY $0.99, paperback – $9.75 – 50% off the price. 

Please, pre-order the book either in kindle or paperback to help me become a best seller. 
 
Thank you so much in advance. I appreciate you.
 
Have a gracious day. 
 
Dr. Jacinta Mpalyenkana, Ph.D. MBA
Author, Speaker, Counselor & Success Coach
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Ph: 818-862-1182

Can I charge More?


Many business owners struggle with decisions to increase the prices of their products or services–or even set up prices that reflect on the value that they provide.

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Have you ever doubted or felt uncomfortable about increasing the prices of your products or services? What has this got to do with your self-esteem and confidence?

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In this short video, I give a few good tips that can be helpful.

Link to video – https://youtu.be/MLVln4szh5Q

Questions:

  1. Are you struggling with setting the right price for your products or services?
  2. Do you feel uncomfortable about raising your prices to match the value that your services or products provide?

I have a resource for you. Visit my website at http://www.tapthegood.com, fill in the contact form, and you will be signed up for a 30 minutes COMPLIMENTARY session guaranteed to benefit you and your business.

Remember, nothing happens if nothing moves. It’s up to you to move. 🙂

Love and light.

Dr. Jacinta Mpalyenkana, Ph.D, MBA

Author, Speaker, Success Coach

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Are you READY to be Inspired? Check this OUT!!


IJon pic recently had the pleasure of meeting with, and interviewing Jon Pirincci, a comedian, actor, and author of the book “What’s a Little Wind?” As you read the following interview-content, you will discover more about Jon, his work and book. If you are looking for a good inspirational relate-able book, What’s a Little Wind?” is an amazing book to consider.

1. Tell us about yourself and what you do.

I was born in Seattle Washington. When I was five yrs old, my parents moved to Rochester New York. After a few years living in New York, I decided to go to Orlando, Florida, a sunny place, with better weather where I could pursue my comedy and acting career. After living in Florida for 4 yrs, I learned that the television and film industry in Miami was blooming. So I moved to Miami and lived there for six yrs.

In 1998, I moved to Los Angeles to further my career in Acting and Comedy. I have lived in Los Angles for the past 15 yrs.

I am an actor and comedian. I love Stand-up comedy; and have been doing that for over 20 yrs. I also produce webi-sodes and pod-casts.   Additionally, I am an author of a motivational-spiritual book titled–“What’s a Little Wind?”

 2. When did you first realize you wanted to be a writer?

I have always wanted to write. I started by writing Jokes for my comedy routine with impressions, then a sitcom. I then realized that I really wanted to write a book about my life that would also inspire, and empower others. This is when I embarked on writing the book, What’s a Little Wind?” 

3. What do you think is unique about you as an author? What makes you stand out in the crowd of authors?

Having grown up in the 1960s and 70s, I understand the social positive structures and norms that made life fun and refreshing back then. This is some of what I embrace in my writing. I also blend in my humor and old fashioned values that everyone can relate to- especially in this era where technology is taking over humility and personable communication, in a world bombarded with negativity.

4. What inspired you to write this book?

I went to a motivational seminar by Joel Bauer in July 2013 where he indicated that everyone has a book in them. So I thought about it, and a month later I tapped into my creativity and started writing the book. And I have to admit that writing this book has been one of the most inspiring things that I’ve done in my life.

5How long did it take you to write this book?

4 months.

6. When did you publish this book?

 I self-published it in March 2014 through CreateSpace.

7. Who did you write this book for?

I wrote the book for anyone who is looking for empowerment, inspiration, and real-life stories to relate to.  

8Why do you think people should buy this book?

Since the book shares real life experiences of people who have gone through hard times, this book is written to inspire, empower and upgrade people’s lives. The book is very relate-able; which makes it easy for my readers to comprehend the fact that everything is about perception; and happiness is a choice that we can all make.

The book contains over 20 incredible and completely true stories about miracles of faith, angels, kismet, health, patriotism, neighbors, greed and spirits. Readers will also main achieve the following:

  • Gain new insights about this incredible, miraculous world we all live in.
  • Make meaningful and dramatic life changes based on fresh perspective.
  • Allow the wind to guide you into believing yourself and staying positive.
  • See how life opens one door and closes another for a reason that will soon be revealed.
9Please give us 4 benefits that your readers will achieve from this book.
  • They will be able to tap into their abundant happiness-resources.
  • They will understand that everything is about perception.
  • They will comprehend the fact that we all have a choice about what to focus on, and what to ignore.
  • The theme of the book, “What’s a little Wind” has inspired me and my readers to go through the hardest times—considering that stressing over our problems doesn’t make them easier, or chase them away. Becoming witnesses of our problems, and perceiving them as temporary, and with solutions to solve the problems, is what resolves them. 
10. Where can your readers find your books?
  1. whatslittlewind.com
  2. Paperback – http://www.amazon.com/Whats-Little-Wind-Inspirations-Situations-ebook/dp/B00J88BTAU/ref=sr_1_1_twi_2_kin?ie=UTF8&qid=1427726846&sr=8-1&keywords=jon+pirincci
  3. Kindle: http://www.amazon.com/Whats-Little-Wind-Jon-Pirincci/dp/1312577258/ref=tmm_pap_title_0?ie=UTF8&qid=1427726846&sr=8-1

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11. What is the retail price of your book?

   $19.95

12. What was one of the most surprising things you learned in writing your book?

That I can actually write a book; write every day, and be happy about it. It’s something that will stay with me forever– and I will always be proud I did it.

If you want to know more about Jon Pirincci and his book – What’s a Little Wind?” below are his contact details:

whatsalittlewind@gmail.com

Phone: (818) 906-4856

Love and Light.

Dr. Jacinta Mpalyenkana, Ph.D, MBA

Author, Speaker, Counselor / Success Coach

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Five Things that Mentally and Emotionally Strong People don’t do.


1. They don’t follow the herd

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2. They don’t externalize their power

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3. They don’t play it small

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4. They don’t look for external validation to feel good about themselves.

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5. They don’t try to please everybody.

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  •  But how do we do that when we are bombarded by emotional baggage?

  •  How do we become mentally and emotionally strong when our past is haunting us?

  •  How do we stand up for ourselves with all those internalized voices telling us that we are not good enough?

  •  How do we do the best we can, with all our might, when we feel like the world has robbed us of all we have?

 Well, the answer to all the above questions is clear: “it’s by taking our power back.” How do we take our power back? –you may wonder! We take our power back by investing in our emotional, and mental liberation, and evolution.  It’s about being so tired of being tired. It’s about being sick of being sick and tired.
 You may want to check out my new on-line liberation and success coaching mastermind that starts 4/6/2015. Link is http://tapthegood.com/business-intelligence-mastermind/
But that’s only, and only if you are ready to heal and claim your true magnificence, and then take your power back.

Love and light

Dr. Jacinta Mpalyenkana, Ph.D, MBA

Author, Speaker, Counselor / Success Coach

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