What the Heck are You Thinking? An Inspirational Message


In this audio recording, I share my take on the power of thoughts.

Please share with anyone you believe will benefit from my message.

Link to recording – https://youtu.be/wl0bNCDhztQ

In the interim, love and light

Dr. Jacinta Mpalyenkana, Ph.D., MBA

Author, Coach, Counselor, Speaker

http://www.tapthegood.com

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How to Improve a Mother-Daughter Relationship.


As a counselor and personal coach, one of the issues that I occasionally help my clients with is to improve their relationships with their parents and/or daughters. In this article, I share 5 tips that can help improve a mother-daughter relationship.

 1. Be Proactive

Don’t wait for the other person to make the first move. If you have any issues to discuss, make the move. Think about how you feel in the relationship and what you can do to change.

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  1. Work on improving yourself.

Many think that the only way to improve a relationship is for the other person to change their ways. However, we can all individually take full responsibility of our actions and reactions and improve our thought processes in such a way that makes us feel good about ourselves

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  1. Have realistic expectations.

Both moms and daughters often have idealistic expectations about their relationship. For instance, kids commonly think their mom will be nurturing and present — always. This idea can develop from an early age. As a daughter, remember that your mom also has her own life and issues to deal with. Be empathetic: and the same goes for mothers.

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  1. Communicate.

Lack of communication is a common challenge with moms and daughters. In some ways they can be so close or feel so close that they believe that each of them should know how the other one feels. It’s vital to know that complaining disrupts the message. When there is conflict, explain what was done and how it made you feel. It is not about blaming the other person or giving them titles. It is about focusing on your personal feelings about their actions or words and being as clear as possible. After explaining, it is important to give the other person time to explain. Most times you will discover that they didn’t even mean to hurt you.

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  1. Be an active listener.

Active listening is reflecting back what the other person is saying, instead of assuming you already know. When you reflect back to what your mom or daughter is saying, you’re telling her that she’s being heard and that you understand.

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If you utilize these tips whenever conflict arises, chances are that your relationship will be healthier than if you just keep quiet and don’t communicate your concerns.

Need help with your family relationships? Send me an email at www.tapthegood.com/contacts/ I can help.

Love and light.

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The Most Powerful Tip to Help you Stop Worrying


Worrying is the foundation of stress. Stress is the foundation of disease and other physical complications.

In this VIDEO, I share with you a common but powerful tip to help one stop worrying. If you can practice this technique every time you catch yourself worrying, I guarantee that your mind will soon learn the new way of automatically changing your “State” and then help you to avoid worrying.

Link to video – https://youtu.be/XLNEx7HGIr8

Love and light

Dr. Jacinta Mpalyenkana, Ph.D. MBA

http://www.tapthegood.com

Who is to Blame?


It’s apparent that since we are born, we are programmed to blame our challenges to our parents, teachers at school, relatives, friends, the government, God, and everything else but ourselves. Name it; we’ve been programmed to believe that someone or something out of ourselves is responsible for our failures or adversaries.

This mindset has disempowered us to take control of our lives. We consistently hope that something or someone out of us will come to our rescue. This is not to say that we don’t need our fellow humans for support or survival. The point in emphasis is that we weaken our minds by thinking that someone other than us will liberate our lives.

The important lesson that I’ve learned is that within us are the seeds of our adversaries, challenges, and disappointments, and also the source of all the solutions that we seek for. The challenge is to recognize this truth and work with it to consistently stand above all challenges, take full responsibility of our well-being, and become the authorities of our lives.

The first and most powerful technique that I discovered and use whenever life is kicking me around is to stop and breathe.  Apparently, breathing deeply and focusing on the breath, relaxes one’s mind, and brain; which then helps one to reconnect to the Kingdom of God within him or her where all solutions and ideas dwell.

The dilemma is re-programming your mind to know that you are powerful beyond power, and that the answers that you seek for are within you.

In my 8 weeks online Life Liberation, and Success Coaching Mastermind, above all benefits, you will be able to get to the root of your emotional challenges, take your power back from these negative experiences, set life, and business related power-goals, develop a winner’s mindset, and learn how to become more productive. I encourage you to check out my website – http://tapthegood.com/business-intelligence-mastermind/ for more details.

Remember, the power is in your hands. You have the control. You have whatever it takes to liberate your life. The ball is in your hands. The decisions that you make now will determine what you will experience tomorrow.

Love and light

Dr. Jacinta Mpalyenkana, PhD. MBA

Author, Speaker, Counselor/Success Coach

Tapthegood.com

http://tapthegood.com/business-intelligence-mastermind/

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