10 Actions That are Guaranteed to Keep you Broke and a Failure


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I know that most people tend to focus on the actions or behaviors that have been proven to help others achieve success. But it is also important to identify the actions that are known to keep people broke or as failures.

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In this VIDEO, I share 10 actions that are known to keep anyone broke if they are persistent with them. I invite you to identify these actions so that you can avoid them.

Link to Video – https://youtu.be/tcWGgHyI3r0

 

This is article was written by Dr. Jacinta Mpalyenkana, Ph.D., MBA, who is a counselor, Transformational Coach, author, and professional speaker. For more about her, please check out her website at http://www.tapthegood.com.

Looking for a good book to read, please visit this link – http://www.tapthegood.com/books/

 

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Three Steps to Become Enthusiastically Focused


So, let’s assume that you’ve determined what you want, and why you want it.  You have also established that you have all the practical and mental resources you need to execute the required tasks towards achieving your goal. However for some reason, you can’t focus. You are not inspired to take action. And you keep wondering what could be wrong. In this article I share three tips to help you become enthusiastically focused.

Well, you are not abnormal. For the most part, lack of focus is all based on fear: the fear to fail…the fear of being disappointed especially if you’ve embarked on projects in the past that haven’t succeeded. So what do you do? Here we go!

  1. Go back to the drawing board and establish why you want to achieve that goal. What will you emotionally or financially benefit if you achieved your goal? What will your rewards be? Be as specific as possible. Write it down. Read your reasons, and re-write them if that’s what it will take to be clear. Don’t rush. Take your time.

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2. Establish what you will lose if you don’t take action. Will you lose freedom, friends or status? You know the answers. Write these answers down. The idea is to be honest with yourself.

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3. Determine the first step you will take towards achieving your goal. Make this step simple and easy. The simpler it is, the better it will be for you to embark on it. For instance, if your goal is to write a book, set a goal as simple as writing half a page a day, or writing for 10 minutes. Make the first step fun and easy. Do not overwhelm yourself.

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If you follow the above steps, you will get very clear about why you want to achieve that goal, and then get focused to taking action. If you write everything in a “contemplation note-book” (get one if you don’t already), focus, won’t be a problem. The idea is to remove any stress or fear that you’ve attached to your goal.

Last but not least; I once heard this saying: “God will give you food but he won’t cook it for you.” If you want something, you have to do something about it. You have to focus on it. There are no shortcuts. There is no magic. Nothing happens if nothing moves.

If you need more help with getting clear on your goals, or letting go of negative emotions that no longer serve you, I have a resource for you. Check out www.tapthegood.com/contacts/ fill in your details, and I will schedule you for a complimentary 15 minutes’ counseling and/or success coaching session.

Love and Light

Dr. Jacinta Mpalyenkana, Ph.D, MBA

Author, Counselor, Success Coach, Professional Speaker

http://www.tapthegood.com

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Rich Thoughts, Poor pessimism


It’s often said that the quality of our thoughts determines the quality of our experiences. Thoughts are the lens through which we see and interpret the world.

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However, thoughts do not create reality per say. Apparently, reality can neither be created nor destroyed. Thoughts are what determine the realities that we experience. If we choose to think rich healthy thoughts, then we achieve two things:

(i) We experience a rich and healthy emotional state.

(ii) We starve the negativity.

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Therefore, considering that energy flows where attention dwells, rich thoughts equate to poor pessimism: “poor” in regards to being denied the focus.

I’m aware that the topic of positive thinking is not new. Millions of visionaries, teachers and self-development personalities have written about, and discussed the power of our thoughts—due to the complexity and depth of our negative programming. We’ve been so immensely programmed to live in illusion: worrying about things that don’t, or no longer exist: depending on other people’s stories or our past experiences to forecast the future: holding onto negative emotions from our past experiences as if they serve us: blocking the flow of life, and the power in the now.

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Whatever situation you are facing today remember that you have the power to choose which thoughts and states to focus on.

One tip is to go back to the positive state or event right before the negative one happened…the one that is currently bombarding your emotions with negativity. Then, focus on the positive state as you tap into the related positive emotions. Dive into this picture, embrace the positive states. Feel the good feelings you felt during that experience. Then anchor in these emotions by placing your tongue to the roof of your mouth. Every time you feel a negative emotion, place your tongue to the roof of your mouth for a few minutes. This should help you get in touch with the positive state that you anchored.

This process will help you remember that you are not your emotions. You are more. You can hence become a witness, which then empowers you to ease the grip that these emotions have on your feelings.

Thirsty for more? Check out my book – Do Not Force It, Tap The Good. This book shares lessons that the world can live by.

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Love and light

Dr. Jacinta Mpalyenkana, PhD, MBA

Author, Speaker, Counselor, Success Coach/Mentor

Tapthegood.com

http://www.amazon.com/not-Force-TAP-THE-GOOD/dp/1461079098

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Powerful Affirmations to Reconnect to Your True Self:


These affirmations are taken from; “The Three Magic Words,” a book by US Anderson. I have edited and re-arranged the words to match our times.

Saying these affirmations every morning, will grant you a sense of faith and a firm re-connection to the kingdom of God that dwells with in you. Remember that you are not, and will never be “alone.”

 

I am pure in spirit; I have always been, and will always be.
Inside me is a place of confidence, quietness and security: a place where all things are known and understood. This place is the universal mind of God of which I am a part, and which responds to me when I ask of it. This universal mind of God knows the answers to all my problems. And even now, the answers are speeding their way to me. I needn’t struggle for them; I needn’t worry or strive for them. When the time comes, the answers will reveal themselves to me.
Today I surrender my problems to the universal mind of God. I let go of them with confidence that the correct answers will return to me in due time.
Through the great law of attraction, everything that I need for my work and fulfillment comes to me. I ask, believe, and let go.
I take inspired action with impeccable focus.
I do things to make me feel good; knowing that in feeling good, I’m connecting to all the goodness there is.
I am patient, positive-minded and focused.
I know that all is well; because I’m guided in all my actions.
I focus on the good things I have in my life; and practice gratitude all day long.
I let go of any resistance; and completely surrender myself to the kingdom of God that dwells within me.

 

You may wonna check out the book: Do Not Force It, Tap The Good. This book dissects the power of faith and how we can all re-root ourselves back to all there is.

Love and light

Jacinta Mariah

http://www.tapthegood.com

 

Tip 4: Mind Your Business: In preparation of the first Annual Global Worry-free Day March 1st, 2014: 7.00A.M-7.00P.M.


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Today is about getting down to business…our internal businesses. The first thing we have to remember is that a worry-fast is so much like a food-fast. You don’t just jump into it and expect to stay in it. So, today, we are going to feed our minds with more tips for the worry-fast.

Tip 1:

Stay in the moment.

This simply means that you focus 100% on everything you are doing today. If it is eating, eat as if it is the best and last food you will ever eat. Chew the food, taste all the spices; feel the chunks as they move down your throat to your digestive system; and focus on the temperature of every bite.

When driving, drive as if you are driving your best car, for the last time, to the last place you will ever drive to. This implies that you pay attention to the way your car sounds as you drive; the muscles that you use to drive—as you also pay attention to your surroundings. You will realize that there’s enough to focus on in the moment.

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Tip 2:

Breathe:

Breathe in and out as if it is the last air you will ever have, and that your life depended on it—and it does. Feel the temperature of your breath as it goes in and out of your nostrils. As you breathe in, mentally tell yourself that you are breathing in love and peace, and breathing out worry and stress. Do this all day. When you forget, start again.

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Tip 3:

Mind your business:

When someone angers or upsets you, ask yourself whether it is your business or theirs. Please understand that whatever people do is their business: it is coming out of them…with the blue print of their internal representations. What you do is your business as well. When people act crazy or unfairly, it is their business. When someone insults you, it is their business. When someone cheats or does things to hurt you, it is their business. Even if someone killed you, it would be their business. Your business is to watch your reactions towards their business. Monitor your thoughts, and take control of your reactions towards their business. Focus on what is and not on what things should or shouldn’t be.  Continuously ask yourself: – “is it their business or mine?” When you stay in the moment, you will realize that the only things that really matter are the way you feel and react. Remember: we don’t experience what we want, we experience who we are.

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 Tip 4:

Look for things to make you happy.

Whatever we focus on, the brain will do its job to sort it out for us in our environment. The brain’s job is to employ your focus to direct you where you need to be, look or go–in order to experience whatever you are focused on. If you doubt this fact, focus on any color of your choice.  Go out to a large crowd and you will see that color everywhere; in cars, people’s clothes, building colors…name it. 

Look on YouTube for videos that will make you laugh. Watch comedies. Sing silly songs. Watch your childhood movies or TV series. Exercise.

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This evening, I will post the last tip in preparation of the worry-fast. Please come back here to check for the tip.

By the way, have you checked out my book: Love, Men and Money: How to attract and retain them? It is a must-have for every woman. In the book are healing tools based on EFT and Ho’oponopono to help free one from their emotional baggage.

Happy Friday family

Love and light

Jacinta Mariah

Author, Qualified Speaker, and Spiritual Healing Facilitator:

http://www.tapthegood.com