5 Steps to Get Out of a Financial Dilemma


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Have you ever found yourself with no money and no idea about what you are going to do to get back up?

Let’s also imagine that you have bills piling and waiting for you to pay.

Let’s further imagine that you lost your job or your business collapsed and you’ve tried everything you can to get a job or business back up and nothing seems to work.

What do you do?

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Well, I have been there, done that and I know exactly how it feels to be financially handicapped and hopeless. Yet at the end of it all I realized that what was stressing me out was either what I wished things should have been, or shouldn’t have been, and not necessarily what things really were or meant. Since, for every disappointment I have experienced, I soon discover that it was a blessing in disguise. That aside, I have followed the following steps to get me out of the hard times.

Step 1: Tame Your Mind

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The first thing to do is to deal with your mind. You literally cannot stress over your situation because if you do, things will “seem” worse. “Seem,” is singled out because things are what we define them to be. If you are stressed you are definitely going to redefine the situation and add more drama in order to support your new stressing convictions.

I’m sure you know how worrying about things amplifies them. You have to refocus your mind on what you have and what you are grateful for. I know this seems easier said than done, but it is doable. And when you understand the consequences of negative thinking you will tame your mind to focus on what’s good in your life. I’m certain that you have some good things that you can focus on.

Step 2: Determine what you want and focus on it religiously.

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Many times we might think that we are focusing on what we want when we are actually dwelling on whatever we don’t want. Therefore, you have to take time and examine what you want instead of the financial havoc. Do you want to pay off your bills? How much money do you want? Do you want to be financially free? How does that look like for you? Do you want to get another job or maybe revamp your business? The idea is to be very specific about what you want and then focus on it.

Step 3: Evaluate your resources.

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For this step, you will have to get pen and paper and examine what resources you currently have that are freely available to you. You may have to consider your skills, experiences, education, talents—or anything else that is freely available to you. Another thing to consider is your wardrobe—what you can sell in a yard sale or online. List everything down.

Step 4: Decide on which skill, talent or experience you want to turn into something that will bring in money. For instance, I am also a qualified massage therapist, and during the slow financial times I advertise my massage business because firstly, I already have the required skills plus all the tools required to run a mobile spa. I literally don’t need a lot of money to get started with acquiring clients. I reach out to my regular clients, advertise on free portals like face book, craigslist and Google; and before I know it, I have clients flocking in.  The idea is to choose a skill that won’t cost you money.

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Step 5: Take action. Once you decide on which skill you want to explore, or actions to take, take immediate action. Don’t over think things. Just go for it. Trust that things will work out. Have faith. And even if things don’t work out the first time, keep tweaking them up until they get better. Whatever you do, don’t wait to be perfect.

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Click on this link to access a powerful divine love guided meditation to uplift you – https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=tgMpYijDTjU

Click on this link to access a short inspiration video on never waiting to be perfect. 

In my book, Do Not Force It, Tap The Good, there 3 whole chapters about making something out of nothing. I’m certain that you will benefit from the tips provided.

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To get the book, please click on this link. https://www.amazon.com/Do-not-Force-TAP-GOOD/dp/1461079098/ref=sr_1_2?s=books&ie=UTF8&qid=1534208447&sr=1-2&keywords=Do+Not+Force+It%2C+Tap+The+Good

In the interim, remember that “Loss gives us a chance for an upgrade.” Mpalyenkana

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It’s Always the Right Time to Let Go: An EFT Session to Help You Let Go of the Past


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Does your past often haunt you?
Do you often feel validated to think negatively?

Does your mind ramble on and on about a negative past experience?

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Well, regardless of what happened to you in the past, it’s always the right time to let it go. Letting go of our negative stories only benefits us. When we let go of negative self-talk however validated we might feel, we create space in our minds to focus on more positive empowering stories. Remember, we deserve to feel good all the time no matter what.

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In this EFT session, I help you to let go of any negative story that could be running at the back of your mind.

Link to Session Video Recording  – https://youtu.be/b8-1sxYUAOo

Please share with those who might benefit from this session.

Looking for a powerful inspirational book to read, check out, Do Not Force It, Tap The Good: 

Dr. Jacinta Mpalyenkana, Ph.D., MBA, is a published author, Transformational Coach, Counselor and Professional speaker. She is always a, EFT Master Practitioner and Advanced Ho’oponopono Master Practitioner, Reiki Master, Sharmanic energy healer. For more about her, please check out http://www.tapthegood.com

How Death Affects us Beyond Dying; and How to Avoid it Before Dying.


“Death is not the greatest loss in life. The greatest loss is what dies inside us while we live.” Norman Cousins

Death has been known as one of the scariest experiences in our lives. Most people fear it. Death is traumatizing, yet, we tend to administer the same implicit approach to many of the worldly, temporary things we found in this world, and things that we shall leave behind when we die; things that will come and go; things that live and die. This is the type of death that I discuss in this article–a death that defines and implicates the final destination to all temporary things.

Correct me if I’m wrong, but I don’t know anything on this planet with infinite attributes other than God, Allah—or whoever you refer to as your Creator. As such, we the human race have developed a profound tendency over the years to put all our bets in the situation-basket of what’s temporary. Consequently, we miss out on the infinite realm of things.

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For example, when we focus all our attention on something like a bill that we have to pay, a car that we have to replace or how our neighbor is doing better than we are, we are literally focusing on what’s finite. At times we engage in unhealthy competition with belief that there isn’t enough in circulation for all of us. We find ways to block, intimidate, criticize or judge those who have dreams we believe are similar to ours. Yet, we forget that we are all unique and different. We ignore the divine truth that no one will ever be or has ever been created with our blueprint. We negate the fact that we are all special and therefore whatever we create even if it might appear similar, is differentiated by our very nature.

Consequently, we miss out on the infinite intelligence that dwells within us…the source of all things.  And our limited perception is based on fear: the fear that we won’t have enough, the fear that we live in a scarce world: and the blind notion that we are in control of everything. We forget that we are supported in life by a divine being that takes care of our very bodily biology and does magical things like help us breathe as we sleep: manages the trillions of the body’s internal cellular activities that we don’t even know about.

“What’s lovely never dies, but passes onto other loveliness” – Thomas Bailey Aldrich

That’s why it is written in the bible that, “Seek first the kingdom of heaven and all the rest will fall in hand,” meaning that let’s seek to connect to the source of all things, that invisible Self that protects and takes care of our needs. Out of that mental/emotional condition, inspiration will drive us to how and where we can find the temporary things of this world. And I’m not suggesting that you ignore your bills or become irresponsible. What I’m suggesting is for us to stop killing each other and ourselves for things we found in this world. Let’s remove our grips on emotional and mental mediocrity because they don’t serve us. Let’s focus on that which is infinite within us. Let’s focus on loving each other, forgiving each other, and working on ourselves to become better people: better than whom we were yesterday. Let’s focus on tapping into the intangible infinite attributes within us: attributes like love, peace, hope, creativity and the like. Consequently, we won’t only be able to easily get the temporary world stuff but also access all the mental, emotional and spiritual resources to replace them.

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“Death leaves a headache no one can heal. Love leaves a memory no one can steal” – Unknown

Remember, when you focus on what’s dying, you will never see what’s being born. Let’s become flexible, and develop faith in our creator regardless of our religious or non-religious technologies, well knowing that because this planet was built with us the human race in mind, we are always taken care of, and there’s no need to hate or kill each for what’s temporary.

Written by Dr. Jacinta Mpalyenkana, Ph.D., MBA, an author, Speaker, Spiritual Counselor, Coach. For more about her, please visit http://www.tapthegood.com. 

10 Actions That are Guaranteed to Keep you Broke and a Failure


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I know that most people tend to focus on the actions or behaviors that have been proven to help others achieve success. But it is also important to identify the actions that are known to keep people broke or as failures.

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In this VIDEO, I share 10 actions that are known to keep anyone broke if they are persistent with them. I invite you to identify these actions so that you can avoid them.

Link to Video – https://youtu.be/tcWGgHyI3r0

 

This is article was written by Dr. Jacinta Mpalyenkana, Ph.D., MBA, who is a counselor, Transformational Coach, author, and professional speaker. For more about her, please check out her website at http://www.tapthegood.com.

Looking for a good book to read, please visit this link – http://www.tapthegood.com/books/

 

Three Steps to Become Enthusiastically Focused


So, let’s assume that you’ve determined what you want, and why you want it.  You have also established that you have all the practical and mental resources you need to execute the required tasks towards achieving your goal. However for some reason, you can’t focus. You are not inspired to take action. And you keep wondering what could be wrong. In this article I share three tips to help you become enthusiastically focused.

Well, you are not abnormal. For the most part, lack of focus is all based on fear: the fear to fail…the fear of being disappointed especially if you’ve embarked on projects in the past that haven’t succeeded. So what do you do? Here we go!

  1. Go back to the drawing board and establish why you want to achieve that goal. What will you emotionally or financially benefit if you achieved your goal? What will your rewards be? Be as specific as possible. Write it down. Read your reasons, and re-write them if that’s what it will take to be clear. Don’t rush. Take your time.

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2. Establish what you will lose if you don’t take action. Will you lose freedom, friends or status? You know the answers. Write these answers down. The idea is to be honest with yourself.

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3. Determine the first step you will take towards achieving your goal. Make this step simple and easy. The simpler it is, the better it will be for you to embark on it. For instance, if your goal is to write a book, set a goal as simple as writing half a page a day, or writing for 10 minutes. Make the first step fun and easy. Do not overwhelm yourself.

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If you follow the above steps, you will get very clear about why you want to achieve that goal, and then get focused to taking action. If you write everything in a “contemplation note-book” (get one if you don’t already), focus, won’t be a problem. The idea is to remove any stress or fear that you’ve attached to your goal.

Last but not least; I once heard this saying: “God will give you food but he won’t cook it for you.” If you want something, you have to do something about it. You have to focus on it. There are no shortcuts. There is no magic. Nothing happens if nothing moves.

If you need more help with getting clear on your goals, or letting go of negative emotions that no longer serve you, I have a resource for you. Check out www.tapthegood.com/contacts/ fill in your details, and I will schedule you for a complimentary 15 minutes’ counseling and/or success coaching session.

Love and Light

Dr. Jacinta Mpalyenkana, Ph.D, MBA

Author, Counselor, Success Coach, Professional Speaker

http://www.tapthegood.com

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Rich Thoughts, Poor pessimism


It’s often said that the quality of our thoughts determines the quality of our experiences. Thoughts are the lens through which we see and interpret the world.

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However, thoughts do not create reality per say. Apparently, reality can neither be created nor destroyed. Thoughts are what determine the realities that we experience. If we choose to think rich healthy thoughts, then we achieve two things:

(i) We experience a rich and healthy emotional state.

(ii) We starve the negativity.

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Therefore, considering that energy flows where attention dwells, rich thoughts equate to poor pessimism: “poor” in regards to being denied the focus.

I’m aware that the topic of positive thinking is not new. Millions of visionaries, teachers and self-development personalities have written about, and discussed the power of our thoughts—due to the complexity and depth of our negative programming. We’ve been so immensely programmed to live in illusion: worrying about things that don’t, or no longer exist: depending on other people’s stories or our past experiences to forecast the future: holding onto negative emotions from our past experiences as if they serve us: blocking the flow of life, and the power in the now.

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Whatever situation you are facing today remember that you have the power to choose which thoughts and states to focus on.

One tip is to go back to the positive state or event right before the negative one happened…the one that is currently bombarding your emotions with negativity. Then, focus on the positive state as you tap into the related positive emotions. Dive into this picture, embrace the positive states. Feel the good feelings you felt during that experience. Then anchor in these emotions by placing your tongue to the roof of your mouth. Every time you feel a negative emotion, place your tongue to the roof of your mouth for a few minutes. This should help you get in touch with the positive state that you anchored.

This process will help you remember that you are not your emotions. You are more. You can hence become a witness, which then empowers you to ease the grip that these emotions have on your feelings.

Thirsty for more? Check out my book – Do Not Force It, Tap The Good. This book shares lessons that the world can live by.

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Love and light

Dr. Jacinta Mpalyenkana, PhD, MBA

Author, Speaker, Counselor, Success Coach/Mentor

Tapthegood.com

http://www.amazon.com/not-Force-TAP-THE-GOOD/dp/1461079098

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