10 Things To Do When You Feel Frustrated With Life


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Although there are many reasons that incite our frustrations, the main reasons are founded on two major factors: money and relationships.

We get frustrated because we either don’t have money, we are losing money or money is not coming in as expected. We also get frustrated because of the people we deal with: especially because we are all different and view the world from a diverse perspective.

One thing I have learned is that the factors that promote our negative emotions, plus the negative emotions are not as crucial in influencing our emotional well-being as our perception about them. As such, my intention is to share 10 tips that you can use to get out of a frustrated mood regardless of the foundation of your frustrations. Remember,  it is not what happens to us that impacts our lives; it’s how we perceive whatever happens.     

  1. Move

By moving, I mean, changing your physicality. Do yoga, dance, go for a walk, exercise: the idea is to get your body moving. Once your body is moving, your brain will change its focus from the frustration to whatever you are doing.

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“The difference between peak performance and poor performance is not intelligence or ability; most often it’s the state that your mind and body is in.” – Tony Robbins

Note that emotion is created by motion. In other words, emotions are linked to movement in our bodies. Observe your posture when you are happy, as opposed to when you are sad — or what you look like when you are angry, versus when you are elated.

  1. Listen To Inspirational Or Upbeat Music.

I understand that sometimes when you are feeling frustrated or sad you don’t have the guts to listen to anything. But if you are so sick and tired of feeling negative you will do whatever it takes to feel better. Some of the songs I listen to when I’m sad include, but are not limited to the following:

  • The Storm is Over – R Kelley

  • A New Day Has Come – Celine Dion

  • Roar – Katy Perry

  • Departed (Right Here) – Brandy

  • I look to You – Whitney Houston

  • I’m Your Angel – Celine Dion and R Kelly

  • When You Believe – Whitney Houston and Mariah Carey

  • Stronger (What Doesn’t Kill You) – Kelly Clarkson

  • One Step at a Time – Jordan Sparks

Note that it is important to spend time making your own list.

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         3. Clean

Cleaning your space has a magical way of making you feel better. As you clean, your mind goes into the cleaning mood.  As such, you implicitly clean the frustration from your mind.

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  1. Imagine receiving $1 Million in your bank account; make a list of how you would spend it.

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  1. Cook

Just go into your kitchen and concoct recipes regardless of what you are cooking. The process will definitely help you divert your mind from the frustration.

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  1. Change your furniture around. Don’t try to be perfect. Just change things around in whichever way you want.

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  1. Go window shopping 

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  1. Meditate.       

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  1. Volunteer

This will help you realize how blessed you are.

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  1. Make big plans.

Just make plans without worrying about the resources required to realize them. Make plans as you focus on the things you want to manifest in your life—imagining that there are no obstacles that can hinder you from achieving your goals.

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Conclusion:

Remember that the difference between where you are emotionally or mentally, and where you want to be, is only a decision away. Once you decide to change your mind about anything, you have literally embarked on a profound journey of getting to your desired destination.

Reading self-help books is also another vital tip that will help infuse your mind with self-improvement–which is a good thing. You may want to check out my book: Do Not Force It, Tap The Good – Link – https://www.amazon.com/Do-not-Force-TAP-GOOD/dp/1461079098

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Love and light.

Dr. Jacinta Mpalyenkana, PH.D, MBA, is a published author of 5 books, a Transformational coach, Counselor and Professional speaker. For more about her, check out her website at www.tapthegood.com

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The silly things we do when STRESSED:


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If you have ever been stressed, regardless of the intensity, then you have done one of the silly things mentioned here below; or perhaps something else that got you laughing at yourself.

I know stress in itself is something that shouldn’t be ignored. Its effects are brutal, and could lead to life threatening circumstances.

The things I have done when stressed are incredibly stupid. A while back on one of “those days,” I got back to my apartment from work; removed my shoes, put them in a plastic bag, and then tossed them into the refrigerator. On other occasions, I have opened the fridge to look for salt, my cell phone, and even detergent.

On another stressful day, as I spoke to a friend with the ear phones on, and my cell phone tucked away in my shorts’ pocket, I suddenly started searching for the cell-phone. My friend sensed my uneasiness. “Are you okay?” she asked. “I am searching for my cell phone,” I responded. “I thought you are speaking on it right now.” She answered. I was embarrassed.

Recently, a friend went for a “long call.” Upon completion, she upset-mindedly removed her panty and used it as toilet paper, then flashed it. She only realized what she had done when the “lot” didn’t go in a single flash.

Another close friend once carried two plastic bags (one with garbage, and the other with his lunch). His intention was to dispose off the garbage before he drove to work. Stressed out, he disposed off the plastic bag with his lunch in it, and took the bag with the trash to work. I guess you can imagine what happened during his lunch break.

The story that wins the Oscar is one where my friend’s mum woke up one morning to take the goat to the plantation for grazing. On her way, she stopped by the pit latrine (outside toilet) to ease herself. She tied the goat to a small guava tree near the latrine, and proceeded to do her thing. When done, she released the goat and took it to the latrine, locked the door and went back to the house. After a few hours, on her way to the plantation to check on the goat, she heard it mooing in the latrine.

So, what are the silly things you do when you are stressed??

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