It is Time to Surrender – 3 Proven Psychological Steps to Help you Surrender


Are you attached to a desire or goal and finding it hard to surrender to the process?

Does your passion/desire for your goal stress you out?

Are you worried that you might not achieve your goal?

Well, maybe it is time to surrender. And to do so, I have recorded this VIDEO with 3 proven psychological tools to help you detach from your goal, and instead focus on the goals as you also enjoy every moment of the process.

I know this will help.

Link to video – https://youtu.be/F2qpkBwEtqs

Please do not forget to share with friends or family who might need these tips.

Love and light.

Dr. Jacinta Mpalyenkana, PH.D., MBA

Author, Spiritual Counselor, Corporate Trainer, Speaker

http://www.tapthegood.com

 

 

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Feeling Stressed Out? Three Tips to Inspire You


I recently went through an experience that left me feeling beaten and broken. I felt as if I was behind a curtain. I felt as if my true intentions weren’t understood. I felt betrayed, weak and discouraged. I felt misjudged, isolated and rejected.

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Now, you will agree that such feelings can leave one in a state of emotional warfare. Yet I knew that I had to get up. I knew that I couldn’t control anyone else but myself. I had to take my power back, and determine the way I wanted to feel regardless of what anyone else thought or felt about me. I had to continue following my dreams, and focusing on my goals. I had to feel good again which is the only way that would enable me to wake up and try at this thing called life. I needed inspiration to keep going .

In this video, I share three tips that I employed to feel inspired. I hope they help you feel inspired. Please share the video with anyone you know needs some inspiration today.

Link to video – https://youtu.be/c1PxuWSjDpg

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Have a good week.

Love and light

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The Most Powerful Self-Improvement Question


As the year ends, other than spending a lot of money on gifts and preparing for the holiday celebrations, we get prompted to think about what we’ve achieved during the year, what we’ve lost, what we want to achieve the following year, what to change about ourselves, how to change, financial goals, relationships goals…the list goes on.

Many, (and I plead guilty for doing this for a number of years,) have long given up on the annual-goal setting exercise because they either never follow-through with their goals, or simply, for some reason, fail to achieve their goals. So, for the fear of failing again, they negate or ignore annual resolutions.

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However, I have discovered that there is a single question that I have asked myself each year, and have also recommended for my clients, that doesn’t only help to re-establish personal worth, but also leads to new insights about self. Also, this question has somehow led me into evaluating my finance, friendship, business and future related goals.

The question is: “What do I deserve?”

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When you take time to contemplate on, and answer this question, I suggest that you consider thinking about what you are tolerating, let it be partnerships, a job (if you are employed), lifestyle, friendships—to mention but a few. After establishing what you might be tolerating, proceed to analyze what you think you deserve and why. Before you are done, you will have your most important new goals ready for your execution.

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If you discover that you are tolerating more than you think, then contact me at www.tapthegood.com/contacts/ for a complimentary personal coaching/counseling session to establish how I can help you take your power back and become the authority of your life.

Looking for a good book to read during the holidays? Check out, Do not Force it, Tap The Good: How to Tap Into One’s Infinite Potential, Develop a Profound Positive Attitude and Live Life on Your Terms.

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Happy holidays

Love and light

Jacinta Mpalyenkana, Ph.D, MBA

Published Author, Counselor, Personal Coach, Professional Speaker

http://www.tapthegood.com

Do you Feel like you are Running Around in Circles?


There are times when we all feel so overwhelmed about life–when everything we do does not yield the results that we desire. During such times, we may feel as though the devil itself has binoculars on our lives.

I have experienced periods in my life when I felt as though I was moving against the wind. Everything seemed to break down. There was conflict surrounding me. Every action took me face to face with failure. I felt as though I was locked up behind a thick high wall with nowhere to go. I felt as if I was literally running around in circles–like a dog chasing its own tail. No amount of positive thinking made things better. Regardless of how hard and deeply I thought, no new information or ideas popped up in my mind as solutions. Even when I meditated and prayed for hours, I still felt a deep sense of emptiness and sadness.

Below are some of the steps that I have taken—things that have helped me get a new grip of my life.

1. Write down your goals.

2. Perform a situation analysis of your life; the steps you’ve been taking towards achieving your goals, the skills you have employed, plans, strategies, weaknesses, strengths, opportunities and threats.

2. Evaluate your successes and failures for the last 60 days.

3. STOP. Stop and relax. Stop making any major plans, taking any major actions or even expecting anything—good or bad to happen. Become a witness of your life. Observe. I know this might sound so hard to do, but if you have been taking a lot of action and seeing no results, then there is something missing. During such times, it also implies that we are not listening to our inner voice for direction or alerts.

4. Spend some time with yourself–at least 3 hours a day especially if you work for yourself. If you are employed and have to appear at a job every day, you can still become a witness of your own life by excluding judgement of others and the entire job situation. This might also mean that you don’t talk about your concerns with anyone. You are present at the job and doing what you have to do, but mindfully absent. I hope you understand what I mean. It’s about becoming laid back for a set period of time.

When we stop and do nothing major, we reduce the noises in our minds. This is when we get to hear the voice of God that is always existent at the back of our minds.

I hope this helps.

Love and light.

Dr Jacinta Mpalyenkana, Ph.D., MBA

Author, Speaker / Counselor / Coach / Mentor

http://www.tapthegood.com

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The Biggest Mistake That Business People Make:


The biggest mistake that wedge us from achieving what we want for our businesses and lives is NOT SETTING CLEAR GOALS.

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How do we expect our brains to focus on finding the right resources without giving them the directions they need to take us where we want to go?

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How do we expect to get somewhere without knowing where we are going?

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It’s funny, because we set goals every day. We know that when we jump into our vehicles, we set goals to get somewhere at a particular time, and for a particular reason—whatever that could be.

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  1.  Why then do we find it hard to set concrete and realistic goals for our businesses?

  2.  What do you think blocks you from setting those goals, and then developing the strategies you need to help you get there?

 As you ponder on the above question, I have a resource for you. As a Success Coach, I have some great and unique personalized tools that we can employ to help you set articulate, clear and realistic goals.

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You can also contact me for a 30 minutes complimentary success coaching session.

It’s as simple as sending me an email at author@tapthegood.com with the subject line – “Goals” and I will respond within 24 hours.

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The ball is in your hands Rock-star. 

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Love and light

Dr. Jacinta Mariah Mpalyenkana, Ph.D(s), MBA

Author, Speaker, Counselor / Success Coach

http://tapthegood.com

Clearing Your Resistance to Miracles Through EFT!


Is it hard to believe that miracles are unfolding all around us? And that we have access to co-creating our lives and goals with the divine?

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Yes, sometimes it is hard! Hey, I know it can be hard for me some days!!
Sometimes life, money and our goals can seem heavy and overwhelming! Do you ever feel like, “it’s all on me to do everything”? This is a great time to tap–as this is a particular vibe that literally blocks miracles from showing up. Whenever we feel weak, it just means that for a while we’ve forgotten about our abilities to co-create with the divine. This also implies that we are disconnected from the infinite magnificence…the kingdom of God that dwells with us. When we tap on these negative feelings, we remove the emotional blockages to our inner confidence; and are then able to tap into divine intelligence for direction, inner drive, and will power.

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So let’s do that now; shall we?
Firstly, let’s dive into an exercise to examine where we are in regards to our goals.

Think about this year. Think about your money goals, wealth goals, and/or business goals.

Now, test this phrase by saying it aloud in two ways: “I have to make it happen.”
With all the emphasis on ‘have,’ notice the feeling in that…and how true it feels.
What is the emotion?

Now say the following statement again with the emphasis on ‘make’.
“I have to make it happen.” Notice the feelings in your body when you say it that way.

Now start tapping!

Round 1: We are going to tap on the statement: “I have to make everything happen
on my own (there’s no support!)”

Karate Chop Point:

Even though, the truth is I have to make it happen; it’s all on me. I’ve got to do it,
I accept all of me now.

Even though, I have to make this happen. I feel that pressure, that constriction,
but I can’t just let this go. I accept all of my feelings now.

Even though, the truth is, it’s all me. There’s no one supporting me, no miracles showing up. I have to make this happen. Otherwise I will fail, and that will be all on me. I love and accept myself anyway.

Tapping Through the Points:

Eye brow (EB): It is all on me. It’s always been on me. I can’t just trust. I can’t let go.
Side of the Eye: (SE) That would be slacking off. I have to make this happen. Make it happen with my will, with my own two hands, my blood, sweat and tears.

Under the Eye (UE): It’s exhausting. But I keep doing it. I’ve got to make this happen.
Not a lot of fun in that.
Under the Nose: (UN) A lot of pressure…a lot of desperation. I’m always battling failure–so much at stake.

Chin (C): I can’t just trust in the Universe. That would be crazy

I’ve got to do it. It’s all me.

Collar Bone (CB): I feel isolated. There is no one to help me.

Under the Arm (UA): Why is all this happening to me?

Top of the Head (TH): I don’t think I can ever achieve my goals.

Round 2: We are going to tap on a more positive round with this statement in mind. “I am open to the divine co-creating with me!”

Karate Chop Point: (Tap on this point and repeat the statements below)

Even though, I’ve built a life making stuff happen. And I often say, oh I’ll just do it myself. I usually do it better, and I do it to my standards. I’m open to the idea that there’s a conflict in this for me. Because I’m not very open to help.

Even though, I love getting stuff done. I love making great things happen. I’m open
to the idea, that I could be an amazing achiever, and have an open window to streams of divine
brilliance, divine guidance, inspiration, and even miracles. That makes all my achieving fun.

Even though, I’ve operated this way for a long time; saying, “No thanks, I got it. I’ve got to do it all myself.” I’m now opening a window, and I’m propping it open with a stick, so I
can’t close it easily. This window is open to the divine co-creating with me. I actually don’t need to do everything myself.

The truth is I can’t always see the big picture. And although right now, I’m disconnected from the mind of God. Maybe the Divine is trying to give me more than I’ve even dreamed of.

Tapping Through the Points:

EB: I’ve been doing it this way for a long time.
If I trust and let go, would I judge myself a slacker? Or naïve?
SE: I wonder what would happen, if I open this window and allowed the Divine to stream into my life–bringing me more brilliance, more inspiration, absolute miracles, and co-creating with me.
UE: I wonder how that would feel. I wonder how it would feel in my body, to achieve my goals that way.
UN: This would feel different. …REALLY different.

Chin: I surrender my control. I surrender my old story.
CB: I surrender my doubt in divine power.
UA: I open myself to help.
TH: I open myself to miracles. I open my connection to the divine to co-create with me!

If you can go through this exercise for the next couple of days, I’m certain that you will see some positive results in your life.

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Love and light.

Dr. Jacinta Mpalyenkana, Ph.D, MBA

Author, Speaker, Certified Success Coach / S. Counselor

Tapthegood.com

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