As mothers of this planet, we are all born and immensely embraced with the power of intuition. This power is literally the voice of God through which he communicates to us. It is that little voice that tells us to do, or not to do certain things when we are faced with indecision.
On the other hand, God created men with a power not so easy to put words on; one that gives them the courage and confidence to approach women, strangers for that matter, and then convince them to get into their beds. Take it or not, that is POWER! However, God is reasonable; because the intuition he/she gave us as women, equips us with the skills to deal with men. The challenge is for us to constantly be in touch with ourselves.
The wise ones have advocated for centuries for the discipline of living in the moment, and that is not without its benefits. When you are in a relationship, it is important not lose yourself completely into the man’s world. This means that you remain in touch with yourself, but at the same time focus on your man with your brain, heart and mind. It is about balance. That way, you will not only enjoy yourself in the relationship, but also notice changes whenever they arise. Also, you will listen to that magic inner voice whenever it speaks, or directs you to be cautious, question something, or change your game. If you are very observant and more grounded than egoistic, you will be able to see red flags or signs that could give you insight into what your man could be doing behind your back. This doesn’t necessarily mean that you will be policing him. It simply means that you are alert, confident and do love yourself enough not to stay in a relationship that is more emotionally draining than uplifting.
Severally, my girl friends tell me about how they caught their men red-handed cheating, perusing through dating sights, or doing whatever else is negative for the relationship; and they appear so surprised. “It was so abrupt. I was so shocked,” they claim. The only shock to me is the fact that these ladies were so out of touch of their intuitive-selves that they failed to recognize the red signs. Remember that men are not as cautious and detailed as we are. If there are changes in a man’s routine, or a discovery of new interests, he will subconsciously start changing his behavior. Moreover if you are observant, you will know in due time and then change your game. Keep in mind that love is like a puzzle. As an individual, you are the only one in control of your own feelings. If you let others manipulate them directly or indirectly through their actions, you are the loser, not them.
Below is a list of some of the things that men do when they are cheating, or at the very least, have the intention to:-
– They buy new under wears
– They buy new colognes and/or perfumes
– They put a password on their phones
– If they have not been taking the garbage out and have always complained about it, they start taking it out before you even ask.
– If they haven’t been using mouth wash or flossing, they will get into the habit
– They will appear more tired and distant than usual.
– If they have been choosing their own clothes and have always had a problem with you choosing for them what to wear, they will ask for your opinion.
– They won’t look at you straight in the eye.
– Some may begin critiquing your weight or clothes, something they didn’t do in the past.
These are some of the things that men will do if their attention is being drawn to someone else. Also, if you are always present in every situation, enjoying and absorbing every stance of the relationship, and also listening to your intuition, you will be able to smell a man’s crap before it gets to you.
So my dear sisters, stop being shocked. Use your intuition and self-love to stay current with the relationship. Don’t be left out of the game.