How Death Affects us Beyond Dying; and How to Avoid it Before Dying.


“Death is not the greatest loss in life. The greatest loss is what dies inside us while we live.” Norman Cousins

Death has been known as one of the scariest experiences in our lives. Most people fear it. Death is traumatizing, yet, we tend to administer the same implicit approach to many of the worldly, temporary things we found in this world, and things that we shall leave behind when we die; things that will come and go; things that live and die. This is the type of death that I discuss in this article–a death that defines and implicates the final destination to all temporary things.

Correct me if I’m wrong, but I don’t know anything on this planet with infinite attributes other than God, Allah—or whoever you refer to as your Creator. As such, we the human race have developed a profound tendency over the years to put all our bets in the situation-basket of what’s temporary. Consequently, we miss out on the infinite realm of things.

What Do I Mean By This?

For example, when we focus all our attention on something like a bill that we have to pay, a car that we have to replace or how our neighbor is doing better than we are, we are literally focusing on what’s finite. At times we engage in unhealthy competition with belief that there isn’t enough in circulation for all of us. We find ways to block, intimidate, criticize or judge those who have dreams we believe are similar to ours. Yet, we forget that we are all unique and different. We ignore the divine truth that no one will ever be or has ever been created with our blueprint. We negate the fact that we are all special and therefore whatever we create even if it might appear similar, is differentiated by our very nature.

Consequently, we miss out on the infinite intelligence that dwells within us…the source of all things.  And our limited perception is based on fear: the fear that we won’t have enough, the fear that we live in a scarce world: and the blind notion that we are in control of everything. We forget that we are supported in life by a divine being that takes care of our very bodily biology and does magical things like help us breathe as we sleep: manages the trillions of the body’s internal cellular activities that we don’t even know about.

“What’s lovely never dies, but passes onto other loveliness” – Thomas Bailey Aldrich

That’s why it is written in the bible that, “Seek first the kingdom of heaven and all the rest will fall in hand,” meaning that let’s seek to connect to the source of all things, that invisible Self that protects and takes care of our needs. Out of that mental/emotional condition, inspiration will drive us to how and where we can find the temporary things of this world. And I’m not suggesting that you ignore your bills or become irresponsible. What I’m suggesting is for us to stop killing each other and ourselves for things we found in this world. Let’s remove our grips on emotional and mental mediocrity because they don’t serve us. Let’s focus on that which is infinite within us. Let’s focus on loving each other, forgiving each other, and working on ourselves to become better people: better than whom we were yesterday. Let’s focus on tapping into the intangible infinite attributes within us: attributes like love, peace, hope, creativity and the like. Consequently, we won’t only be able to easily get the temporary world stuff but also access all the mental, emotional and spiritual resources to replace them.

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“Death leaves a headache no one can heal. Love leaves a memory no one can steal” – Unknown

Remember, when you focus on what’s dying, you will never see what’s being born. Let’s become flexible, and develop faith in our creator regardless of our religious or non-religious technologies, well knowing that because this planet was built with us the human race in mind, we are always taken care of, and there’s no need to hate or kill each for what’s temporary.

Written by Dr. Jacinta Mpalyenkana, Ph.D., MBA, an author, Speaker, Spiritual Counselor, Coach. For more about her, please visit http://www.tapthegood.com. 

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It is Time to Surrender – 3 Proven Psychological Steps to Help you Surrender


Are you attached to a desire or goal and finding it hard to surrender to the process?

Does your passion/desire for your goal stress you out?

Are you worried that you might not achieve your goal?

Well, maybe it is time to surrender. And to do so, I have recorded this VIDEO with 3 proven psychological tools to help you detach from your goal, and instead focus on the goals as you also enjoy every moment of the process.

I know this will help.

Link to video – https://youtu.be/F2qpkBwEtqs

Please do not forget to share with friends or family who might need these tips.

Love and light.

Dr. Jacinta Mpalyenkana, PH.D., MBA

Author, Spiritual Counselor, Corporate Trainer, Speaker

http://www.tapthegood.com

 

 

HOW NEGATIVE KARMA IS CREATED:- THIS WILL SAVE YOUR SOUL: VERY POWERFUL MESSAGE


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How is negative karma created?

How does it affect your life?

How can it affect your soul?

In this video, I share my take on explaining how negative karma is created and what we can do to avoid it. 

Link to video – https://youtu.be/AvIWR-IcZ80

Please share with all those who might the message. 

Love and light

 

Dr. Jacinta Mpalyenkana, Ph.D., MBA 

Author, Speaker, Counselor, Coach (LIFE AND BUSINESS)

“Helping you achieve emotional freedom from abuse, co-dependence on addictions, addictions, clarity and an empowered mindset.” 

http://www.tapthegood.com

 

 

Feeling Stressed Out? Three Tips to Inspire You


I recently went through an experience that left me feeling beaten and broken. I felt as if I was behind a curtain. I felt as if my true intentions weren’t understood. I felt betrayed, weak and discouraged. I felt misjudged, isolated and rejected.

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Now, you will agree that such feelings can leave one in a state of emotional warfare. Yet I knew that I had to get up. I knew that I couldn’t control anyone else but myself. I had to take my power back, and determine the way I wanted to feel regardless of what anyone else thought or felt about me. I had to continue following my dreams, and focusing on my goals. I had to feel good again which is the only way that would enable me to wake up and try at this thing called life. I needed inspiration to keep going .

In this video, I share three tips that I employed to feel inspired. I hope they help you feel inspired. Please share the video with anyone you know needs some inspiration today.

Link to video – https://youtu.be/c1PxuWSjDpg

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Have a good week.

Love and light

http://www.tapthegood.com

 

 

Four Tips to Deal with Rejection: Part 2:


In part 1 of this article, “How to Deal with Rejection – based on a personal story”, I shared a personal story about one of my childhood experiences of rejection. I’m certain that you or someone you know has gone through similar or maybe even worse experiences.

In this article, I share 4 tips that helped me deal with rejection and build a healthier self-esteem. And although I appreciate the fact that your experiences or those of your loved ones might be different, I’m also certain that anyone will be able to customize these tips and make them their own in order to resolve any rejection related emotional issues that they might be experiencing.

Tip 1: Know That no one can Reject You.

As weird as it might sound, believe me when I say that no one can actually reject you. One of the meanings of rejection is to be eliminated. And in my opinion, no one can eliminate you per-say. One might eliminate your presence from a scene, or disregard what you say, but he/she can never eliminate your existence. Chances are that what you perceive as rejection is an incident where someone probably did not resonate with, understand, or agree with whatever you were presenting or offering. However, with all due respect, this doesn’t mean that the entire awesome you was discarded.

Therefore, the first tip you can employ to deal with rejection-related emotions is to change your perception of the word, rejection and how it applies to you as an individual.

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Tip 2: Know that People’s Actions are Their Business.

As you deal with the rejection-related emotions, understand that perception is projection. Behavior is founded on internal representations: meaning that people behave as they have learned to, based on their beliefs and thought processes, mental, emotional and spiritual states. Everyone is doing the best they can with the internal resources they have. I’m sure you’ve heard the statement, “squeeze an orange and you get orange juice.” When someone is filled with anger, sadness or whatever other emotions that they might have, that’s exactly what’s going to come out of them as they perceive the world, as well as act. Therefore, if someone rejects something about you, this has nothing to do with you. It is their business. That’s how they know how to operate. Note that at that point in time, your presence or whatever they rejected triggered a decision within them to reject. Consequently, you can’t take things personally. And most importantly, you have to forgive them for their actions because they probably didn’t even realize that there was anything wrong with the way they acted. Just as you can’t expect mango juice to come out of an orange, you can’t expect a person filled with rudeness or anger to treat you with kindness or non-judgment.

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Tip 3: Take 100% Responsibility Of Your Emotions:

When we take full responsibility of our negative emotions, we take our power back from whoever we have blamed for the way we feel. By taking full responsibility for the rejection-related negative emotions, we get to understand that no one has the power to make us feel a certain way; and that we have the power to heal ourselves. This process begins by identifying all those negative emotions that you are feeling. Write them down. Examine each one of them to identify the root causes. Establish if the root causes are really based on truths. For instance, if one of the negative related emotions you are dealing with is sadness, the root cause is what the person said or did, that made you believe that you are a reject. When you examine tip 1, you realize that you are not really a reject. Tip 2, is telling you that whatever the person did is not your business. Consequently, your perceptions are not founded on the truth. You are not a reject. Therefore, you just have to let the sadness go because it is built on lies.

The next step is to forgive yourself for being sad for the wrong reasons. Here’s a link (https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=jGUjtMRS_5k) with a forgiveness process that I recorded a few years ago. To access the link, please copy and paste the link in a new browser, then click “enter.”

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Tip 4: Know That You Can Create a New And Better Story About Your Self-Image

The thoughts and related beliefs about being rejection are founded on a story you created based on an experience that you believed to be the truth. Note that just as you created this story, you also have the power to erase it and then create a new and better story about how you want to feel about yourself. You can do this by thinking about how you want to perceive your self-image. Decide how you want to be perceived. Write these attributes down. Read them to yourself every day until you believe them as the truth. For instance, you can write statements such; I accept and love myself just as I am. I am worthy. I deserve to be treated with respect. I respect myself—you get the idea. The fundamental thing to do is to think and believe these statements as the truth. And by doing this, you will be writing a better story that will improve your perception of yourself.
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Please note that although these tips are simplified, they helped me deal with my rejection-related negative emotions and I believe they can help you or anyone else. The idea is to make the tips your own, do the work on yourself, and remember that persistence and repetition are necessary ingredients required to establish and reinforce desired change.

The author is Jacinta Mpalyenkana, Ph.D., MBA. She’s an author, speaker, counselor and transformational coach. For more about her, please check out her website at www.tapthegood.com

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