Feeling Stressed Out? Three Tips to Inspire You


I recently went through an experience that left me feeling beaten and broken. I felt as if I was behind a curtain. I felt as if my true intentions weren’t understood. I felt betrayed, weak and discouraged. I felt misjudged, isolated and rejected.

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Now, you will agree that such feelings can leave one in a state of emotional warfare. Yet I knew that I had to get up. I knew that I couldn’t control anyone else but myself. I had to take my power back, and determine the way I wanted to feel regardless of what anyone else thought or felt about me. I had to continue following my dreams, and focusing on my goals. I had to feel good again which is the only way that would enable me to wake up and try at this thing called life. I needed inspiration to keep going .

In this video, I share three tips that I employed to feel inspired. I hope they help you feel inspired. Please share the video with anyone you know needs some inspiration today.

Link to video – https://youtu.be/c1PxuWSjDpg

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Have a good week.

Love and light

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Four Tips to Deal with Rejection: Part 2:


In part 1 of this article, “How to Deal with Rejection – based on a personal story”, I shared a personal story about one of my childhood experiences of rejection. I’m certain that you or someone you know has gone through similar or maybe even worse experiences.

In this article, I share 4 tips that helped me deal with rejection and build a healthier self-esteem. And although I appreciate the fact that your experiences or those of your loved ones might be different, I’m also certain that anyone will be able to customize these tips and make them their own in order to resolve any rejection related emotional issues that they might be experiencing.

Tip 1: Know That no one can Reject You.

As weird as it might sound, believe me when I say that no one can actually reject you. One of the meanings of rejection is to be eliminated. And in my opinion, no one can eliminate you per-say. One might eliminate your presence from a scene, or disregard what you say, but he/she can never eliminate your existence. Chances are that what you perceive as rejection is an incident where someone probably did not resonate with, understand, or agree with whatever you were presenting or offering. However, with all due respect, this doesn’t mean that the entire awesome you was discarded.

Therefore, the first tip you can employ to deal with rejection-related emotions is to change your perception of the word, rejection and how it applies to you as an individual.

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Tip 2: Know that People’s Actions are Their Business.

As you deal with the rejection-related emotions, understand that perception is projection. Behavior is founded on internal representations: meaning that people behave as they have learned to, based on their beliefs and thought processes, mental, emotional and spiritual states. Everyone is doing the best they can with the internal resources they have. I’m sure you’ve heard the statement, “squeeze an orange and you get orange juice.” When someone is filled with anger, sadness or whatever other emotions that they might have, that’s exactly what’s going to come out of them as they perceive the world, as well as act. Therefore, if someone rejects something about you, this has nothing to do with you. It is their business. That’s how they know how to operate. Note that at that point in time, your presence or whatever they rejected triggered a decision within them to reject. Consequently, you can’t take things personally. And most importantly, you have to forgive them for their actions because they probably didn’t even realize that there was anything wrong with the way they acted. Just as you can’t expect mango juice to come out of an orange, you can’t expect a person filled with rudeness or anger to treat you with kindness or non-judgment.

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Tip 3: Take 100% Responsibility Of Your Emotions:

When we take full responsibility of our negative emotions, we take our power back from whoever we have blamed for the way we feel. By taking full responsibility for the rejection-related negative emotions, we get to understand that no one has the power to make us feel a certain way; and that we have the power to heal ourselves. This process begins by identifying all those negative emotions that you are feeling. Write them down. Examine each one of them to identify the root causes. Establish if the root causes are really based on truths. For instance, if one of the negative related emotions you are dealing with is sadness, the root cause is what the person said or did, that made you believe that you are a reject. When you examine tip 1, you realize that you are not really a reject. Tip 2, is telling you that whatever the person did is not your business. Consequently, your perceptions are not founded on the truth. You are not a reject. Therefore, you just have to let the sadness go because it is built on lies.

The next step is to forgive yourself for being sad for the wrong reasons. Here’s a link (https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=jGUjtMRS_5k) with a forgiveness process that I recorded a few years ago. To access the link, please copy and paste the link in a new browser, then click “enter.”

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Tip 4: Know That You Can Create a New And Better Story About Your Self-Image

The thoughts and related beliefs about being rejection are founded on a story you created based on an experience that you believed to be the truth. Note that just as you created this story, you also have the power to erase it and then create a new and better story about how you want to feel about yourself. You can do this by thinking about how you want to perceive your self-image. Decide how you want to be perceived. Write these attributes down. Read them to yourself every day until you believe them as the truth. For instance, you can write statements such; I accept and love myself just as I am. I am worthy. I deserve to be treated with respect. I respect myself—you get the idea. The fundamental thing to do is to think and believe these statements as the truth. And by doing this, you will be writing a better story that will improve your perception of yourself.
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Please note that although these tips are simplified, they helped me deal with my rejection-related negative emotions and I believe they can help you or anyone else. The idea is to make the tips your own, do the work on yourself, and remember that persistence and repetition are necessary ingredients required to establish and reinforce desired change.

The author is Jacinta Mpalyenkana, Ph.D., MBA. She’s an author, speaker, counselor and transformational coach. For more about her, please check out her website at www.tapthegood.com

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THREE TIPS TO INSTANTLY RESOLVE NEGATIVE FEELINGS


In this video, I share three proven tips to help one resolve negative feelings however intense.

Link to video – https://youtu.be/IR_RoWjZ50I. Just copy and paste the link in your browse.

Love and light

Dr. Jacinta Mpalyenkana, Ph.D., MBA

Counselor, Success Coach (EFT Master Practitioner, NLP Master Practitioner, Quantum Mind Healer, Reiki Master), Professional Speaker, Author

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Is Your Heart Wounded?


Certain experiences have a way of wounding our hearts. The emotions these experiences leave with us, do get in the way of us getting forward.

If you, or someone you know has been hurt, looking to heal negative emotions, or seeking to attract love, I have a resource for you. Click on the following link for details. https://www.eventbrite.com/e/healing-the-wounded-heart-to-attract-love-2-part-series-tickets-17663509031

Love and Light

Dr. Jacinta Mpalyenkana, Ph.D, MBA

Author, Speaker, Counselor / Success Coach

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You Are Not Different From a Rainbow:


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The rainbow is one of the most splendid creations of all times. Cultures all over the world have elicited different symbolisms from its occurrence. In The Bible, it is indicated as a symbol of God’s intention to purify the world. In most African cultures, it is a sign of deliverance from trouble. Other cultures equate it to a new beginning, hope, and wealth. The argument is that none of this magical finery is forced to occur or even maintain its form. If the right circumstances are not met, by the sun shining onto droplets of moisture in the earth’s atmosphere, the multicolored arc will not manifest.

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Likewise, if we want to manifest a better life, we have to meet the equivalent emotional, mental, spiritual and practical conditions. We have to redesign our internal representations, and mindsets to reflect on what we want mirrored in our experiences.

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We have to let go of the old mind programming that doesn’t serve us, and install now beliefs and thought processes that are in congruence with what we want: and this is actually when we fulfill the necessary conditions to manifest good experiences.

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If you want to learn more, Do not Force It, Tap The Good, is a book that explains in detail how to tap into our infinite potential, take our power back from negative prompters, and then meet the conditions to become the authorities of our crafts.

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Where do you find this book? Amazon, Kindle, and www.tapthegood.com

Love and light.

Dr. Jacinta Mpalyenkana, Ph.D., MBA

Author, Counselor, Success Coach / Mentor

www.tapthegood.com

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