Is Money Scarce? Resolving Negative Associations Related to Money Attraction


Most people believe that money is the source of all evil. However, when you look closely you realize that the lack of money is the devil itself. I have never heard of a millionaire breaking a bank, or someone like Oprah conning someone else for money. Can you imagine finding Bill Gates in jail for snatching someone’s purse because he was starving, or Warren Buffet, crying in court for breaking into someone house? Imagine all you can but I know that you will not experience the preceding in your life time.

The lack of money is what sends many people into hospitals, dealing with all sorts of neurologically engineered illnesses manufactured by worrying about money. I actually once experienced a panic attack because I didn’t know how I was going to pay my bills. It’s the lack of money that suffocates our vision, weakens our enthusiasm and chokes our relationships.

” It’s the lack of money that normally suffocates our vision, weakens our enthusiasm and chokes our relationships.”

With that said, it is apparent that understanding your money psychology is important in helping you to shift from barely surviving to living life on your terms. It is vital to develop and maintain a healthy relationship with money.

In this article, I share 3 mental and emotional associations that hinder us from identifying ways to earn more money. Note that these associations are like bad marriages that can pollute your good intentions of living a wealthier life. I urge you to take time as you analyze these associations and answer the related questions so that you can resolve them and then start developing a healthier relationship with money.  

“Negative associations with money are like bad marriages that can strangle your good intentions of living a wealthier life.”

  1. Beliefs:

(a) What negative beliefs do you have about money? Write them down.

Note that whatever you believe becomes your reality. If you believe that money is the source of all evil, you are impliedly negating money. If you believe that money is a beautiful thing to have you will do whatever it takes to have more of it. Most importantly, your unconscious mind, where the magic brews, will support you into earning more money because you created a positive belief about it.

(b) After writing down all these beliefs, know that they are all lies, illusions that do not exist. They are temporary pretences that your mind holds onto and you can easily let them go. With that in mind, create a new list with the opposite beliefs to the negative ones you have. Read the new list at least 3 times daily to reinforce these new beliefs into your unconscious mind.

“Negative beliefs about money are temporary pretences that your mind holds onto and you can easily let them go.”

  1. Experiences:

What negative experiences have you had that have convinced you that having money is painful? For instance, have you lent someone money and they never paid you back? Have you been backstabbed, disappointed, lied to or wrongfully punished because of money?

(a) Take time to think about all these experiences.

(b) Realize that by thinking about these experiences, you are living in the past. You are not enjoying the magic in the present moment. You are missing out. Note that these experiences are long gone and you can nullify them in your mind. Know that you have the power to speak to your mind and tell it to let go of this poison. Do not underestimate the power you have over your thoughts. Don’t let your thoughts rule you, rule them. Command them to behave themselves. Tell yourself the truth that you are more than these experiences. Remember that all experience is intended to help us learn and grow into more informed beings, and not to hold us back from progressing in life.

“Remember that all experience is intended to help us learn and grow into more informed beings, and not to hold us back from progressing in life.”

  1. Perceptions:

Perceptions are projections of our inner world. Whatever you perceive is a reflection of how you have internally identified with the perceived. If your projections about money are filled with anger, sadness, struggle, scarcity or rage, that’s exactly how you will perceive money.

 (a) Sit in a comfortable position, close your eyes and imagine that money is your partner. How is he/she dressed? What type of conversations do you have? Do you see yourself arguing or laughing? What are you telling this money-image? Is it good or bad? How do you feel about your relationship? Do you feel like you love each other? After you are done, open your eyes and think through your visualized perception of money, plus your relationship with it.

(b) Whatever money-image and relationship that your mind revealed, go through the exercise again but this time creating a more positive image and relationship. Image that money as your partner is well groomed, strong and healthy. Imagine that you are walking down the street holding hands, laughing, and having a good time. Imagine telling each other repeatedly that you love each other very much. Generate the related positive emotions. Go through this exercise every day until you start believing that you and money are good together. Trust your mind to create similar experiences in your reality.

Remember that you are the master of your destiny. It’s up to you to realize that you are more than your experiences; you are more than the negative money associations plus all the other things that weigh you down: and that money is nothing more than the relationship you have with yourself.

 “When all is said and done we realize that all along we had both keys to our life’s prisons and freedom.”

Check out this video to access a few exercises that will help resolve negative associations you may have with money.

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Is Your Job Progressing, or Retarding You?


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In school, for the most part we are programmed to believe that the only way to make it in life is to work for others. And although there’s nothing wrong with being employed, the danger is when we either don’t earn what we deserve or don’t ask for what we deserve because we don’t feel worthy.

In this short video, I share a few insights to inspire you to recognize your worth and then act accordingly.

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How Fear Limits us and How to Release our Grip from it


What has fear done for you so far?

Do you believe that fear has power? 

What can you do to overcome your fears and start living life on your terms?

In this video, I share my take on what I believe is the root cause of our human-related struggles, and how to release our grip from this root cause.

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7 Budgeting Mistakes to Avoid


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Budgeting is crucial to efficient and effective financial management. When we don’t budget, we end up either squandering money or missing out on paying for important and/or time sensitive transactions.

Note that the lack of budgeting is the very reason why the poor remain poor–because they don’t take time to think about what they want and research on how much it will cost.

The question is, how will you know what to spend your money on if you don’t budget? Remember that there is more to living than paying bills. Therefore, take control of your finances and establish budgeting as a mandatory act.

Below are 7 budgeting mistakes to avoid.

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Mistake 1:

When you don’t stick to your savings plan, or when you don’t have a savings plan. In order to achieve financial freedom putting away money as savings to either invest or fall back on in hard times, should be part of the game plan. If you don’t budget for your savings, you are basically rendering yourself vulnerable for financial disaster.

Mistake 2:

When you don’t update your budget plan:

It’s important to update your spending plan so that you are aware of what’s going on periodically. Get a note book, or download an app on your phone (www.everyDollar.com is a good one)) and use these tools to periodically update your budget.

Mistake 3:

When you underestimate or overestimate how much you spend: To avoid this mistake evaluate your previous month’s expenses to use as reference for your spending patterns.

Mistake 4:

When you don’t have a budget: When you don’t have a budget how will you know much to save or what to spend on?

Mistake 5:

When you don’t communicate with your spouse or people in your household about your budget standards: This applies if you have a family. You need to let your spouse know about your budgeting plans so that they spend within its limits.

Mistake 6:

When you only budget once in a while: You have to be consistent with your budget plans. It is an ongoing process, and the good news is that it gets easier with time.

Mistake 7:

Lack of budgeting before your payday: Getting money before you create a spending plan can be dangerous.  Note that by the time you create the plan, half the money will be gone on expenses that can not wait for you to decide whether you need a budget or not.

Note that budgeting is a healthy financial habit that you should embrace. Doing it right will make all the difference, and having a success infused mindset is the starting point.

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8 Money Management Tips


Whether you are a billionaire or zero-naire, managing your money is key, to having more of it.wealth

In this article, I share 8 tips to help you manage your money more wisely.

  1. Spend Only What You’ve Earned.Spend money

Don’t use money you don’t have: such as credit cards-especially in case of emergencies.

  1. Examine Your Spending Habits.Spending habits

Take time to see what you mostly spend on and determine if you are a compulsive shopper or actually take time to budget.

  1. Make A Money Plan And Stick To It.

If you don’t have a plan then you won’t know where you are going. Remember that a plan is like a GPS that leads your way. Note that although we have to be flexible with the planning and execution of our financial needs, it is better to have a plan on how we want to spend our money.

  1. Do Not Buy What You Don’t Need.Shoping

Before you go shopping firstly make sure that you don’t already have what you are going to buy. Secondly, examine why you are buying that item in the first place. Are you buying that item to escape a reality, fill a need, and satisfy a want or simply because it is on sale? We are accustomed to buying things because they are on sale, and for the most part we don’t even need these things. Don’t let the “sales” syndrome entice you into buy what you don’t need.

  1. Always save a percentage of your money—at least 10% of all the amount you earn.    savings

  2. Pay Attention To Your Bank Balances So That You Don’t Overspend. Bank balances

  3. Think Positive Thoughts About Money. Create positive mental pictures to represent money. I-don_t-fix-my-problems.-I-fix-my-thinking-and-the-problems-fix-themselves.-1

  4. Have Jars For Your Coins. Keep all your coins and only take them into the bank once a year or every other year. After the money is counted, immediately transfer it to your savings

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I’m certain there are many more tips for managing money. However, the above tips will get you started on managing your money.

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6 Reasons Why We Stay in Abusive Relationships


To begin, what are abusive relationships?

Certainly, the answer is relative and depends on the way we individually develop our personal standards. Culture also has a lot to do with what is regarded as abusive and what is not. 

In this article, I share a generalized view of the different and common forms of abuse, and the reasons we stay in abusive relationships.

What are the different forms of abuse?

The list below includes some common forms of abuse although it is not exhaustive of what abuse can be.

  1. Saying Lies About You

When someone says a lie about you, they have abused your persona. They are probably jealous of you or just want to make themselves feel good by putting you down. Another reason why people lie about others is that they want all the attention to be directed at them. For the most part, they are insecure and don’t really feel good about themselves. They believe that by lying about you, others will turn their attention away from their weaknesses and focus on yours.

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  1. Lying to You

When someone repeatedly lies to you, they firstly do not respect themselves, and the same goes for you or anyone else. Remember, we generally treat others the way we treat ourselves. Most importantly, someone lying to you is a form of abuse. They abuse your intellect by lying.

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  1. Verbal Insults

This is self-explanatory. When someone insults you by either calling you rude names, making negative comments about your self-image, your intellect, or criticizing the way you do things, they are abusing you. I appreciate that at times someone might say negative things to you because they are going through their own drama and aren’t nice to anyone especially to themselves. But if one insults you more than once they have abusive tendencies. 

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  1. Judgment and criticism

We believe it is normal to judge and/or criticize others. But this is not only wrong but also implies that we are investing our focus on something that doesn’t, and will never promote us. We normally judge others based on what we’ve either been told about them, subconscious bias–if they are different from us, or if they intimidate us. We find a way to judge them–which means making conclusions about them without enough evidence. People are also so accustomed to criticizing others and constantly identifying what they believe is wrong with them. This turns into abuse if one is doing it often and doesn’t change even when you bring it to their attention.

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  1. Physical Abuse

Physical abuse is when someone hits, pushes or engages in any forceful physical activity that causes you discomfort or bodily pain. Note that one time is more than enough times for you to walk away—and trust me on this one.

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Why do we Stay in Abusive Relationships?

In this video, I share 6 reasons that I believe you will relate to. I also share a simple yet powerful tip that will help you get out of any abusive relationship.

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