Are You 100% Free to Be What You Want to Be?


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Some philosophers have argued that we are not totally free to be who want to be. What we think is freedom is merely being free to express ourselves as predetermined by our earlier and continuous programming. Due to the fact that being free means being happy and content with wherever and whatever one is, we tend to mistake settling for what is available, for authentic contentment. We forget that if we are unaware of other realities we have nothing to compare with. As such we regard our present reality as the real deal. Furthermore, because we are deeply programmed to believe and be a certain way, we conclude that this is the best we can be or do. We settle for beliefs  and lives that are not organically our own. 

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For instance, as I child, I was told, and I believed that if a woman rode a bike they would never get married. Because riding a bike compromised being feminine. Today, I’m still struggling to learn how to ride a bike–upon discovering that getting married has nothing to do with riding a bike. 🙂 
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That’s one of many beliefs that I was exposed to as a child, and I have had to examine, question and change my beliefs every so often in order to discover if they are regressing or progressing me.

The question is: Which of your beliefs are promoting your life?

Note that it takes more than wishful thinking to examine all our beliefs in order to originate beliefs and ways of living that are organically our own. Note that everytime someone starts questioning the general status quo, they are isolated, rejected if not killed. They are thrown out of the crowd. Think about people like, Martin Luther King, Jr, Jesus, the Christ–to mention a few.

So, if you want to create a reality that is organically your own, you have to step away from the crowds, follow your bliss and inner guidance, question everything, be open to everything, yet attached to nothing. You also have to be willing to be alone in order to find your authentic-self.  However, the benefits are inexhaustible. 

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In this video, I discuss this concept in detail. 

Link to VIDEO – https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=aNgNA0oyGHM

Please share your thoughts. 

If you are seeking for a spiritual speaker to speak about “What it Means to be Free”, or  a counselor/coach who will work with you in examining your current reality and creating an organic one based on your authentic-self, please send me an email at tapthegood@gmail.com

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Dr. Jacinta Mpalyenkana.Ph.D., MBA, is a Spiritual Counselor, Transformational Coach, Published author and Professional speaker. For more about her, visit http://www.tapthegood.com

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10 Things To Do When You Feel Frustrated With Life


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Although there are many reasons that incite our frustrations, the main reasons are founded on two major factors: money and relationships.

We get frustrated because we either don’t have money, we are losing money or money is not coming in as expected. We also get frustrated because of the people we deal with: especially because we are all different and view the world from a diverse perspective.

One thing I have learned is that the factors that promote our negative emotions, plus the negative emotions are not as crucial in influencing our emotional well-being as our perception about them. As such, my intention is to share 10 tips that you can use to get out of a frustrated mood regardless of the foundation of your frustrations. Remember,  it is not what happens to us that impacts our lives; it’s how we perceive whatever happens.     

  1. Move

By moving, I mean, changing your physicality. Do yoga, dance, go for a walk, exercise: the idea is to get your body moving. Once your body is moving, your brain will change its focus from the frustration to whatever you are doing.

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“The difference between peak performance and poor performance is not intelligence or ability; most often it’s the state that your mind and body is in.” – Tony Robbins

Note that emotion is created by motion. In other words, emotions are linked to movement in our bodies. Observe your posture when you are happy, as opposed to when you are sad — or what you look like when you are angry, versus when you are elated.

  1. Listen To Inspirational Or Upbeat Music.

I understand that sometimes when you are feeling frustrated or sad you don’t have the guts to listen to anything. But if you are so sick and tired of feeling negative you will do whatever it takes to feel better. Some of the songs I listen to when I’m sad include, but are not limited to the following:

  • The Storm is Over – R Kelley

  • A New Day Has Come – Celine Dion

  • Roar – Katy Perry

  • Departed (Right Here) – Brandy

  • I look to You – Whitney Houston

  • I’m Your Angel – Celine Dion and R Kelly

  • When You Believe – Whitney Houston and Mariah Carey

  • Stronger (What Doesn’t Kill You) – Kelly Clarkson

  • One Step at a Time – Jordan Sparks

Note that it is important to spend time making your own list.

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         3. Clean

Cleaning your space has a magical way of making you feel better. As you clean, your mind goes into the cleaning mood.  As such, you implicitly clean the frustration from your mind.

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  1. Imagine receiving $1 Million in your bank account; make a list of how you would spend it.

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  1. Cook

Just go into your kitchen and concoct recipes regardless of what you are cooking. The process will definitely help you divert your mind from the frustration.

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  1. Change your furniture around. Don’t try to be perfect. Just change things around in whichever way you want.

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  1. Go window shopping 

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  1. Meditate.       

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  1. Volunteer

This will help you realize how blessed you are.

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  1. Make big plans.

Just make plans without worrying about the resources required to realize them. Make plans as you focus on the things you want to manifest in your life—imagining that there are no obstacles that can hinder you from achieving your goals.

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Conclusion:

Remember that the difference between where you are emotionally or mentally, and where you want to be, is only a decision away. Once you decide to change your mind about anything, you have literally embarked on a profound journey of getting to your desired destination.

Reading self-help books is also another vital tip that will help infuse your mind with self-improvement–which is a good thing. You may want to check out my book: Do Not Force It, Tap The Good – Link – https://www.amazon.com/Do-not-Force-TAP-GOOD/dp/1461079098

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Love and light.

Dr. Jacinta Mpalyenkana, PH.D, MBA, is a published author of 5 books, a Transformational coach, Counselor and Professional speaker. For more about her, check out her website at www.tapthegood.com

How Death Affects us Beyond Dying; and How to Avoid it Before Dying.


“Death is not the greatest loss in life. The greatest loss is what dies inside us while we live.” Norman Cousins

Death has been known as one of the scariest experiences in our lives. Most people fear it. Death is traumatizing, yet, we tend to administer the same implicit approach to many of the worldly, temporary things we found in this world, and things that we shall leave behind when we die; things that will come and go; things that live and die. This is the type of death that I discuss in this article–a death that defines and implicates the final destination to all temporary things.

Correct me if I’m wrong, but I don’t know anything on this planet with infinite attributes other than God, Allah—or whoever you refer to as your Creator. As such, we the human race have developed a profound tendency over the years to put all our bets in the situation-basket of what’s temporary. Consequently, we miss out on the infinite realm of things.

What Do I Mean By This?

For example, when we focus all our attention on something like a bill that we have to pay, a car that we have to replace or how our neighbor is doing better than we are, we are literally focusing on what’s finite. At times we engage in unhealthy competition with belief that there isn’t enough in circulation for all of us. We find ways to block, intimidate, criticize or judge those who have dreams we believe are similar to ours. Yet, we forget that we are all unique and different. We ignore the divine truth that no one will ever be or has ever been created with our blueprint. We negate the fact that we are all special and therefore whatever we create even if it might appear similar, is differentiated by our very nature.

Consequently, we miss out on the infinite intelligence that dwells within us…the source of all things.  And our limited perception is based on fear: the fear that we won’t have enough, the fear that we live in a scarce world: and the blind notion that we are in control of everything. We forget that we are supported in life by a divine being that takes care of our very bodily biology and does magical things like help us breathe as we sleep: manages the trillions of the body’s internal cellular activities that we don’t even know about.

“What’s lovely never dies, but passes onto other loveliness” – Thomas Bailey Aldrich

That’s why it is written in the bible that, “Seek first the kingdom of heaven and all the rest will fall in hand,” meaning that let’s seek to connect to the source of all things, that invisible Self that protects and takes care of our needs. Out of that mental/emotional condition, inspiration will drive us to how and where we can find the temporary things of this world. And I’m not suggesting that you ignore your bills or become irresponsible. What I’m suggesting is for us to stop killing each other and ourselves for things we found in this world. Let’s remove our grips on emotional and mental mediocrity because they don’t serve us. Let’s focus on that which is infinite within us. Let’s focus on loving each other, forgiving each other, and working on ourselves to become better people: better than whom we were yesterday. Let’s focus on tapping into the intangible infinite attributes within us: attributes like love, peace, hope, creativity and the like. Consequently, we won’t only be able to easily get the temporary world stuff but also access all the mental, emotional and spiritual resources to replace them.

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“Death leaves a headache no one can heal. Love leaves a memory no one can steal” – Unknown

Remember, when you focus on what’s dying, you will never see what’s being born. Let’s become flexible, and develop faith in our creator regardless of our religious or non-religious technologies, well knowing that because this planet was built with us the human race in mind, we are always taken care of, and there’s no need to hate or kill each for what’s temporary.

Written by Dr. Jacinta Mpalyenkana, Ph.D., MBA, an author, Speaker, Spiritual Counselor, Coach. For more about her, please visit http://www.tapthegood.com. 

Life is About Dealing With Issues


Life is about dealing with issues: financial issues, societal issues, political issues, etc, and especially, emotional issues.

Dealing with emotional issues on a continuous basis is the pathway to emotional freedom.

I have a gift for you; an eBook. With the magical tools of EFT, the Emotional Freedom Technique, also known as tapping, you are set not only to heal from emotional baggage, but also achieve self-empowerment, clarity and peace of mind.

To download the eBook, please click HERE

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Dr. Jacinta Mpalyenkana, Ph.D, MBA

http://www.tapthegood.com

 

The Most Important Step to Master and Benefit from the Art of Persuasion


To learn about the most important step to master and benefit from the art of persuasion, click the link below to access the video.

 

 

To learn more about my full day – Art of Persuasion Seminar Scheduled for February 6th, 2016, click on this link. http://www.eventbrite.com/e/the-art-of-persuasion-101-tickets-19585873876

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It’s All About You.


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It is not selfish to say that it’s all about you. It’s actually empowering. Remember that you are the most important treasure for your life. Without you, your life and world do not exist.

I understand that we’ve been programmed to make our lives about others.  It’s been the right thing to do. It’s deemed the spiritual thing to do. However just like batteries, they won’t have any purpose if they aren’t charged. By understanding that it’s all about you, you prepare and charge yourself for the world. Your wellbeing is the key to your giving, living, loving, and being.

How do you give what you don’t have?

How do you donate from an empty account?

How do you support when your foundation is cracking?

You need to fully own who you are in order to give yourself to others–without losing yourself in the process.

That’s why it’s vital to take care of you before anything or anyone else. This is not selfish. It’s actually the exact opposite. It is the most enlightened philanthropy.

How do you program yourself to remember that it’s all about you?

Do Not Force It, Tap The Good: How to Tap into one’s Inner Infinite Intelligence, Develop a Profound Positive Mindset, and Live Life on his/her Terms, is a book that show you how.

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Dr. Jacinta Mpalyenkana Ph.D., MBA

Author, Speaker, Counselor / Coach

www.tapthegood.com

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Going Through Hell? 5 Ways to Liberate Your Life:


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Going through hell? Been there. There are times in my life when I felt as if I had a concrete and eternal contract with Satan himself. Everything in my world seemed to be crumbling. I took one step forward, and then 1000 steps backwards. There is nothing I did that made me feel happy or purposeful. I was eventually short of answers and tools to try and liberate my soul. I didn’t know what else to do. Suddenly, I stopped. I stopped searching; stopped looking for answers; and just lived every moment as it prevailed.

If you are experiencing havoc in your life, I hope the following 5 steps help you remember that every beginning has an end. As long as it is a challenge, it has a solution. There are no questions without answers.

  1. Wake up every morning and breathe deeply for at least 30 minutes. As you breathe, imagine that you are breathing in pure positive energy, and breathing out all the negativity.

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  1. As you take a shower, repeat the statement; “I release all that no longer serve me”— over and over again until you are done with the shower.

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  1. During the day when worries and sadness creep in, breathe deeply. Imagine that you are breathing in a white healing light from God, and breathing out all that no longer serve you.

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  1. Drink a lot of water. And as you ease yourself, repeat the statements; “I’m releasing all that no longer serve me.”

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  1. Before you go to bed, say out loud, “From this very moment, and as I sleep tonight, my unconscious mind is liberating my spirit, freeing my mind, empowering my soul, and branding me to live a full life.”

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I encourage you to go through this exercise for as long as you can, at least until you feel better about your life. Remember that the answers we seek are all engrained inside of us.

If you want someone to talk to, contact me for a complimentary 30 minutes phone or online session. I’m only this email away –  author@tapthegood.com

Love and light

Dr. Jacinta Mpalyenkana, Ph.D, MBA

Author, Counselor / Success Coach

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