Nothing is Permanent: Be of Good Cheer


OB-ZA278_Fight0_D_20130923205402I recently heard of a man who sued his parents for giving birth to him. He had gone through many challenges that propelled him to question the objective of his birth. In court, he accused his parents of planning to bring him into this world without his consent. Funny, because he wasn’t alive to give his consent to be born. 

Much as this story seems like fiction, I understand his point of view. And I’m certain that if your life has presented avalanches of challenges, obstacles or failures at one point you’ve also wondered why you were born. 

A couple of years ago, there were many months I spent several hours daily seeking answers for the multitude of problems I was experiencing. At times, I felt like breaking down but I remembered what my mother once told me; “Don’t give in and break down because of worldly troubles. You are more than them.” I picked up my broken-self, prayed and meditated for days, forgave (this took me many months) and things started getting better. 

What are you experiencing today?

What is causing you pain?

Trust me when I say that everything changes. Nothing is permanent. Troubles or challenges might seem so big to handle or so powerful to pass away. However, everything that has a beginning has an end. This too will pass. Hang in there and don’t give in. 

Most importantly, you can actively be the witness of all your experiences. Regardless of whatever is going on in your external environment you can internally step back and observe without creating attachments. You can observe without defining or creating relationships with any event. You have what it takes and more to let everything be as it is without categorizing it. You can watch without emotional engagement. If something needs you to take action, you can still act without letting your mind dig out for negative emotions to attach to your actions. 

You can be a witness of all experiences without defining them. With such mindset, everything that happens is neither good or bad. Everything just is. And this notion works magic with experiences we would normally define as bad. Everything then becomes a passing thing. As a result, you are open to everything but attached to nothing. Your emotional thermometer is close to neutral. You are always neutral or at peace with everything. You are in control of your mind: of your emotions. You can choose how to feel without letting the mind manipulate you into generating negative emotions that do absolutely nothing for you. Remember the mind is unemployed without your attention. If the mind starts recruiting thoughts that generate negative emotions in you, move your attention to something else. Note that you are in control of your precious attention. You can choose what to give it to. 

“Become like the sky. Regardless of the number, weight or color of the clouds in its space, the sky remains intact,” said my mentor. 

John 16:33 These things I have spoken unto you, that in me ye might have peace. In the world ye shall have tribulation: but be of good cheer; I have overcome the world.

By “overcoming the world” Jesus meant being a constant witness of the world and its presentations without attaching, defining, relating to or letting his mind manipulate him into generating emotions to attach to these events. 

Remember that a peaceful mind is the heavens playhouse. 

Be of good cheer

Sending you much love and wishing you a gracious Easter

Peace and blessings. 

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What to do When You Feel Uninspired


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How often do you feel uninspired?

What do you do when you keep procrastinating just because you don’t feel the urge to get started on a particular project?

What can you do to inspire yourself?

There are times when I have had projects to pursue: times when I know exactly what to do, how to do it, plus have the resources needed to get started. But for some reason, I couldn’t get started because I felt so uninspired.

Most times it is because my mind is stuck on what things are supposed to be, or shouldn’t be. Other times, I’m thinking about what’s wrong and how wrong it could get. And that’s how the matrix holds each of us captive. We find ourselves knowing what to do and not doing it. It is like you are aware that fire burns but you keep playing with it. You are aware that when you don’t take action nothing will be accomplished, but you don’t take action. What kind of BS is that? lol.

The underlying reason is because we are afraid. Note that we are either hosts of progress or hostages of fear. If your fear doesn’t drive you, you are its hostage. 

One of the ways to snap out of this mind block is to inspire ourselves. However, how do you inspire yourself when you don’t want to do anything? Apparently, you’ve consciously and/or subconsciously driven yourself into this emotional/mental mess. This also implies that if you feel lethargic, and you have lost the grip on how to get out. Yet, it is still up to you to get your stressed-behind out of this mess.  What do you do?

Here are a few steps to get you started on inspiring yourself. 

  1. Know that it is your responsibility to feel good and inspired. Remove the blame from anything or anyone out of yourself. Get a grip of your mind and make it your hostage. Direct your mind to do what you want instead of the other way round. Talk yourself into taking full responsibility of your emotions. 
  2. Remember, or find your why. Go back to the drawing board of why you want to accomplish that goal. For instance, during days when I don’t feel like writing or making videos to inspire my audience, I remember why–which is my life purpose. I know that when I inspire others through the different ways I do, this is the time I feel alive the most. Therefore, find your why.
  3. Meditate. Yes, meditate. Some people think that meditation is for monks. But I attest to the power of meditation. Meditation has helped me overcome some of the ugliest situations in my life. Meditation has rewarded me with a lot of clarity, enthusiasm and unconditional inner peace. It’s mainly through meditation that I get the ideas I write, and record about. The benefits of meditation are inexhaustible. To get started, you can check out my simple morning meditations on gratitude and divine love. The links are: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=tgMpYijDTjU  https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Yk7JhGZOZvU I also suggest that you start your day off with meditating. It makes all the positive difference. 

  4. Exercise: Once you change your physiology, your mood will change. Stand up, stretch, stand in your power pause, go for a walk, do yoga or whatever you can to get moving. This will amplify the production of your happy hormones and then get you inspired to take action. 
  5. Listen to affirmations. Here are a few I’ve recorded. Links: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=cHyp6f8_jp4   https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=SXf_l7hpFqw   
  6. Listen to your favorite music.
  7. Listen to inspirational messages. Some of these messages can be accessed by clicking on these links:  https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=0dl-rhzBgOY https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=flCW8oaRQYM
  8. Read a good book. You can read, Do Not Force it, Tap The Good — guaranteed to inspire you. Link to the book – https://www.amazon.com/Do-not-Force-TAP-GOOD/dp/1461079098

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8. Hire the services of a transformational coach or counselor. I offer 30 minutes complimentary sessions and these can be enough to facilitate your self-inspirational goals. To request for your free session, check out www.tapthegood.com/contact/

I’m certain that there are hundreds of other ways that you can employ to get you inspired. But the ones I have provided above, will create a strong foundation for you to get started on inspiring yourself. 

In the interim, do not worry. Nothing lasts for ever. Every thing will be okay. I promise. 

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Dr. Jacinta Mpalyenkana, PHD, MBA

Author, Transformational Coach, Counselor, Speaker

http://www.tapthegood.com

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How to Connect to The Right Friends


As a teenager, connecting to the right friends was one of my biggest challenges.

I grew up with my mom in Kampala, the capital city of Uganda, and my mom was very strict about how we chose friends since most of our neighbor’s teenagers had become pregnant, escaped from their homes and/or got involved in other inappropriate activities. I disliked my mom. In my little mind, I thought she was blocking my freedom to have as many friends as I wanted. But as an adult now, I appreciate her a lot. It is because of her strategies to keep us safe from the turbulent environment in which we were in, that I and my siblings were able to complete school without getting into trouble.

By following some of the strategies that I learned from my mom, and some as a transformational coach, I’ve been able to connect to and choose the right friends over the years.

Here are some of the tips that you can use to connect to the right friends.

1. Become your own best friend.
Before you can understand what friendship really means, you have to love and appreciate everything about yourself, including your flaws. You have to be your own best friend. If you don’t like yourself, you will always look for validation from your friends to define who you are. And that will be disappointing because no one has the power to define who you should be, or how you should feel about yourself. It’s up to each one of us to determine who we should be, and how we should feel. Therefore, be your best friend first, such that when you connect to friends, you are not looking for validation. You love yourself as you are.

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2. Define what friendship means to you.
It is extremely important to establish what you want to achieve from whatever you do. It’s about being purposeful. Defining what friendship means to you implies that you establish what you expect from friends; what they should expect from you as a friend, and what you will not tolerate from them. This also means that you have to develop personal values and standards below which you won’t be anyone’s friend. For instance; since you are already your own best friend, you have to know how to be friendly to yourself. This means that you respect your body by eating the right foods; you exercise and do not indulge in anything that would abuse your body—such as drugs and/or immature sex. You keep your word. You communicate clearly about what you want and don’t want, assertively. You respect your parents/elders. You keep your environment clean and safe. In a nutshell, you love yourself. As a result, you seek to connect with friends who also love themselves and most importantly, friends who will not negatively affect your self-love. They respect and appreciate who you are. They don’t try to influence you, except if it is for positive change.

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3. Become friendly.
If you want to connect to friends you have to be friendly. This means that you don’t make judgments about others because of their looks, origin, social group or religion. You communicate to others freely and attentively as you take the time to examine if these people also love themselves. You become present with people—meaning that you listen attentively to everyone you meet before you determine if that person could be a friend.

I believe that if you embrace these tips, or even add other personal tips that you’ve learned, you will be able to connect to good friends.

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Article also shared on teenmentor.com

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Dr. Jacinta Mpalyenkana, PH.D., MBA

Author, Transformational Coach, and Speaker.

What Are you Missing out in The Present Moment? (An EFT Session is included)


The wise ones advise that being in the moment is the most powerful mind tool to attain peace. Being present has many benefits including:

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1. You increase social skills because you listen and respond accordingly. You are not in a hurry to go someplace. You are here and in the now.

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2. Improved creativity.

If you write or do some other creative work you may have found that your best work flows out of you when you are not thinking that much. You just write or paint. You enter a state where things just come to you. You get a lot done without mind-interruptions.

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3. You appreciate your world more. Because you are present and able to comprehend everything going on.

4. You release stress because you are not worried about what was, or what will be. It’s all about what is.

The question is; how can one be present all the time when there is literally so much to think and/or worry about?

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In this blog, I have included a brief EFT session to help you be in the now, at the moment where all the magic is happening.

Link to EFT Session: – https://youtu.be/JtlcdQ6ko-0

Are you in need of more personalized EFT, success coaching or counseling sessions?

Contact me for a complimentary 30 minutes EFT session to deal with an issue that is bombarding your life.

Remember, nothing happens, if nothing moves.:)

Love and light

Dr. Jacinta Mpalyenkana, Ph,D, MBA

Author, Speaker, Counselor, Success Coach/Mentor

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Do you Feel like you are Running Around in Circles?


There are times when we all feel so overwhelmed about life–when everything we do does not yield the results that we desire. During such times, we may feel as though the devil itself has binoculars on our lives.

I have experienced periods in my life when I felt as though I was moving against the wind. Everything seemed to break down. There was conflict surrounding me. Every action took me face to face with failure. I felt as though I was locked up behind a thick high wall with nowhere to go. I felt as if I was literally running around in circles–like a dog chasing its own tail. No amount of positive thinking made things better. Regardless of how hard and deeply I thought, no new information or ideas popped up in my mind as solutions. Even when I meditated and prayed for hours, I still felt a deep sense of emptiness and sadness.

Below are some of the steps that I have taken—things that have helped me get a new grip of my life.

1. Write down your goals.

2. Perform a situation analysis of your life; the steps you’ve been taking towards achieving your goals, the skills you have employed, plans, strategies, weaknesses, strengths, opportunities and threats.

2. Evaluate your successes and failures for the last 60 days.

3. STOP. Stop and relax. Stop making any major plans, taking any major actions or even expecting anything—good or bad to happen. Become a witness of your life. Observe. I know this might sound so hard to do, but if you have been taking a lot of action and seeing no results, then there is something missing. During such times, it also implies that we are not listening to our inner voice for direction or alerts.

4. Spend some time with yourself–at least 3 hours a day especially if you work for yourself. If you are employed and have to appear at a job every day, you can still become a witness of your own life by excluding judgement of others and the entire job situation. This might also mean that you don’t talk about your concerns with anyone. You are present at the job and doing what you have to do, but mindfully absent. I hope you understand what I mean. It’s about becoming laid back for a set period of time.

When we stop and do nothing major, we reduce the noises in our minds. This is when we get to hear the voice of God that is always existent at the back of our minds.

I hope this helps.

Love and light.

Dr Jacinta Mpalyenkana, Ph.D., MBA

Author, Speaker / Counselor / Coach / Mentor

http://www.tapthegood.com

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4 Out-of-the-Box Tips to Become More Productive:


  1. Sell your TV

When you watch television continuously, you’re just watching other people get successful instead of embarking on projects that could help you achieve your dreams

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2. Say goodbye to the energy vampires in your life. (The negative souls who steal your enthusiasm). Clean your environment. Weed out people who are negative and those who don’t support or understand your dreams.

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3. Start your day at 5.00 am. Win the battle of the bed. Put mind over mattress. This habit alone will strengthen your willpower. By getting up early, I have been able to get a lot done in a few hours, and then take time out to do other things that nourish my wellbeing.

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4. Sign up for my complimentary Success Coaching and/or counseling session during which I will show you how to get your power back, become more productive, and most importantly, become the authority of your craft.

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I hope this has revealed a tip or two that you can use to become more productive.

Your productivity is your life made visible; protect it. 🙂

Love and light

Dr. Jacinta Mpalyenkana, Ph.D, MBA

Author, Speaker, Counselor / Success Coach

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Worry-Free Tip 5 – In celebration of the Global Worry-Free Day – Your CHANCE TO IMPACT THE WORLD


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In this video, I share 2 tips that are guaranteed to help you stop worrying. 

Link to video:- http://youtu.be/sjJ6aDY5mSM

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Take the challenge to put your own problems aside, and make a difference in a stranger’s life.

Remember; the Global Worry-free Day is March 1st, 7.00 a.m. – 7.00 p.m. your time…your region. It’s your chance to impact the world. 

Love and light

Dr. Jacinta Mariah

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