Are You affected by The Mind-Kombucha Syndrome?


What is kombucha?

Kombucha is a drink made out of some kind of live amoeba that feeds on sugar, green tea and water. Once the amoeba grows, you can remove some of it and place it in another container, add sugar, green tea and water and securely seal in a dark cool place for fermentation. Within a few weeks, it will be ready to drink. You can basically use one amoeba to produce tens more, as long as you keep it securely sealed in a cool, dark place during the few weeks or fermentation. .

This drink is a healthy substitute for probiotics.

Now, what has kombucha got to do with the mind?

The process of growth and accumulation for kombucha is similar to that of our minds. When we accept negative thoughts, emotions and memories to dwell within us for long periods of time, and especially feed them with our attention, they accumulate and recreate themselves into other negative states. For instance, if you have been holding onto a negative memory for a long period of time, and continue to give it your attention, it will create other negative habits, states and behavior, such as anger, resentment and the like. So, the more you hold onto these negative emotions and memories, the more they ferment and create more of themselves in different forms. The question then is, what are you holding onto that no longer serves you? What are you ready to let go? What will it take for you to decide to let go of all negative memories that no longer serve you?

As a spiritual counselor, I have witnessed some clients “housing” so much anger and deceit in their minds, to the extent that they no longer recognize the difference between themselves and these emotions/memories.

Therefore, as this year comes to an end, let’s take some time to ourselves to recognize the negative in our inner world and then do whatever it takes to let it go. Sometimes, letting go is as easy as taking a deep focused breath.

I also have a few resources that can help you. Visit my YouTube channel at https://www.youtube.com/user/MsJacent for hundreds of free counseling, and transformational coaching videos. Or simply search for Dr. Jacinta Mpalyenkana-Murray on YouTube.

In the meantime, happy holidays.

Love and light

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6 Tools to Move From Struggling to The Realization of Set Goals:


“I can’t go on this way.” I told my mother. My business was struggling. I had been at it for over a year and still couldn’t make ends meet. I felt weak and absolutely defeated. I knew that I had to re-tap into my inner strength and keep focusing on what I wanted. But it was easier thought, and said than done. It took a toll on me to divert my attention from what was wrong to what I wanted. Yet I knew that I had to snap out of negative thinking and propel myself to focus on what I wanted. I had to clear my mind. I had to let go of fear of never coming out of my situation. I was sick and tired of struggling. So, I made a profound decision to refocus my attention to what I wanted.

Sadly, it was more straining to focus on what I wanted than what I didn’t want. Focusing on what I didn’t want seemed easier because it showed up more often than what I wanted to manifest. This illustrates how tricky the mind is. It propels us to focus on what we don’t want so that we are weakened, diverted from our true nature, and delusional. But if you are ready to experience better realities you do whatever it takes to release whatever is holding you back.

The questions are;

Þ  What are you going through?

Þ  Are you having a hard time picking up the pieces and moving forward?

The six tools below are some of the many, which can help one, move from struggling to the realization of set goals.

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1.    Examine what you are worshiping. What are you focusing on? What’s constantly dwelling in your mind? What do you give most of your attention? Whatever that is, that’s what you are worshiping.

2.    Focus on what you want. Write a list of everything you want and place it in visible areas in your house. Read the list as many times as you can, daily.

3.    Pray, meditate and trust that there’s a power within you that’s knows everything.

4.    Lose the doubt. Tap into your faith. Remember that doubt doesn’t move mountains. Faith does. Have faith that everything will eventually work out for your good. Trust God, Creator of whomever/whatever you believe is your higher power, to renew you.

“Doubt doesn’t move mountains. Faith Does.”

5.    Do not stress. Do everything you can to be peaceful. Take care of your mind. Meditate, do yoga, deep-breath, hike, walk, eat right—do whatever you can to pretend the mind from diverting your attention to what you’ve perceived as wrong. Also, avoid negative environment. Stay away from people who make you don’t elevate you. Clean your living and working spaces. Keep watch of what you feed your senses with.

6.    Keep at it. Do not give in to feelings of failure. Remember that thoughts of failure are just thoughts. The power you give them is what they get. Give them nothing, and they eventually die a natural death. Deny them your attention and they will soon disappear out of your consciousness.

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Day 3- Using Mirror Work to Denounce the Memory of Focusing on, and Attracting What You don’t Want


When we develop habits through consistent action, these habits eventually transform into memories. And once a memory about a particular habit is formulated, one remembers to act in congruent with that habit every time there is a corresponding trigger. For example, if you are always focused on what’s wrong or what you don’t want, the brain soon transforms that action into a habit. If you carry on with this habit, the brain stores it as a memory. So every time something you perceive as unpleasant happens, the brain is triggered to release the memory of worry: i.e. you start to worry.

In this video, we shall denounce this memory of focusing on, and attracting what we don’t want. We shall use the mirror to connect with ourselves and then go through the process. Remember to engage your senses and maintain the stare in the mirror.
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What do You Think About Loss? An Inspirational True Story


“Loss gives us a chance for an upgrade. ~ Jacinta M

Some time in December 2000, I flew from Kosovo to the UK and dropped off 10 suitcases of my “stuff,” at a friend’s house in London. I then proceeded to Uganda to be with my family for Christmas. I had been accepted by the University of Hull, where I was to begin pursing an MBA in January 2001.

The 10 suitcases included all the stuff I had accumulated during the two years I had worked in Kosovo–with the United Nations. In the suitcases were jewelry worth thousands of dollars, classy suites, dresses, shoes, crafts and a large music system. My friend Jeff promised to store my stuff in his house until I returned from Uganda.

A few days after arriving in Uganda, I called Jeff just to check in. We spoke briefly and he promised to call me back as soon he got home, but he never did. I waited for a few days and called him back and got his voice mail. A week before I traveled back to England, I called him everyday because he had also promised to pick me up from the airport, but his phone was off. When I got to London, I went straight to his apartment and his brother opened the door. “Jeff is not here and please do not come back here looking for him.” His brother screamed and then slammed the door closed. I went back several times to try and get my stuff, and the brother promised to kill me if I showed up at his door again.

Long story short, I lost everything. All I had was a small back-pack with a tooth brush, a pair of sneakers, a pair of jeans, a tee-shirt and a few other things.

 Why am I Telling YOU this Story?

I was sad for about a week, and then let it go. In a few weeks, I realized that losing my stuff was actually a blessing in disguise. I didn’t have enough space in my hostel room to store more than a suitcase. I was a student and had to dress and live like one. So, if I had all those suitcases it would be more of an inconvenience. And having no clothes gave me a chance to buy more trendy fashions that were also suitable for students. This is when I came up with the quote, “Loss gives us a chance for an upgrade.”

From then on, I wrote many quotes to reflect on whatever was going on in my world. When I read these quotes, they do not only inspire, but also humble me to remember that there is something bigger than my person-hood that’s in control of my life. I also realize that beyond my human knowledge, Grace, has my back.

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The Power of Our Attention:


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“Pay attention,” said my math teacher–because I was always absentminded. I was 8 years old and math wasn’t my best friend. So in class, I was constantly thinking about chapatti (nan bread). A lady made the most delicious chapattis I have ever eaten. Everyday, she sat outside the school canteen ready to take orders. She made the chapattis in minutes, for each order. Consequently, the chapattis were hot, soft and fluffy. She added ginger, onions, rosemary leaves and other African species only known to her. The chapattis were always salted to perfection. I could never get enough. I still think about them. However, this wasn’t reason enough for me to give my attention to the chapattis instead of the math lessons I had to learn. As a result, I continued to struggle in math. But, I learned how to make good chapattis.

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The question is, how do you assign your attention?

I’ve learned that attention is one of our most intimate and powerful mental tools. What we assign it to matters. Moreover, energy flows where the attention is. And this notion also contributes to how we create our realities. We find that what we pay attention to amplifies in our experiences. For instance, if you pay attention to a rude neighbor, a lot is going to manifest. Your mind will generate more negative thoughts about the neighbor and how rude they are. Your emotions will follow suite. You will start developing a disliking for the neighbor: a disliking amplified because you give the issue more of your attention.

The major news publishing companies in the world use this notion to influence our behavior. They broadcast news daily promoting fear, scarcity and danger. When we pay attention to this news we learn how to be afraid without any particular reason. Fear starts inspiring our decision making. We treat each other suspiciously and always look for where the trouble is not. Moreover, when we look for where something is not, we are still giving our attention to what we don’t want. And what we don’t want continues to manifest in our experiences. Bob Rotella, Sports Psychologist says it best in his quote: “Don’t think about how things will go wrong. Think about how they go will right.”

“Don’t think about how things will go wrong. Think about how they will go right.”

What Can We Do?

We have to understand that our inner world projects our outer world. So, the way we use our inner resources determines our experiences. Let’s pay attention to what we give our attention to.

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When Love Hurts: One Powerful Technique to Liberate Yourself from Abuse-addiction.


Domestic abuseOur personalities are complex and to dissect them to identify the conditioning upon which we create them takes time. Sometimes we don’t even know our personalities since we might have more than one.

With that said, addictive personalities weaken our natural abilities to go through life with faith and courage. We rely on behavior or substance intake for short-term comfort or as escapes from whatever we are running from. Other times we fall into addictive behavior to subconsciously support an underlying belief.

What is abuse-addiction?

adbThis is when one finds him/herself attracting and staying in abusive relationships. Abuse addicts have many excuses for staying with abusive partners. They have supporting reasons. They could also blame themselves—suggesting that it is something wrong with them that trigger their partners’ abusive behavior. At times, they conceal the extent of the abuse, and re-narrate the incidents to prove that their partner wasn’t abusive.

For instance, for many years I was addicted to abuse. I believed that I wasn’t good enough; that I was ugly and that no man would love, without insulting me. I believed that abuse was part and partial of being in a relationship. As a child, I heard many stories about promiscuous and violent men.  Most of our neighbors were single mothers who continuously indulged in conversations about the insane nature of men. And I believe that’s when I was conditioned to believe that love hurts emotionally and physically. I must have subconsciously cemented the idea that it was okay to be abused.

It took years of emotional and physical pain, plus many disappointments to realize that I was basically hurting myself by staying in abusive relationships.

How do You Liberate Yourself From Abuse-addiction?

abseThe first step towards liberating yourself is to find out the underlying beliefs about your self-image, self-worth, self-love, relationships, plus the childhood stories you have about abuse.

Today, as a counselor and coach, I use these techniques to help my clients overcome their addictive behavior.

Do not Listen to Your Mind.

The mind is like a policeman you hire, who ends up stealing from you. The mind is a trickster, and you shouldn’t trust it. Unfortunately, we’ve been conditioned to believe that the mind is powerful. The mind is king. The mind is our friend. Trust me when I say, that the mind is the enemy. For instance, the mind could tell you damn stuff like, “Forgive him/her. They won’t do it again,” when your hubby has just smacked you. However, this could be the 100th time they’ve done it. And the mind could have told you that crap to forgive them ninety-nine other times. It will continue persuading and giving you thoughts as reasons to forgive them.  When you give in and forgive the idiot, the mind will bombard you with thoughts about how bad they hurt you. How they should treat you. How you should find someone else; or maybe have a side fling. And if you cheat instead of leave the relationship, and they find out and then abuse you again, the mind will say, “Wow! See what I told you? You are seriously damn. Why didn’t you just leave them? What the hell are you still doing in this relationship? What is wrong with you? You definitely deserve to be hit thousands times over. You are not worthy. You are not good for anything. Blab bla bla.” Note that this is the same mind that convinced you to stay in the relationship.

“The mind is like a policeman you hire, who ends up stealing from you.”

I guess you realize that the mind is not particularly our friend. Therefore, do not listen to your thoughts. Only use your mind when you need it instead of letting it use you. The idea is to ignore your thoughts. Do not recruit them. Do not assign meanings, create relationships, associations, or even entertain them for a single second. Instead, respect your feelings. If your partner behaves in ways that abuse your personal standards, move on. If they physically abuse you the first time, there is no reason in the world to stay in that relationship. Because trust me, they will do it again. Remember that when you respect and love yourself unconditionally, you will attract the same. Note that we do not experience the world as it is: we experience it as we are. As within, so without. Our experiences mirror our conditioning. Change your negative beliefs and conditioning, and your world will change accordingly.

“Only use your mind when you need it instead of letting it use you.”

Dr. Jacinta M Murray is a spiritual counselor and transformational coach. Helping people to overcome their addictions is one of her specialties. 

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Reality Check to Progress as an Entrepreneur (1 of 4)


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When I founded my business about 9 years ago, I fondled my way to making losses, month after month. I did everything my mentor suggested but kept struggling to make ends meet. At one point, I gave up upon concluding that I wasn’t cut to be an entrepreneur. However, my mentor advised me to perform four reality checks about myself and the business.

Below, is the first reality check I performed. Note that in the next three articles I will share each of the reality checks. Please subscribe to my blog or check back next week for the next reality check.

1. Personal Reality Check.

This involves evaluating the following areas of your life:
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 (a) Mindset:

  1. What are your beliefs about being a successful entrepreneur?
  2. What are your prominent thought processes? Are you consistently dwelling on the past and what went wrong, what could go wrong, or you are focused on what could go right?
  3. What is your relationship with money?
  4. On a scale of 1 to 10, (1, being “not at all,” and 10, being “absolutely influential”) how influential are you?
  5. What fears do you have about success?
  6. Do you feel worthy of progress?
  7. What’s your idea of success? What will have to happen for you to know that you have succeeded in business?
  8. What’s your why? Why are you pursuing this business?
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 (b) Strengths

  1. What strengths do you possess that can progress your business? These strengths are both internal and external.
Internal strengths are related to the mental, emotional, and spiritual states; skills, expertise, educational background and/or experience.
External strengths include your financial status, and resources available to you, such as office space, good business relationships and connections, plus support from your loved ones or other positive-minded individuals.
The idea is to find out your strengths in these areas. Note that it’s vital to be honest with yourself.

 (b) Weaknesses

This involves investigating your weaknesses, internal and external.
It would be helpful to refer to what you discovered about your mindset. Are there are any loose ends you need to fix?
  1. On a scale of 1 to 10, 1, being “not driven,” and 10, “very driven,” how driven are you?
  2. Do your daily rituals support your progress?
  3. What relationships weigh you down and why are you still holding onto them?
  4. On a scale of 1 to 10, (1, being “not at all,” and 10, being “absolutely determined”) how determined are you in improving your health? Note that a healthy body promotes a healthy mindset, which then promotes positive, and enthused action.
  5. On a scale of 1 to 10, (1, being “not at all,” and 10, being “absolutely determined”) how determined are you about focusing on what you want without dwelling on the negative?
  6. On a scale of 1 to 10, (1, being “not at all,” and 10, being “absolutely organized”) how organized are you?

  (c) Opportunities

  1. What opportunities do you have at your exposure that you can explore to progress in your business?
  2. What can you do to turn your weaknesses into opportunities?

 (d) Threats

  1. What do you believe are your threats?
  2. What risks are you facing by operating your business and how can you avoid, or work with them without letting them affect your business?

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Note that becoming a successful entrepreneur demands more than wishful thinking. One has to be determined to evaluate how they can improve consistently, what they should let go and the changes that need to happen.  However, all this begins with mindset.
In my transformational coaching sessions, I can help you identify the areas in your inner and outer worlds that need to change, improve or be released. I partner with my clients to help them release anything that could be blocking them from taking action. We work together on developing mindset, and operational strategies for success. After the sessions, clarity, a new sense of direction and enthusiasm are achieved.
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Nothing is Permanent: Be of Good Cheer


OB-ZA278_Fight0_D_20130923205402I recently heard of a man who sued his parents for giving birth to him. He had gone through many challenges that propelled him to question the objective of his birth. In court, he accused his parents of planning to bring him into this world without his consent. Funny, because he wasn’t alive to give his consent to be born. 

Much as this story seems like fiction, I understand his point of view. And I’m certain that if your life has presented avalanches of challenges, obstacles or failures at one point you’ve also wondered why you were born. 

A couple of years ago, there were many months I spent several hours daily seeking answers for the multitude of problems I was experiencing. At times, I felt like breaking down but I remembered what my mother once told me; “Don’t give in and break down because of worldly troubles. You are more than them.” I picked up my broken-self, prayed and meditated for days, forgave (this took me many months) and things started getting better. 

What are you experiencing today?

What is causing you pain?

Trust me when I say that everything changes. Nothing is permanent. Troubles or challenges might seem so big to handle or so powerful to pass away. However, everything that has a beginning has an end. This too will pass. Hang in there and don’t give in. 

Most importantly, you can actively be the witness of all your experiences. Regardless of whatever is going on in your external environment you can internally step back and observe without creating attachments. You can observe without defining or creating relationships with any event. You have what it takes and more to let everything be as it is without categorizing it. You can watch without emotional engagement. If something needs you to take action, you can still act without letting your mind dig out for negative emotions to attach to your actions. 

You can be a witness of all experiences without defining them. With such mindset, everything that happens is neither good or bad. Everything just is. And this notion works magic with experiences we would normally define as bad. Everything then becomes a passing thing. As a result, you are open to everything but attached to nothing. Your emotional thermometer is close to neutral. You are always neutral or at peace with everything. You are in control of your mind: of your emotions. You can choose how to feel without letting the mind manipulate you into generating negative emotions that do absolutely nothing for you. Remember the mind is unemployed without your attention. If the mind starts recruiting thoughts that generate negative emotions in you, move your attention to something else. Note that you are in control of your precious attention. You can choose what to give it to. 

“Become like the sky. Regardless of the number, weight or color of the clouds in its space, the sky remains intact,” said my mentor. 

John 16:33 These things I have spoken unto you, that in me ye might have peace. In the world ye shall have tribulation: but be of good cheer; I have overcome the world.

By “overcoming the world” Jesus meant being a constant witness of the world and its presentations without attaching, defining, relating to or letting his mind manipulate him into generating emotions to attach to these events. 

Remember that a peaceful mind is the heavens playhouse. 

Be of good cheer

Sending you much love and wishing you a gracious Easter

Peace and blessings. 

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3 Behaviors that Can Lead to Business Failure


graduation-quotes-1In his book, “Taking People With You,” David Novak, CEO of Yum brands states, “To see above and far we need to climb on top of the shoulders of an elephant.” Implying that as business owners we need to examine what the leaders in our industry are doing to excel, borrow those ideas that fit into our business philosophies and then make them our own. Most importantly, we need to acknowledge those from whom we’ve borrowed the ideas. However, my experience has revealed that there are small business owners who do the exact opposite. They identify a business they admire and just keep taking their ideas less of authenticity. I guess that’s their way of surviving. However, it is shortsightedness to think that trying so hard to be like others will help one excel. 

To illustrate this further, below are 3 behaviors that can lead to business failure.

1. Ruthless Imitation of Others

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We are all unique and special with our own skills, experiences, and knowledge intended to help us progress in life and in business. Every experience we go through gives us a wealth of ideas and lessons we can base on to design services and/or products for the world. All prominent problems in one’s life are nuggets of wealth that can be transformed into solutions for others. Imitating others takes away from our authenticity and its positives. 

2. Greed

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“Greed is a bottomless pit which exhausts the person in an endless effort to satisfy the need without ever reaching satisfaction.” ~Eric Fromm

 

Greed is a sign of fear and a scarcity mentality. If one believes in their self-worth, they know that there’s enough to go around for everyone. It is okay to progress to get on top of one’s game, but it is draining to want more every time, without stopping to articulate what has been done, and/or how it can be improved. Furthermore, the only positive greed is for one to be greedy for releasing as much emotional, mental, energetic and spiritual baggage that could hold them back from achieving their goals. 

“As long as there is more greed than compassion, there will always be suffering.” ~ Rusty Eric

3. Impersonation.

These are business owners who lie about their qualifications and/or skills to appear superior. The point is, when a business owner lies about what they do, they have lied more to themselves than to the world. Sooner than later, the world will find out who and what they really are. Also, the important questions are, how can one build character if they are basing it on other people’s characters? How can a mango be a better mango if it is always trying to be an orange?

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Suggestion:

When we as business owners are inauthentic, it implies that we do not have self-belief. We have low self-esteem and believe that who we are, our qualifications and skills are not good enough to influence others. However, impersonation takes a lot more energy than authenticity.  

When I first started out as a coach, I attended many seminars and read many books about self-development and life coaching. However, I still felt incompetent to originate my own ideas. So, my mentor got me to attend seminars on self-esteem and confidence. The information I gained from these seminars helped me build more confidence in my authenticity. And although sometimes I hold back from offering a new product or service to my target audience, I have learned that success is taking action despite doubt… despite fear. Therefore, it is vital to remember that running a business takes more than just wanting it. For us to succeed in business we have to be willing to do business with our mindsets consistently. We have to do the inner work in order to believe in who we are and what we have to offer to the world. And although it is okay to benchmark and/or work extremely hard in our businesses, it is more sustainable and healthy when we consider ourselves first: when we deal with our inner fears and especially how we feel about ourselves. Considering that we never offer what we want to the world, at least not consistently: we offer who we are. 

“For us to succeed in business we have to be willing to do business with our mindsets consistently.”

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Afraid of Public Speaking? Ask the Fear….


3a355333-24bb-41a2-b460-2209f0a067bbAs I walked down the church’s isle towards the front, I could hardly breathe. Everything within me was telling me to run, scream or call my mama for refuge. My heart beat so hard and so fast and I concluded that everyone in the church was hearing it. As I pulled my legs to establish the next step I was barely taking, I felt as if something had tied my leg and hip muscles with iron chains to prevent me from moving forward. I wanted to crawl but somehow somewhere I kept walking…call it stumbling. My eyes got teary. I could hardly see. I don’t even remember how I got to the podium. The pastor handed me the microphone which I looked at as if it were a huge machete designed to cut me into pieces. I attempted to say, “Halleluya,” only to have a big drop of saliva escape out of my mouth. 

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It was the first time I spoke in public intending to promote my first book. I failed miserably. I’m not even sure how people lined up to buy the book after my mumbled speech. This must have been the making of a dead relative who loved me, an angel or God. Who knows? I don’t. 

The Moral:

I was afraid of public speaking. This experience propelled me to join the Toastmasters International organization, and their programs helped improve my communication, and public speaking skills. 

Now as a counselor, I’ve also learned that we can question our fears. 

How it Works:

Let’s imagine that you are about to give a speech. And a bunch of butterflies visit your tummy. Your nerves recognize the “visitors” and decide to fire up. You start to tremble and your breaths get shorter. What do you do? 

Here are a few tips that will help:

1. Close your eyes and take a deep breath.

2. Ask, “How is this fear benefiting me?” Stay still and listen for a few minutes. You will discover that this fear is only there to teach you a few lessons such as:

a. You are more than this fear because it is smaller than you and you shouldn’t be afraid of it.

b. The fear is inspiring you to improve something about your communication skills, improve your self-image/confidence, be more prepared, or improve the content you are about to share. 

Beyond that, this fear does nothing beneficial for you. If you get your mind to focus on these lessons, the fear will disperse. The problem is creating more meanings or conclusions about the fear. For instance, you could decide that the fear means you are not good enough; people will laugh at you; people will judge you. Your content sucks, etc. Once the mind comes up with such perceptions to expand on the fear, just know that they are lies: illusions created without evidence. Unless you can come up with evidence that all these things are true, then it is time to ignore your mind. Note that just because the mind says you are in danger doesn’t make it so. Remember that the mind can be full of crap and if you let it take over, it will manipulate your actions, fail you and get you to blame yourself thereafter. 

“Just because the mind says you are in danger doesn’t make it so. Remember that the mind can be full of crap and if you let it take over, it will manipulate your actions, fail you and get you to blame yourself thereafter.” 

I’m sure you want to know the book I was promoting. Here you have it. 🙂