10 Things To Do When You Feel Frustrated With Life


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Although there are many reasons that incite our frustrations, the main reasons are founded on two major factors: money and relationships.

We get frustrated because we either don’t have money, we are losing money or money is not coming in as expected. We also get frustrated because of the people we deal with: especially because we are all different and view the world from a diverse perspective.

One thing I have learned is that the factors that promote our negative emotions, plus the negative emotions are not as crucial in influencing our emotional well-being as our perception about them. As such, my intention is to share 10 tips that you can use to get out of a frustrated mood regardless of the foundation of your frustrations. Remember,  it is not what happens to us that impacts our lives; it’s how we perceive whatever happens.     

  1. Move

By moving, I mean, changing your physicality. Do yoga, dance, go for a walk, exercise: the idea is to get your body moving. Once your body is moving, your brain will change its focus from the frustration to whatever you are doing.

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“The difference between peak performance and poor performance is not intelligence or ability; most often it’s the state that your mind and body is in.” – Tony Robbins

Note that emotion is created by motion. In other words, emotions are linked to movement in our bodies. Observe your posture when you are happy, as opposed to when you are sad — or what you look like when you are angry, versus when you are elated.

  1. Listen To Inspirational Or Upbeat Music.

I understand that sometimes when you are feeling frustrated or sad you don’t have the guts to listen to anything. But if you are so sick and tired of feeling negative you will do whatever it takes to feel better. Some of the songs I listen to when I’m sad include, but are not limited to the following:

  • The Storm is Over – R Kelley

  • A New Day Has Come – Celine Dion

  • Roar – Katy Perry

  • Departed (Right Here) – Brandy

  • I look to You – Whitney Houston

  • I’m Your Angel – Celine Dion and R Kelly

  • When You Believe – Whitney Houston and Mariah Carey

  • Stronger (What Doesn’t Kill You) – Kelly Clarkson

  • One Step at a Time – Jordan Sparks

Note that it is important to spend time making your own list.

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         3. Clean

Cleaning your space has a magical way of making you feel better. As you clean, your mind goes into the cleaning mood.  As such, you implicitly clean the frustration from your mind.

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  1. Imagine receiving $1 Million in your bank account; make a list of how you would spend it.

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  1. Cook

Just go into your kitchen and concoct recipes regardless of what you are cooking. The process will definitely help you divert your mind from the frustration.

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  1. Change your furniture around. Don’t try to be perfect. Just change things around in whichever way you want.

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  1. Go window shopping 

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  1. Meditate.       

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  1. Volunteer

This will help you realize how blessed you are.

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  1. Make big plans.

Just make plans without worrying about the resources required to realize them. Make plans as you focus on the things you want to manifest in your life—imagining that there are no obstacles that can hinder you from achieving your goals.

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Conclusion:

Remember that the difference between where you are emotionally or mentally, and where you want to be, is only a decision away. Once you decide to change your mind about anything, you have literally embarked on a profound journey of getting to your desired destination.

Reading self-help books is also another vital tip that will help infuse your mind with self-improvement–which is a good thing. You may want to check out my book: Do Not Force It, Tap The Good – Link – https://www.amazon.com/Do-not-Force-TAP-GOOD/dp/1461079098

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Love and light.

Dr. Jacinta Mpalyenkana, PH.D, MBA, is a published author of 5 books, a Transformational coach, Counselor and Professional speaker. For more about her, check out her website at www.tapthegood.com

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5 Things to Help One Deal with a Chaotic Day


What does a chaotic day look like?

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Let’s imagine that your day seems to be getting worse with every ticking minute. It could be that since you got out of bed, everything seems to be working against you. Maybe the dog is sick, you aren’t feeling well yourself, you’ve called in sick to rest if you are employed, or canceled all your day’s appointments if you are self-employed. Let’s further imagine that all the major appliances in your house stop functioning due to an electric mishap, and you have to deal with your homeowners’ insurance company’s bureaucracy to get things fixed. Let’s also imagine that you had a horrible fight with your partner, your kids are sick, and a creditor made a mistake and double charged your account. Hence, you are short on cash. To make things worse, as you pull it together to go out of the house and solve some of these challenges, you discover that you have a flat tire; and you have absolutely no idea how to change a flat tire.

What do you do??

These are days that test our patience and force us to go within and retrieve our emotional and intellectual weapons. However, the great news is that no matter how bad the day seems, there is a part of you that remains untouched by the situation. That part, my friend, is your mind. You can use your mind to emotionally and mentally rise above any challenges regardless of how bad they seem: and this brings me to the 5 things you can do to deal with a chaotic day.

  1. Slow down.

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This means that take your time as you resolve every issue, one after another without trying to chunk them up. Make a to-do list as things to do begin presenting themselves. Focus on one thing at a time. This will help you stay on top of the issues that are resolved, and the ones that need more time or resources.  A to-do list also has a way of making us feel accomplished as we mark off every task that we finish.

  1. Remember to Breathe.

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By deep breathing you relax, which then gives you the clarity to deal with the issues you have at hand.

  1. Put on soothing music.

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Let soothing or relaxing music play in the background, and your brain will start picking up on the musical notes which will then help you relax.

  1. Drink a lot of water.

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The benefits of drinking water, especially in stressful situations, are obvious. Drinking a lot of water will keep you hydrated, focused and energetic.

  1. Don’t call anyone to tell them what you are going through.

When you call your friends or loved ones and start telling them what you are going through, firstly, you are wasting time. Secondly, they might make things feel worse for you. Therefore, trust yourself and know that you have the mental and emotional resources within you to solve the chaos. The only exception is if you are calling for professional help. As a matter of fact, if you receive a call amidst the chaos, don’t engage them, ask to call them back.

Remember, there is nothing out of yourself that has the power to disorient you. As long as you are still conscious, you can still tap into your internal resources to resolve any challenges. Furthermore, nothing lasts forever. Maintain your calm. Don’t worry. Everything will soon get back to normal. And even if it doesn’t, you have the human spirit that is always unconditionally fired up with the powers of perseverance, patience, and faith.  

“A calm mind brings inner strength and self-confidence; that’s very important for good health.” Dalai Lama

Love and light

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This article was written by Dr. Jacinta Mpalyenkana, Ph.D., MBA, Author, Counselor, Coach, Speaker. For more about her, please visit her website at http://www.tapthegood.com

Three Ways to Inspire yourself:


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The year is ending. Bills are most probably accumulating. Membership renewals are due. The expenses are increasing, yet your income is the same. In situations like these, stress and/or worry become the order of the mind. It’s hard to avoid negative emotions.
Below are three ways to inspire yourself and see things on a brighter spectrum.

1. Clean and organize your closet. Gather all clothes and shoes that you haven’t worn for the last 6 months, and give them away
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2. Listen to your favorite music. Music has been known to soothe the mind.
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3. Have a candle light bath. This is physically and emotional soothing.
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I hope this helps.
Looking for a good inspirational book to read? Check out Do Not Force It, Tap The Good. The book shares lessons that the whole world can live by.
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Love and light
Dr. Jacinta Mariah
Author, Speaker, Counselor / Success Coach
http://www.tapthegood.com
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