Feeling Stressed Out? Three Tips to Inspire You


I recently went through an experience that left me feeling beaten and broken. I felt as if I was behind a curtain. I felt as if my true intentions weren’t understood. I felt betrayed, weak and discouraged. I felt misjudged, isolated and rejected.

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Now, you will agree that such feelings can leave one in a state of emotional warfare. Yet I knew that I had to get up. I knew that I couldn’t control anyone else but myself. I had to take my power back, and determine the way I wanted to feel regardless of what anyone else thought or felt about me. I had to continue following my dreams, and focusing on my goals. I had to feel good again which is the only way that would enable me to wake up and try at this thing called life. I needed inspiration to keep going .

In this video, I share three tips that I employed to feel inspired. I hope they help you feel inspired. Please share the video with anyone you know needs some inspiration today.

Link to video – https://youtu.be/c1PxuWSjDpg

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Have a good week.

Love and light

http://www.tapthegood.com

 

 

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A Tip to Dis-empower The Real Reason Why You aren’t Taking Action


In this video, I share a tip about how to establish and dis-empower the real reason why you might not be taking action. I’ve learned this tip over years counseling and coaching my clients.

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Watch the video HERE.

In case of broken links, this is the URL of the video. https://youtu.be/qhBV0-CA7F4

I believe this tip will shed some light on your decision making psychology.

Love and light

Dr. Jacinta Mpalyenkana, PH.D, MBA

Counselor, Personal Transformational Coach, Author, Speaker

http://www.tapthegood.com

The Most Powerful Self-Improvement Question


As the year ends, other than spending a lot of money on gifts and preparing for the holiday celebrations, we get prompted to think about what we’ve achieved during the year, what we’ve lost, what we want to achieve the following year, what to change about ourselves, how to change, financial goals, relationships goals…the list goes on.

Many, (and I plead guilty for doing this for a number of years,) have long given up on the annual-goal setting exercise because they either never follow-through with their goals, or simply, for some reason, fail to achieve their goals. So, for the fear of failing again, they negate or ignore annual resolutions.

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However, I have discovered that there is a single question that I have asked myself each year, and have also recommended for my clients, that doesn’t only help to re-establish personal worth, but also leads to new insights about self. Also, this question has somehow led me into evaluating my finance, friendship, business and future related goals.

The question is: “What do I deserve?”

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When you take time to contemplate on, and answer this question, I suggest that you consider thinking about what you are tolerating, let it be partnerships, a job (if you are employed), lifestyle, friendships—to mention but a few. After establishing what you might be tolerating, proceed to analyze what you think you deserve and why. Before you are done, you will have your most important new goals ready for your execution.

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If you discover that you are tolerating more than you think, then contact me at www.tapthegood.com/contacts/ for a complimentary personal coaching/counseling session to establish how I can help you take your power back and become the authority of your life.

Looking for a good book to read during the holidays? Check out, Do not Force it, Tap The Good: How to Tap Into One’s Infinite Potential, Develop a Profound Positive Attitude and Live Life on Your Terms.

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Happy holidays

Love and light

Jacinta Mpalyenkana, Ph.D, MBA

Published Author, Counselor, Personal Coach, Professional Speaker

http://www.tapthegood.com

How to Improve a Mother-Daughter Relationship.


As a counselor and personal coach, one of the issues that I occasionally help my clients with is to improve their relationships with their parents and/or daughters. In this article, I share 5 tips that can help improve a mother-daughter relationship.

 1. Be Proactive

Don’t wait for the other person to make the first move. If you have any issues to discuss, make the move. Think about how you feel in the relationship and what you can do to change.

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  1. Work on improving yourself.

Many think that the only way to improve a relationship is for the other person to change their ways. However, we can all individually take full responsibility of our actions and reactions and improve our thought processes in such a way that makes us feel good about ourselves

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  1. Have realistic expectations.

Both moms and daughters often have idealistic expectations about their relationship. For instance, kids commonly think their mom will be nurturing and present — always. This idea can develop from an early age. As a daughter, remember that your mom also has her own life and issues to deal with. Be empathetic: and the same goes for mothers.

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  1. Communicate.

Lack of communication is a common challenge with moms and daughters. In some ways they can be so close or feel so close that they believe that each of them should know how the other one feels. It’s vital to know that complaining disrupts the message. When there is conflict, explain what was done and how it made you feel. It is not about blaming the other person or giving them titles. It is about focusing on your personal feelings about their actions or words and being as clear as possible. After explaining, it is important to give the other person time to explain. Most times you will discover that they didn’t even mean to hurt you.

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  1. Be an active listener.

Active listening is reflecting back what the other person is saying, instead of assuming you already know. When you reflect back to what your mom or daughter is saying, you’re telling her that she’s being heard and that you understand.

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If you utilize these tips whenever conflict arises, chances are that your relationship will be healthier than if you just keep quiet and don’t communicate your concerns.

Need help with your family relationships? Send me an email at www.tapthegood.com/contacts/ I can help.

Love and light.

http://www.tapthegood.com

3 Psychological techniques to Achieve Consistent Business Success


Are you a business owner?

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Do you find yourself struggling with making progress for yourself, and/or business?

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The problem might be that you are not considering the most important asset of your business; YOU.

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Many business people focus so much on the techniques and strategies to run their businesses but ignore the most important asset…themselves. Jim Rohn indicated that success for any project is based on 80% psychology, and 20% technique. Psychology is about how our minds work.

Have you ever found yourself having all the resources you need such as time, money, and other assets to get started on a project yet for some reason fail to start? That has everything to do with your psychology: how your mind works, why, when and how you make decisions—among other things.

Below are three tips to consider in order to include yourself in your business, and I mean inclusion of the self–to emphasize.

1. Examine your thought process. What do you think about yourself? What do you think about your business? Why are you pursuing that business in the first place? If you were on sale in a market place, would you buy yourself?

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2. Examine how, when and why you make decisions. What inspires you to make decision?

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3. Identify your fears. Take some time to contemplate on your fears. What are you afraid of? Why are you afraid? Do you have evidence to support your fears? What are you basing your fears on? For instance, if you are afraid that your business might not succeed, what are you basing this fear on? What happened in the past that has got you to this mental state? Are you taking action? If not why?

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If you take time to contemplate on the preceding issues, I guarantee that you will discover a few things about yourself that you might want to change or upgrade.

I also recommend that you get my book, Communicating Your Way to Success; Master the Art of Persuasion, Increase Sales, and Stand Out from the Crowd. The book shares an entire detailed interactive chapter about selling yourself to you. In this chapter, the above tips are elaborated on, and more.

Interested in personalized personal/business coaching? Visit my website at http://www.tapthegood.com and sign up for a complimentary 15 mins’ discovery session.

Remember, nothing happens if nothing moves. Take the step to consider yourself as an important asset to you, your family and business which is when consistent success will become inevitable.

Love and light

http://www.tapthegood.com