Tired of Attracting Abusive Men? 3 Tips to Unlock The Subconscious Related- Chains


Are you sick and tired of attracting abusive men?

You might have daddy issues. Read on!!

It is not only biologically vital but also spiritually imperative to grow up with our parents, mom and dad, or the equivalent, for us to develop and sustain positive-infused mindsets. Although overlooked, without both your parents in the picture as a child, you are bound to search for whoever was missing in the people you meet in your adult life. And that can be very frustrating.

Note that one is also impliedly psychologically and emotionally abused if their father or father figure was always absent in their younger days.

In this article, you will identify one of the problems created by not having a father figure or having an abusive one, and learn three simple techniques that will liberate you from this problem in order to develop healthier relationships with the men in your life.

The Problem:

Without a father figure in your life, you miss out on the security and comfort that a father figure provides (especially one with a healthy mind). A father is literally the first adult male you are introduced to, or is supposed to be introduced to when you are born. As such, he represents men in general and especially how men relate or should relate to women. Your father introduces you to the first standards that you believe every man should possess. If you saw your father treating your mom with respect, you tend to attract or choose men who understand how to treat a woman with respect.

If especially you witnessed your father abusing you or any other members of your family and never stopped abusing them, and/or never apologized, chances are that you have subconscious anger that’s not only directed towards your father, but all men.  The consequences are that you will continue unconsciously seeking out men with behaviors similar to your dad with hope that they might abuse you and then apologize to make up for what your father didn’t do. However, even if you attract men who are apologetic for abusing you, they will not compensate for your father’s abuse. Therefore, you will continue seeking for abusive men, over and over again until you deal with your early father-figure programming.

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The Solution:

Note that the tips I share below are not exhaustive of all the techniques and tools that you can employ to heal your early negative father-programming.


Take time and write all your early father negative experiences, or no-father negative experiences. Be as detailed as possible. To guide you, you can answer the following questions:

  1. What exactly happened?
  2. Who was there?
  3. What did your father do, didn’t do, or should have done?
  4. In case you didn’t have a father figure as a child, how did this make you feel?
  5. How did those experiences make you feel about your father and men in general?
  6. How did these experiences make you feel about yourself?

Re-examine all the related feelings about yourself that were developed because of your earlier father/no father negative programming

Go through this simple EFT and Ho’oponopono to stop attracting abusive relationships session 

Click HERE to access the video recording.

If you want more, order the Daddy Issues Meditation CD from http://tapthegood.com/spiritualservices/


Or buy my book (Love, Men and Money: How to Attract and Retain them) with detailed EFT and counseling scripts at www.tapthegood.com/books/ or from Amazon at https://www.amazon.com/Love-Men-Money-Attract-Retain/dp/1480094897/


Or sign up for my complimentary 30 minutes consultation session to set up counseling sessions that are guaranteed to help you take your power back from the negative past in order to live life on your terms.

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Dr. Jacinta Mpa, Ph.D., MBA, is a published author, counselor and transformational coach. For more about her, visit www.tapthegood.com.

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3 Proven Tips to Sustain a Healthy Relationship


Did you know that one of the main factors that impact our emotions is problematic relationships? For the most part, every problem that we experience is related to another person. Therefore, managing relationships, or identifying which relationships work, is vital to sustaining emotional health.

In this VIDEO, I, and my co-host, Jay, discuss three proven tips that will sustain a healthy relationship.

Please click HERE to access the video.


Remember, the first relationship that you have to deal with in order to be successful at other relationships is the relationship with yourself.

Looking for a good book to facilitate your emotional advancement? Check out, Do not Force it, Tap the Good: How to Tap Into One’s Infinite Intelligence, Develop a Profound Positive Mindset, and Live Life on his/her Terms. 

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Jacinta Mpalyenkana, is a Transformational Coach, Counselor and Empowerment Speaker. To learn more about her services, please check out her website at http://www.tapthegood.com



EFT Session to Get Unstuck From an Abusive Relationship

Do you feel stuck in a relationship that makes you feel like buying a big rope and tying it around your neck?

In this EFT RECORDED SESSION, I take you through a process to release your grip on any abusive relationship you may be involved in–whether it’s a job, friendship or love.

LINK to video – https://youtu.be/_zlrg7jBNh8


If there are any issues that you would like me to deal with using EFT, psychology or Hooponopono, please include the details in the comments.

Thank you for visiting my blog.


Love and light

Dr. Jacinta Mpalyenkana, Ph.D., MBA



How to Improve a Mother-Daughter Relationship.

As a counselor and personal coach, one of the issues that I occasionally help my clients with is to improve their relationships with their parents and/or daughters. In this article, I share 5 tips that can help improve a mother-daughter relationship.

 1. Be Proactive

Don’t wait for the other person to make the first move. If you have any issues to discuss, make the move. Think about how you feel in the relationship and what you can do to change.


  1. Work on improving yourself.

Many think that the only way to improve a relationship is for the other person to change their ways. However, we can all individually take full responsibility of our actions and reactions and improve our thought processes in such a way that makes us feel good about ourselves


  1. Have realistic expectations.

Both moms and daughters often have idealistic expectations about their relationship. For instance, kids commonly think their mom will be nurturing and present — always. This idea can develop from an early age. As a daughter, remember that your mom also has her own life and issues to deal with. Be empathetic: and the same goes for mothers.


  1. Communicate.

Lack of communication is a common challenge with moms and daughters. In some ways they can be so close or feel so close that they believe that each of them should know how the other one feels. It’s vital to know that complaining disrupts the message. When there is conflict, explain what was done and how it made you feel. It is not about blaming the other person or giving them titles. It is about focusing on your personal feelings about their actions or words and being as clear as possible. After explaining, it is important to give the other person time to explain. Most times you will discover that they didn’t even mean to hurt you.


  1. Be an active listener.

Active listening is reflecting back what the other person is saying, instead of assuming you already know. When you reflect back to what your mom or daughter is saying, you’re telling her that she’s being heard and that you understand.


If you utilize these tips whenever conflict arises, chances are that your relationship will be healthier than if you just keep quiet and don’t communicate your concerns.

Need help with your family relationships? Send me an email at www.tapthegood.com/contacts/ I can help.

Love and light.



Being Treated Like You are Not Good Enough?

Do you feel like people treat you less of who you are?

Are you at a job where you don’t feel appreciated?

Are you in a relationship where you are working so hard to be appreciated but still feel demeaned?

Are you in a partnership that makes you feel bad about yourself?

Do you want to live life on your terms?

Watch this video – https://youtu.be/0spM7VXhrB8

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Get your copy of Do Not Force It, Tap The Good today 

Link to the book in audible, paperback and kindle – http://www.amazon.com/Do-not-Force-TAP-GOOD/dp/1461079098/

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Love and light




Are you Lonely??

  1. Have you tried searching for love in all the places you can, but failed to find it?worried-woman-288x260
  2. Do you attract the same douche-bags in your life?


3.    Do you end up attracting the same partner who makes you feel like committing suicide?


I have been there. It took years before I could figure out what I was doing wrong. I blamed myself and the entire world for the recurring love misfortunes. With that in mind, I embarked on a long search for solutions. And today, I live with an amazing man who thinks the world of me. And I attracted this man. I realized that I had to deal with my inner world in order to create a better outer world.

Now, I have a resource for you. You are lucky that you don’t have to do the research like I did.  I have put together a healing program called The 14 Days Love Liberation Boot Camp. This program digs deep to deracinate the root causes of emotional baggage, and other underlying issues that block true unconditional love. In this program you will benefit the following.


  • Clean all your 7 chakras through guided meditations and EFT – the Emotional Freedom Technique – Value of $225

  • Heal Daddy Issues if you have any – a Value of $95

  • Heal the Unconscious mind from old negative programming –  a Value of $95

  • Go through the Forgiveness Meditation – a Value of $45

  • Go through the Super Love Manifestation Guided Meditation- a Value of $67

  • And much more.

 The normal price of the Program is $302

Today for a limited time only –until March 31st, the program is priced at a 50% discount of $147

Get your program at http://tapthegood.com/meditations/ 

The program is accessible from the first column of the page.

The time to ACT is NOW!!

Love and light

Dr. Jacinta Mariah, Ph.D, MBA

Author, Speaker, Success Coach / Counselor



Three Simple Steps to Create Your New Year’s Goals. Includes a Gift for You!

What's your goal

2014 is ending in about 23 days and 10 hours—depending on where you are located. I’m aware that sometimes we create goals that we never achieve, and therefore, have given up on even trying—in avoidance of the disappointment of not achieving these set goals. However, I’m here to remind you that nothing moves, if nothing is moved. I dare you to move your thoughts away from the past, and focus on the possibilities of the future. If others have done it, oh yes you can do it too.  I challenge you to take on this project in the provided deadline (i.e.) 12/29/2014, and then claim your gift—a spelled out at the end of this article.

It is as simple as spending one of the evenings before the year ends, and following this simple format included in the next chapter to set your goals. You are doing this for yourself and no one else. So, I encourage you to enthusiastically take on this exercise.

Here are the steps.


  1. Write three life-goals, in present tense, that you intend to achieve next year-2015. Life goals, are mainly what you intend for your health and wellbeing. For instance; family related goals such as better relationships, or maybe getting married, travelling, Educational goals, or having a kid; or moving to a new town where you’ve always wanted to live but procrastinated about the move. For example:
  • I’m happily married to my soul mate; and we have two healthy kids together – twins, a boy and girl
  • I have a great relationship with my family members. We get together every year and celebrate life.
  • I am in perfect health, with the perfect weight of 158 lbs, and with a healthy creative mind.


 (i)  Write down the first step you will take towards achieving this goal. For example:

I have my profile set-up on eHarmony.com explaining exactly what I want in a partner.

 (ii)  Write down how you will feel, in present tense, when you achieve these goals.

For example: I feel alive, worthy and excited about life.

(iii)  Write down three reasons why you think you deserve to achieve these goals—your driving force.

For example:

  • I’m a woman, and I know I was born to give birth to healthy kids.
  • I am a loving person who deserves to share my love with a like-minded person
  • I deserve a healthy mind, body, and spirit in order fulfill my life’s purpose.

 career goals

  1. Write down three major career goal: – A business that you want to begin, an investment idea, change of jobs, job promotion, career-based training, etc. For example:
  • I have a global Success Coaching business serving 1 million clients worldwide through my on-line programs, books, and Art.
  • I have 3 paid bi-weekly speaking engagements in Fortune 500 companies and other publics in the US. I earn $5000 + each engagement.
  • I am a bestselling Author –selling 10,000,000 copies of my life-changing books world-wide. My books are translated in 189 languages.

 (i)  Write down the first step you will take towards achieving this goal. For example: I have hired a professional to re-skin and re-brand my website and highlight my business values, and unique brand.

 (ii)  Write down how you will feel, in present tense, when you achieve these goals.

For example: I feel purposeful, worthy, and enthusiastic to create more products and services to change people’s lives.

 (iii)  Write down three reasons why you think you deserve to achieve these goals—your driving force. For example:

  •  I am highly educated and skilled, and know that I have what it takes to deliver valuable services.
  • I am enthusiastic about making a difference in the world.
  • I have an immerse passion to serve, and earn out of the value I offer to my clientele.

 Money goals

  1. Write down a money / income related goal. This goal is about how much money you want to earn by, or before the end of 2015. I dare you to dream big. For example:
  • I earn $10,000,000 annually.

(i)  Write down the first step you will take towards achieving this goal. For example: I have set-up a meet-up networking group to attract like-minded people

(ii)  Write down three things that you are willing to do to earn that income. Refer to your skills, experience or education: – what you know that you can do to earn that money. For example:

  •  Success Coaching and Counseling
  • Professional Speaking Engagements
  • Selling my books, audio programs and Success programs.

 (iii) Write down how you will feel, in present tense, when you achieve this amount of money. For example:

I feel excited that my services, skills and values are appreciated. I feel so driven to create more value for my clientele. I feel alive and purposeful.

(iv)  Write down why you think you deserve this money.

For example:

I deserve this money because I am willing to do whatever it takes to serve, and then get paid for it. I deserve abundance. I believe that it is my birthright.

 I hope you get the idea.  Check out the attached file with a table summarizing the goal Setting Structure. Just click on this link — Goals Structure


Good News!!!

I have an offer for you. If you can complete, and send me a copy of your goals by 12/29/2014, I will offer you a complimentary one hour’s success coaching session. Additionally, I will send you a recording with an EFT session to tap on achieving your goals. Just send your goals to author@tapthegood.com.

Remember my dear friend, the way you do something, is the way you do everything. The ball is in your hands.


Love and light

Dr. Jacinta Mpalyenkana. Ph.D, MBA.

Author, Professional Speaker, and Success Coach