The Greatest Gift – An Inspirational Message


What are you going through today?

What seems to be taking over your world?

In this VIDEO, I share an inspirational message that will lift you up. 

Link to video – https://youtu.be/KMMrjKNKPTU

Take courage, my friend.

Your mindset, and emotional freedom passionista

Dr. Jacinta Mpalyenkana, Ph.D., MBA

Author, Inspirational Speaker, Transformational Coach

http://www.tapthegood.com

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5 Things to Help One Deal with a Chaotic Day


What does a chaotic day look like?

To access this article on audio, please click HERE.  

Link to audio recording – https://youtu.be/K9p48kxnygI

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Let’s imagine that your day seems to be getting worse with every ticking minute. It could be that since you got out of bed, everything seems to be working against you. Maybe the dog is sick, you aren’t feeling well yourself, you’ve called in sick to rest if you are employed, or canceled all your day’s appointments if you are self-employed. Let’s further imagine that all the major appliances in your house stop functioning due to an electric mishap, and you have to deal with your homeowners’ insurance company’s bureaucracy to get things fixed. Let’s also imagine that you had a horrible fight with your partner, your kids are sick, and a creditor made a mistake and double charged your account. Hence, you are short on cash. To make things worse, as you pull it together to go out of the house and solve some of these challenges, you discover that you have a flat tire; and you have absolutely no idea how to change a flat tire.

What do you do??

These are days that test our patience and force us to go within and retrieve our emotional and intellectual weapons. However, the great news is that no matter how bad the day seems, there is a part of you that remains untouched by the situation. That part, my friend, is your mind. You can use your mind to emotionally and mentally rise above any challenges regardless of how bad they seem: and this brings me to the 5 things you can do to deal with a chaotic day.

  1. Slow down.

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This means that take your time as you resolve every issue, one after another without trying to chunk them up. Make a to-do list as things to do begin presenting themselves. Focus on one thing at a time. This will help you stay on top of the issues that are resolved, and the ones that need more time or resources.  A to-do list also has a way of making us feel accomplished as we mark off every task that we finish.

  1. Remember to Breathe.

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By deep breathing you relax, which then gives you the clarity to deal with the issues you have at hand.

  1. Put on soothing music.

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Let soothing or relaxing music play in the background, and your brain will start picking up on the musical notes which will then help you relax.

  1. Drink a lot of water.

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The benefits of drinking water, especially in stressful situations, are obvious. Drinking a lot of water will keep you hydrated, focused and energetic.

  1. Don’t call anyone to tell them what you are going through.

When you call your friends or loved ones and start telling them what you are going through, firstly, you are wasting time. Secondly, they might make things feel worse for you. Therefore, trust yourself and know that you have the mental and emotional resources within you to solve the chaos. The only exception is if you are calling for professional help. As a matter of fact, if you receive a call amidst the chaos, don’t engage them, ask to call them back.

Remember, there is nothing out of yourself that has the power to disorient you. As long as you are still conscious, you can still tap into your internal resources to resolve any challenges. Furthermore, nothing lasts forever. Maintain your calm. Don’t worry. Everything will soon get back to normal. And even if it doesn’t, you have the human spirit that is always unconditionally fired up with the powers of perseverance, patience, and faith.  

“A calm mind brings inner strength and self-confidence; that’s very important for good health.” Dalai Lama

Love and light

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This article was written by Dr. Jacinta Mpalyenkana, Ph.D., MBA, Author, Counselor, Coach, Speaker. For more about her, please visit her website at http://www.tapthegood.com

How to Deal with Rejection: My Personal Story – Part 1:


Feelings of rejection are normally reflections of past events or experiences that made and still make us feel left out. We probably tried to reach out to someone and he/she ignored us. There are several reasons why we develop feelings of rejection. And for the most part, these feelings have a way of making us feel insecure. Some people develop introvert personalities to protect themselves from being rejected again. Feelings of rejection can also create frustration, anger, resentment, sadness and ultimately, isolation.

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In this article, I will share a personal experience about rejection, how this experience made me feel, and how a fashion-modeling instructor helped me regain my confidence. In part 2 of this article, I will then share the 4 proven tools that I utilized to liberate myself from feelings of rejection.

My Story

I didn’t grow up with my biological father. There were times when I missed him so much, so I would escape from home and go to his family with intent to bond with them.

When I was 13 years old, I remember escaping from home to go to an auntie’s home (my dad’s sister), who happened to live about 7 miles away. I found my auntie and her kids having lunch. When she saw me, she told me that I should never go back to her home: that I wasn’t needed, and in her opinion, I wasn’t part of her family. She also told me that even if they had extra food to share, she would rather throw it in the trash than give it to me. “I hate you,” she said. I asked her why she hated me, and she told me that she could never allow her kids to associate with someone as needy, ugly and poor as I was. As I walked the seven miles back home, in the scolding heat, hungry and thirsty, I cried hysterically. I felt rejected and sad. And I believe that was the day I developed a mental conclusion that I was a societal reject.

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What this Experience did to me:

For many years I felt that I wasn’t good enough. At the back of my mind, I consistently heard my auntie telling me how needy, ugly and poor I was. Consequently, I lost my confidence. I didn’t feel good about myself. I concluded that no one liked me; and as a result, I isolated myself. I dropped all my friends and took refuge in reading books. And what was strange is that the kids at school and in my neighborhood also started rejecting me. Teachers would pick on me. I initiated conflicts with the few friends who stuck with me because I thought that it would be easier to break up with them sooner than later–since I was convinced that in the end, they would also reject me. I was always sad.

As of today, and after many years of studying human behavior, and psychology, I understand that since I was convinced that I would always be rejected, my brain looked for ways and experiences for me to be rejected–so that I didn’t think that I was crazy. I have also learned that whatever stories we tell ourselves, about who we are, are reflected in our experiences.

How a Fashion-modeling Instructor Helped me.

When I was 20 years old, in college, my friends persuaded me to participate in the Miss Uganda Beauty Contest. By that time, I thought I was over my auntie’s story. But the moment I went through the preliminary screening process, my auntie’s voice started mumbling at the back of my mind consistently; “You can never win; you are seriously ugly; no one will vote for you” the voice went on and on with all kinds of negative messages about what was wrong with me.  Every time we were practicing the catwalk or how to pose for pictures, I would shiver, and at times even cry. At one point I wanted to quit the contest because I was convinced that the judges would reject me at first sight. But my mother kept encouraging me to move forward.

One afternoon as we prepared for the Miss Photogenic portion of the contest, I went to the restroom, sat in one corner and started crying. Soon after, the modeling instructor came to the restroom and saw me weeping. She came and sat next to me.

“Why are you crying?” she said. I didn’t know how to explain how I felt.

“Common, tell me. Maybe I can help you.” She continued.

“I don’t think I’m good enough. I think the judges will reject me.”

“Who told you that?” She questioned.

Amidst tears, I summarized my auntie’s story.

“How long ago did your auntie tell you this nonsense?” She asked.

“About 7 years ago,” I answered.

She then held my hand and said, “Never let anyone’s perception of you determine how you should feel about yourself. You have the power to replace the bad things that people have said to you, with the good things that you want to feel about yourself.” She explained. These statements were like light bulbs in my mind. They helped me realize that in spite of what my auntie had told me, I still had the power to decide how I could feel about myself.

Rescued

The instructor helped me off the floor, quickly re-did my makeup and off to the stage, I went feeling much better about myself. And although I didn’t win the Miss photogenic contest, I felt energetic and hopeful that I would eventually love myself unconditionally. While I knew that this would take time, the instructor’s advice had laid a firm foundation for me to start changing my self-concept.

Over the years, and now as a counselor and transformational coach, I have referred to this story to continue empowering myself and also help my clients deal with rejection-related insecurities. And I always remember what Dr. Wayne Dyer once said; “it is not the snake bite that kills a person; it’s the venom.” This means that it’s not what people say to you that affect you; it’s how you interpret it.

In part 2 of this article, I will share the 4 proven tools that I used to regain my confidence and develop a healthier self-esteem.

Love and light

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What does your Psychological Intelligence have to do with your Business?


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Often and again we business people think that all we need to succeed is investing in marketing, PR, Research and the like. However we forget that we are the most important resource for our businesses. It’s hence vital to invest in our self-development and mindsets in order to ignite the enthusiasm, clarity and focus needed for us to succeed.

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The dilemma is how to master our psychological intelligence and employ it to upscale our lives and businesses.

I’m sure I’ve sparked your interest about learning more. This article includes a special offer for a comprehensive Bootcamp and worth-packed bonuses that will positively impact your life and business. The attached document has all the details and benefits that I encourage you to take advantage of. Link to document is: businessintelligencemastery.com_bootcamp

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Love and light


Dr. Jacinta Mariah, MBA

Author, Professional Speaker, Counselor & Success Coach

TapTheGood.com

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