Moment of Inspiration: What to do When Feeling Confused


So, there you are feeling confused and probably uninspired. You might feel as if you are stuck in a mental or emotional box and have no clue about how to get out or move on. It could be that you have to make a decision and you don’t know the right decision to make. So, what do you do? How do you snap out of it?

The Solution:

Close right eyes and look for the confusion in your mind. Find out what it looks like, its shape, color, and whether it is mobile or static. How far is this confusion from you?

If you did the exercise right you will discover that whatever you came up with to represent the confusion was just your imagination. You imagined it into existence. You made it up. If you are lucky and came up with nothing, then you also discovered that confusion is just a thought–a believed thought that you have decided to title, confusion. Just because you don’t know what to do yet, doesn’t brand you confused.

Do not believe your thoughts. Observe the “confusion” as something separate from you. Know that it is not you. And you don’t owe it your attention. Don’t fight to let it go. Let it be but deny it your perception or interpretation; just let it float in your consciousness and if you stand your ground without mentally moving to join it, it will dissolve into obvium.

Remember that you are the one who is always aware of things, situations and thoughts. And you can remain as the awareness.

Love and light

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What is Authentic Success?|Weekly Inspiration


In my early 20s, I believed that success meant getting a good education, having a lot of money, making hundreds of friends and being in good health. Later on, I concluded that having good friends who were true, not only to themselves but also to me, was a good measure of success. But there came a time when I didn’t have money because I was stuck in more ways than one. All my friends started disappearing one by one. Even those I held onto thinking that they were friends weren’t: because I later discovered that they mocked, despised and judged me. So, I found myself alone. No friends, no money and in ill health.

On the onset, I concluded that I was a failure….I wasn’t successful. This conclusion almost drove me insane. The more I believed that I was a failure, the more emotionally and mentally weakened I felt. I went down the spiral of negative thinking and negative feeling until I drove myself into high levels of stress.

Then one day, my husband gave me my own dose of medicine. “You are not any of these things that you are feeling or thinking. They are in you. So be yourself without any of that.”

So, I started meditating and praying a bit longer than before. I decided that I was enough, with or without friends. I started forgiving myself and letting go of all guilt. I exercised with more focus. I changed my diet to a more plant based diet. I wrote in my gratitude journal daily. And within a short period of time I won myself back from the insanity that I had allowed to influence my emotional, and mental wellbeing.

Over the years, I have discovered that being in charge of how we feel and not letting external occurrences influence our emotional wellbeing is authentic-success. I believe it is a universal fact that’s true to every human being whether they acknowledge it or not.

Whether you are a trillionaire or zeronaire, feeling unconditionally good and being okay with everything without letting other people or circumstances influence how you feel is not subjected to anything external to you. You can do it whether you live on a tree or in a mason. In my humble opinion, that is authentic success. Authentic, because it is true to our nature. it is not based on anything external to us. It is an inbuilt attribute that’s only shadowed by our conditioning. Most importantly, it is easier to achieve any other type of success when you are emotionally well…when you feel good about life and about yourself.

In my book, The Sanity Warrior: Becoming the Authority of Your Experiences, you will be inspired by the many personal stories I share. You will learn thirteen practical and proven emotional intelligence strategies designed to help you release the grip from negative conditioning and then become the authority of your experiences.

Check out the book trailer below

In our current environment, this book is designed as your go-to solution when the going in your world gets tougher. 

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5 Psychologically Proven Tips to Be at Peace When You can’t Change a Situation


Life can be extremely challenging at times. And during these times, it takes more than wishful thinking to stay sane and at peace. There are situations that can literally leave you numb.

What do you do?

In this video, I share 5 psychologically proven tips to help you be at peace when you hit rock bottom.

Remember, everything changes.

Let me know how you feel. Sending you much love and peace

Jacinta

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Nothing is Permanent: Be of Good Cheer


OB-ZA278_Fight0_D_20130923205402I recently heard of a man who sued his parents for giving birth to him. He had gone through many challenges that propelled him to question the objective of his birth. In court, he accused his parents of planning to bring him into this world without his consent. Funny, because he wasn’t alive to give his consent to be born. 

Much as this story seems like fiction, I understand his point of view. And I’m certain that if your life has presented avalanches of challenges, obstacles or failures at one point you’ve also wondered why you were born. 

A couple of years ago, there were many months I spent several hours daily seeking answers for the multitude of problems I was experiencing. At times, I felt like breaking down but I remembered what my mother once told me; “Don’t give in and break down because of worldly troubles. You are more than them.” I picked up my broken-self, prayed and meditated for days, forgave (this took me many months) and things started getting better. 

What are you experiencing today?

What is causing you pain?

Trust me when I say that everything changes. Nothing is permanent. Troubles or challenges might seem so big to handle or so powerful to pass away. However, everything that has a beginning has an end. This too will pass. Hang in there and don’t give in. 

Most importantly, you can actively be the witness of all your experiences. Regardless of whatever is going on in your external environment you can internally step back and observe without creating attachments. You can observe without defining or creating relationships with any event. You have what it takes and more to let everything be as it is without categorizing it. You can watch without emotional engagement. If something needs you to take action, you can still act without letting your mind dig out for negative emotions to attach to your actions. 

You can be a witness of all experiences without defining them. With such mindset, everything that happens is neither good or bad. Everything just is. And this notion works magic with experiences we would normally define as bad. Everything then becomes a passing thing. As a result, you are open to everything but attached to nothing. Your emotional thermometer is close to neutral. You are always neutral or at peace with everything. You are in control of your mind: of your emotions. You can choose how to feel without letting the mind manipulate you into generating negative emotions that do absolutely nothing for you. Remember the mind is unemployed without your attention. If the mind starts recruiting thoughts that generate negative emotions in you, move your attention to something else. Note that you are in control of your precious attention. You can choose what to give it to. 

“Become like the sky. Regardless of the number, weight or color of the clouds in its space, the sky remains intact,” said my mentor. 

John 16:33 These things I have spoken unto you, that in me ye might have peace. In the world ye shall have tribulation: but be of good cheer; I have overcome the world.

By “overcoming the world” Jesus meant being a constant witness of the world and its presentations without attaching, defining, relating to or letting his mind manipulate him into generating emotions to attach to these events. 

Remember that a peaceful mind is the heavens playhouse. 

Be of good cheer

Sending you much love and wishing you a gracious Easter

Peace and blessings. 

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The Power of “I am” When You Feel Defeated/Accessing Consciousness


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The power of “I am,” has been known for centuries to shift paradigms, heal wounded spirits and soothe hurting hearts.

If you feel defeated in any way, this recording will uplift you, heal your heart and remind you of how magnificent you truly are.

Listen to the recording with an open mind.

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Video link – https://youtu.be/a16qYzWt-FY

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Remember, “Everything is nothing to an individual until they recognize and define it to be something.”

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Is Your Job Progressing, or Retarding You?


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In school, for the most part we are programmed to believe that the only way to make it in life is to work for others. And although there’s nothing wrong with being employed, the danger is when we either don’t earn what we deserve or don’t ask for what we deserve because we don’t feel worthy.

In this short video, I share a few insights to inspire you to recognize your worth and then act accordingly.

Link to video – https://youtu.be/Ok7e06h7J5s

Please remember to subscribe to our YouTube channel. Leave comments if you felt inspired or have questions

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7 MENTAL TOOLS TO SURVIVE CHALLENGING TIMES


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Of late, turbulent times seem to be more common than peaceful times. The main, yet less obvious reason for experiencing turbulent times is because we’ve let the external world and whatever happens in it to determine the way we feel. The first step then, is to take full responsibility of the way we feel and then tap into our inexhaustible mental resources in order to get a grip of our feelings. Once we are less attached to our experiences or needs/wants, we access our inbuilt God-given clarity and enthusiasm to pursue our goals without the related stress

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In this video, I share 7 mental tools that are guaranteed to help you survive challenging times. Read them, identify those tools that you relate to the most, embrace, then employ them to help you get a grip of your mind, strengthen it, then move past the challenges. 

Link to the video -https://youtu.be/e2qMxnmToSM

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This article was written by Dr. Jacinta Mpalyenkana, Ph.D., MBA. She is a transformational coach, counselor, professional speaker and published author. For more about her, please visit http://www.tapthegood.com

 

10 Things To Do When You Feel Frustrated With Life


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Although there are many reasons that incite our frustrations, the main reasons are founded on two major factors: money and relationships.

We get frustrated because we either don’t have money, we are losing money or money is not coming in as expected. We also get frustrated because of the people we deal with: especially because we are all different and view the world from a diverse perspective.

One thing I have learned is that the factors that promote our negative emotions, plus the negative emotions are not as crucial in influencing our emotional well-being as our perception about them. As such, my intention is to share 10 tips that you can use to get out of a frustrated mood regardless of the foundation of your frustrations. Remember,  it is not what happens to us that impacts our lives; it’s how we perceive whatever happens.     

  1. Move

By moving, I mean, changing your physicality. Do yoga, dance, go for a walk, exercise: the idea is to get your body moving. Once your body is moving, your brain will change its focus from the frustration to whatever you are doing.

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“The difference between peak performance and poor performance is not intelligence or ability; most often it’s the state that your mind and body is in.” – Tony Robbins

Note that emotion is created by motion. In other words, emotions are linked to movement in our bodies. Observe your posture when you are happy, as opposed to when you are sad — or what you look like when you are angry, versus when you are elated.

  1. Listen To Inspirational Or Upbeat Music.

I understand that sometimes when you are feeling frustrated or sad you don’t have the guts to listen to anything. But if you are so sick and tired of feeling negative you will do whatever it takes to feel better. Some of the songs I listen to when I’m sad include, but are not limited to the following:

  • The Storm is Over – R Kelley

  • A New Day Has Come – Celine Dion

  • Roar – Katy Perry

  • Departed (Right Here) – Brandy

  • I look to You – Whitney Houston

  • I’m Your Angel – Celine Dion and R Kelly

  • When You Believe – Whitney Houston and Mariah Carey

  • Stronger (What Doesn’t Kill You) – Kelly Clarkson

  • One Step at a Time – Jordan Sparks

Note that it is important to spend time making your own list.

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         3. Clean

Cleaning your space has a magical way of making you feel better. As you clean, your mind goes into the cleaning mood.  As such, you implicitly clean the frustration from your mind.

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  1. Imagine receiving $1 Million in your bank account; make a list of how you would spend it.

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  1. Cook

Just go into your kitchen and concoct recipes regardless of what you are cooking. The process will definitely help you divert your mind from the frustration.

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  1. Change your furniture around. Don’t try to be perfect. Just change things around in whichever way you want.

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  1. Go window shopping 

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  1. Meditate.       

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  1. Volunteer

This will help you realize how blessed you are.

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  1. Make big plans.

Just make plans without worrying about the resources required to realize them. Make plans as you focus on the things you want to manifest in your life—imagining that there are no obstacles that can hinder you from achieving your goals.

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Conclusion:

Remember that the difference between where you are emotionally or mentally, and where you want to be, is only a decision away. Once you decide to change your mind about anything, you have literally embarked on a profound journey of getting to your desired destination.

Reading self-help books is also another vital tip that will help infuse your mind with self-improvement–which is a good thing. You may want to check out my book: Do Not Force It, Tap The Good – Link – https://www.amazon.com/Do-not-Force-TAP-GOOD/dp/1461079098

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Love and light.

Dr. Jacinta Mpalyenkana, PH.D, MBA, is a published author of 5 books, a Transformational coach, Counselor and Professional speaker. For more about her, check out her website at www.tapthegood.com

It’s Okay to Feel Good: An Inspirational Spoken Word


Do you feel sad?

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Do you need an IV of inspiration today?

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You are at the right place, at the right time, with the right intention. 

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After listening to this inspirational spoken word that I compiled after a recent near-death experience, you will feel a firm sense of well-being. Please listen everyday for continued inspiration. 

Share with those who might need some inspiration today.

Link to video – https://youtu.be/gAk2h4Gfh1Y

Love and light

This content was com composed by Dr. Jacinta Mpalyenkana, Ph.D., MBA. Author, Professional speaker, Counselor and Transformational Coach. To reach her, please visit http://www.tapthegood.com/contact/

Daily Power Affirmations For Your Emotional IV of Inspiration.


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These feel-good daily power affirmations will reward you with an emotional IV of inspiration to start your day, or sleep in peace.

Listen with enthusiasm, feelings, and repetitively. Remember that affirmations only work when we attach positive emotions. Have fun and feel good.

Link to affirmations video – https://youtu.be/Dm_L9lJbGTI

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