What is Authentic Success?|Weekly Inspiration


In my early 20s, I believed that success meant getting a good education, having a lot of money, making hundreds of friends and being in good health. Later on, I concluded that having good friends who were true, not only to themselves but also to me, was a good measure of success. But there came a time when I didn’t have money because I was stuck in more ways than one. All my friends started disappearing one by one. Even those I held onto thinking that they were friends weren’t: because I later discovered that they mocked, despised and judged me. So, I found myself alone. No friends, no money and in ill health.

On the onset, I concluded that I was a failure….I wasn’t successful. This conclusion almost drove me insane. The more I believed that I was a failure, the more emotionally and mentally weakened I felt. I went down the spiral of negative thinking and negative feeling until I drove myself into high levels of stress.

Then one day, my husband gave me my own dose of medicine. “You are not any of these things that you are feeling or thinking. They are in you. So be yourself without any of that.”

So, I started meditating and praying a bit longer than before. I decided that I was enough, with or without friends. I started forgiving myself and letting go of all guilt. I exercised with more focus. I changed my diet to a more plant based diet. I wrote in my gratitude journal daily. And within a short period of time I won myself back from the insanity that I had allowed to influence my emotional, and mental wellbeing.

Over the years, I have discovered that being in charge of how we feel and not letting external occurrences influence our emotional wellbeing is authentic-success. I believe it is a universal fact that’s true to every human being whether they acknowledge it or not.

Whether you are a trillionaire or zeronaire, feeling unconditionally good and being okay with everything without letting other people or circumstances influence how you feel is not subjected to anything external to you. You can do it whether you live on a tree or in a mason. In my humble opinion, that is authentic success. Authentic, because it is true to our nature. it is not based on anything external to us. It is an inbuilt attribute that’s only shadowed by our conditioning. Most importantly, it is easier to achieve any other type of success when you are emotionally well…when you feel good about life and about yourself.

In my book, The Sanity Warrior: Becoming the Authority of Your Experiences, you will be inspired by the many personal stories I share. You will learn thirteen practical and proven emotional intelligence strategies designed to help you release the grip from negative conditioning and then become the authority of your experiences.

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In our current environment, this book is designed as your go-to solution when the going in your world gets tougher. 

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6 Reasons Why We Stay in Abusive Relationships


To begin, what are abusive relationships?

Certainly, the answer is relative and depends on the way we individually develop our personal standards. Culture also has a lot to do with what is regarded as abusive and what is not. 

In this article, I share a generalized view of the different and common forms of abuse, and the reasons we stay in abusive relationships.

What are the different forms of abuse?

The list below includes some common forms of abuse although it is not exhaustive of what abuse can be.

  1. Saying Lies About You

When someone says a lie about you, they have abused your persona. They are probably jealous of you or just want to make themselves feel good by putting you down. Another reason why people lie about others is that they want all the attention to be directed at them. For the most part, they are insecure and don’t really feel good about themselves. They believe that by lying about you, others will turn their attention away from their weaknesses and focus on yours.

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  1. Lying to You

When someone repeatedly lies to you, they firstly do not respect themselves, and the same goes for you or anyone else. Remember, we generally treat others the way we treat ourselves. Most importantly, someone lying to you is a form of abuse. They abuse your intellect by lying.

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  1. Verbal Insults

This is self-explanatory. When someone insults you by either calling you rude names, making negative comments about your self-image, your intellect, or criticizing the way you do things, they are abusing you. I appreciate that at times someone might say negative things to you because they are going through their own drama and aren’t nice to anyone especially to themselves. But if one insults you more than once they have abusive tendencies. 

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  1. Judgment and criticism

We believe it is normal to judge and/or criticize others. But this is not only wrong but also implies that we are investing our focus on something that doesn’t, and will never promote us. We normally judge others based on what we’ve either been told about them, subconscious bias–if they are different from us, or if they intimidate us. We find a way to judge them–which means making conclusions about them without enough evidence. People are also so accustomed to criticizing others and constantly identifying what they believe is wrong with them. This turns into abuse if one is doing it often and doesn’t change even when you bring it to their attention.

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  1. Physical Abuse

Physical abuse is when someone hits, pushes or engages in any forceful physical activity that causes you discomfort or bodily pain. Note that one time is more than enough times for you to walk away—and trust me on this one.

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Why do we Stay in Abusive Relationships?

In this video, I share 6 reasons that I believe you will relate to. I also share a simple yet powerful tip that will help you get out of any abusive relationship.

Link to video – https://youtu.be/DbV-AcxtN5k

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Dr. Jacinta Mpalyenkana, Ph.D, MBA, is a published author, transformational coach, counselor and professional speaker. For more about her, please visit her website at http://www.tapthgood.com.

FEELING STUCK? CHECK OUT THIS EFT SESSION TO HELP YOU OUT


Are you feeling stuck?

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Do you feel as if you’ve hit the wall and you just don’t know what to do?

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I feel you–which is why I have recorded this EFT session (accessible in THIS VIDEO) to help you resolve some of the related negative emotions.

Link to video – https://youtu.be/R1CGcqhUG7E (copy and paste the link in your browser)

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If you need personalized personal coaching, and/or counseling sessions, do not hesitate to send me an email at the address below.

In the interim, have a gracious day.

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