How to Attract True Unconditional Love – With Guided Prayer/meditation


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“Why do I keep attracting douche-bags?” I asked my grandmother. Apparently, I had been in many failing relationships, attracting the same man in different bodies.

For many years, every man I attracted had some, if not all the following characteristics: Addictions of some sort, laziness, abusive, a cheater, low self-esteem, never available, acute behavioral disorders—to mention but a few. I was in owe of how I ended up with men who were the opposite of what I wanted to attract. At one point, my grandmother told me that everything I saw in these men reflected on my inner conditioning. “You identify each other because you feed on each other’s energetic blue print,” she said. Then I thought she was tripping. I didn’t have an addictive personality. I was very hardworking and as far as I knew, I was sane. So, what did I have in common with these men? It took years before I could appreciate the truth in my grandmother’s wisdom. Now as a counselor, I know that we attract who are. 

“You identify each other because you feed on each other’s energetic blue print.”

How Can You Attract True Unconditional Love?

Whether you are already in a relationship or searching for one, the status of your relationship reflects on who you are at some level. If your partner disrupts your peace and/or happiness, note that you are responsible for all your negative emotions. You are responsible for all your experiences. Nothing keeps you in an unhappy relationship except your own insecurities and conditioning. All the reasons you have for remaining in a bad relationship are just escapes from the core truth: the truth that you believe you don’t deserve better. 

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If you are single and can’t attract love, it is all you in your energetic, spiritual, emotional or mental conditioning. Note that at the core, we are energy. Our energy blue prints impact our experiences. We metaphysically overflow from within to the external world. Our outer world perfectly mirrors our inner worlds. Whatever, and how we perceive and/or experience things is a reflection of our conditioning plus the stories, associations, relationships and definitions dwelling in our inner worlds. The question then is, how do we resolve this conditioning to attract true love? Below are 3 tips to get you started.

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  1. Take full responsibility of your situation. Know that your situation is your own creation. Know that you can never get what you want you only get who you are. So, take it upon yourself to invest in identifying the conditioning within you that retracts true love from your experience.
  2. Love yourself unconditionally. This means that you take time to nourish your mind, body and spirit. Put yourself first and the world will put you first. Love yourself unconditionally and you will attract the same. This will take forgiving yourself, accepting who you are… in all ways; cleaning your environment. (Donating or throwing away old stuff you haven’t used in the last 6 months; letting go of relationships that hold you back or those that do not support your well being; clearing your living and working space of all clutter.)
  3. Go within, connect to your Higher-self and ask for guidance of how you can let go of the negative conditioning that prevents you from attracting true love. Note that you need discipline in order to connect to your Higher-self. This takes meditation on a daily basis. 

If you need help, send me an email at tapthegood@gmail.com. In the meantime, listen to this meditation, recorded to help you release the negative conditioning that could be preventing you from attracting true unconditional love.

Link to Meditation – https://youtu.be/OZmJQ9LQBk8

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How to Become The Truest Fullest Expression of Oneself – Part 1


Who you have conditioned yourself to be is who you present to the world. Who you are is always embraced in what you offer to the world. And what you receive is equivalent to who you are. Remember that you can never get anything less or more, of who you’ve conditioned yourself to be. So, if you don’t like what you are receiving from the world, change who you are and everything else will change. And this begins by seeking the kingdom of God within you, where all the answers of who you truly are, and the purpose of your existence, dwell. And trust me, this has absolutely nothing to do with religion, but with everything to do with the relationship you have with yourself, and with God, the Creator who dwells within you, as YOU.

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In this episode, I share a toll tale to emphasize the point that the only way to be is oneself. Then, I share some personal stories and tips on how to step into the real you by firstly embracing your self-image

Is Your Job Progressing, or Retarding You?


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In school, for the most part we are programmed to believe that the only way to make it in life is to work for others. And although there’s nothing wrong with being employed, the danger is when we either don’t earn what we deserve or don’t ask for what we deserve because we don’t feel worthy.

In this short video, I share a few insights to inspire you to recognize your worth and then act accordingly.

Link to video – https://youtu.be/Ok7e06h7J5s

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Celebrate Yourself – An Inspirational Holiday-season Message


 

Pardon my error, it is 12/24/2017 and not 12/24/2018, like I indicate in the video. I guess, I’m living fast forward. 🙂

In this audio recording, I share my take on what a holiday season and especially Christmas, could be redefined by each of us in order to create individualized experiences that do not only rekindle our spirits, but also contribute to humanity and the environment, rather than take from it continuously without considering the consequences.

Link to video – https://youtu.be/wqZmTUgki1o

Sending you warm greetings, and God’s love and light.

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YOU CAN NEVER BE REJECTED – A POWERFUL SELF-EMPOWERMENT MESSAGE


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  • Have you ever felt rejected?

  • How do you know that you were rejected? 

  • Do you believe that you can change the terms you use to explain your experiences in order to perceive them in a healthier way?

  • Do you know that you can never be, will never be, and have never been rejected? 

  • Check out this video for my take on the subject.  Link to video – https://youtu.be/og_H0imtwOg

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Four Tips to Deal with Rejection: Part 2:


In part 1 of this article, “How to Deal with Rejection – based on a personal story”, I shared a personal story about one of my childhood experiences of rejection. I’m certain that you or someone you know has gone through similar or maybe even worse experiences.

In this article, I share 4 tips that helped me deal with rejection and build a healthier self-esteem. And although I appreciate the fact that your experiences or those of your loved ones might be different, I’m also certain that anyone will be able to customize these tips and make them their own in order to resolve any rejection related emotional issues that they might be experiencing.

Tip 1: Know That no one can Reject You.

As weird as it might sound, believe me when I say that no one can actually reject you. One of the meanings of rejection is to be eliminated. And in my opinion, no one can eliminate you per-say. One might eliminate your presence from a scene, or disregard what you say, but he/she can never eliminate your existence. Chances are that what you perceive as rejection is an incident where someone probably did not resonate with, understand, or agree with whatever you were presenting or offering. However, with all due respect, this doesn’t mean that the entire awesome you was discarded.

Therefore, the first tip you can employ to deal with rejection-related emotions is to change your perception of the word, rejection and how it applies to you as an individual.

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Tip 2: Know that People’s Actions are Their Business.

As you deal with the rejection-related emotions, understand that perception is projection. Behavior is founded on internal representations: meaning that people behave as they have learned to, based on their beliefs and thought processes, mental, emotional and spiritual states. Everyone is doing the best they can with the internal resources they have. I’m sure you’ve heard the statement, “squeeze an orange and you get orange juice.” When someone is filled with anger, sadness or whatever other emotions that they might have, that’s exactly what’s going to come out of them as they perceive the world, as well as act. Therefore, if someone rejects something about you, this has nothing to do with you. It is their business. That’s how they know how to operate. Note that at that point in time, your presence or whatever they rejected triggered a decision within them to reject. Consequently, you can’t take things personally. And most importantly, you have to forgive them for their actions because they probably didn’t even realize that there was anything wrong with the way they acted. Just as you can’t expect mango juice to come out of an orange, you can’t expect a person filled with rudeness or anger to treat you with kindness or non-judgment.

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Tip 3: Take 100% Responsibility Of Your Emotions:

When we take full responsibility of our negative emotions, we take our power back from whoever we have blamed for the way we feel. By taking full responsibility for the rejection-related negative emotions, we get to understand that no one has the power to make us feel a certain way; and that we have the power to heal ourselves. This process begins by identifying all those negative emotions that you are feeling. Write them down. Examine each one of them to identify the root causes. Establish if the root causes are really based on truths. For instance, if one of the negative related emotions you are dealing with is sadness, the root cause is what the person said or did, that made you believe that you are a reject. When you examine tip 1, you realize that you are not really a reject. Tip 2, is telling you that whatever the person did is not your business. Consequently, your perceptions are not founded on the truth. You are not a reject. Therefore, you just have to let the sadness go because it is built on lies.

The next step is to forgive yourself for being sad for the wrong reasons. Here’s a link (https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=jGUjtMRS_5k) with a forgiveness process that I recorded a few years ago. To access the link, please copy and paste the link in a new browser, then click “enter.”

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Tip 4: Know That You Can Create a New And Better Story About Your Self-Image

The thoughts and related beliefs about being rejection are founded on a story you created based on an experience that you believed to be the truth. Note that just as you created this story, you also have the power to erase it and then create a new and better story about how you want to feel about yourself. You can do this by thinking about how you want to perceive your self-image. Decide how you want to be perceived. Write these attributes down. Read them to yourself every day until you believe them as the truth. For instance, you can write statements such; I accept and love myself just as I am. I am worthy. I deserve to be treated with respect. I respect myself—you get the idea. The fundamental thing to do is to think and believe these statements as the truth. And by doing this, you will be writing a better story that will improve your perception of yourself.
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Please note that although these tips are simplified, they helped me deal with my rejection-related negative emotions and I believe they can help you or anyone else. The idea is to make the tips your own, do the work on yourself, and remember that persistence and repetition are necessary ingredients required to establish and reinforce desired change.

The author is Jacinta Mpalyenkana, Ph.D., MBA. She’s an author, speaker, counselor and transformational coach. For more about her, please check out her website at www.tapthegood.com

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How to Connect to The Right Friends


As a teenager, connecting to the right friends was one of my biggest challenges.

I grew up with my mom in Kampala, the capital city of Uganda, and my mom was very strict about how we chose friends since most of our neighbor’s teenagers had become pregnant, escaped from their homes and/or got involved in other inappropriate activities. I disliked my mom. In my little mind, I thought she was blocking my freedom to have as many friends as I wanted. But as an adult now, I appreciate her a lot. It is because of her strategies to keep us safe from the turbulent environment in which we were in, that I and my siblings were able to complete school without getting into trouble.

By following some of the strategies that I learned from my mom, and some as a transformational coach, I’ve been able to connect to and choose the right friends over the years.

Here are some of the tips that you can use to connect to the right friends.

1. Become your own best friend.
Before you can understand what friendship really means, you have to love and appreciate everything about yourself, including your flaws. You have to be your own best friend. If you don’t like yourself, you will always look for validation from your friends to define who you are. And that will be disappointing because no one has the power to define who you should be, or how you should feel about yourself. It’s up to each one of us to determine who we should be, and how we should feel. Therefore, be your best friend first, such that when you connect to friends, you are not looking for validation. You love yourself as you are.

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2. Define what friendship means to you.
It is extremely important to establish what you want to achieve from whatever you do. It’s about being purposeful. Defining what friendship means to you implies that you establish what you expect from friends; what they should expect from you as a friend, and what you will not tolerate from them. This also means that you have to develop personal values and standards below which you won’t be anyone’s friend. For instance; since you are already your own best friend, you have to know how to be friendly to yourself. This means that you respect your body by eating the right foods; you exercise and do not indulge in anything that would abuse your body—such as drugs and/or immature sex. You keep your word. You communicate clearly about what you want and don’t want, assertively. You respect your parents/elders. You keep your environment clean and safe. In a nutshell, you love yourself. As a result, you seek to connect with friends who also love themselves and most importantly, friends who will not negatively affect your self-love. They respect and appreciate who you are. They don’t try to influence you, except if it is for positive change.

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3. Become friendly.
If you want to connect to friends you have to be friendly. This means that you don’t make judgments about others because of their looks, origin, social group or religion. You communicate to others freely and attentively as you take the time to examine if these people also love themselves. You become present with people—meaning that you listen attentively to everyone you meet before you determine if that person could be a friend.

I believe that if you embrace these tips, or even add other personal tips that you’ve learned, you will be able to connect to good friends.

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Article also shared on teenmentor.com

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Dr. Jacinta Mpalyenkana, PH.D., MBA

Author, Transformational Coach, and Speaker.