Going Through Hell? 5 Ways to Liberate Your Life:

Going through hell

Going through hell? Been there. There are times in my life when I felt as if I had a concrete and eternal contract with Satan himself. Everything in my world seemed to be crumbling. I took one step forward, and then 1000 steps backwards. There is nothing I did that made me feel happy or purposeful. I was eventually short of answers and tools to try and liberate my soul. I didn’t know what else to do. Suddenly, I stopped. I stopped searching; stopped looking for answers; and just lived every moment as it prevailed.

If you are experiencing havoc in your life, I hope the following 5 steps help you remember that every beginning has an end. As long as it is a challenge, it has a solution. There are no questions without answers.

  1. Wake up every morning and breathe deeply for at least 30 minutes. As you breathe, imagine that you are breathing in pure positive energy, and breathing out all the negativity.


  1. As you take a shower, repeat the statement; “I release all that no longer serve me”— over and over again until you are done with the shower.


  1. During the day when worries and sadness creep in, breathe deeply. Imagine that you are breathing in a white healing light from God, and breathing out all that no longer serve you.

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  1. Drink a lot of water. And as you ease yourself, repeat the statements; “I’m releasing all that no longer serve me.”

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  1. Before you go to bed, say out loud, “From this very moment, and as I sleep tonight, my unconscious mind is liberating my spirit, freeing my mind, empowering my soul, and branding me to live a full life.”


I encourage you to go through this exercise for as long as you can, at least until you feel better about your life. Remember that the answers we seek are all engrained inside of us.

If you want someone to talk to, contact me for a complimentary 30 minutes phone or online session. I’m only this email away –  author@tapthegood.com

Love and light

Dr. Jacinta Mpalyenkana, Ph.D, MBA

Author, Counselor / Success Coach


EFT session for when one feels like a loser.

This is a brief EFT session I recorded to help one ease up on negative emotions related to feeling like a loser.

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Remember, EFT actually works. So try it. 🙂

Link to EFT session —- http://youtu.be/n2RLfyCqojM

Love and light

Dr. Jacinta Mariah

Success Coach / Counselor


Grounding is the Answer!

floralearthIf you are like me you have labored in the fields of self-improvement for a long time; yet, that illusive, permanent happiness, peace and prosperity remain elusive.

We are promised to achieve eventual attainment of the wonderful state of joy.Grounding 2

With that in mind, we begin the destination-less match on the treadmill to nowhere. However, in spite of the match, or even the robust jog, regardless of how fast we run, or for how long, the distance to our “happiness destination” remains the same. For this very reason, I’m enthused to ask a simple question: Who is it that we are trying so desperately to improve?

May I therefore suggest that the “who” whose life we are trying to repair, does not actually exist outside of a story that was imposed upon us a long, long time ago? May I be so impudent to suggest that we are attempting to make an imaginary person happy? And…may I also suggest that this is an impossible task to take?

Please remember; we cannot improve the lot of a story book character. But we can put down the book and notice that the one reading is not actually in the story. Let’s step off the treadmill and ground ourselves onto solid ground–which is the only answer to finding our true selves. 


Do not Force It, Tap the Good is a  about with philosophical and spiritual tools and techniques that have been proven to ground others. 

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Love and light

Jacinta Mariah, Ph.D.


Become Positively Selfish


Often, we all focus too much on other people’s needs, problems, progress, etc, yet forget our own issues that could need urgent consideration. We then find ourselves so stressed out about other people’s issues, and ironically, ours.

There are times when we’ve got to become positively selfish; meaning that we give ourselves guilty-free permission to focus on ourselves.


In the preceding process, we need to examine our physical, emotional and spiritual beings in order to establish where we need to stretch and heal; or how we can change and grow. Once we are done examining these areas of our lives, we then discover that we actually don’t have a lot of time dealing with other people’s businesses. Also, considering that the better we become, the more attractive we become to ourselves and to the outside world, it is imperative to take time out for ourselves.


So, how do you become positively selfish?

  1. Establish how you can improve your physical, emotional and spiritual states.
  2. Start out by exercising for at least 20 minutes a day. Remember that exercising releases endorphins that reduce stress.Image
  3. Come up with a simple daily to-do list that indicates the things that you will do to improve or elevate your emotional and spiritual statesImage
  4. Spend at least 10 minutes a day, less of interruptions such as TV, cell phones, and think about the things that you WANT to happen in your life.
  5. ImageRead an empowerment or self-help book for at least 15 minutes every night before you go to sleep. Try Do Not Force It, Tap The Good: an inspirational philosophical book that shares lessons the whole world can live by. Image

You can take charge of your life my friend by focusing on yourself. Remember that we all deserve to be on top of our game.

 Love and light


Are you at the verge of giving up?

Are you at the verge of giving up?

Do you feel like everything is crashing down on you?

Have you tried everything in the books and nothing is working?

Are you experiencing the opposite of what you want?

Are you dead broke—worried to death about how you will pay current and past bills?

Are you lonely?

Difficult as it might seem, this is the best time to let things be. This is the best time to surrender. This is the best time to tell the universe, or God or whoever you believe in, that you trust it; that you have faith in it; that you are confident about whatever it is doing. Clearly, everything you are doing, thinking and manifesting is in conflict with your desires. Worrying just invests in a negative vibration and makes things worse. So, LET GO. Stop and remain still. If you are moving in a particular direction and seem to be hitting block after another, it is evident that you are moving towards the wrong direction. So if you don’t know what to do, why not stop doing anything for some time in order to give room for new ideas to reveal themselves? If you are in such a conflicted negative noisy world, how will you hear what the universe / God/ or whoever you consider to be your higher power—is telling you?
Remember; even if at times nothing seems to be happening, something always is. Not all that is happening is visible. The source of all creation lies in the invisible world. So this might be a time when the universe is creating a new world for you. This might be the time when you are removing all old layers to reveal the new you. And although it might feel painful, consider caterpillars and what they go through to become butterflies. For sure if insects can do it, you can do it.
What has worked for me is a simple breathing exercise.

1. Sit still for as long as you can. Make sure that your arms and legs are uncrossed.
2. Start breathing deeply.
3. Imagine that you are breathing in relaxation, and breathing out stress, worry and anxiety. Do this for about 10 minutes.
4. Imagine that you are breathing in pure positive energy, and breathing out the negative. Do this for about 5 to 10 minutes.
5. Breathe in Love and light, and breathe out all that isn’t love and light. Do this for about 5 to 10 minutes.
6. Breathe in faith, and then breathe out resistance. Do this for about 5 to 10 minutes.
7. Breathe in success, and then breathe our blockages. Do this for about 5 to 10 minutes.

It will take you about an hour to go through the breathing exercise if you do it as instructed. If you follow through, you witness a sense of relief and clarity after the exercise.
Remember to take advantage of my 30 minutes COMPLIMENTARY personal investigation and healing session—as I employ the magical tools of EFT, Ho’oponopono, distant Reiki, Theta and NLP. Send me an email at author@tapthegood.com. You will not be obliged to sign up for anything you don’t want to. Just remember; help is always available whenever you need it. It is all around you. It’s up to you to utilize it.

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Love and light

Don’t Be a Leaner

Many times when we bump into unexpected circumstances, we loose our internal connection and look outside of ourselves for answers. We might achieve some sort of comfort, only to realize that it was temporary. The people who listen to your problems can only offer what they digest and perceive of that situation according to their internal representations…beliefs, norms and mind-state. In a nutshell they are offering you THEIR mapping of YOUR world. Although at times this might be helpful, it makes more sense and manifests more permanent results if you search for the answers from within yourself.

Leaning on your loved ones, friends or mentors for support if you have them is an incredible solution. However the decision to resolve the problem or conflict still depends on you.

I recently experienced a not-so pleasant situation that I failed to digest consciously. Much as I knew that there was a part of me that knew the answers, I still sort for retreat and comfort from my social group members—a source external to me. And although I appreciated and considered their comforting statements, alone in my house, I still felt disturbed. It was only when I remained still, forgave the situation and also commanded my unconscious mind to erase, and let go of the situation, that I felt relieved.

I just want to encourage you today that regardless of whatever you are going through, if you just remain still, you will find comfort and the answers waiting for you. Leaning on your friends and/or loved ones for comfort and resolutions will motivate, but not empower you to deal with yourself. Besides, when you realize that sharing negativity repeatedly promotes it, you will opt to speak to that part of you that knows all the answers. And although the answers might not appear in your consciousness as early as you expect them, they will reveal themselves; and they will be profound. So learn how to lean on yourself more than others.  It creates miracles.

A brief exercise I do twice daily…morning and evening, is to command my unconscious mind, that creative part of me, to erase what I don’t want and replace it with what I want.

I repeat 3 times as follows: I NOW COMMAND MY UNCONSCIOUS MIND TO LET GO OF …….


Try it for a couple of days; as often as you can, and let me know how you feel.

I love you; and I thank you.

Happy holidays.




Has harming yourself begun feeling like a viable option?

I’m glad that I got your attention. Well…you’ve not stumbled on this article by mistake dear. Odds are that you’ve probably evaluated several means through which you can painlessly harm yourself as the only option to escape love-related emotional pain; or maybe not. Maybe it was in the past…a long long long time ago. Did you read a related story from a newspaper that’s no longer in print?  NO, I get it. You know someone who knows someone who is searching for the best solutions on the market to harm themselves because they don’t have the strength to get out of their love-slaughtering relationships. At least I have been there. And it wasn’t pretty.

Please note that your current paradigm doesn’t really matter. What matters is the fact that everyone I know who has been in love, me inclusive, has once felt like burying themselves alive as the best and only option out of a bad relationship; let alone the most viable solution for a heart break.

Conditional love, which isn’t true love anyway, can turn into something else—I tell you. If you are in love, have been in love, or longs to be in love, please establish standards below which you won’t settle, before, during and after any relationship. With standards profoundly ingrained in your mental and emotional banks, you will never feel like harming yourself when the going gets tough. You will always remember who you truly are. A divine unique individual, created in the perfect image of God who is important in this world. You will remember to love yourself even when loneliness strikes. You won’t settle for less than true unconditional love.

I know people who are currently stuck in relationships for purely strategic, or fear based reasons; such as convenience, the fear of being alone, financial gifts, societal expectations, the “I’m-getting-old-so –it-is-hard-for-me-to-attract-a-new-lover” syndrome. If one stays in such an energy vampiring relationship for a while, they will soon feel like death could offer more emotional benefits. This is true especially in abusive relationships where one of the parties is, and/or has suffered a tremendous amount of emotional, mental and physical torture. With that in mind, self-love becomes a struggle. One stays in the relationship for reasons external to their true heart-felt desires.  One way out of this mind battle is to repeatedly tell yourself how much you love you. “I love me” you can state for as many times as you can daily.

Another suggestion is to employ the four magical Ho’oponopono subconscious cleansing statements namely; I’m sorry. Please forgive me. I love you; and I thank you.  If you want to find out more about how ho’oponopono works, please check out www.ho’oponopono.org.

Ho’oponopono is a Hawaiian healing ancient technique that can HEAL your life. I’m an Advanced Ho’oponopono Practitioner, and I can attest to the fact that it HEALED my life.  For this, I’m very grateful.  Contact me at author@tapthegood.com or www.tapthegood.com for a free consultation if you are ready to transform your life.

Meanwhile, my questions for you today are; are you in a happy relationship? If not, what the hell are you still doing in there????.