Tired of Attracting Abusive Men? 3 Tips to Unlock The Subconscious Related- Chains


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Are you sick and tired of attracting abusive men?

You might have daddy issues. Read on!!

It is not only biologically vital but also spiritually imperative to grow up with our parents, mom and dad, or the equivalent, for us to develop and sustain positive-infused mindsets. Although overlooked, without both your parents in the picture as a child, you are bound to search for whoever was missing in the people you meet in your adult life. And that can be very frustrating.

Note that one is also impliedly psychologically and emotionally abused if their father or father figure was always absent in their younger days.

In this article, you will identify one of the problems created by not having a father figure or having an abusive one, and learn three simple techniques that will liberate you from this problem in order to develop healthier relationships with the men in your life.

The Problem:

Without a father figure in your life, you miss out on the security and comfort that a father figure provides (especially one with a healthy mind). A father is literally the first adult male you are introduced to, or is supposed to be introduced to when you are born. As such, he represents men in general and especially how men relate or should relate to women. Your father introduces you to the first standards that you believe every man should possess. If you saw your father treating your mom with respect, you tend to attract or choose men who understand how to treat a woman with respect.

If especially you witnessed your father abusing you or any other members of your family and never stopped abusing them, and/or never apologized, chances are that you have subconscious anger that’s not only directed towards your father, but all men.  The consequences are that you will continue unconsciously seeking out men with behaviors similar to your dad with hope that they might abuse you and then apologize to make up for what your father didn’t do. However, even if you attract men who are apologetic for abusing you, they will not compensate for your father’s abuse. Therefore, you will continue seeking for abusive men, over and over again until you deal with your early father-figure programming.

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The Solution:

Note that the tips I share below are not exhaustive of all the techniques and tools that you can employ to heal your early negative father-programming.

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Take time and write all your early father negative experiences, or no-father negative experiences. Be as detailed as possible. To guide you, you can answer the following questions:

  1. What exactly happened?
  2. Who was there?
  3. What did your father do, didn’t do, or should have done?
  4. In case you didn’t have a father figure as a child, how did this make you feel?
  5. How did those experiences make you feel about your father and men in general?
  6. How did these experiences make you feel about yourself?

Re-examine all the related feelings about yourself that were developed because of your earlier father/no father negative programming

Go through this simple EFT and Ho’oponopono to stop attracting abusive relationships session 

Click HERE to access the video recording.

If you want more, order the Daddy Issues Meditation CD from http://tapthegood.com/spiritualservices/

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Or buy my book (Love, Men and Money: How to Attract and Retain them) with detailed EFT and counseling scripts at www.tapthegood.com/books/ or from Amazon at https://www.amazon.com/Love-Men-Money-Attract-Retain/dp/1480094897/

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The Only Competition there is, is with YOU!


Beloved soul,

Know that you are enough, and can never compete with anyone. You are unique, and there’s only one you with your blue print. So, focus on making yourself the best you. Don’t try to compete with anyone. Compete with yourself. Be better today than you were yesterday. Even when you are in a competitive setting, focus on expressing yourself the best way you can. The rest will work out itself.

In this VIDEO, I share an empowerment message with the preceding content as the theme.

Link to the video – https://youtu.be/Y0Mjku0GUb4

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Do You Feel Hated? Check this out!!!


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Do you feel isolated and rejected?

Do experiences of rejection, isolation and loneliness continue to show up in your world?

Do you feel stuck and have no idea what to do?

Well, my friend, the answers are right there within you. The challenge is to get yourself out of the way, and find these answers. That’s why we all need someone professional to help us face ourselves without fear or judgment.

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In this video, I share a personal story to illustrate how I met myself, and provide a few proven tips that you can adopt to free yourself from yourself. 🙂

Check out this video. Please leave comments and subscribe to our YouTube channel to receive self-mastery and self-healing tips, as they are uploaded.

In the interim, don’t forget to register for our upcoming seminar, scheduled for 02/10/2018, in Los Angeles, California.

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Love and light

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Celebrate Yourself – An Inspirational Holiday-season Message


 

Pardon my error, it is 12/24/2017 and not 12/24/2018, like I indicate in the video. I guess, I’m living fast forward. 🙂

In this audio recording, I share my take on what a holiday season and especially Christmas, could be redefined by each of us in order to create individualized experiences that do not only rekindle our spirits, but also contribute to humanity and the environment, rather than take from it continuously without considering the consequences.

Link to video – https://youtu.be/wqZmTUgki1o

Sending you warm greetings, and God’s love and light.

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Changing Negative Stories to Attract Money–With EFT and Ho’oponopono


In the interim, love and light.

Jacinta Mpalyenkana, Ph.D., MBA

Spiritual Counselor, Coach, Speaker, Author

http://www.tapthegood.com

 

The Poison of the Mind & How to banish It.


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> What do you think is the most powerful poison of your mind

> What do you think gets in the way of you taking action

> Well, it’s yours to find out my views on the same in this video

Link to the video – https://youtu.be/Nn9VXrz0zvk

In the interim, I wish you and your family a glamorous holiday season filled with wonders, love and miracles. 

Don’t forget to sign up for my upcoming seminar scheduled for February 10th, 2018, a full day event intended to help you get in touch with your inner world in order to be the master of your outer world. 

Link to the event – https://www.eventbrite.com/e/the-mind-spirit-rebirth-and-rejuvenation-seasonal-seminar-tickets-40745783736

Remember: “It is only when we take control of, and master the whole of inner worlds that we can change our outer worlds for the better.”

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Dr. Jacinta Mpalyenkana, Ph.D., MBA

Author, Spiritual Counselor, Coach, Trainer, Speaker

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How Death Affects us Beyond Dying; and How to Avoid it Before Dying.


“Death is not the greatest loss in life. The greatest loss is what dies inside us while we live.” Norman Cousins

Death has been known as one of the scariest experiences in our lives. Most people fear it. Death is traumatizing, yet, we tend to administer the same implicit approach to many of the worldly, temporary things we found in this world, and things that we shall leave behind when we die; things that will come and go; things that live and die. This is the type of death that I discuss in this article–a death that defines and implicates the final destination to all temporary things.

Correct me if I’m wrong, but I don’t know anything on this planet with infinite attributes other than God, Allah—or whoever you refer to as your Creator. As such, we the human race have developed a profound tendency over the years to put all our bets in the situation-basket of what’s temporary. Consequently, we miss out on the infinite realm of things.

What Do I Mean By This?

For example, when we focus all our attention on something like a bill that we have to pay, a car that we have to replace or how our neighbor is doing better than we are, we are literally focusing on what’s finite. At times we engage in unhealthy competition with belief that there isn’t enough in circulation for all of us. We find ways to block, intimidate, criticize or judge those who have dreams we believe are similar to ours. Yet, we forget that we are all unique and different. We ignore the divine truth that no one will ever be or has ever been created with our blueprint. We negate the fact that we are all special and therefore whatever we create even if it might appear similar, is differentiated by our very nature.

Consequently, we miss out on the infinite intelligence that dwells within us…the source of all things.  And our limited perception is based on fear: the fear that we won’t have enough, the fear that we live in a scarce world: and the blind notion that we are in control of everything. We forget that we are supported in life by a divine being that takes care of our very bodily biology and does magical things like help us breathe as we sleep: manages the trillions of the body’s internal cellular activities that we don’t even know about.

“What’s lovely never dies, but passes onto other loveliness” – Thomas Bailey Aldrich

That’s why it is written in the bible that, “Seek first the kingdom of heaven and all the rest will fall in hand,” meaning that let’s seek to connect to the source of all things, that invisible Self that protects and takes care of our needs. Out of that mental/emotional condition, inspiration will drive us to how and where we can find the temporary things of this world. And I’m not suggesting that you ignore your bills or become irresponsible. What I’m suggesting is for us to stop killing each other and ourselves for things we found in this world. Let’s remove our grips on emotional and mental mediocrity because they don’t serve us. Let’s focus on that which is infinite within us. Let’s focus on loving each other, forgiving each other, and working on ourselves to become better people: better than whom we were yesterday. Let’s focus on tapping into the intangible infinite attributes within us: attributes like love, peace, hope, creativity and the like. Consequently, we won’t only be able to easily get the temporary world stuff but also access all the mental, emotional and spiritual resources to replace them.

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“Death leaves a headache no one can heal. Love leaves a memory no one can steal” – Unknown

Remember, when you focus on what’s dying, you will never see what’s being born. Let’s become flexible, and develop faith in our creator regardless of our religious or non-religious technologies, well knowing that because this planet was built with us the human race in mind, we are always taken care of, and there’s no need to hate or kill each for what’s temporary.

Written by Dr. Jacinta Mpalyenkana, Ph.D., MBA, an author, Speaker, Spiritual Counselor, Coach. For more about her, please visit http://www.tapthegood.com.