Changing Negative Stories to Attract Money–With EFT and Ho’oponopono


In the interim, love and light.

Jacinta Mpalyenkana, Ph.D., MBA

Spiritual Counselor, Coach, Speaker, Author

http://www.tapthegood.com

 

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The Poison of the Mind & How to banish It.


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> What do you think is the most powerful poison of your mind

> What do you think gets in the way of you taking action

> Well, it’s yours to find out my views on the same in this video

Link to the video – https://youtu.be/Nn9VXrz0zvk

In the interim, I wish you and your family a glamorous holiday season filled with wonders, love and miracles. 

Don’t forget to sign up for my upcoming seminar scheduled for February 10th, 2018, a full day event intended to help you get in touch with your inner world in order to be the master of your outer world. 

Link to the event – https://www.eventbrite.com/e/the-mind-spirit-rebirth-and-rejuvenation-seasonal-seminar-tickets-40745783736

Remember: “It is only when we take control of, and master the whole of inner worlds that we can change our outer worlds for the better.”

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Dr. Jacinta Mpalyenkana, Ph.D., MBA

Author, Spiritual Counselor, Coach, Trainer, Speaker

http://www.tapthegood.com

HOW NEGATIVE KARMA IS CREATED:- THIS WILL SAVE YOUR SOUL: VERY POWERFUL MESSAGE


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How is negative karma created?

How does it affect your life?

How can it affect your soul?

In this video, I share my take on explaining how negative karma is created and what we can do to avoid it. 

Link to video – https://youtu.be/AvIWR-IcZ80

Please share with all those who might the message. 

Love and light

 

Dr. Jacinta Mpalyenkana, Ph.D., MBA 

Author, Speaker, Counselor, Coach (LIFE AND BUSINESS)

“Helping you achieve emotional freedom from abuse, co-dependence on addictions, addictions, clarity and an empowered mindset.” 

http://www.tapthegood.com

 

 

How to Deal with Rejection: My Personal Story – Part 1:


Feelings of rejection are normally reflections of past events or experiences that made and still make us feel left out. We probably tried to reach out to someone and he/she ignored us. There are several reasons why we develop feelings of rejection. And for the most part, these feelings have a way of making us feel insecure. Some people develop introvert personalities to protect themselves from being rejected again. Feelings of rejection can also create frustration, anger, resentment, sadness and ultimately, isolation.

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In this article, I will share a personal experience about rejection, how this experience made me feel, and how a fashion-modeling instructor helped me regain my confidence. In part 2 of this article, I will then share the 4 proven tools that I utilized to liberate myself from feelings of rejection.

My Story

I didn’t grow up with my biological father. There were times when I missed him so much, so I would escape from home and go to his family with intent to bond with them.

When I was 13 years old, I remember escaping from home to go to an auntie’s home (my dad’s sister), who happened to live about 7 miles away. I found my auntie and her kids having lunch. When she saw me, she told me that I should never go back to her home: that I wasn’t needed, and in her opinion, I wasn’t part of her family. She also told me that even if they had extra food to share, she would rather throw it in the trash than give it to me. “I hate you,” she said. I asked her why she hated me, and she told me that she could never allow her kids to associate with someone as needy, ugly and poor as I was. As I walked the seven miles back home, in the scolding heat, hungry and thirsty, I cried hysterically. I felt rejected and sad. And I believe that was the day I developed a mental conclusion that I was a societal reject.

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What this Experience did to me:

For many years I felt that I wasn’t good enough. At the back of my mind, I consistently heard my auntie telling me how needy, ugly and poor I was. Consequently, I lost my confidence. I didn’t feel good about myself. I concluded that no one liked me; and as a result, I isolated myself. I dropped all my friends and took refuge in reading books. And what was strange is that the kids at school and in my neighborhood also started rejecting me. Teachers would pick on me. I initiated conflicts with the few friends who stuck with me because I thought that it would be easier to break up with them sooner than later–since I was convinced that in the end, they would also reject me. I was always sad.

As of today, and after many years of studying human behavior, and psychology, I understand that since I was convinced that I would always be rejected, my brain looked for ways and experiences for me to be rejected–so that I didn’t think that I was crazy. I have also learned that whatever stories we tell ourselves, about who we are, are reflected in our experiences.

How a Fashion-modeling Instructor Helped me.

When I was 20 years old, in college, my friends persuaded me to participate in the Miss Uganda Beauty Contest. By that time, I thought I was over my auntie’s story. But the moment I went through the preliminary screening process, my auntie’s voice started mumbling at the back of my mind consistently; “You can never win; you are seriously ugly; no one will vote for you” the voice went on and on with all kinds of negative messages about what was wrong with me.  Every time we were practicing the catwalk or how to pose for pictures, I would shiver, and at times even cry. At one point I wanted to quit the contest because I was convinced that the judges would reject me at first sight. But my mother kept encouraging me to move forward.

One afternoon as we prepared for the Miss Photogenic portion of the contest, I went to the restroom, sat in one corner and started crying. Soon after, the modeling instructor came to the restroom and saw me weeping. She came and sat next to me.

“Why are you crying?” she said. I didn’t know how to explain how I felt.

“Common, tell me. Maybe I can help you.” She continued.

“I don’t think I’m good enough. I think the judges will reject me.”

“Who told you that?” She questioned.

Amidst tears, I summarized my auntie’s story.

“How long ago did your auntie tell you this nonsense?” She asked.

“About 7 years ago,” I answered.

She then held my hand and said, “Never let anyone’s perception of you determine how you should feel about yourself. You have the power to replace the bad things that people have said to you, with the good things that you want to feel about yourself.” She explained. These statements were like light bulbs in my mind. They helped me realize that in spite of what my auntie had told me, I still had the power to decide how I could feel about myself.

Rescued

The instructor helped me off the floor, quickly re-did my makeup and off to the stage, I went feeling much better about myself. And although I didn’t win the Miss photogenic contest, I felt energetic and hopeful that I would eventually love myself unconditionally. While I knew that this would take time, the instructor’s advice had laid a firm foundation for me to start changing my self-concept.

Over the years, and now as a counselor and transformational coach, I have referred to this story to continue empowering myself and also help my clients deal with rejection-related insecurities. And I always remember what Dr. Wayne Dyer once said; “it is not the snake bite that kills a person; it’s the venom.” This means that it’s not what people say to you that affect you; it’s how you interpret it.

In part 2 of this article, I will share the 4 proven tools that I used to regain my confidence and develop a healthier self-esteem.

Love and light

www.tapthegood.com

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The Most Powerful Self-Improvement Question


As the year ends, other than spending a lot of money on gifts and preparing for the holiday celebrations, we get prompted to think about what we’ve achieved during the year, what we’ve lost, what we want to achieve the following year, what to change about ourselves, how to change, financial goals, relationships goals…the list goes on.

Many, (and I plead guilty for doing this for a number of years,) have long given up on the annual-goal setting exercise because they either never follow-through with their goals, or simply, for some reason, fail to achieve their goals. So, for the fear of failing again, they negate or ignore annual resolutions.

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However, I have discovered that there is a single question that I have asked myself each year, and have also recommended for my clients, that doesn’t only help to re-establish personal worth, but also leads to new insights about self. Also, this question has somehow led me into evaluating my finance, friendship, business and future related goals.

The question is: “What do I deserve?”

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When you take time to contemplate on, and answer this question, I suggest that you consider thinking about what you are tolerating, let it be partnerships, a job (if you are employed), lifestyle, friendships—to mention but a few. After establishing what you might be tolerating, proceed to analyze what you think you deserve and why. Before you are done, you will have your most important new goals ready for your execution.

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If you discover that you are tolerating more than you think, then contact me at www.tapthegood.com/contacts/ for a complimentary personal coaching/counseling session to establish how I can help you take your power back and become the authority of your life.

Looking for a good book to read during the holidays? Check out, Do not Force it, Tap The Good: How to Tap Into One’s Infinite Potential, Develop a Profound Positive Attitude and Live Life on Your Terms.

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Happy holidays

Love and light

Jacinta Mpalyenkana, Ph.D, MBA

Published Author, Counselor, Personal Coach, Professional Speaker

http://www.tapthegood.com

3 Steps To Benefit from Business Networking:


I’ve been an addict of networking for a couple of months since I discovered the related benefits for my business.

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However, what happens in networking events is very fascinating. People present their best selves. Most dress well; have business cards to show off what they do, and attempt to speak to everyone in the group. What most don’t do is comprehend and utilize the first law of human nature–which is; “People don’t do what they don’t see a benefit in doing.” It is about the “What is in it for me” ideology. With that in mind, people tend to talk more about themselves and what they do, or how they can help others without really trying to find out about others: what makes them unique; what makes them feel special; or what makes them feel important.  In summary, they don’t show interest in other people. Dale Carnegie in his book- “How to influence people and win friends” indicates that the best way to elicit other people’s interest is to show interest in them.

Below are first three steps that will help you benefit from business networking.

1. Show up feeling, and looking vibrant.

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This means that you dress to influence, and express who you are, and your brand. This also implies that you find a way to dress up in colors that resonate with your product / service or company brand.  Cleanse your mind of all negativity and self-criticism, and adopt a positive and happy attitude.

2. Carry enough business cards to give away.

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Do not discriminate who you should give your business cards to. When you are giving out your business cards, ensure to connect to everyone one you give the cards to. Show keen interest in what they are doing by listening to what they have to say, and then share your business card.

3.  Ask for their business cards before they offer them.

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Don’t wait for them to hand them to you. That is a mind game that illustrates that you are interested in what they have to offer.

Stay tuned for more networking tools in next week’s article.

If you want individualized holistic business coaching for your business, contact me by clicking on this link, for a free 30 minutes phone discovery session in which I would love to hear everything about you and your business, and how I can help you become the authority of your craft.

Dr. Mpalyenkana, Jacent

www.tapthegood.com

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The Rudest Question ever Asked:


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Out of every 10 people I meet, at least 2 ask me about my age

Psychologically, asking someone about their age is one of the rudest questions that you can ever ask anyone. It implicates a demeanor of judging others. Asking others for their age especially when you can’t explain why you wonna know simply illustrates a judgmental or stereotyping attitude. Most people ask for age to compare with what they already know about an age group. This limits one from capturing the moment, and embracing another just as they are. Trust me; you don’t need to know someone’s age to love them, relate to them, or understand them. All you need is an open mind.

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A few suggestions of better questions one can ask are as follows:

  1. What do you do for fun?
  2. What makes your day a good one?
  3. Do like outdoors?
  4. Do you enjoy comedy?

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These are but some of the decent questions that you ask another to know more about them.

In my book Do Not Force It, Tap The Good, I explain in detail how one can positively influence others; how to connect to like-minded friends, and most importantly, how to consistently open one’s mind in order to embrace life as it reveals itself.

In my core Life Coaching Program – Tapping into your Infinite Good, I employ the magical tools of EFT, NLP, Ho’oponopono and the Life Leadership Paragon founded by Dr. Doug Kelley, to transform lives by helping people get their power back, changing their self-limiting beliefs, and tapping into the abundant resources available in their minds.

Love and light

Jacinta Mariah, PhD

http://www.tapthegood.com