The Art of Perseverance: 6 Tools to Persevere and Keep Moving Forward


Ellen-White-a-model-in-tenacity-and-perseverancePerseverance is a skill that’s vital for success. Without perseverance one is set to give up easily and then move from project to another just because things didn’t work out as they wanted. The most successful people in the world know how it feels to fail repeatedly but keep going no matter what comes their way.

Stories about the Fright brothers, Albert Einstein, Honda, plus many other iconic beings in history, are intended to remind us that perseverance is a necessary skill for success to be attained. Besides, the degree of celebration for any victory generally depends on the energy invested, number of obstacles overcome and the level of perseverance.

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I, like most people have had my share of disappointments in my business and life in general: disappointments that have left me feeling beaten and broken to my very core. But the passion I have to achieve my life purpose has energized me to get up, pick up the broken pieces and move forward.

The questions are;

  1. What does it take to persevere through turbulent times?
  2. What does it take not to give up?
  3. Where do you get the drive to keep moving forward when you’ve been disappointed repeatedly?
  4. How do you persevere when you have failed so many times, and consequently believe that you are a failure and will continue to fail?

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In this video, I share a few personal stories that will inspire you to get up and keep moving forward. I also share 6 tools that will help you do the same.

The tools in summary are:

~ Be clear about what you want to offer and why?

~ Focus on becoming an expert in your field of preference.

  • Use related personal stories to support your credibility
  • Keep researching and learning new information about your field
  • Invest in self-development, coaching and/or counseling.

~ Don’t take things personally. Don’t let other people’s behavior, opinions and perceptions disorient you from pursuing your goals.

~ Focus on what you want religiously

~ Keep taking steps–however small.

~ Don’t give up.

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Dr. Jacinta Murray is an author, speaker, transformational coach and spiritual counselor. She works with over 1000 clients annually, on and offline, to help them achieve emotional freedom from the negative past, heal from trauma, abuse and stress, develop a success-infused mindset, cleanse the unconscious mind from blockages, resolve bloodline and lineage conflicts, and get clear about their life purpose—among other issues.

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5 Psychologically Proven Tools to Emotionally Detach From Envious/ Jealous People


Two-Guys-sword-fightingOne of the major causes of our suffering is other people’s behaviors. Often, other people’s behavior and actions conflict with our individual beliefs, values, attachments or personal standards. And this can trigger feelings of discomfort or resentment towards them. 

Also, some people give in to negativity, and consequently develop jealousy, envy and toxic behavior that could hurt other people who also give in to personalizing the former’s actions. 

Note that jealously and envy are some of the main causes of witchcraft, backstabbing, murder, plus many other types of crime. So, it’s important to learn how to detach from jealous/envious people. 

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Now, let’s imagine that you find out that someone you thought was a friend is envious of you and has been backstabbing you in different ways. What do you do? 

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Below are 5 tips that will help you detach from such jealous/envious people and most importantly, feel at peace with their actions. In this video, I explain the tips. 

  1. Know that it is their “business.”
  2. Know that they are suffering. 
  3. Remember that you have the power and choice to detach from relating with them
  4. Block them
  5. Focus on your “business.” 

Remember to click on this video, to listen to the tips. 

Dr. Jacinta M Murray, is a spiritual counselor and transformational coach. She specializes in helping her clients achieve emotional freedom, release stress, heal from the negative past, resolve and cleanse dark entities, bloodline curses, energetic and spiritual toxins, become more productive, have clarity about their life purpose, and live life on their terms. 

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Reality Check to Progress as an Entrepreneur (1 of 4)


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When I founded my business about 9 years ago, I fondled my way to making losses, month after month. I did everything my mentor suggested but kept struggling to make ends meet. At one point, I gave up upon concluding that I wasn’t cut to be an entrepreneur. However, my mentor advised me to perform four reality checks about myself and the business.

Below, is the first reality check I performed. Note that in the next three articles I will share each of the reality checks. Please subscribe to my blog or check back next week for the next reality check.

1. Personal Reality Check.

This involves evaluating the following areas of your life:
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 (a) Mindset:

  1. What are your beliefs about being a successful entrepreneur?
  2. What are your prominent thought processes? Are you consistently dwelling on the past and what went wrong, what could go wrong, or you are focused on what could go right?
  3. What is your relationship with money?
  4. On a scale of 1 to 10, (1, being “not at all,” and 10, being “absolutely influential”) how influential are you?
  5. What fears do you have about success?
  6. Do you feel worthy of progress?
  7. What’s your idea of success? What will have to happen for you to know that you have succeeded in business?
  8. What’s your why? Why are you pursuing this business?
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 (b) Strengths

  1. What strengths do you possess that can progress your business? These strengths are both internal and external.
Internal strengths are related to the mental, emotional, and spiritual states; skills, expertise, educational background and/or experience.
External strengths include your financial status, and resources available to you, such as office space, good business relationships and connections, plus support from your loved ones or other positive-minded individuals.
The idea is to find out your strengths in these areas. Note that it’s vital to be honest with yourself.

 (b) Weaknesses

This involves investigating your weaknesses, internal and external.
It would be helpful to refer to what you discovered about your mindset. Are there are any loose ends you need to fix?
  1. On a scale of 1 to 10, 1, being “not driven,” and 10, “very driven,” how driven are you?
  2. Do your daily rituals support your progress?
  3. What relationships weigh you down and why are you still holding onto them?
  4. On a scale of 1 to 10, (1, being “not at all,” and 10, being “absolutely determined”) how determined are you in improving your health? Note that a healthy body promotes a healthy mindset, which then promotes positive, and enthused action.
  5. On a scale of 1 to 10, (1, being “not at all,” and 10, being “absolutely determined”) how determined are you about focusing on what you want without dwelling on the negative?
  6. On a scale of 1 to 10, (1, being “not at all,” and 10, being “absolutely organized”) how organized are you?

  (c) Opportunities

  1. What opportunities do you have at your exposure that you can explore to progress in your business?
  2. What can you do to turn your weaknesses into opportunities?

 (d) Threats

  1. What do you believe are your threats?
  2. What risks are you facing by operating your business and how can you avoid, or work with them without letting them affect your business?

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Note that becoming a successful entrepreneur demands more than wishful thinking. One has to be determined to evaluate how they can improve consistently, what they should let go and the changes that need to happen.  However, all this begins with mindset.
In my transformational coaching sessions, I can help you identify the areas in your inner and outer worlds that need to change, improve or be released. I partner with my clients to help them release anything that could be blocking them from taking action. We work together on developing mindset, and operational strategies for success. After the sessions, clarity, a new sense of direction and enthusiasm are achieved.
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Afraid of Public Speaking? Ask the Fear….


3a355333-24bb-41a2-b460-2209f0a067bbAs I walked down the church’s isle towards the front, I could hardly breathe. Everything within me was telling me to run, scream or call my mama for refuge. My heart beat so hard and so fast and I concluded that everyone in the church was hearing it. As I pulled my legs to establish the next step I was barely taking, I felt as if something had tied my leg and hip muscles with iron chains to prevent me from moving forward. I wanted to crawl but somehow somewhere I kept walking…call it stumbling. My eyes got teary. I could hardly see. I don’t even remember how I got to the podium. The pastor handed me the microphone which I looked at as if it were a huge machete designed to cut me into pieces. I attempted to say, “Halleluya,” only to have a big drop of saliva escape out of my mouth. 

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It was the first time I spoke in public intending to promote my first book. I failed miserably. I’m not even sure how people lined up to buy the book after my mumbled speech. This must have been the making of a dead relative who loved me, an angel or God. Who knows? I don’t. 

The Moral:

I was afraid of public speaking. This experience propelled me to join the Toastmasters International organization, and their programs helped improve my communication, and public speaking skills. 

Now as a counselor, I’ve also learned that we can question our fears. 

How it Works:

Let’s imagine that you are about to give a speech. And a bunch of butterflies visit your tummy. Your nerves recognize the “visitors” and decide to fire up. You start to tremble and your breaths get shorter. What do you do? 

Here are a few tips that will help:

1. Close your eyes and take a deep breath.

2. Ask, “How is this fear benefiting me?” Stay still and listen for a few minutes. You will discover that this fear is only there to teach you a few lessons such as:

a. You are more than this fear because it is smaller than you and you shouldn’t be afraid of it.

b. The fear is inspiring you to improve something about your communication skills, improve your self-image/confidence, be more prepared, or improve the content you are about to share. 

Beyond that, this fear does nothing beneficial for you. If you get your mind to focus on these lessons, the fear will disperse. The problem is creating more meanings or conclusions about the fear. For instance, you could decide that the fear means you are not good enough; people will laugh at you; people will judge you. Your content sucks, etc. Once the mind comes up with such perceptions to expand on the fear, just know that they are lies: illusions created without evidence. Unless you can come up with evidence that all these things are true, then it is time to ignore your mind. Note that just because the mind says you are in danger doesn’t make it so. Remember that the mind can be full of crap and if you let it take over, it will manipulate your actions, fail you and get you to blame yourself thereafter. 

“Just because the mind says you are in danger doesn’t make it so. Remember that the mind can be full of crap and if you let it take over, it will manipulate your actions, fail you and get you to blame yourself thereafter.” 

I’m sure you want to know the book I was promoting. Here you have it. 🙂

A Lazy man’s Way to a Stress-free Life: 10 Tools to Keep Off Stress


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Negative experiences often leave us stressed and worn out. During such times, I find it challenging to refer to any advice about how to keep off the stress. Yet I know I have to dust it off, get my lazy butt off the ground and keep moving forward. How I get up when I feel so overwhelmingly lazy and beaten up by circumstances, is another story.  

If you’ve been stressed and so lazy to give a crap about how to snap out of it, welcome to my club. I’m certain that my 10 tips to keep off stress will do just that…get your lazy stressed, beautiful behind off the ground and propel you to move forward. 

Below, are 10 things I do when I feel stressed and lazy.  I know they will help you. 

  1. Breathe. Just stop often and take long, deep breaths.
  2. Meditate (Listen to this recording for the simple meditation techniques)
  3. Eat raw food as long as it is edible. This is easy because it will save you all the trouble involved in cooking. And the benefits…..magic.
  4. Drink a lot of water. This is an inexpensive and easy way to keep hydrated. The benefits are abundant.
  5. Have long baths
  6. Go for a walk. Note that a walk is easier than a run or weight lifting. So, it should be easy to do. Right?
  7. Listen to music. Suggestion: Listen to soothing and positive music. 
  8. Avoid friendships that way you down.
  9. Set simple, short goals. Don’t overwhelm your to-do list with tasks. Keep it simple. Besides, you are so lazy to add more crap to your plate.
  10. Sleep. Just sleep as much as you can. This will rejuvenate you.

These tips are simple, yet they can help one deal with stress. For details, click on this video and listen.

 Much love, friend. 

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How to Become YOU – The Truest Fullest Expression of Oneself – Episode 2


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In this episode, I continue to discuss and share my views on becoming the truest fullest expression of oneself.

If you are so sick and tired of living a life that doesn’t seem like yours, these episodes will help.

Link to Episode 1 – https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=GshYX…

Remember, March 1st is Global Worry-free day.

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How to Become The Truest Fullest Expression of Oneself – Part 1


Who you have conditioned yourself to be is who you present to the world. Who you are is always embraced in what you offer to the world. And what you receive is equivalent to who you are. Remember that you can never get anything less or more, of who you’ve conditioned yourself to be. So, if you don’t like what you are receiving from the world, change who you are and everything else will change. And this begins by seeking the kingdom of God within you, where all the answers of who you truly are, and the purpose of your existence, dwell. And trust me, this has absolutely nothing to do with religion, but with everything to do with the relationship you have with yourself, and with God, the Creator who dwells within you, as YOU.

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In this episode, I share a toll tale to emphasize the point that the only way to be is oneself. Then, I share some personal stories and tips on how to step into the real you by firstly embracing your self-image