10 Actions That are Guaranteed to Keep you Broke and a Failure


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I know that most people tend to focus on the actions or behaviors that have been proven to help others achieve success. But it is also important to identify the actions that are known to keep people broke or as failures.

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In this VIDEO, I share 10 actions that are known to keep anyone broke if they are persistent with them. I invite you to identify these actions so that you can avoid them.

Link to Video – https://youtu.be/tcWGgHyI3r0

 

This is article was written by Dr. Jacinta Mpalyenkana, Ph.D., MBA, who is a counselor, Transformational Coach, author, and professional speaker. For more about her, please check out her website at http://www.tapthegood.com.

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Four Tips to Deal with Rejection: Part 2:


In part 1 of this article, “How to Deal with Rejection – based on a personal story”, I shared a personal story about one of my childhood experiences of rejection. I’m certain that you or someone you know has gone through similar or maybe even worse experiences.

In this article, I share 4 tips that helped me deal with rejection and build a healthier self-esteem. And although I appreciate the fact that your experiences or those of your loved ones might be different, I’m also certain that anyone will be able to customize these tips and make them their own in order to resolve any rejection related emotional issues that they might be experiencing.

Tip 1: Know That no one can Reject You.

As weird as it might sound, believe me when I say that no one can actually reject you. One of the meanings of rejection is to be eliminated. And in my opinion, no one can eliminate you per-say. One might eliminate your presence from a scene, or disregard what you say, but he/she can never eliminate your existence. Chances are that what you perceive as rejection is an incident where someone probably did not resonate with, understand, or agree with whatever you were presenting or offering. However, with all due respect, this doesn’t mean that the entire awesome you was discarded.

Therefore, the first tip you can employ to deal with rejection-related emotions is to change your perception of the word, rejection and how it applies to you as an individual.

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Tip 2: Know that People’s Actions are Their Business.

As you deal with the rejection-related emotions, understand that perception is projection. Behavior is founded on internal representations: meaning that people behave as they have learned to, based on their beliefs and thought processes, mental, emotional and spiritual states. Everyone is doing the best they can with the internal resources they have. I’m sure you’ve heard the statement, “squeeze an orange and you get orange juice.” When someone is filled with anger, sadness or whatever other emotions that they might have, that’s exactly what’s going to come out of them as they perceive the world, as well as act. Therefore, if someone rejects something about you, this has nothing to do with you. It is their business. That’s how they know how to operate. Note that at that point in time, your presence or whatever they rejected triggered a decision within them to reject. Consequently, you can’t take things personally. And most importantly, you have to forgive them for their actions because they probably didn’t even realize that there was anything wrong with the way they acted. Just as you can’t expect mango juice to come out of an orange, you can’t expect a person filled with rudeness or anger to treat you with kindness or non-judgment.

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Tip 3: Take 100% Responsibility Of Your Emotions:

When we take full responsibility of our negative emotions, we take our power back from whoever we have blamed for the way we feel. By taking full responsibility for the rejection-related negative emotions, we get to understand that no one has the power to make us feel a certain way; and that we have the power to heal ourselves. This process begins by identifying all those negative emotions that you are feeling. Write them down. Examine each one of them to identify the root causes. Establish if the root causes are really based on truths. For instance, if one of the negative related emotions you are dealing with is sadness, the root cause is what the person said or did, that made you believe that you are a reject. When you examine tip 1, you realize that you are not really a reject. Tip 2, is telling you that whatever the person did is not your business. Consequently, your perceptions are not founded on the truth. You are not a reject. Therefore, you just have to let the sadness go because it is built on lies.

The next step is to forgive yourself for being sad for the wrong reasons. Here’s a link (https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=jGUjtMRS_5k) with a forgiveness process that I recorded a few years ago. To access the link, please copy and paste the link in a new browser, then click “enter.”

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Tip 4: Know That You Can Create a New And Better Story About Your Self-Image

The thoughts and related beliefs about being rejection are founded on a story you created based on an experience that you believed to be the truth. Note that just as you created this story, you also have the power to erase it and then create a new and better story about how you want to feel about yourself. You can do this by thinking about how you want to perceive your self-image. Decide how you want to be perceived. Write these attributes down. Read them to yourself every day until you believe them as the truth. For instance, you can write statements such; I accept and love myself just as I am. I am worthy. I deserve to be treated with respect. I respect myself—you get the idea. The fundamental thing to do is to think and believe these statements as the truth. And by doing this, you will be writing a better story that will improve your perception of yourself.
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Please note that although these tips are simplified, they helped me deal with my rejection-related negative emotions and I believe they can help you or anyone else. The idea is to make the tips your own, do the work on yourself, and remember that persistence and repetition are necessary ingredients required to establish and reinforce desired change.

The author is Jacinta Mpalyenkana, Ph.D., MBA. She’s an author, speaker, counselor and transformational coach. For more about her, please check out her website at www.tapthegood.com

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7 Ways to Heal Stress – In Celebration of March 1st, Global Worry-free Day


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Of late, with all the negativity and confusion in our environment, it’s hard not to get overwhelmed. Between juggling work, family, and other commitments, you can become too stressed out and busy. However, we need to set time aside to unwind, or our mental and physical health can be compromised.

Learning how to manage stress takes practice, but you can, and need to.

According to an article on WebMB, below are 7 ways to make it easier.

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  • Keep a positive and happy attitude by focusing on what you want, and being grateful for what you have.
  • Surround yourself with positive, happy people. Remember that we are the sum total of the people we hang out with the most.
  • Stand up for yourself in a polite way: be assertive. This means that you speak your truth clearly without being dramatic.
  • Learn and practice relaxation techniques such as deep breathing, meditation and going into nature.
  • Exercise regularly; this can include taking a walk, biking, swimming or cleaning your house.
  • On a daily basis, eat healthy by including vegetables and fruits in your diet.
  • Try to manage your time wisely. “What-to-do” lists are very effective in helping us manage our time and organizing our lives.

Remember that we are the masters of our lives. We are own rescues. We have to take full responsibility for our wellbeing.

March 1st, 7.00a.m – 7.00.p.m is Global Worry-free day…your time zone. A few things that you could do that include, but are not limited to: volunteering; taking a homeless person for a meal; buying shoes for a stranger who doesn’t have shoes; offering to clean out your church; compiling and singing an inspirational song about not worrying and posting it on your social network (Note: you don’t really have to be a singer to compile the song, or sing it.); visiting a children’s hospital; buying flowers and giving one to 10 random ladies of your choice; cleaning out your closet and donating to charity; paying for someone’s groceries…etc. The idea is to do whatever is positive to stay away from worrying. And this can be achieved by being grateful for what you have and searching for ways to give back.

Please post your pictures and stories on this feed to inspire others to do the same.

Love and light

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Why Worry when you can’t change “it”? A Powerful Tip to Beat Worry.


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In this short video, I share a common tip to help you deal with worry. I tend to write so much about emotional freedom because in addition to this being my expertise, I appreciate the fact that the world of late is going insane. I mean, look around you. There is so much to worry about if you don’t choose to focus on something else more empowering.

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Also, please remember to save the date: March 1st, 2017, is Global Worry Free Day. This is a day of gratitude and giving back. Please spread the news.

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In the interim, enjoy my short video and the stories within. I’m show it will make you feel better. 🙂

Link to video – https://youtu.be/fNC-5r8z4_8  (Copy link and paste in new browser)

Love and light

Dr. Jacinta Mpalyenkana, Ph.D, MBA

Your Personal Transformational Coach

http://www.tapthegood.com

 

A Tip to Dis-empower The Real Reason Why You aren’t Taking Action


In this video, I share a tip about how to establish and dis-empower the real reason why you might not be taking action. I’ve learned this tip over years counseling and coaching my clients.

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Watch the video HERE.

In case of broken links, this is the URL of the video. https://youtu.be/qhBV0-CA7F4

I believe this tip will shed some light on your decision making psychology.

Love and light

Dr. Jacinta Mpalyenkana, PH.D, MBA

Counselor, Personal Transformational Coach, Author, Speaker

http://www.tapthegood.com