The Art of Self-Care Series (Article 1 – How do you want to feel?)

One of my qualifications is massage therapy; a path I took to help me pay my bills as I went through grad school. Nevertheless, I ended up loving it, because it made people feel good. And funny as it might sound, I feel good after each massage session–except for the aches and pains in my tired hands.

As a massage therapist for the last 14 years, I have realized one very interesting issue, and I will share it in this article. But before I do, let me ask you a question: how do you want to feel?

Why am I asking this question?

The answer to this question should be the determining factor of the actions to take. However, I have learned that many people do not want solutions. They are not really interested in whatever they claim they want. Instead, they want attention. They want an audience to listen, and validate their pains or discomforts. And the moment you offer a solution, you are no longer part of their audience.

For example, there are two ladies in my water aerobics class, who learned that I am a massage therapist. They went at length to explain the intensity of the pain in their backs, sciatica nerves, etc. They wanted me to give them massages as soon as possible. Since my schedule was open in a couple of days from then, I scheduled their sessions. A day before their scheduled sessions, one of the ladies cancelled, with reason that her friend was down with a cold, and couldn’t make it. She promised to schedule a new appointment when her friend felt better. It has been over 6 months and they still haven’t scheduled their massages. I meet them at the gym every week, and they don’t mention the massage. But, oh yes, they continue complaining about how much pain they feel. And it is evident that they are in a lot of pain: because they both always have straps around their knees, black braces, ankle bandages–in addition to limping and making pain-filled noises as they move. So, would you say that they currently need solutions for their pain and discomfort, or maybe they just need attention?

As a spiritual counselor and transformational coach. I have witnessed the proceeding situation enough times to conclude that most people do not know what they want, or how they want to feel. They are so comfortable in their discomforts, and they have settled for less. Their psyches have convinced them that their discomforts are easier to deal with. Consequently, they are resistant to change…to the solutions. They complain more than take action to relieve their discomforts. And it is funny, because for the most part, the solutions are easily accessible to them.

So, to kick off this article, my question is how do you want to feel, and why? What solutions do you need? Note that your why, is your fuel to take action.

Well, I need to lose 8 more pounds. And I am finally going all in on a plant-based diet. I go the gym daily, regardless of how I feel. My why is my health and general wellbeing. And I am sharing my goal, to inspire you to create yours.

Self-care is about establishing a personal need(s) related to your emotional, mental, physical and spiritual wellbeing, finding out your why, creating a road map to achieve your goal(s), and then following through regardless of the obstacles you might meet along the way.

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SEEING THROUGH SOCIETY’S LIES | YOU DON’T NEED LOVE | YOU ARE …|WWW TAPTHEGOOD COM

You don’t need love, because you are love.

In this video, I share my take on the topic.

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How to Never Get Disappointed In, or by people Again / Counseling Session

In this video, I share a few tips of how to never get disappointed in, or by people again.

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I am Quitting my Job: Weekly iV of Inspiration

It is time to quit

Why would I quit my job? You might wonder. Now, the job I am quitting immediately is judging people. It has cost me so much more than what I have put in. And I am sure you can relate. 

Let me explain

Judging, begins by observing the subject, relating to it by drawing information from your subconscious mind that recognizes the subject. Next, you have to perceive, define and then conclude on the subject. And the conclusion is what we normally refer to as judging.

What a waste of mental and emotional resources to come up with a judgement about someone! Although the process is normally done in a matter of seconds or minutes, it is still a hell of a long process. And most importantly, you can never be certain about the content of a book by just looking at its cover.

When we judge other people or make conclusions about their behavior, we consider the behavior as the only subject to perceive. However, behavior is a projection of a lot more complex information in the person than the behavior itself, Behavior is just an output. There is more to it, than it is. There is more to the person than their behavior. And there is more about that person than who they think they are. That is why I have come to a conclusion that judging others is delusional especially because you are making conclusions based on very limited information about the subject.

So, what is the option to judging? 

Well, people will reveal what is inside their minds through their behavior. However, let’s consider a few other details before we accept this suggestion as the truth.

Now, let’s imagine you go to the market to buy bananas. You will only buy the bananas that you like, right? You won’t go around the banana stall judging each of the banana batches. You might look around, pick up a few batches until you find the one you like. But your evaluations will not stick in your mind. You won’t drive home thinking about how horrible the other banana batches were. For the most part, you won’t even think about the bananas you bought. Likewise, you can relate to someone, and if their behavior triggers a negative emotion, memory or feeling within you, observe how you got to that mental/emotional state. Is this person’s behavior repetitive? Are you just having a bad day and this person just happened to be in your presence at the wrong time? As a side note, remember when someone insults you, it is just a projection of their misery. And if you get insulted, it is a projection of your insecurities.

“When someone insults you, it is just a projection of their misery. And if you get insulted, it is a projection of your insecurities.” ~ Dr Jacinta Mpalyenkana-Murray

Whatever your reasons are, avoid jumping to conclusions about the person. Perceive and conclude on the behavior, and then act accordingly, but not on the person. Trust me, that will save you a lot of emotional turmoil. Remember it is easier to deal with actions than with people. If you just judge their behavior as action, all you have to do is examine how it made you feel, release the feelings and let it remain in the past where it belongs. Move on.

That’s the job I am quitting. I am done working as a self-employed, underpaid and quack judge, lol. I am not good at it. It is so tiring to judge people based on their behavior. People are more than their behavior. People are always changing. My judgements are neither the entire truth, nor current. Besides, it is just too much emotional work. I have decided to focus on my business, which is me, how I feel and my mindset. 

What about you? Please share your thoughts.

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Are You Experiencing Havoc in Your Relationships? Advanced Hooponopono With Mother Mary to Heal Relationships:

All, if not most of the problems we experience are related to the relationships we have with other people.

Whenever we are experiencing conflict in our relationships, there’s always something within us that relates to this conflict. We are partly responsible for the conflict. We have knowingly or unknowingly recruited information or data into our inner child/subconscious mind, upon which this conflict is manifested in our relationships.

The point is, we only experience who we are. We see what we are. Our individualistic outer worlds mirror our inner worlds. When we recognize something in the outer world, we know it. We can never recognize, relate to or perceive what we don’t know. And knowing means that there’s information or data within us that relates to what we know. That’s why we see it. At some level, we accepted it to be part of our experiences.

In summary, we  don’t see the world as it is, we see the world as we are.

Therefore, when we are experiencing conflict in our relationships, one of the easiest ways to resolve this conflict is to work with our inner child to release the grip on whatever information or data we logged into its dwellings—upon which this conflict is created.

In this Advanced Ho’oponopono Session, I take you through a process that will help you heal your relationships.

Ps. I will go through the same process for the next 9 days because I also have some relationships to heal. Please join me.

In the interim, I’m sending you abundant love from my heart to yours.

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Clearing a Stubborn issue in Your Life With the Quantum Soul Healing Technique

Quantum Soul Clearing is a spiritual healing method originated by Michelle Manning-Kogler, Spiritual Intuitive and healer.

This powerful healing method is based on the fact that if one is experiencing problems, the source of the problem plus the perceived problem, are established as energetic frequencies at the quantum level.

In physics, a quantum is the minimum amount of any physical entity involved in an interaction. The fundamental notion that a physical property may be “quantized” is referred to as “the hypothesis of quantization” ~ Wikipedia.

In simpler terms, quantum is the smallest particle of any physical thing. Therefore, quantum soul healing penetrates the smallest particles of a perceived problem at the soul level, and then dissolves it. To my understanding, quantum soul healing goes beyond the source of the problem to its manifestation at the deepest level–which makes the process very powerful.

“The Quantum Soul Clearing Process is essentially a “Spiritual Technology” — an energy healing technique — that combines the limitless power of Universal Consciousness, the focus and determination of the human mind, with the brilliant wisdom of the soul to create deep, lasting change in your life and to heal all that you need to heal.” ~Michelle Manning-Kogler.

The point is, even if you don’t understand what this technique means or how it works, it will do its work in your life as long you open your mind and allow the powerful words to create the frequency needed to dissolve your issues/perceived problems.

I encourage you to listen to this session every day for the next 9 days.

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How to Release Fear Energy with Ho’oponopono

My biggest fear is heights. And this is because of a childhood memory when I was 8 years old and a neighbor’s kid fell to her death from the 5th floor of an apartment building. This memory has never left me. So, activities such as getting on a roller-coaster, Jambo jumping and the like, trigger a lot of fear in me. However, this fear restricts me from experiencing the thrill involved in activities that involve heights.

We all have fears and some of these fears retard our progress. Although certain fear is needed to alert us of any possible dangers, there is fear that is not necessary or productive.

The questions are;

1. What are your fears?
2. How are these fears serving you, if at all?
3. When will you let them go?
4. What would it take to let them go?

In this advanced Ho’oponopono session I deal with releasing the energy of fear from one’s system.

All you have to do is listen and let the four magical Ho’oponopono statements being recited dissolve your grip on fear.

Dr. Jacinta Murray is a spiritual counselor and transformational coach who specializes in helping her clients achieve emotional freedom from negative conditioning, hurtful memories, abuse–and the like, plus liberate the spirit from bondage, in order for one to live life on their terms.

For more about her, please visit, http://www.tapthegood.com

Is Your Job Progressing, or Retarding You?

In school, for the most part we are programmed to believe that the only way to make it in life is to work for others. And although there’s nothing wrong with being employed, the danger is when we either don’t earn what we deserve or don’t ask for what we deserve because we don’t feel worthy.

In this short video, I share a few insights to inspire you to recognize your worth and then act accordingly.

Link to video – https://youtu.be/Ok7e06h7J5s

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What to do When You Feel Uninspired

How often do you feel uninspired?

What do you do when you keep procrastinating just because you don’t feel the urge to get started on a particular project?

What can you do to inspire yourself?

There are times when I have had projects to pursue: times when I know exactly what to do, how to do it, plus have the resources needed to get started. But for some reason, I couldn’t get started because I felt so uninspired.

Most times it is because my mind is stuck on what things are supposed to be, or shouldn’t be. Other times, I’m thinking about what’s wrong and how wrong it could get. And that’s how the matrix holds each of us captive. We find ourselves knowing what to do and not doing it. It is like you are aware that fire burns but you keep playing with it. You are aware that when you don’t take action nothing will be accomplished, but you don’t take action. What kind of BS is that? lol.

The underlying reason is because we are afraid. Note that we are either hosts of progress or hostages of fear. If your fear doesn’t drive you, you are its hostage. 

One of the ways to snap out of this mind block is to inspire ourselves. However, how do you inspire yourself when you don’t want to do anything? Apparently, you’ve consciously and/or subconsciously driven yourself into this emotional/mental mess. This also implies that if you feel lethargic, and you have lost the grip on how to get out. Yet, it is still up to you to get your stressed-behind out of this mess.  What do you do?

Here are a few steps to get you started on inspiring yourself. 

1. Know that it is your responsibility to feel good and inspired. Remove the blame from anything or anyone out of yourself. Get a grip of your mind and make it your hostage. Direct your mind to do what you want instead of the other way round. Talk yourself into taking full responsibility of your emotions. 
2. Remember, or find your why. Go back to the drawing board of why you want to accomplish that goal. For instance, during days when I don’t feel like writing or making videos to inspire my audience, I remember why–which is my life purpose. I know that when I inspire others through the different ways I do, this is the time I feel alive the most. Therefore, find your why.

3. Meditate. Yes, meditate. Some people think that meditation is for monks. But I attest to the power of meditation. Meditation has helped me overcome some of the ugliest situations in my life. Meditation has rewarded me with a lot of clarity, enthusiasm and unconditional inner peace. It’s mainly through meditation that I get the ideas I write, and record about. The benefits of meditation are inexhaustible. To get started, you can check out my simple morning meditations on gratitude and divine love. The links are: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=tgMpYijDTjU  https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Yk7JhGZOZvU I also suggest that you start your day off with meditating. It makes all the positive difference. 

4. Exercise: Once you change your physiology, your mood will change. Stand up, stretch, stand in your power pause, go for a walk, do yoga or whatever you can to get moving. This will amplify the production of your happy hormones and then get you inspired to take action. 
5. Listen to affirmations. Here are a few I’ve recorded. Links: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=cHyp6f8_jp4   https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=SXf_l7hpFqw   
6. Listen to your favorite music.
7. Listen to inspirational messages. Some of these messages can be accessed by clicking on these links:  https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=0dl-rhzBgOY https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=flCW8oaRQYM

8. Read a good book. You can read, Do Not Force it, Tap The Good — guaranteed to inspire you. Link to the book – https://www.amazon.com/Do-not-Force-TAP-GOOD/dp/1461079098

8. Hire the services of a transformational coach or counselor. I offer 30 minutes complimentary sessions and these can be enough to facilitate your self-inspirational goals. To request for your free session, check out www.tapthegood.com/contact/

I’m certain that there are hundreds of other ways that you can employ to get you inspired. But the ones I have provided above, will create a strong foundation for you to get started on inspiring yourself. 

In the interim, do not worry. Nothing lasts for ever. Every thing will be okay. I promise. 

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Dr. Jacinta Mpalyenkana, PHD, MBA

Author, Transformational Coach, Counselor, Speaker

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